Best gay dating sites other than A4A

[Greg Smart]

Seriously, what are the best sites? I got a good small business, place of my own, and all my muscles back... but A4A doesn't cut it in bringing the guy I want in my life. Where does someone like me look?

[+ Just Sayin]

Greg, I firmly believe that meeting guys online does not work except for a quick hookup; I think there is something important in measuring in person a guy's demeanor; I have heard repeated stories of online relationships where, in theory, it should work (interests are similar, etc.) but when you meet in person, it just doesn't jive; put yourself in places where you meet guys--restaurants, stores, events and so on; you will catch someone's eye and he will catch yours; if there's a spark, you'll know; trust me on this--get out there!

[+ Gar1eth]

Seriously, what are the best sites? I got a good small business, place of my own, and all my muscles back... but A4A doesn't cut it in bringing the guy I want in my life. Where does someone like me look?

 

 

I tried OkCupid for awhile. It's more a dating than a hook-up site. I'll be frank, it didn't work for me. But I'm not very attractive, and I'm middle-aged. You don't have to worry about not being attractive, and you are not middle-aged. So your chances would be a lot better. There are other sites like eHarmony. Originally they didn't take gay 'clients', but somewhere around 2009 they had a lawsuit and were forced to if I understand correctly. A site similar to Adam4Adam is Manhunt. Another hook-up site but you can screen for people more into relationships is Scruff.

 

Gman

[+ José Soplanucas]

A4A is not a dating site but a hook ups service. Not the right place to look into if your quest is for love. Follow Gman's advice.

[dcguy20]

I'm kind of curious as to how many guys actually hook up from a site like A4A. I have had only one in the number of years I've been on that site, and that was within the first year of me joining. There are a handful of guys that I'm still friends with (never hooked up), but unfortunately there has been absolutely no spark with the one's I've actually gone on dates with. I still chat with guys time and again, but I definitely don't set my expectations too high for anything to transpire.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Since my T4 vanished about 5 years ago, I stopped using a4a to hook up, I use it only for escorts. But before that, I used to hook up a lot with it. I used to be a fan of m4m4sex until they started charging a fee. When that happened, I migrated to a4a and it was very effective at the beginning. I think there is a not so large universe of people cruising on line (this depends in your location) and if you use the service intensively as I did, you soon run out of new meat.

[dcguy20]

Sorry, what's T4?

[+ José Soplanucas]

I suffer from hypothyroidism. T4 is the main hormone produced by the thyroid gland.

[doitb4ugo]

I might recommend Meetup.com. It is not a hookup or dating site but has many gay groups who meet for movies, dinner out, and all sorts of other interests that bring people together. I belong to perhaps a dozen and could be busy meeting and socializing 3-4 times per week. I have met a number of guys who would be good dating material and also have enjoyed myself with the activities within those groups. You can find out what's in your area pretty easily.

[Lug]

I'm kind of curious as to how many guys actually hook up from a site like A4A. I have had only one in the number of years I've been on that site, and that was within the first year of me joining. There are a handful of guys that I'm still friends with (never hooked up), but unfortunately there has been absolutely no spark with the one's I've actually gone on dates with. I still chat with guys time and again, but I definitely don't set my expectations too high for anything to transpire.

Haven't had one in a few months, but over a fourteen month period I had eight hook-ups and two meetings that went nowhere. So average better than a hookup every other month. from Adam4Adam.

 

For the same time period, ManHunt led to hookups with five guys; two of them are now regular fuck buddies. A few very brutal game players also from that site, on top of the usual amount game players. So even though I was a paid member on ManHunt, and used it more, and it claims to be the world's biggest gay dating site, I had much less success there. But I did find a nice massage guy (with happy endings) there as well. I'll be seeing him later today.

 

For the same period on Craigslist, sixteen hookups with seven of them having repeat experiences (anywhere from two to six hookups with the same guy). Also, a few really bad hookups--attempted bareback, a methhead, etc.

[+ Gar1eth]

Haven't had one in a few months, but over a fourteen month period I had eight hook-ups and two meetings that went nowhere. So average better than a hookup every other month. from Adam4Adam.

 

For the same time period, ManHunt led to hookups with five guys; two of them are now regular fuck buddies. A few very brutal game players also from that site, on top of the usual amount game players. So even though I was a paid member on ManHunt, and used it more, and it claims to be the world's biggest gay dating site, I had much less success there. But I did find a nice massage guy (with happy endings) there as well. I'll be seeing him later today.

 

For the same period on Craigslist, sixteen hookups with seven of them having repeat experiences (anywhere from two to six hookups with the same guy). Also, a few really bad hookups--attempted bareback, a methhead, etc.

 

 

Wow!!! I'm not sure I have had that many hook-ups in my life. We're not worthy!!!

 

Gman

[Lug]

Wow!!! I'm not sure I have had that many hook-ups in my life. We're not worthy!!!

 

Gman

What--you never had a "slutty phase" I thought that was required!

[AdamSmith]

What--you never had a "slutty phase" I thought that was required!

 

[+ Gar1eth]

Haven't had one in a few months, but over a fourteen month period I had eight hook-ups and two meetings that went nowhere. So average better than a hookup every other month. from Adam4Adam.

 

For the same time period, ManHunt led to hookups with five guys; two of them are now regular fuck buddies. A few very brutal game players also from that site, on top of the usual amount game players. So even though I was a paid member on ManHunt, and used it more, and it claims to be the world's biggest gay dating site, I had much less success there. But I did find a nice massage guy (with happy endings) there as well. I'll be seeing him later today.

 

For the same period on Craigslist, sixteen hookups with seven of them having repeat experiences (anywhere from two to six hookups with the same guy). Also, a few really bad hookups--attempted bareback, a methhead, etc.

 

Wow!!! I'm not sure I have had that many hook-ups in my life. We're not worthy!!!

 

Gman

 

What--you never had a "slutty phase" I thought that was required!

 

I never really had an unpaid experience until I was 50-4 years ago (if we don't count receiving oral maybe twice). By that time the spirit might have been willing but the flesh was weak. Also most of the times the guys I'm attracted too aren't attracted to me. And in just about 98% of the times if I have met someone, it's because I made the 1st move after days/weeks/months of rejections. For the most part it's gotten to be too much effort for too little return. But to keep this comment related to the thread topic, I will say that I doubt Greg will have problems with any of that as he is an attractive guy.

 

Gman

[Greg Smart]

hi Greg,

 

Here's what I can add:

- http://www.gayromeo.com

- http://www.gaydar.net

- http://www.manplay.com

- http://outpersonals.com

- http://www.recon.com

 

Happy hunting!

 

Cheers, Anton.

Thanks

[mike carey]

Hey Greg, thanks for being an open commenter here. If I were your age I would love to meet up and chat.

[maninsoma]

I tried OkCupid for awhile. It's more a dating than a hook-up site. I'll be frank, it didn't work for me. But I'm not very attractive, and I'm middle-aged. You don't have to worry about not being attractive, and you are not middle-aged. So your chances would be a lot better. There are other sites like eHarmony. Originally they didn't take gay 'clients', but somewhere around 2009 they had a lawsuit and were forced to if I understand correctly. A site similar to Adam4Adam is Manhunt. Another hook-up site but you can screen for people more into relationships is Scruff.

 

Gman

 

EDIT: Never mind. I just found information online that this rating system was disabled a year or so ago. Wonder why it's still available when searching via the filters available to A-listers and, since that filter is still available, does that mean that new users such as myself won't show up in filtered searches since we have no ratings applied (whether hot, above average, or average)?

 

Original post: I signed up for OKCupid and for the life of me don't see how they are coming up with ratings for who is supposedly hot, attractive, or average. I even upgraded to the A-list and I don't see a way to rate someone in terms of attractiveness. The only rating I see that I can give is whether I generally "like" someone which obviously can be a result of more than just looks. Given that the A-list premium allows one to filter searches by attractiveness rating, I assume the ability to rate people is still there. Do you know how that's done?

[+ Gar1eth]

I signed up for OKCupid and for the life of me don't see how they are coming up with ratings for who is supposedly hot, attractive, or average. I even upgraded to the A-list and I don't see a way to rate someone in terms of attractiveness. The only rating I see that I can give is whether I generally "like" someone which obviously can be a result of more than just looks. Given that the A-list premium allows one to filter searches by attractiveness rating, I assume the ability to rate people is still there. Do you know how that's done?

 

I don't remember an attractiveness rating. But it's been at least 4 years since I was on it. I was talking about where it lists people you would supposedly be compatible with.

 

Gman

[maninsoma]

I don't remember an attractiveness rating. But it's been at least 4 years since I was on it. I was talking about where it lists people you would supposedly be compatible with.

 

Gman

 

Maybe that attractiveness rating was a short-lived feature. Seems like they got a lot of negative press about it since a lot of people were offended that for paying members only, one could simply not even see profiles unless enough other users had rated them as "hot." But, as I wrote, what's odd is that that filter is still available for searching, just not for adding new ratings. I'm not sure how much faith I have in the rating, though, since I find plenty of guys in the attractive and hot categories not particularly attractive (to me). The only thing I can say is that when I filter out the "average" people the percentage of men I find attractive in my search results is, in fact, higher.

[Mocha]

Seriously, what are the best sites? I got a good small business, place of my own, and all my muscles back... but A4A doesn't cut it in bringing the guy I want in my life. Where does someone like me look?

 

I think with any online site you may go through a few people before you come across someone compatible.

 

I don't think everyone on a particular site is completely dishonest or "whorish"..BUT, I will say there is a lot of "open relationships", or don't ask, don't tells on that site. I've personally found a4a good for meeting clients, or in certain cities when traveling. As far as using it for a dating site, I've found it to be a better use of my time to just advertise.

 

I have however found a4a better than all the phone app sites for clients and dating.

[RockyHardon]

Seriously, what are the best sites? I got a good small business, place of my own, and all my muscles back... but A4A doesn't cut it in bringing the guy I want in my life. Where does someone like me look?

 

 

Greg,

 

Believe it or not, but I'm really new to gay life, having been a Down-Low Playa for years. I have discovered the all the dating sites and apps in the gay world serve as basically hook-up sites...essentially free escort sites...you exchange an email or two, chat briefly, give the address, and then either you or your prospect is showing up at the apartment/house pre-lubed and ready to fuck.

 

I have been introduced to many couples, and it seems like quite a few were regular fuck buddies/hook-ups who grew to like each other after meeting for several fuck sessions. But most of the couples I have met appear to have met the old fashion way...introductions from friends, joining and becoming a member of gay social groups or clubs, and attending the ubiquitous pool parties here in southern california and being in circulation. This is much much more work than simply posting a torso pic on scruff or A4A, or Grinder, or jackd, but meeting people in a social setting gives you a much better chance of connecting on a level both sexually and emotionally (if that is what you are looking for)

[LookingAround]

I mostly use the a4a app. On the desktop version there's the escorts section. Is there any way to access that via the app?

[+ José Soplanucas]

I think with any online site you may go through a few people before you come across someone compatible.

 

I don't think everyone on a particular site is completely dishonest or "whorish"..BUT, I will say there is a lot of "open relationships", or don't ask, don't tells on that site. I've personally found a4a good for meeting clients, or in certain cities when traveling. As far as using it for a dating site, I've found it to be a better use of my time to just advertise.

 

I have however found a4a better than all the phone app sites for clients and dating.

 

A4a is not a dating site. It is a hook up site. It works wonderfully.

[+ honcho]

I met the man I've been seeing for the past 8 years on www.silverdaddies.com.

 

He's a younger man, but only by 6 months (out of 63 years). I would describe that particular site as friendly and accommodating both to guys seeking relationship and merely seeking fun.