The Adventures of Wolfer

[Wolfer]

I'm hoping you get a weekend with him soon.... and then you can go in the shop for a re-tread, lube and oil change. (LOL)

Hahaha, thanks! Oh, Glennn, it truly warms my heart to see a 72 year old man behave like an eager, horny teenage boy. It really puts my mind at ease about growing older. Thank you for that.

[+ purplekow]

I have had a few great many very good and one or two fair experiences and just a few bad ones over the 10 years of hiring. I do tend to rehire guys I like. So that I have hired only about 40 guys in those 10 years. The few bad experiences have been with unreviewed guys though I have had a few good experiences with unreviewed men and only one bad experience with a man I had previously hired,

At 30, you are much younger than when I first hired. I would encourage you to use hiring as a treat and not a main meal. The best sex I have ever had is with someone I loved. The sex was not always great, but it was always special. I have had physical pleasure that was more intense, but those encounters were never as meaningful. So, keep looking for love and keep treating yourself to a hot session to keep the juices flowing while you look.

[Wolfer]

Update on my adventures!

So after hitting a homerun twice with an incredible and super sweet beefy latino I took a chance on a new guy in town. A very, very, VERY hot young guy (early twenties) from Chile. I mean, the guy looks in-cre-di-ble. He's definitely the guy with the best body I've hired so far, bar none!

 

He was a good kisser, but five minutes in he jumped on the bed and pulled out a condom. I was like "wow, slow down, not yet". I mean, we still had 55 minutes! So he lay there like a log while I somewhat worked him.

But he was obviously not into it and it's not a lot of fun then for me either. I was really trying my best to find erogenous zones on his body. Did my best to give him a great blowjob. Nothing. He had his eyes closed the whole time and made some mechanical moans. The odd thing though is that he did get hard and stayed hard for most of the session...

I then wanted to fuck him and HE DID NOT USE LUBE!!!!!!!

He only used spit! I thought "Okay??". And I could see he was very uncomfortable when I entered him, he asked me to pull out and he put on some more spit. At that point I looked around for a bottle of lube, I kid you not! But there wasn't one. This guy was gonna get hurt like this, I thought. Even though I have a nice, average dick, which is taken easily.

 

And that's exactly what happened, after about a minute he suddenly yelps in pain and pushes me out of him, yanks off my condom and throws it in the bin. He then asks if it's okay if he just jerks me off. So then after I cum he jumps up off the bed and I can see he's planning to let me go but I ask if we still have time (we were about 40 mintues in). He says "We have ten minutes left". I thought "Sure..." but we then "cuddled" (and I use this term loosely) on the bed. I could feel he was very tense and did not want to be there at all nor did want me to touch him.

 

The weird thing is, that he was friendly... He had a friendly demeanour, wasn't gruff or anything and before and after sex he was smiling and stuff. I did text him afterward saying I was not satisfied. His response was suprise and he asked me why. So I explained a bit but then he said that my expectations weren't correct. So obviously it was my fault that the session was lousy. Say what now?

 

Obviously I feel bad I hurt him. I would NEVER NEVER EVER want that to happen to anyone! And it has made me take a hit in my self-esteem as a top. But why didn't he just use lube? Seriously?

 

Also, how do you handle lousy hires like this? Obviously he thought he had given me a standard quality session, judging from the way he responded to my texts... So I doubt that bringing it up during or after would have made a difference. Also, he spoke very, very little English so it would've been impossible to have a discussion with him anyway. And is it even worth it to have a discussion at that point?

[Nvr2Thick]

Also, how do you handle lousy hires like this? Obviously he thought he had given me a standard quality session, judging from the way he responded to my texts... So I doubt that bringing it up during or after would have made a difference. Also, he spoke very, very little English so it would've been impossible to have a discussion with him anyway. And is it even worth it to have a discussion at that point?

 

How do you handle lousy hires like this?

You move on. That's one of the benefits of hiring escorts. Don't dwell on the bad experiences. Don't put a lot of effort into trying to coach your partner; the encounter is finished. If you thought that the escort met most of your requirements but the session could stand some fine tuning it might be worth investing in a second session, and a third, and a fourth if you found someone worthy of repeat business. Even if you brought lube for this escort, you couldn't bring in the affection you're looking for from him.

[Wolfer]

Time for another update!

 

I hired a PORN STAR! A hot guy I've lusted after for yeeeaaars until I was browsing and I saw his ad so I extented my vacation in Italy with two days in Rome and booked him. At first I was quite angry after the encounter... He said kissing with tongue would be okay, but only gave me dry kisses, an hour before our appointment, he pushed it back by an hour and I had to wait outside his apartment for ten minutes, then another five minutes in the bedroom (I'd arrived on time, not early nor late)... And I was out in about 30-40 minutes. The good thing was that he had THE best sex skills I've come across. His blowjob was so good I was ready to bust after only about 30 seconds! He was very friendly, very smiley but not affectionate. But that's just a mismatch between me and him, not a "bad" service on his part.

It was obvious he was having a blast and loves sex and he was eager to see me again ('cause I'm a cute and easy client, I guess?). And I'm happy that now that I've had time to process the encounter and decompress, I'm actually satisfied with the encounter. Sure, he wasn't affectionate and didn't kiss with tongue, but the sex was good and he was very friendly and very hot. It's odd how perspectives can change. The sex with him was so satisfying kissing without tongue isn't even a dealbreaker with him! (meaning I'd hire him again )

 

And I had my second overnight! With a guy I'd seen three times before. It didn't start out too great, though... Okay, first, a bit of info of my current situation: I'm drap in the middle of my divorce/break-up, needing to find a new job (I will be unemployed without benefits from the 25th of November) and also need to find a new place to live (I'm still living with my ex). So to say that I'm a little emotionally raw and rough around the edges is an understatement. Also, the overnight was two days after I'd had my porn star session, and at that time I still felt angry about it (that he didn't kiss with tongue as agreed to and worked me out the door in about 30-40 minutes) so obviously I was already agitated about any possible hangups.

 

So! Our overnight was to start at 8pm on Friday night. On Friday night, I text the escort, saying I'm leaving earlier than usual because it's rush hour and there's a major traffic jam on my route. He texts back saying I shouldn't hurry, because he still had to drive home himself and have dinner. The dinner part left me a bit... agitated. Even though it was unneccary on my part, I know, I mean, people need to eat, right? I just expected the escort to be done with dinner by the time I would get to his place. Because he was going to bottom for me... like, when was he planning on douching? Can he have sex on a full stomach? I know we have the whole night, but really, we don't, though, do we? (Because we need sleep)

These things are raging through my head, but what I text back is "So should I come later?" and he assures that no, 8pm is fine, he can eat dinner next to me. Sure, no problem, so I leave for his place.

 

Then he texts me he'd like to take a nap after dinner because he's feeling a little tired. I was flabbergasted... I could understand he'd be tired, but him knowing this overnight was coming up 6 weeks in advance... Is it too much of me to expect him to schedule his calendar in such a way that he'll be ready to receive me and give me attention by the time I arrive? For me, watching television by myself for half an hour while the escort is sleeping, isn't quite a fun start to an overnight (which is what he suggested I do while he'd take a nap).

 

And this isn't my best moment, I parked my car and called him up and after a short exchange I got very angry, saying that I'm sick of escorts feeling like they can take advantage of me just because I'm a friendly and easy guy (obviously I wasn't being friendly in that particular moment ). He responded very calmly and invited me to come over still. Here's why I still went over: because he remained calm and gracious throughout the exchange. (And also because I'm emotionally shattered and long for any human bodily contact I can get)

 

When I arrived we had a long talk about expectations, rules and communication and I thought "We should've had this conversation six weeks ago when setting up the overnight". What had happened six weeks prior is that I was unsure to book an overnight with him because my previous overnight (with a different escort) had been a nightmare. So I wanted to discuss things further, but he cut the conversation short by saying I just needed an open mind and to either book it or not. I did call him out on that during our longer conversation.

 

Ultimately, the overnight was a lot of fun, we both enjoyed ourselves very much and I'm glad that I went through with it. I don't know how to proceed with this escort, though. Obviously I apologized for my behaviour, which is inexcusable under any circumstance. And typing it all out like this I'm left wondering: "Did I just overreact from an emotionally vulnerable place?" He texted me after the overnight, letting me know that he'd like to see me again. So, he's up for it! (Again, I wonder, is it just because I'm a cute, hygienic, dependable and easy client?)

 

The reason why I'm hesitating is because we had more talk about how he charges clients and how he sees things. He feels perfectly justified in working clients out the door in 30 minutes and charge for the hour (he says it's the client's responsibility to ask or direct the session for it to last longer), yet every time I'm with him, he's incredibly accomodating to my requests and you can see he wants me to be satisfied. There's a discrepancy between what he says and what he does. But now I'm worried that if I book him for the hour, I'm gonna need to push to have my hour... I'm also scared there'll be residual bad blood between us from our discussion at the start of our overnight. The guy's hot, pushes my sex buttons, is accomodating... I don't know. Basically, he's one of the only somewhat decent escorts in the whole of Belgium that I'm also physically attracted to.

 

Or should I just lower my standards and expectations? (The escort told me that he thinks my recent bad experiences have been because I have too high standards and expectations... I expect this from every escort: be somewhat on time, be ready to receive me on the hour we agreed to start, do the things we talked about before setting up the session and allow me to stay for the time we agreed I'm paying for)

[Brian Kevin]

I did find out he's married (to a man) through his social media.

 

LOL u creep JK :*

[+ Just Sayin]

Wolfer, I hope that with all of the tumult in your life right now you are getting some help; there are times in our lives when we need good friends and professional guidance; it seems like this might be one of those times for you.

[jimboivyo]

Wolfer, I hope that with all of the tumult in your life right now you are getting some help; there are times in our lives when we need good friends and professional guidance; it seems like this might be one of those times for you.

 

+1

[Wolfer]

Wolfer, I hope that with all of the tumult in your life right now you are getting some help; there are times in our lives when we need good friends and professional guidance; it seems like this might be one of those times for you.

You guys... This really warms my heart. And thanks for putting my priorities straight, hahaha. Here I am banging on about escorts while I really should get myself and my life in order first. I am reaching out for help at the moment, but it's hard. Very hard. Anyway! My birthday is coming up and I'm able to get a free massage because of the parting gift my co-workers gave me (it was a gift voucher), excellent timing!

[jawjateck]

This hobby seems to work best when we use it to add elements of fun and fantasy to an otherwise satisfying life. When it is used as a substitute to compensate for problems, struggles, essential life deficits, it can add to your burden.

 

Everyone needs to learn when to push back from the companion buffet table.

[+ glennnn]

Wolfer baby!

 

I follow your exploits with the greatest interest, although I admit I sometimes lose my place and have to re-read some earlier sections to keep up. I love you because you are such a strong guy. You just keep going, like the E bunny. I mean I also have my issues with getting properly, yet comfortably fucked, but when I get discouraged, I reflect on your adventures, gain perspectivep and find the strength to carry on. If I make it to the PS Weekend, the one person I have to meet is you. I want to hug you and have you put your weary head on my shoulder for a little rest and energy transfer. Keep your pecker up til then, bro.

[Rudynate]

Again, I wonder, is it just because I'm a cute, hygienic, dependable and easy client?)

 

And what's wrong with an escort appreciating that you're cute, hygienic, dependable and an easy client? Remember, you're not looking for love. Or at least you shouldn't be.

[Wolfer]

This hobby seems to work best when we use it to add elements of fun and fantasy to an otherwise satisfying life. When it is used as a substitute to compensate for problems, struggles, essential life deficits, it can add to your burden.

True, this seems to be coming up more frequently lately. Okay, message is getting through.

 

I follow your exploits with the greatest interest, although I admit I sometimes lose my place and have to re-read some earlier sections to keep up. I love you because you are such a strong guy. You just keep going, like the E bunny. I mean I also have my issues with getting properly, yet comfortably fucked, but when I get discouraged, I reflect on your adventures, gain perspectivep and find the strength to carry on. If I make it to the PS Weekend, the one person I have to meet is you. I want to hug you and have you put your weary head on my shoulder for a little rest and energy transfer. Keep your pecker up til then, bro.

Thanks! Yeah, I do keep going, sometimes even when I really should stop to rest and recuperate. I'm learning to do that. I won't be able to make it to the PS weekend, though.

 

And what's wrong with an escort appreciating that you're cute, hygienic, dependable and an easy client? Remember, you're not looking for love. Or at least you shouldn't be.

Yeah, I didn't word that like I should have. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that... What I meant was that I'm not a client who acts difficult or demands stuff, I've been a bit of a pushover in the past. So what I was wondering was if I was just easy money to them. On the other hand, sometimes I might just need to accept people at face value and be happy that they appreciate me for being the client that I am.

Oh no, definitely not looking for love. I'm not even looking for love in my personal life at the moment.

 

I'm so grateful guys, for giving me these reality checks!

[Wolfer]

And I had another adventure, by the way!

 

Spoiler alert: nothing happened... The guy was a no-show. The text exchange was short and sweet, set up a time, arrived at his place, but everything was dark. I texted him, waited 15 minutes without a response. Then I text him that I'm leaving, just as I get in my car I get a text in ALL CAPS that he's really sorry and that he's stuck in traffic and could we meet later?

I decide to politely decline and head home (it was a long drive and it was getting late). On the drive home there was almost zero traffic, which left me wondering precicesly where he'd be stuck in traffic? (I entered and exited Brussels via two of the busiest traffic routes).

 

Woke up the next day to see I'd had a missed call from the escort at 1 am at night. He didn't leave a message, though. Hmmmmmmm...

[+ purplekow]

And what's wrong with an escort appreciating that you're cute, hygienic, dependable and an easy client? Remember, you're not looking for love. Or at least you shouldn't be.

He did not mention and he pays the fee, which is a major source of appreciation. On the other hand, Wolfer you describe yourself as an easy client, but I am not so sure you are so easy. So you can probably cross that off the list of reasons this guy wants you to hire him.

[Wolfer]

He did not mention and he pays the fee, which is a major source of appreciation. On the other hand, Wolfer you describe yourself as an easy client, but I am not so sure you are so easy. So you can probably cross that off the list of reasons this guy wants you to hire him.

Did not mention what? I feel like there's a word missing.

Yeah, with easy I meant being a bit of a pushover.

 

I will admit to holding people to high standards. I do this with every professional I work with, in any field. Most of the time if I'm not satisfied with the level of service, I just eat the waste of time and money, bite my tongue and look for another professional to do business with.

[Rudynate]

Did not mention what? I feel like there's a word missing.

Yeah, with easy I meant being a bit of a pushover.

 

I will admit to holding people to high standards. I do this with every professional I work with, in any field. Most of the time if I'm not satisfied with the level of service, I just eat the waste of time and money, bite my tongue and look for another professional to do business with.

 

What else can you do, really?