I need your guy's help

[RSully94]

Hey everyone. So I need help wherever I can get it right now because I'm financially in over my head.

http://www.gofundme.com/rsully94

 

This morning I discovered my retainers on my floor crunched up - meaning that I either accidentally ran it over with my desk chair or my dog Bailey chewed them. Either way, they're now useless and I need to get them replaced ASAP. But I don't have that kind of money at the moment so now I'm reaching out for help.

 

I explain everything more thoroughly on the gofundme page but if someone is kind enough to share or donate that would be really helpful.

[YoungAD]

Ryan, how do you plan on paying back the money that you borrow? Or are you just assuming that this will be a $700 gift?

[RSully94]

Ryan, how do you plan on paying back the money that you borrow? Or are you just assuming that this will be a $700 gift?

 

Why do I feel like I'm being picked on for trying not to panic and coming up with the only idea I can to try and get my retainers replaced as soon as possible. Because frankly, last time I checked, this wasn't ONE person donating $700.

[YoungAD]

I'm not sure why you feel picked on at all. It's a legitimate question.

[Tonyko]

Ryan you're twenty one years old. And though I sympathize with your previous battles your food issues your spending issues etc, from what I could glean from your gofundme, it sounds as if you're "employed" by your parents :-) Getting paid for the assistance you give them, whether caring for your own dogs or helping your elderly incapacitated father, seems odd to me since it seems like what a son would do regardless simply because he is a son. I looked at your FB, you're not a homeless teen tossed from his house or starving or living in a shelter in need of an apendectomy you can't afford. I applaud your keeping up with your classes and your education, but you need to get a job. I had one at 17. And 18. And 21. WERE you TRULY in need I'm sure you would find this board kind-hearted and generous. But we're not paying for your retainer . You need to hit the Burger King or The Mall and get yourself a job.

[thickornotatall]

Time to get a job and pay for yourself...at your age I had 2 jobs....went to school...paid for school...Sad to have to ask people to pay for a retainer...if you are disabled..apply for government help....no cheese for you..

[RSully94]

Because getting a minimum wage job to cover a $600 replacement is TOTALLY going to happen asap.

[sincitymix]

Why do I feel like I'm being picked on for trying not to panic and coming up with the only idea I can to try and get my retainers replaced as soon as possible. Because frankly, last time I checked, this wasn't ONE person donating $700.

 

Forgive me, I don't have a retainer, so I am not sure exactly why you would panic. Is it that you will get into trouble if your parents discover your retainer is destroyed? or is it a dental thing.. that if you don't wear it your teeth shift back? and if they do wont the retainer put them back into place?

any dentists around here willing to chime in?

[Tonyko]

Because getting a minimum wage job to cover a $600 replacement is TOTALLY going to happen asap.

When you have NO rent to pay groceries to buy laundrymat to feed coins to etc, YAH, I think it "could" happen:cool: Granted maybe not asap, but I live in the most painfully expensive city there is and even HERE there are dentists who allow you to work on a payment plan. (EVEN the ones with signs that say "Payment must be made at time of Service". I did two implants that way. Just sayin'.

[RSully94]

Forgive me, I don't have a retainer, so I am not sure exactly why you would panic. Is it that you will get into trouble if your parents discover your retainer is destroyed? or is it a dental thing.. that if you don't wear it your teeth shift back? and if they do wont the retainer put them back into place?

any dentists around here willing to chime in?

I wouldn't get in trouble over it, but they wouldn't pay for a knew one if they knew. Well m'y dad knows, and he knows i can't afford it.

Its thé dental issue as to why I'm freaking out. Getting a job does not happen overnight, especially in this economic climate. And a 21 year old isn't likely to get a High paying job, unless You're Miley Cyrus, à stripper, or an escort. I believe my ex made $300 a month at McDonald's, but that's only half of what I think thé cost will be.

 

A retainer does not put shifted teeth back into place. Braces do. And trust me, I don't want to deal with that 2 year ordeal again.

[+ FreshFluff]

When you have NO rent to pay groceries to buy laundrymat to feed coins to etc, YAH, I think it "could" happen:cool: Granted maybe not asap, but I live in the most painfully expensive city there is and even HERE there are dentists who allow you to work on a payment plan. (EVEN the ones with signs that say "Payment must be made at time of Service". I did two implants that way. Just sayin'.

 

Ryan, I think this is a great idea. I assume you've been seeing your orthodontist since your teens, so you probably have a relationship with him, even if you haven't seen him in a while. You're far more likely to get a a new retainer from him on credit (maybe with $100-$200 upfront) than to be able to raise $700 quickly. As for price, your last replacement retainer cost $400, so why should this one cost twice as much?

 

Here's another idea: Ask your orthodontist about a pay in kind arrangement, probably involving office work. Because you're presumably on your parents' insurance, he wouldn't have to pay benefits and wouldn't need to deal with hiring a full timer. For you, the work would be more pleasant than Burger King and you'd gain skills that you can put on your resume.

 

You might also check out his social media presence and ask him whether he has anyone managing it. As a Millennial, you could really add some value there. If you go that route, take a look at what his competitors are doing, do some reading on social media marketing strategies, and be prepared to present a formal plan for how you'll use FB, Twitter, and IG to land new business.

[m.yi]

A lot of dental clinics have 0% interest payment plans, look into that. They're not an auto dealership, so I'd assume they won't play games. I see a really knowledgeable, skilled and honest dentist in DTLA, PM me and I could ask her if there is a specific Ortho she recommends in the LA area if you need one.

 

As for the hiring, delay that until you pay off your retainers. Escorts don't like crooked teeth.

[RSully94]

A lot of dental clinics have 0% interest payment plans, look into that. They're not an auto dealership, so I'd assume they won't play games. I see a really knowledgeable, skilled and honest dentist in DTLA, PM me and I could ask her if there is a specific Ortho she recommends in the LA area if you need one.

 

As for the hiring, delay that until you pay off your retainers. Escorts don't like crooked teeth.

 

Haven't hired since January and it hasn't been my focus as of late, because I've been working on turning things around. But it's things like this that just push me back again and bad things keep happening and it just gets so damn upsetting, like right now. I have my reason to worry, to be upset, to set up that gofundme.

[Tonyko]

Haven't hired since January and it hasn't been my focus as of late.

:eek:Ooookay.... I'm gonna do what I do when someone says OJ was innocent or Donald Trump makes some good points; bow OUT of the conversation before I say sumthin' REALLY rough and hard. Nite.

[m.yi]

RSully94,

 

Just off the bat, I'm not being overly critical of you. Consider it tough love I guess (others might disagree though). I'm less than a decade older than you. Most posters have more life experiences than both of us, listen to them. They've gone through a lot more.

 

Time to get creative, I made suggestions on my previous post. Take this as an opportunity to step up to the plate, get a part-time job, get a loan etc.. I moved here from halfway around the world when I was your age - alone. I had no choice to but to get my sh*t together, this is your chance.

[american executive]

Hey Ryan:

 

You sound frustrated and perhaps a little defensive. Asking for a $700 loan naturally raises questions. Listen - the main point is not for you to defend yourself but to get those retainers.

 

Fresh Fluff and m. yi gave you great advice. Talk to your dentist. They ALL have financing plans. You are already an established customer. Spend some of your energy working out a financing plan ASAP.

 

Then, take the others' advice and get serious about finding a job. Please don't be insulted but for every excuse as to why not to work such as low pay, time consuming, etc. there are 500 jobs out there. Believe me, you will feel good about yourself. Success is a journey; not a destination. Go for it.

 

I wish you the best.

[Guest]

Why would my guy help you? (Or did you mean "you guys' help"?).

[Nebost]

Ryan,

I originally went into the thread asking for folks to not be judgemental or critical about your situation. But after reading the posts, I think the board concensus is right...They want you to be stronger, to stand on your own feet, to work your own way out of problems. These qualities ,which have to be learned through life experience, will benefit you your whole life.

[robberbaron4u]

Hmmm. . .and what can you do for me??? LOL, not at the situation but the proposition. I am old and worn and susceptible to the cold; I require a new sets of silk "long-johns" for the winter because by housekeeper washed my last sets with Clorox and they disintegrated in the wash. Cotton is so, well, "common"; only silk will do. Keep me warm for the winter, go fund me. . .

[Guest countryboywny]

Because getting a minimum wage job to cover a $600 replacement is TOTALLY going to happen asap.

 

Ryan, if you're unemployed then any job, minimum wage or not is better than no job at all. I would be more willing to help someone in need if they were working and trying to help themselves. Just sayin'...

[maninsoma]

Ryan, I think this is a great idea. I assume you've been seeing your orthodontist since your teens, so you probably have a relationship with him, even if you haven't seen him in a while. You're far more likely to get a a new retainer from him on credit (maybe with $100-$200 upfront) than to be able to raise $700 quickly. As for price, your last replacement retainer cost $400, so why should this one cost twice as much?

 

Here's another idea: Ask your orthodontist about a pay in kind arrangement, probably involving office work. Because you're presumably on your parents' insurance, he wouldn't have to pay benefits and wouldn't need to deal with hiring a full timer. For you, the work would be more pleasant than Burger King and you'd gain skills that you can put on your resume.

 

You might also check out his social media presence and ask him whether he has anyone managing it. As a Millennial, you could really add some value there. If you go that route, take a look at what his competitors are doing, do some reading on social media marketing strategies, and be prepared to present a formal plan for how you'll use FB, Twitter, and IG to land new business.

 

Some good ideas there. I think that a replacement retainer might even cost less than the original because if the original one was made fairly recently, they should be able to make another one using the same mold taken for the first one.

[Diverdan]

GREAT advise all around. Take it to heart and stop being defensive.... I too worked for my parents years ago, and was not very happy about it, but it taught me a lot of lessons that have lasted me a life time. I learned to appreciate the sacrifices they made to help me and my sister appreciate what life was all about.

[craigville beach]

I'm wondering how old you are? If you are under 26 y/o, I believe you could still be covered under any insurance program your parents may have. If you live in a city with a large medical/dental school sometimes they have clinics that offer free or reduced fees. You need to stop playing the role of a victim.

The good news is it was just a retainer. You won't die from not having one.

[+ sync]

RSully94,

Your post states that this misfortune happened just this morning. You may still be experiencing some understandable panic. Give yourself some time to unwind, evaluate the situation, and structure a doable recovery factoring in some of the advice that has been given here by fellow posters.

[+ WilliamM]

I'm wondering how old you are?

 

RSully94's profile on this site lists his age as 21-years old.

 

The good news is it was just a retainer. You won't die from not having one.

 

I read some of the RSully's posts -- mostly questions about ecort ads and occasionally his on-and-off relationship with his boyfriend.

 

I am not going to send him any money, but do have some sympathy for his situation. I was unemployment for about eleven months in 1982-1983. The good news is that when I got a job in 1983 it was terrific opportunity and I worked there for 26 years. I do understand his frustration with the retainer (note that it may have been his own fault or the dogs'), When you have very little money, something like a ruined retainer takes on huge importance. More important, I hope he takes some of the wonderful advice offered here.

 

A small bit of advice for Mr. Sully: If you posted more in the forum (not just about hot guy you might want to hire), we would know you better. You still might not get any money, but at least you would be a more recognizized name.

 

Good luck!