Felt adventurous... Hired an unreviewed escort!

[Wolfer]

So in the backwaters of Europe which I call my (quaint) home, not a single guy advertizes on Rentboy. Also, the escorts that do have online ads are on other sites and have no reviews on here whatsoever. So I knew I was never going to have my first hire close to home. I am just not a risk taker...

 

That is, until I decided to take a risk after a first succesful hire of a well-reviewed London escort! See, as much fun as travelling to London is, it takes planning, scheduling, blah blah. But what about right now? What then? So I looked online and found a guy quite to my liking! I did the things recommended on here: I did a reverse image Google search which showed me his real name and location on a different profile website (the location matched with the one in his ad!) And it also allowed me to see his face. I have to see the face! And what a face!

 

But then, the adventurous part! Totally unreviewed guy! Oh gosh! He only had an email so I sent off an email and he replied promptly with rates and very very sexy nude pic. He seemed eager and almost raring to go. But he had to work so he asked me if I could meet up with him at midnight at a park close to his home, where he would then take me to his house. I was like: "Midnight at a park? Uh, no." So we arranged to see each other the next day in the morning. I had used Google maps streetview to check out his neighbourhood. It's a very nice, quiet suburban area, so I felt safe meeting him there.

 

Meeting at the park also gave me the chance to bail instantly if it turned out it wasn't him in the pictures. I took more risks: I did explain what I was into, but didn't ask him not to smoke or to take a shower... I know! I know! So unlike me, as I get heart palpatations even thinking of taking a risk (even with something as mundane as jaywalking).

 

I even bought a new sim card and gave him that phone number so he wouldn't have my real number and didn't park my car at the park, but two blocks away. I was slightly paranoid. I also only brought my driver's license with me and his fee, the rest of my wallet (including my wallet) I left safely at home. Was all this crazy?? I'm just such a scaredy pants sometimes.

 

And you know what? The guy looked exactly like his pictures, he was super hot, he was completely scrubbed clean, smelled heavenly and his breath didn't smell like cigarettes at all. He kissed me passionately, was a hot bottom and his body pushed all my buttons. I loved the session, except that I was in and out in about 40 minutes while I had paid/booked for the hour. But I didn't mind 'cause I was just so relieved and happy that the session itself went so well and was so hot. But if I do book him again I'll be sure to let him know that I'll be expecting the full hour!

 

Turns out the reason he meets you at the park (his house is only one block away) is for safety: it's so you don't know his address. We had to go through one of those sidewalks between the backs of houses, so you can't know his street, since you enter his house from the back.

[tyro]

Hey, everyone's "unreviewed" at the beginning, right?

T

[Wolfer]

That's true, but he felt quite experienced to me. He was calm and assured and knew exactly what to do. And what to do to me.

[jawjateck]

Congrats! You played in the deeper waters where the greater risk/greater reward action is. I play there often and love it. Just keep using good ole common sense and trust your gut when something feels "off". You will hit the jackpot at times with these undiscovered treasures.

[+ WmClarke]

You took some reasonable precautions and had a great time. Congrats!

[Robert G]

how do I do reverse image search? Would you explain? Thanx.

[AdamSmith]

You will hit the jackpot at times with these undiscovered treasures.

 

Parsing jawjateck's genteel phrasing: The more unreviewed guys you hire, the weaker you will find the correlation between reviews and quality.

 

(Also true the more reviewed guys you hire. )

[+ Just Sayin]

Wolfer, you went with your instincts, you were cautious, and you had a great time! And it sounds like you will see him again; congratulations! I believe this is all a part of the adventure...

[jawjateck]

Parsing jawjateck's genteel phrasing: The more unreviewed guys you hire, the weaker you will find the correlation between reviews and quality.

 

(Also true the more reviewed guys you hire. )

 

Careful now, Count AS. Comments like that can rile up some of the partisans.

[AdamSmith]

Careful now, Count AS. Comments like that can rile up some of the partisans.

 

I'm always careful.

 

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[+ dutchmuch]

I even bought a new sim card and gave him that phone number so he wouldn't have my real number and didn't park my car at the park, but two blocks away. I was slightly paranoid. I also only brought my driver's license with me and his fee, the rest of my wallet (including my wallet) I left safely at home. Was all this crazy?? I'm just such a scaredy pants sometimes.

A bone-phone and throw-away wallet are always advised.

[+ SundayZip]

how do I do reverse image search? Would you explain? Thanx.

 

Hi Robert, Go to google.com and type in "reverse image search".

 

Or go here: https://support.google.com/websearch/answer/1325808?hl=en

[Wolfer]

Aaaw, thanks for letting me know I was using regular precautions. I do sometimes wonder if I'm just too careful about things...

 

Reverse image search: if you're using chrome on a pc you just right click on a picture of a Rentboy ad and choose "search Google for image..." (or something, my Chrome isn't in English so the actual phrasing might be different). There are quite a number of escorts who actually use pictures of their personal instagram/twitter/Facebook account and just crop out their faces. But often times if they do that Google finds the original uncropped picture on their account. Now, I don't do this to pry into someone's personal life, it helps determine whether an escort is using false pictures or not. For instance if an escort's stats and location do not match with the stats and location of the person found through Google image search, or if the dick pic belongs to someone different than the person in the torso pictures.

 

SundayZip beat me to it!

 

JawJateck, I follow your Tumblr blog and LOVE the reviews and advice you give! I too believe that unreviewed guys can be hidden gems although I don't know if I my nerves can withstand the stress of taking a risk like this regularly... Up until now I've been a very jittery person.

 

Bone-Phone! I LOVE that! I was calling it my fuck-phone. But I love bone-phone better.

 

One thing bothers me though, about the main site where local guys advertise here is that is allows the escorts to advertise for free and it's the client that has to pay (quite a bit!) to just get the actual contact info of the escort. Luckily the guy I wanted to hire also had an ad up on PlanetRomeo so I got his contact info from there.

[jawjateck]

Woofer, like you, I'm not interested in the private lives of escorts, but since I play often in these deeper waters, I do read an escort's social media posts when he makes no attempt to separate his personal and professional lives. I have eliminated several newbies from hiring consideration after reading some of their bizarre and nutty posts. It's another piece of data to use and schedule successful meetings with compatible companions.

[Wolfer]

Do you know what happened with the phone, though? I had bought a pre-paid sim card. But apparently it doesn't come with credit already on it! So when he texted me twenty minutes before the start of the session on my bone-phone to ask if I was coming for sure I still had to text him back with my personal phone (because I forgot to top up my credit, so couldn't send it from my bone-phone)!

Lesson learned!

[caliguy]

I loved the session, except that I was in and out in about 40 minutes while I had paid/booked for the hour.

I call that a "pump and dump".

[+ SundayZip]

SundayZip beat me to it!

 

I beat you by 1 minute! I'm pretty sure that means that I get a prize -- like maybe a bonus (or a boner).

[Wolfer]

I call that a "pump and dump".

How can you best respond to that in the moment, though? I did ask to cuddle afterwards but I was late to the session (on account of the aforementioned phone troubles) so in this case I didn't really have an argument.

Communicate clearly I expect some downtime after the sex?

I'm answering my own questions, aren't I? Hm, people have described me as a one-man double act!

[corndog]

I loved the session, except that I was in and out in about 40 minutes while I had paid/booked for the hour.

 

I've been frustrated by this situation also. I think that some otherwise excellent escorts feel like they can get on with their life by getting really hot and heavy immediately, getting you off, and then being on their way. I don't consider this exactly dishonest, but it isn't appreciated. I'd rather a slow, passionate session that draws out the fun to a full hour.

 

I've tried different things to avoid this situation...

 

In one case, I told the escort ahead of time "My first orgasm sometimes comes really quickly, but I'm always up to keep going, because the second one is even better." I think that sends the message that I expect to keep going (even though I know that the second orgasm may or may not actually happen.)

 

I've also tried simply being direct with the escort and telling them that I'd like to book a full hour, regardless of how long it might take to cum.

 

I think that if they know they're going to be spending a whole hour, they're more inclined to slow down, and when it's a relaxed session, lasting nearly a whole hour is usually not problem. However, I still hate having either of these discussions. They're uncomfortable and feel too transactional for my taste.

[+ Keith30309]

I've found that, in booking 2 hours, we can establish a rapport and build a connection and the post-exertion period isn't awkward.

For me, hopping into things immediately would sort of make it difficult to enjoy the after-part. That said, sometimes the connection just isn't there, thru no one's fault, and chit-chat about the weather becomes strained.

 

I try to pick guys with whom I can build some level intimacy, looking for hints in their profile for the depth of soul I'm looking for.

Otherwise it's just sweaty grunting with a stranger.

[Wolfer]

I've been frustrated by this situation also. I think that some otherwise excellent escorts feel like they can get on with their life by getting really hot and heavy immediately, getting you off, and then being on their way. I don't consider this exactly dishonest, but it isn't appreciated. I'd rather a slow, passionate session that draws out the fun to a full hour.

 

I've tried different things to avoid this situation...

 

In one case, I told the escort ahead of time "My first orgasm sometimes comes really quickly, but I'm always up to keep going, because the second one is even better." I think that sends the message that I expect to keep going (even though I know that the second orgasm may or may not actually happen.)

 

I've also tried simply being direct with the escort and telling them that I'd like to book a full hour, regardless of how long it might take to cum.

 

I think that if they know they're going to be spending a whole hour, they're more inclined to slow down, and when it's a relaxed session, lasting nearly a whole hour is usually not problem. However, I still hate having either of these discussions. They're uncomfortable and feel too transactional for my taste.

Thanks, yeah, I agree. The reason I was surprised that the session was cut short is that when I confirmed his hourly rate he said: "I don't watch the clock, as long as we're having fun is all that matters." Didn't know that also meant that the session could be cut short instead of going into overtime.

 

He was very deft about it too, I think he'd noticed I was close to cumming, pulled off my condom and told me to cum on his chest. While I was thinking that I wanted to try out some different positions first. But I'm still learning how to handle how my brain turns to mush when I'm in a situation like that.

 

Next time I'm gonna be upfront about it and say that unless it's gonna be an hour I won't bother coming over. I don't think this guy is one for pillow talk, so I won't be hiring him for longer sessions.

[AdamSmith]

I don't think this guy is one for pillow talk, so I won't be hiring him for longer sessions.

 

Very healthy approach. Definitely learn from these experiences what you might do differently next time to help things go more the way you like them. But also a wise decision not to fixate on 'fixing' this one individual, but instead move on and try more new people who may be more in tune.

[+ azdr0710]

Next time I'm gonna be upfront about it and say that unless it's gonna be an hour I won't bother coming over.

 

 

well, don't be quite so "an hour or never!"-sounding.....just lead the meeting as it happens.....I'M usually the clock-watcher just so I can make sure all that I want to happen happens, not too fast or too slow.....

 

by the way, great thread title!......some here are always banging the "reviewed escorts ONLY" drum, so your "felt adventurous..." sentiment had a great sense of revolt...thanks

[+ poolboy48220]

I'll tell the guy "slow down, we've got plenty of time" sometimes. I hate discussing this more directly, the "it feels too transactional" comment is dead on.

[tsgarp]

Any reason you haven't shared a link so those of us who visit London can share in your wonderful experience?