Hiring a bottom.

[+ haring222]

Odds are good this has been covered before (there are only so many things you can say about sexual liaisons, right?) but here is something that happens to me.

 

As a 35 year old fellow, I love hiring a guy for a bit to mess around with. No need to justify that one. But I also have a rather well sized appendage (for a white Jewish guy, that is) with a lot of stamina to back it up...and for whatever reason I only like to be a top. Every singe guy I have hired manages to start to get uncomfortable way before I am done fucking, which of course takes away the fun of it and means that that activity stops. That said, I am also good at it...taking time to make sure everything physiological is in check as it starts out and that angles of penetration are accurate and varied for something that should be pretty fun for the bottom.

 

I don't think I am doing anything different when I hang out with these guys as compared with regular 'horizontal friends' or the bouncy bottoms always on tap at my local Steamworks....who all seem to have a great time and will generally let me go on for as long as possible.

 

I would assume that escorts who advertise as being a bottom are used to doing it and their butt is in shape for a good poking....aside from hiring guys who are into getting fisted (oy), any advice on picking a 'durable escort' to mess around with?

 

Thanks for your thoughts.

[seaboy4hire]

For a bottom who could prob go the distance I would prob hire one that is usually a bottom. Also breaking for some ass play inbetween fucking the bottom might help. Ienjoy topping but make a far better bottom since I've had more um...practice at it.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ nycman]

I'm in the same boat....well except for the Jewish part....but I don't think that's part of the problem....

 

I love to fuck. It's not a deal breaker, but generally I wouldn't hire a guy who is "top only".

 

First (and this is coming from a top who loves to fuck)...try not to get too hung up on the fucking part.

 

Second, it sounds obvious but look for guys who advertise as "bottom" or "verse/bottoms"...the rest

are much less likely to be able to take a pounding, The legendary exception to this rule was Mike Grey.

Thankfully reading between the lines on this forum I figured out this "amazing top" might be a great

bottom as well....and he was incredible. Years later...I still miss him.

 

Third, spend lots of time getting the bottom guy worked up and wanting to get fucked. Sometimes we tops

can get a little "over eager" and start trying to bang away too early. Even if you're getting paid to get fucked,

it's a whole lot easier if you've been opened up a bit first. From your post above it sound like this isn't part

of your problem.....but it never hurts to think about taking even a little longer to get started.

 

Finally, keep looking around. A tall big dicked brazilian bottom who knows exactly when to scream

"fuck me daddy" isn't the easiest thing to find...even when you're paying...but I've found a few over the

years...when you do...treat them well and hold on tight. The rest?...throw them back and keep on fishing!

 

Having said all that I just spent a weekend in Vegas with http://rentmen.com/HunterRyan

That kid took a 2 hour pounding and was begging for more....a true stud who bottoms like a pro.

If he's in your area...he's your man.

[curiousnomore]

Nice recommendation, nycman. I'll file that one. As to the question posed, keep the action stimulating. Change positions, make the bottom ride you some (take charge of the play as it were). Make sure the bottom is taking an active role in the play and not just taking you.

[Juan Vancouver]

Haring222,

 

I have to confess that reading your post got me rock hard... and a little sad.

 

How often we see even in porn that there is this amazing member being wasted, because the bottom can't take it all in, because he can't take a good honest pounding or because he is in a hurry to make the top finish and get it down with. A dick like this is a gift, not a curse. No reason for it to be treated as one.

 

Aside from the normal recommendation of finding the right condoms, the right lube, making sure the bottom is ready and blah blah blah (which apparently is not a problem when you hook up at steamworks) the real trick is to find someone who really likes to get fucked. Someone who loves it, craves it, wants to go as long as it is possible.

 

I have to disagree with a couple things that were recommended:

 

For a bottom who could prob go the distance I would prob hire one that is usually a bottom.

 

I know quite a few escorts who work for men who advertise as bottoms or vers bottoms not because they like to bottom, but because they are straight-ish and don't trust their dicks to get hard enough to make money as tops. Fucking them or trying to fuck them is an exercise in futility. I have been hired countless times to fuck a gorgeous "bottom" escort just to go home with a sore dick after hours of trying to even stick it in. When asked, some plainly answer: "no, it's not that I like getting fucked, I just don't fuck.".

 

Also, there are many men who are incredible tops, who are also greedy, lustful, talented bottoms. I am not one to often say this in the forum and don't know where you are located, but...

 

http://content.govdelivery.com/attachments/fancy_images/USED/2013/09/213095/222295/buzzfeed-screen-shot_original_crop.jpg

 

So much has been written in this forum and everywhere else how vers means bottom, how great tops don't like getting fucked, how bottoms are lazy and don't like to fuck... so much poppycock about nothing. It's all bull. I love getting fucked, have lots of practice with huge dicks (my partner is a really big boy) and love to relax and go the distance. If my partner listens to my body and works with it, we can go for as long as he can go. I know there are a few other escorts who excel at both, not because they are good actors, but because they love doing both.

 

Don't hire someone because of what he says in his advertisement. Take the time to explain your situation in an email and let the escort respond if he is interested and thinks he can raise to the occasion or let him pass if he thinks he can't.

 

Hire someone who has bottomed a bunch in porn. At least those people normatively know how to fake enjoying the act of getting plowed for extended period of time.

 

Don't think this is a good idea. Porn shoots start and stop, and are tweaked, repeated, shot again. Why would anyone be exposed to have someone enduring, suffering their dick as if it were a torture chamber toy, instead of what it really is, a beautiful, pleasure giving blessing?

 

Don't hire someone who will withstand your dick and pretend. Hire some of the many talented, greedy, lascivious, super fun guys out there who will take your dick with gusto and will go home afterwards counting the days till they see you again.

 

I promise you, those two experiences will be so different that you will never go back.

[big-n-tall]

Haring222,

 

I have to confess that reading your post got me rock hard... and a little sad.

 

How often we see even in porn that there is this amazing member being wasted, because the bottom can't take it all in, because he can't take a good honest pounding or because he is in a hurry to make the top finish and get it down with. A dick like this is a gift, not a curse. No reason for it to be treated as one.

 

Aside from the normal recommendation of finding the right condoms, the right lube, making sure the bottom is ready and blah blah blah (which apparently is not a problem when you hook up at steamworks) the real trick is to find someone who really likes to get fucked. Someone who loves it, craves it, wants to go as long as it is possible.

 

I have to disagree with a couple things that were recommended:

 

 

 

I know quite a few escorts who work for men who advertise as bottoms or vers bottoms not because they like to bottom, but because they are straight-ish and don't trust their dicks to get hard enough to make money as tops. Fucking them or trying to fuck them is an exercise in futility. I have been hired countless times to fuck a gorgeous "bottom" escort just to go home with a sore dick after hours of trying to even stick it in. When asked, some plainly answer: "no, it's not that I like getting fucked, I just don't fuck.".

 

Also, there are many men who are incredible tops, who are also greedy, lustful, talented bottoms. I am not one to often say this in the forum and don't know where you are located, but...

 

http://content.govdelivery.com/attachments/fancy_images/USED/2013/09/213095/222295/buzzfeed-screen-shot_original_crop.jpg

 

So much has been written in this forum and everywhere else how vers means bottom, how great tops don't like getting fucked, how bottoms are lazy and don't like to fuck... so much poppycock about nothing. It's all bull. I love getting fucked, have lots of practice with huge dicks (my partner is a really big boy) and love to relax and go the distance. If my partner listens to my body and works with it, we can go for as long as he can go. I know there are a few other escorts who excel at both, not because they are good actors, but because they love doing both.

 

Don't hire someone because of what he says in his advertisement. Take the time to explain your situation in an email and let the escort respond if he is interested and thinks he can raise to the occasion or let him pass if he thinks he can't.

 

 

 

Don't think this is a good idea. Porn shoots start and stop, and are tweaked, repeated, shot again. Why would anyone be exposed to have someone enduring, suffering their dick as if it were a torture chamber toy, instead of what it really is, a beautiful, pleasure giving blessing?

 

Don't hire someone who will withstand your dick and pretend. Hire some of the many talented, greedy, lascivious, super fun guys out there who will take your dick with gusto and will go home afterwards counting the days till they see you again.

 

I promise you, those two experiences will be so different that you will never go back.

 

Sorry for the slight hijacking of this post, but... talk about making someone rock hard. The things I would like, no love to do to you. You just don't know. Your post was beyond arousing, to put it politely.

[oz_carter]

Sorry for the slight hijacking of this post, but... talk about making someone rock hard. The things I would like, no love to do to you. You just don't know. Your post was beyond arousing, to put it politely.

 

+1

[rocksinurhead]

whether the bottom is an escort or not, i find that eating his ass always works well to prime him for a good fucking.

 

i recently hired a guy who i was really into, but he started to bleed a little. he said he was fine and he could keep going, but it was over for me. i felt bad because he was really sweet. he wound up sucking me off, but i had really wanted to pound him. i just assumed that if he was bleeding, it must have really hurt, right?

 

what really kind of annoys me is that some of the escorts i meet are not as into sucking dick as i would like and are not as enthusiastic about it as almost all guys i meet when i'm not hiring. but what do i know?

[biggerbilly]

In the same boat here, though not Jewish or white. I would clarify your size before meeting. I usually just have to say I'm black, and the next question is how hung. Guys have back down before, but that's for the best.

[Moneymike68]

I can also vouch for HunterRyan, not really my type but he really can take a pounding and even throws his bubble butt back at you with even/greater force. I also recommend http://rentmen.com/Joshuaaa, he does require some warming up but other than that he's an amazing bottom and very resilliant. Finally, my favorite escort Miles- his ads were taken down with the Rentboy shutdown, however you should be able to reach him at milesmiamies@gmail.com or escortmiles@gmail.com. That's a boy that I can't rave about enough and he takes cock like a champ.

[Wolfer]

I've had a bit of frustration about this too recently. Two escorts I've seen recently cut my topping short because they got hurt. The first one I don't take responsibility for, because he did not use lube (believe me, I was desperately looking for a lube bottle, but there was none to be found. I took care to be super, extra careful, but he still got hurt). The second one really surprised me, since I knew he was a great bottom and could take a pounding (and the short while that I did fuck him, he did amazing things with his ass to my dick). But he too yelped in pain suddenly, ran halfway across the room saying: "I can't take anymore fucking."

Suffice to say that this both made me feel frustrated and left me with a serious dent in my sexual self-esteem. I'm average (5 inches), but I am very inexperienced... But I'm sad, really sad this has happened twice now. Add to the frustration that whenever I ask how to be a good top, the answers are always: "You'll learn! Just keep going! Listen to your bottom's body language!" without a mention of any sort of technique

But then whenever someone speaks about having been fucked by a good top, all they mention is technique... As in: "He really found the right angle. He knew how to hit my prostate. He knew how to open me up. He knew how to make me wanna get fucked..."