How do you feel about escorts not having sex?

[Christian Gray]

Just curious as to how people feel about escorts that won't put out for their client. I've talked to several friends about it, and I really can't sway one way or another on the topic...I understand what their job is, but also make sure you read ads! It's important!

[AdamSmith]

 

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[Christian Gray]

I definitely understand where you're coming from, but I've had several clients that just wanted some company. I love just hanging out, kicking back with guys like that. They typically have the best personalities...

[Rudynate]

As long as the escort hasn't mispresented himself, I don't see anything wrong with it.

[AdamSmith]

Ah! If that's what the client wants, then that's great. I love it myself.

 

On t'other hand, I've been with the occasional escort who declined to put out even though that was clearly the understanding up front. By "won't put out for the client" I thought you meant that. My funny pics were about that.

[Christian Gray]

Whoops, poor choice of words from me

[gallahadesquire]

Well, as we always say around here: We're only paying for company.

 

I have personally steered people away from someone who said he'd be interactive, and did nothing ... after confirming this is his modus operanti with another member online.

[Christian Gray]

That's good!

[robberbaron4u]

Please close the door behind you on your way out. . .

[rvwnsd]

Just curious as to how people feel about escorts that won't put out for their client. I've talked to several friends about it, and I really can't sway one way or another on the topic...I understand what their job is, but also make sure you read ads! It's important!

If the client states he is only looking for company and does not want to have sex, I find nothing wrong with not having sex. That's what the client wanted. If the client states he wants sex, the escort agrees, and then the escort does not have sex with the client, there is a problem. If the escort has a vague ad that states something like "no explicit talk, we can discuss details when we meet" and upon meeting he tells the client no sex will, he runs a risk of not receiving his fee, receiving a bad review, and garnering very few customers.

[Christian Gray]

So on that same note, what about when a client tries to over step his boundary very early, when there was a multiple hour session. How much does the client pay? What if the client is late? Etc

[marylander1940]

Every single time I've hired sex was implied, I never said "I'm going to fuck you" or "Will you fuck me?", but I always asked: "What do get into?".

 

Paying for just company without getting undressed it's just silly to me, but some gentlemen on here would like to have some company and they have the money to do it, good for them but not for me.

[+ purplekow]

Some men just want arm candy and to be seen with a handsome usually younger man. i enjoy the company. I enjoy sex. The two are not mutually exclusive.

[Christian Gray]

Couldn't agree more!

[Guest]

So on that same note, what about when a client tries to over step his boundary very early, when there was a multiple hour session. How much does the client pay? What if the client is late? Etc

 

What the hell is that supposed to mean? Over-step what boundary? Set by whom? I personally don't ask any questions except "Do you like to kiss?", since I won't hire unless their ad/profile says what they're willing to do. If the ad says "Position: versatile," I think we all know what that means, and it doesn't mean that he can vote either Democratic or Republican. If YOU have boundaries, you need to make that clear in your ad, so that potential clients know not to hire you if that's what they're into. That being said, I wouldn't expect an escort to do scat, watersports, or masochism unless that was specifically discussed. If you're doing an outcall, meeting the client at his place/hotel, then the 60 minutes start when you get there, and you should try to be there reasonably close to the agreed-upon time (plus or minus 15 minutes). If you're meeting the client at your place, bear in mind that in most cases it is not possible for a client to be able to predict with 100% accuracy the traffic patterns, etc., so the escort should be prepared for the client to get there a little before or after the meeting time. It's quite annoying to come at 5:50 for a 6 PM appointment, and be told to wait out in the street, especially if the escort lives in a bad neighborhood. Likewise, if the client is a little late, like 10 minutes, the time should start when you first meet. Anything over about 15 minutes should be at the client's cost in most cases, unless the client previously states that he lives an hour away, so cannot predict his arrival with any certainty, and the escort agrees to this.

I always start an encounter with a deep kiss. This protects both the client and escort in almost ensuring that neither is a cop. Since I would never hire an escort who won't kiss, if the escort won't kiss when we meet, I know that he's either a cop or a rip-off artist, and I will ax the meeting, giving him something for his expenses if he came to me. The client should not feel any obligation to pay an escort who's misrepresented himself. In most cases, clients are not paying someone $200 an hour to chat. You're certainly entitled to feel that these people have the "best personalities," but you're the one being paid, so hopefully you're not astounded to be informed that these meetings are not all about you and what you like.

[Christian Gray]

What the hell is that supposed to mean? Over-step what boundary? Set by whom? I personally don't ask any questions except "Do you like to kiss?", since I won't hire unless their ad/profile says what they're willing to do. If the ad says "Position: versatile," I think we all know what that means, and it doesn't mean that he can vote either Democratic or Republican. If YOU have boundaries, you need to make that clear in your ad, so that potential clients know not to hire you if that's what they're into. That being said, I wouldn't expect an escort to do scat, watersports, or masochism unless that was specifically discussed. If you're doing an outcall, meeting the client at his place/hotel, then the 60 minutes start when you get there, and you should try to be there reasonably close to the agreed-upon time (plus or minus 15 minutes). If you're meeting the client at your place, bear in mind that in most cases it is not possible for a client to be able to predict with 100% accuracy the traffic patterns, etc., so the escort should be prepared for the client to get there a little before or after the meeting time. It's quite annoying to come at 5:50 for a 6 PM appointment, and be told to wait out in the street, especially if the escort lives in a bad neighborhood. Likewise, if the client is a little late, like 10 minutes, the time should start when you first meet. Anything over about 15 minutes should be at the client's cost in most cases, unless the client previously states that he lives an hour away, so cannot predict his arrival with any certainty, and the escort agrees to this.

I always start an encounter with a deep kiss. This protects both the client and escort in almost ensuring that neither is a cop. Since I would never hire an escort who won't kiss, if the escort won't kiss when we meet, I know that he's either a cop or a rip-off artist, and I will ax the meeting, giving him something for his expenses if he came to me. The client should not feel any obligation to pay an escort who's misrepresented himself. In most cases, clients are not paying someone $200 an hour to chat. You're certainly entitled to feel that these people have the "best personalities," but you're the one being paid, so hopefully you're not astounded to be informed that these meetings are not all about you and what you like.

 

True enough. In not saying this is personally how I feel at all. I've just been discussing the large increase of straight men escorting in Las Vegas with a lot of people lately.

[rvwnsd]

So on that same note, what about when a client tries to over step his boundary very early, when there was a multiple hour session. How much does the client pay? What if the client is late? Etc

The questions you are posing are a bit vague, so it is hard to answer definitively, but I will give it a shot.

 

I'm not sure what boundary would be overstepped during a multi-hour session. Are your friends saying that hour #1 is meet and greet but no sex, hour 2 is sex, and hour 3 is saying goodbye with no sex? It doesn't exactly work like that. Well, not if they want any business.

 

In terms of being late, I have been late a couple of times when I've had to drive to a different city to see a guy. Both times I was no more than 15 minutes late and I kept the escort apprised of my ETA. We had a two hour session starting at the time I arrived. Most of the escorts I've hired have told me up-front whether they had plans after our session. They are also typically understanding of traffic delays when I am driving to see them, just as I am when they drive to see me.

[Rudynate]

So on that same note, what about when a client tries to over step his boundary very early, when there was a multiple hour session. How much does the client pay? What if the client is late? Etc

 

 

Like everybody, I'm asking, "What boundary?" You mean the client starts behaving inappropriately, or he's trying to get you to bareback when you said "No bareback sex?' If it's really obnoxious or you are feeling unsafe, of course you should terminate a session. But good luck getting paid for the time you have already spent with him. In professional service businesses, you have to face the fact that sometimes, you are not going to get paid everything you think you should be paid - the client thinks you overcharged and offers to pay less, it turns that the client is unable to pay, etc. etc. I avoid a lot of this by requiring clients I don't know to pay in advance. If you try to do that with escorting, you are liable to get a lot of pushback from clients.

[jawjateck]

Does not compute.