Racial diversity in this forum

[+ José Soplanucas]

Hello my horny friends!

 

I hope I am not burning down myself with this posting. Being relatively new, I may just need to be educated on how to look for what I am looking for, which is young black/brown/asian men.

I find daddy's reviews, the escorts discussed in these forums, and the pictures shared in the gallery threads lacking of racial diversity. Do you think I am right? I AM NOT saying there is no diversity, I am saying there is not enough. You would say what "enough" is. If we round American population to 70% White, I would expect at least 30% of escorts discussed here to be non white. I do not think we are close to that figure. Maybe we should start some kind of affirmative action policy here?

And yes, before anybody else point it out, I am being completely selfish and centered in my sexual preferences. Which could easily influence my "lack of diversity" feeling. Sorry for that.

If you are upset or offended at this point of my message, please go up and read my first two sentences.

Gracias!

[thickornotatall]

Good post....you are not selfish or self centered....we all like what we like...There is no reason why...just a fact...Your interest in "young black/brown/asian men" is your business...If that is what your chemistry wants....that is what you will respond to....I would imagine that most members here are white or maybe Latino....I also think that reason has to do with disposable income. Maybe I'm wrong about that..I just don't know that Blacks have $300 to spend in one hour...I hope that doesn't come across as racist thinking...

Where you live also makes a difference in the choice of escorts....I live in NYC and Florida....my choice is the whole menu of offerings....but my interest is very narrow....I make no excuse for what I like and neither should you....

[Diverdan]

Sorry, TGuy... I hope you were a bit sarcastic with this post, but if not, I hope you realize that there is never a limit on what is discussed or stated here!!!!

[wklucas]

Sorry, TGuy... I hope you were a bit sarcastic with this post, but if not, I hope you realize that there is never a limit on what is discussed or stated here!!!!

 

if you (actually) had to ask, I don't think that there's much hope of you ever having a sense of humor (seriously).

[Diverdan]

I have a great sense of humor according to my friends..

[+ José Soplanucas]

Sorry, TGuy... I hope you were a bit sarcastic with this post, but if not, I hope you realize that there is never a limit on what is discussed or stated here!!!!

Thanks Diver! Anyways, if you read my original post you can see I predicted postings like that and apologized (out of excessive kindness). I will just enjoy the exchange with people who is in sync and ignore anybody else.

[bigvalboy]

....I also think that reason has to do with disposable income. Maybe I'm wrong about that..I just don't know that Blacks have $300 to spend in one hour...I hope that doesn't come across as racist thinking...

 

http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/no.gif Seriously? ....and yes, that comes across as racist. I don't even know how to start a conversation like that.

[Rudynate]

I like any color/ethnicity, but might have a preference for black/brown men. There certainly is no shortage of black/brown men available for hire.

 

That's true, not many men of color are discussed here, I never really noticed it before, and having had it pointed out, I'm not that worried about it.

 

You're talking about deeply personal preferences - areas where the law would never think of intruding. But a totally private forum is supposed to regulate the ethnic mix of the membership, and the behavior of the membership in order to achieve some sort of ethnic parity? What you are proposing is something like requiring a store or restaurant to take affirmative steps to achieve a predetermined ethic mix in its customer population. The most wild-eyed liberal would never imagine that.

[Diverdan]

You are most welcome latbear.... I think there are a lot of reasons for the lack of diversity, and I have stopped speculating on that years ago. I had a long term affair with a young black man who only dated older white guys. We had many conversations about his preferences, and while he also introduced me to several of his black friends, none of them were of interest to me, nor did he have any intimate contact with any of them according to him, as that was not his interest. I was about 15 years older than he was at the time. He eventually met another white guy who was older than me, when I moved out of the city we were in and they moved in together. I would occasionally see him when I came back to that city, and I was very saddened to learn that he died at a very young age of an undetected heart condition. Take care and keep a thick skin when you read some of the posting on this forum and some of the comments that are made.

[+ Robster]

...I also think that reason has to do with disposable income. Maybe I'm wrong about that..I just don't know that Blacks have $300 to spend in one hour...I hope that doesn't come across as racist thinking...

http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/no.gif Seriously? ....and yes, that comes across as racist. I don't even know how to start a conversation like that.

+1

[Rudynate]

A long time ago, I dated a black man who only liked whites. Didn't date other blacks at all. He had pictures of all his white BF's all over the walls in his apartment, displayed a little bit like trophies. And, at the same time, he was deathly afraid of being objectified as a black man by whites. So, if a white guy he was dating gave any indication of being somebody who "liked blacks," he dropped him immediately. Somehow, I failed his test and he broke up with me. Months later he was on the phone, telling me he had made a horrible mistake and missed me and wanted us to start seeing each other again. I said no. The whole thing seemed too kooky for me.

[Epigonos]

Latbear4blk my guess is that the vast majority of the participants on the form are older (40+) Anglos and that they tend to hire Anglo Escorts. Each of us has our own hang ups and types we prefer to hire. I, for example, am a total body fascists. If the escort has a gymnast/bodybuilder type body I'm in and if you check my reviews you will see that they include Anglo Escorts, Hispanic Escorts, and African American Escorts. The major reason you won't see many reviews of Asian Escorts is that there just aren't that many of them.

I would recommend that you check out renboy, rentmen, and men4rent for your location. When you find a guy who interests you cross reference him here to see if he has any reviews. Your profile indicated that you are in the D.C. area and believe me there are many outstanding Hispanic Escorts and African American Escorts in the greater D.C. area. Good luck and good hunting.

 

P.S. There isn't a damn thing wrong with the questions you posed in your post and don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

[+ José Soplanucas]

You're talking about deeply personal preferences - areas where the law would never think of intruding. But a totally private forum is supposed to regulate the ethnic mix of the membership, and the behavior of the membership in order to achieve some sort of ethnic parity? What you are proposing is something like requiring a store or restaurant to take affirmative steps to achieve a predetermined ethic mix in its customer population. The most wild-eyed liberal would never imagine that.

 

My reference to affirmative action policies was a joke. My intention with opening this thread was mostly checking how the topic resonates in the forum and start scoping those of us who have the same preferences to share experiences and information. Not only I am thinking about my racial preferences in sex, but also about my financial reach on hire. Although I enjoy reading the experiences of some of the friends her who are able to hire multiple escorts and travel companions, these experiences are totally out of my limited capacities. I will let this thread develops to see how it evolves and maybe later I start a new one where I can be more specific.

[Rudynate]

My reference to affirmative action policies was a joke. My intention with opening this thread was mostly checking how the topic resonates in the forum and start scoping those of us who have the same preferences to share experiences and information. Not only I am thinking about my racial preferences in sex, but also about my financial reach on hire. Although I enjoy reading the experiences of some of the friends her who are able to hire multiple escorts and travel companions, these experiences are totally out of my limited capacities. I will let this thread develops to see how it evolves and maybe later I start a new one where I can be more specific.

 

 

Yes, I recognized it as a joke, but I suspected there was a sentiment beneath the joke.

[Epigonos]

The disposable income issue makes NO sense to me when it is applied to ethnic groups. It does, however make sense when applying it to age. I imagine that there aren't, one hell of, a lot of 20 and 30 year olds with sufficient disposable income to shell out $300 for a one hour fling with an escort. Now, on the other hand, I am totally convinced that there are plenty of 50+ year old Hispanic and African American men who do have the disposable income to do so.

[thickornotatall]

http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/no.gif Seriously? ....and yes, that comes across as racist. I don't even know how to start a conversation like that.

it probably does come across as racist...to someone with a racist attitude that claims to not be.......

"I just don't know that Blacks have $300 to spend in one hour...I hope that doesn't come across as racist thinking..."

 

 

Rule of thumb: When you post a comment that is astoundingly racist, snarky responses will likely ensue.

I stand by what I wrote....I do not know any Blacks that would spend $300 on an escort...I just don't...so don't get all high horse when someone is speaking their truth...I also don't know many Caucasians....Latinos..Asians...that will spend $300 for an hour with an escort....nope...I just don't....Fact is not many would..even on this forum...And I am speaking of older....35+ men or women...

[BabyBoomer]

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latbear4blk,

 

~Boomer ~

[+ José Soplanucas]

it probably does come across as racist...to someone with a racist attitude that claims to not be.......

 

I stand by what I wrote....I do not know any Blacks that would spend $300 on an escort...I just don't...so don't get all high horse when someone is speaking their truth...I also don't know many Caucasians....Latinos..Asians...that will spend $300 for an hour with an escort....nope...I just don't....Fact is not many would..even on this forum...And I am speaking of older....35+ men or women...

 

And my Thea's is becoming extremely educative to me. I cannot spend 300 on an escort. I did it only once, because he was my favorite porn star, but my budget can hardly afford paying more than 200 monthly or bimonthly (I am 52 y.o.). It is good to know I am not alone.

[AdamSmith]

I stand by what I wrote....I do not know any Blacks that would spend $300 on an escort...I just don't...so don't get all high horse when someone is speaking their truth...I also don't know many Caucasians....Latinos..Asians...that will spend $300 for an hour with an escort....nope...I just don't....Fact is not many would..even on this forum...And I am speaking of older....35+ men or women...

 

On another site I set up a poll about spending on escorts. The results, assuming most respondents were truthful (and I do so assume), were interesting:

 

http://www.boytoy.com/forums/index.php?/topic/23485-whats-the-most-youve-spent-on-escorts-in-a-year/

[BabyBoomer]

On another site I set up a poll about spending on escorts. The results, assuming most respondents were truthful (and I do so assume), were interesting:

 

http://www.boytoy.com/forums/index.php?/topic/23485-whats-the-most-youve-spent-on-escorts-in-a-year/

 

I assume Donald Burns didn't vote.

 

~ Boomer ~

[thickornotatall]

Well clearly someone is paying $300/hour on escorts or this site wouldn't exist. Looks like eight of today's reviews alone are from folks who either did overnights or who spent $300 or more for an hour. So saying that "not many would... even on this forum..." spend $300 for an hour with an escort is just ludirous.

I don't believe that 8..10...or 12 members spending that amount make a worthy poll....If you think that the members here are a cross section of men or women that hire....go ahead...I don't......I read right here on this forum that people balk at any number over $250...Personally I think $300 is fine and reasonable...I hire when I feel the urge and know exactly how much I spend...and that is my business...And yes....I hire Black...Latino ....Caucasian....but only guys that are super hung...so I guess you'll have a problem with that too?...

[+ José Soplanucas]

On another site I set up a poll about spending on escorts. The results, assuming most respondents were truthful (and I do so assume), were interesting:

 

http://www.boytoy.com/forums/index.php?/topic/23485-whats-the-most-youve-spent-on-escorts-in-a-year/

Wow, THAT is interesting. Thanks for sharing, Adam, you are honoring your nick name. I think my annual top escort spending has been 1,000.

[+ Charlie]

It seems to me that there is a lot more racial and ethnic diversity in the ads on the escort sites, like Rentboy, than in the reviews on this site. I can only speculate, with no hard evidence, on the reasons for that. It may be that white escorts get hired more frequently, or that those who hire non-white escorts don't bother to write reviews. The men (and a few women) who participate on this MB are self-selected, and are probably not representative of all those who hire escorts. A newcomer who reads this MB for the first time may perceive its members as unlike himself (i.e., mostly older white males who talk mostly about white escorts), and decide not to join. Many men who hire escorts are not comfortable talking about their activities or preferences anywhere, and even those who actively participate here are not always comfortable talking about them. Without serious statistical and sociological data, it is impossible to give more than impressionistic reasons for the lack of diversity that you perceive.

 

You have no reason to apologize for your preferences, or for your desire to see more discussion of escorts that fit them. Just don't expect that expressing your wish will make it happen. If it would, for me there would be a lot more discussion here about big Italian stallions with silky black body hair (but I digress!)

[+ Robster]

I stand by what I wrote....I do not know any Blacks that would spend $300 on an escort...

But that's not what you wrote. You originally wrote, "I just don't know that Blacks have $300 to spend in one hour..."

Big difference.

 

Rob

[thickornotatall]

The only problem I have is that in your original post you stated - and I quote - "I just don't know that Blacks have $300 to spend in one hour". If that's not what you meant, or if that somehow came out differently than you had intended for it to, then just say so and move on. But to pretend that that statement, in and of itself, isn't patently racist is just ridiculous.

I stand by my statement..I mean what I say.....I DO NOT know any Blacks that would spend that amount...that is not racist....just a fact....I do know many Blacks...I just don't know any that hire escorts....Why do you have a problem with that...Should I know some that hire and spend $300?...that's seems what you are inferring......introduce me?