Knowing an Escort's true identity -- Etiquette?

[Wiley1]

I was googling the RB images of a guy and found that he was certain person. If I seek a meeting with him, should I ask him by phone, before we meet, if he's who I found, or should I be silent about it?

[MiamiLooker]

What does your common sense tell you to do?

[AdamSmith]

Keep it to yourself if you don't want to come across as a stalker.

[Man Crush Morris]

Not say a word.

[maninsoma]

If the "certain person" is someone who's a well known porn performer or something like that, then it makes sense to confirm in advance if the guy posting the ad is the guy in the photos. It may just be someone using another person's photos. Otherwise, if the "certain person" identity is simply some man who couldn't otherwise be known to you, keep your discovery to yourself. If you end up hiring the guy more than once and, thus, develop a connection with him, then you might casually mention that you were easily able to figure out his real name based on his photos.

[curiousnomore]

I know the real name of 6 of the 8 escorts I've hired. It's a matter of trust.

[Steven_Draker]

If you find the real name of an escort by accident ... post it here and get banned. (humor)

[+ sf westcoaster]

Keep silent and proceed as if you had never come across this piece of information. Over the years I have come to know the real name and daytime occupation of a number of escorts, but this has only come about after we had been together more than once and the information was offered by the escort.

[TruHart1]

Welcome to the forum, Wiley,

 

Absolutely, if you mean you have found out the escort's real name and other personal information, as AdamSmith stated, unless you want him to see you as a stalker, it is best to keep his personal information to yourself if you meet or communicate. There is a reason escorts use their escort stage name in their ads. If they are not very adept at keeping their private info private, it is not your place as a new acquaintance or client to point out his lack of ability to keep his personal info private.

 

As curiousnomore says, some escorts are forthcoming and share their real names and some are more touchy about their privacy. Always err on the discreet side. After all, most clients (maybe you, too!) would not want their own personal information regarding their hiring habits spread around publicly. In reference to Mr. Draker's humor, any personal info posted about a specific escort is likely to get you banned here, and that's no joke!

 

TruHart1

[curiousnomore]

If you find the real name of an escort by accident ... post it here and get banned. (humor)

If you find the real name of an escort, keep it to yourself. No humor necessary. Be as discreet as you expect him to be!

[Wiley1]

Thanks for the responses. The only reason that I google the images is to make sure it's a real person and to protect myself if the person has a bad history.

 

I've googled pictures before and found that the pictures belonged to a single person. When the escort arrived, he wasn't that person. That's why I was wondering if I should ask for verification, but I see what you are saying. This guy is not a public figure. Silence is the courteous thing to do.

 

Thanks again.

[TruHart1]

Thanks for the responses. The only reason that I google the images is to make sure it's a real person and to protect myself if the person has a bad history.

 

I've googled pictures before and found that they pictures belonged to a single person. When the escort arrived, he wasn't that person. That's why I was wondering if I should ask, but I see what you are saying. Silence is the courteous thing to do.

 

Thanks again.

 

What you DO need to do is, if the escort who arrives is not the person pictured in his ad, no matter whether he is an attractive man or not, you should tell him you are sorry but he has misrepresented himself by using someone else's pictures, so you will not have need of his services. Give him cab fare and close the door. The fake picture escorts should always be discouraged from continuing that practice, IMO.

 

This is exactly why vetting escorts by reading their reviews is always the best way to decide who to hire. Checking phone numbers and pictures can also help but you really have no guarantee that the pictures you find online which match those in an escort ad are the actual escort, especially if they belong to a (semi-) famous model type. If there are no reviews of the escort, you are definitely playing Russian roulette when you hire.

 

TruHart1

[Wiley1]

What you DO need to do is, if the escort who arrives is not the person pictured in his ad, no matter whether he is an attractive man or not, you should tell him you are sorry but he has misrepresented himself by using someone else's pictures, so you will not have need of his services. Give him cab fare and close the door. The fake picture escorts should always be discouraged from continuing that practice, IMO.

 

This is exactly why vetting escorts by reading their reviews is always the best way to decide who to hire. Checking phone numbers and pictures can also help but you really have no guarantee that the pictures you find online which match those in an escort ad are the actual escort, especially if they belong to a (semi-) famous model type. If there are no reviews of the escort, you are definitely playing Russian roulette when you hire.

 

TruHart1

Thanks, Tru!

[+ dutchmuch]

What about a escort knowing a true identity of a client? Blab it around to other customers?

 

Discretion should ( this is the operative word here folks), go both ways.

[RSully94]

Don't say a word.

[whipped guy]

Mums the word. Once as I was leaving an escort's apartment a piece of mail that had been delivered to the wrong mailbox in the building and was placed between the door and the door jamb fell to the floor. I instinctively picked it up and handed it to the escort. The look of terror on the guy's face thinking that I might have seen his real name was quite palpable.

 

That says it all!

 

Incidentally, he was my first escort and coincidentally had problems with a stalker. It was a lesson well learned. That it happened early on was a good learning experience. If an escort wants you to know more about himself, he will tell you as much as he feels comfortable revealing.

[+ Gar1eth]

I know the real names of a large number of escorts because over the years I preferred overnights or weekends, and I was usually the one to make the plane reservations. I also know their birthdays. As of now I'm Facebook 'Friends' with 4 former escorts-2 were former pornstars, 2 current escorts (only one actively advertising but the other 1 is available for those who know him), and I 'follow' on FB one escort who isn't actively advertising. I have to admit that I don't usually interact with them on FB much. And when I do, I never mention things having to do with how I know them.

 

 

Oh and there is another escort whose name I know because we grew up in the same mid-sized city in Texas. We are the same age age but didn't know each other. We went to rival high schools but know people in common. I found out his name by chance when looking at the Friends' List of a mutual friend/acquaintance on FB, and I recognized him.

 

But as others have said-for the most part in your case-Wiley-the main purpose would be in verifying that the escort is who he says he is-and maybe that he isn't a criminal. You don't even need to tell him you know unless the subject comes up. But I would say if there is a question about whether the escort is the guy you've found-either ask him to send you a picture with the current date or ask if he will Skype.

 

Gman

[mmk123]

definitely keep it to yourself. You would not want the escort to blab.

 

If the pics are legit and the person you found is that escort, I would say that after the session mention to him that you were able to find this information out and that he might need to be a little more discreet or to use and entirely set of different photo's for escorting. I would not mention it to him before the session because it might make him uncomfortable (you might as well at least get a get session out of it).

[+ SundayZip]

I agree with those who posted that you should never share an escorts real name with others, but I disagree that you should not share your discovery with the escort. We know that it's common practice for guys to use an alternate name for escorting work. If they happen to use a picture on their rentboy ad that's also somewhere else on the internet with their real name, you'll find it doing a google image search as did the OP. You can assume that escort stole the picture -- Or you can tell him what you found, why you were doing an image search and ask him to confirm that the rentboy pictures are him. If the OP had shared his discovery with the escort, he might have avoided hiring someone using stolen pictures.

 

I recently hired an escort who was using an alternate name. The escort was surprised and confused that I found his real name on the internet associated with one of his rentboy picture. He had no idea that you could do an internet search using a picture. I hired him and showed him how his real name came up doing a search with a couple of his rentboy pictures. He was very thankful to learn about image searches and will now be smarter about the pictures he uses on his ad.

[curiousnomore]

I know the real name of 6 of the 8 escorts I've hired. It's a matter of trust.

The Escort shared his real name with Me. I haven't searched for it. I give him as much discretion as I expect.

[rvwnsd]

What about a escort knowing a true identity of a client? Blab it around to other customers?

 

Discretion should ( this is the operative word here folks), go both ways.

 

+2,654

 

Read this, read it again, and repeat.

[Guy Fawkes]

I agree with your humor.

 

If you find the real name of an escort by accident ... post it here and get banned. (humor)

[bobchitown]

I don't stalk but if someone is not well known I may do some googling to see if any red flags turn up. In the process of doing so I may discover his real life, usually through his professional phone used as a contact when selling some stuff on Craigslist or some such. I remember one who was offering some service like yard work. I just ignore that. I've also found links to someone as the coach of a little league team. I suggested he change that number.

 

In return, I've had cases where he responded to me from his own email (easy to do with multiple accounts on a single phone) or signed his own name.

 

I have one name for his doorman and a couple others gave me their personal contacts when they were no longer advertising.

[loverboy95]

It's not a wise idea to confront an escort about their real name unless they openly tell you. If you know their name, fine, but don't tell them that you know.

[curiousnomore]

+2,654

 

Read this, read it again, and repeat.

For me, discretion does go both ways.

I'm usually the one to throw a "trust"bone out.

 

How the guy responds tells all.