Not Allowing Clients To Book Incalls Without Deposit?

[Mocha]

I don't really come to Texas that much, I stopped coming here long time ago. But, 4th of July week made me feel like some kind of way. Alas, I'm regretting the whole decision. Seems like the state has only gotten progressively worst since I've returned. And I know it's Texas, not me...because I was just in another state nearby, and everyone did exactly what I asked them to do, with no mind-fuck games. I get here, and just all hell breaks loose.

 

Several contacts just refuse to follow directions, just a bunch of texts around the clock. Ask them to call, they don't do it. And, EVERYONE keeps asking for massage. I've had several requests for Incalls...all have flaked out. They wait til I give the address, confirm my rate, and set the time, only for them to cancel or simply not call at all. That could mess me up because I don't need a hotel to stay in, as I already have a place to stay...I just can't host clients because it's not my home. But, if I'm paying for lodging to host a client, they need to goddamn show up and quit with the monkey shit.

 

I had one "client" (could of been a 10 year old for all I know) book for 2:45. Then changed to 3:15. I told him he needs to call to confirm, but I give hotel info as requested. The very next text message, he says he got called into a meeting, but he'll be here for a couple days. Well I almost booked my Mariott hotel, and he cancels. Who does that at the last minute??

 

This has been going on all week long, and it's only TUESDAY! So now, I have to just shutdown all Incalls because people keep saying they want to come to me, but then not confirming. So I'm just wondering in a case like this, if I have to demand PayPal deposit for any Incalls, or they MUST host themselves.

[MiamiLooker]

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[Mocha]

Well I'm curious to know what that conspiracy is. Just in the last couple hours, I've had 2 more cancellations. All legitimate sounding, albeit inconsiderate...as if they used me for a little window shop, knowing they can't do the appointment. This has amounted to probably about 10 cancels/no-shows in 2 days. At this point, I'm ready to leave and go back to avoiding this cesspool of a state once and for all. I'm so glad I know someone here, or I'd of been so shitted out of luck, it wouldn't be funny.

 

Clients are becoming seemingly more and more decadent across the country. This isn't to say there isn't some fouls being put out there from escort's end (certainly not from my end, because I'm doing everything in courtesy), but from an escort perspective....there's no justification for someone to make an appointment, and then not follow through and leave me to eat the cost of Accomodating them. Where's the integrity? Some of the cities are escort war zones. Come to town, expect to get blasted by calls, and make $0 for all the pain and suffering.

 

Not to mention, back home...a first-time client who booked me 3 weeks in advance, cancelled on me, citing travel plan changes. It's times like this, I just wonder if it's all an illusion or all my fault, or if this business really is on the brink of extinction. Thanks to Craigslist, Grindr, and friends.

[jimboivyo]

it's the kind of clients you're going for, not that there aren't great fellas out there.

 

blame social sites all you want. there are still tons of well paying, nice clients out here. when the problem is always something else, perhaps it's time to point the finger back at yourself and see what you're doing wrong.

[thickornotatall]

Let us see your ad...maybe it needs to be tweaked to reach a different type of client...

[+ Funguy]

This thread is beginning to sound familiar…...

[Mocha]

it's the kind of clients you're going for, not that there aren't great fellas out there.

 

blame social sites all you want. there are still tons of well paying, nice clients out here. when the problem is always something else, perhaps it's time to point the finger back at yourself and see what you're doing wrong.

 

Unless we can physically crack open the heads of everyone who's contacted me, we can't really say why they are doing what they're doing. All I can do is protect my finances and sanity...by making sure I don't pay for hotels for people who won't show up. At this point, I've saved close to $400 by finding out their game before they had the chance to play me.

 

Of course that savings came with its own price, and not really a savings at all...

 

http://img.wonkette.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/conspiracy.jpg

 

I think you might be on to something. I found an article which might explain why I'm having these issues here:

 

http://www.thetoptens.com/most-racists-states-us/texas-459203.asp

 

Sometimes, things are what they are. Whether you do it right or wrong, some things can't be changed.

 

I hate to say it, but thank the lord this forum is anonymous.

 

I agree. I love to call things out as they are, and some people might not like it. I know you claimed Recently to have liked Houston, but the article above proves....not everyone receives the same reception, as the comment from the above article states:

 

"+9I lived in Houston for a year and yeah it was extremely disheartening and unpleasant (and I'm not talking about the hot mucky temperature there). There are a lot of white people, specifically WHITE MEN who are outright effing racist as their own sh! T."

 

And:

 

"This state is so far back in slavery, Black Women want to be white themselves and hate their own skin. They treat black men like crap, but want their dicks. <<<< THIS IS ALL FACT! It's unbelievable"

 

And

 

"+4I have lived in Michigan, New York, Florida and in Europe, as well as many years in Texas. Although the racism in Texas is generally not overt, it is widely pervasive. Many of my Hispanic friends report a subtly racist atmosphere; most African-Amercians that I have spoken with feel it is more or less just below the surface of all social interactions here. If you are not Caucasian and are not thick-skinned, Texas may not be the place for you."

[kevininsa]

This thread is beginning to sound familiar…...

 

Of course it sounds familiar. We've heard it all before. He has more problems in this career than anyone. He stopped advertising and posting under his previous name. Haven't matched him up to his previous ID yet? Maybe the ad pics will jog your memory.

http://www.men4rentnow.com/ds/index.asp?cmd=view&id=307994&Login=Jamahl_Brandon

[maninsoma]

If you're traveling and not already paying for a hotel for yourself, why not just advertise that you're only available for outcalls or, if such a facility exists in the area, to do incalls at a spa/hot tub facility or, if the client desires, a hotel room he rents? I don't see how it makes sense for a traveling escort to rent a hotel only for a prospective client who may or may not show up.

[+ Funguy]

I was trying to be gentle when I said it was familiar!

For right now, I'd just like to watch the hole being built

[rguer]

I was trying to be gentle when I said it was familiar!

For right now, I'd just like to watch the hole being built

Holes aren't built, they're dug.

[jimboivyo]

well there ya go. I guess it's a black vs white thing. silly me

[AdamSmith]

Was just rereading Martha Stewart's surprisingly good business book The Martha Rules and came across a bit of wisdom that I try to live by in running my own business, and that seems applicable to the situation described in the initial post in this thread:

 

"When faced with a business challenge, evaluate or assess the situation, gather the good things in sight, abandon the bad, clear your mind and move on. Focus on the positive. Stay in control."

[bigvalboy]

Was just rereading Martha Stewart's surprisingly good business book The Martha Rules and came across a bit of wisdom that I try to live by in running my own business, and that seems applicable to the situation described in the initial post in this thread:

 

"When faced with a business challenge, evaluate or assess the situation, gather the good things in sight, abandon the bad, clear your mind and move on. Focus on the positive. Stay in control."

 

Brilliant in its simplicity...with a nod to Martha.

[AdamSmith]

The self-help books from Tony Robbins on across the spectrum all make this point:

 

By habit, we tend to spend a majority of our mental & emotional energy focusing on what we don't want to happen.

 

Of course, whatever we think about most is what we tend to bring about. Or, at best, not much happens at all.

 

So: actively retrain to think constantly about what you do want, and what to do to achieve it.

 

This was the message of the now somewhat forgotten but insightful Wallace Wattles:

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wallace_Wattles

 

https://en.m.wikisource.org/wiki/The_Science_of_Getting_Rich/Preface

 

Also Napoleon Hill, author of another early book in this genre, Think and Grow Rich: https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/78-years-ago-journalist-studied-150000180.html

[Mocha]

Was just rereading Martha Stewart's surprisingly good business book The Martha Rules and came across a bit of wisdom that I try to live by in running my own business, and that seems applicable to the situation described in the initial post in this thread:

 

"When faced with a business challenge, evaluate or assess the situation, gather the good things in sight, abandon the bad, clear your mind and move on. Focus on the positive. Stay in control."

 

That's a good insight. Thankyou for the encouragement. I took the advice and already moved on from the situation and left the area. I remember a couple of escorts here said some wonderful things about Texas and how they never flake, which is why I did some research and came across the above. Now, saying Texas is racists was just kind of poking at the situation rather darkly, but when a whole city of folk are contacting you, and the lack of courtesy is just appalling...insinuating thoughts can infiltrate your mind.

 

Martha Stewart can give some words of wisdom, but its very frustrating to have spent 7 days between 2 Texas cities, only to do 1 massage appointment for half my rate, when I had betweem 20-30 calls/texts and emails over 7 days. I'm not embarrassed to say that, because soon as I left Texas, I was able to meet a client for my full rate the first day. From what clients have told me, one day there will be 3 escorts advertising, and then out the blue, 6 escorts (specifically, black) will appear at once. And if these guys are not genuine for whatever reason, it messes it up for the next honest escort.

[Mocha]

Of course it sounds familiar. We've heard it all before. He has more problems in this career than anyone. He stopped advertising and posting under his previous name. Haven't matched him up to his previous ID yet? Maybe the ad pics will jog your memory.

http://www.men4rentnow.com/ds/index.asp?cmd=view&id=307994&Login=Jamahl_Brandon

 

Thankyou. I'm pleased, that you're pleased, with what you see.

 

Now, as far as "problems", I don't think these issues are unique. How many ads have you come across that say, "SERIOUS REPLIES ONLY". Quite a few I'd imagine. But I understand you're in Texas and feel obligated to defend it rightfully, however my opinion is just that, and you shouldn't take it to heart or personally.

 

That said, I had SOOO much fun in San Antonio this week. I actually am glad I went because I got to see one of my regulars who invited me to key west at the end of the month with him, and got a nice haircut from a San Antone barbershop. Also enjoyed 2 pool parties with a judge (yes, a JUDGE) in the Olmos Park area and my friend who's a former client who let me just relax in his pool for 6 days. Was nice to be pampered all week!

[Mocha]

If you're traveling and not already paying for a hotel for yourself, why not just advertise that you're only available for outcalls or, if such a facility exists in the area, to do incalls at a spa/hot tub facility or, if the client desires, a hotel room he rents? I don't see how it makes sense for a traveling escort to rent a hotel only for a prospective client who may or may not show up.

 

That's an excellent Question you posed. Firstly, I've never tried the hosting in a spa thing before, I believe that's more of a San Francisco/New York thing. I'd think though, having a client meet at a bathhouse would make it less reliable.

 

Now, in the situation mentioned, yes I would be willing to get a hotel for 1 client. No, they did NOT know the logistics. I had a hotel settled on that I would check into for my Incalls...my rate would have made it profitable. In addition, kind of like the 'anchor client' idea...if I can atleast have 1 client to host for, that room may allow me to take other Incalls.

 

clients in big cities (anything bigger than Bismarck, ND) usually won't get a room for an escort who can't host. If they can't host, and I can't host...they won't meet. So the idea is, if I can get clients to book me on a certain day for Incall, it'll work out right? But no, people act like they're only available 1 day, half-ass responding to messages, flaking out, last minute notice, etc.

 

Fortunently, I didn't have to spend any money on a hotel in Texas because everyone flaked before I even had the chance to check in.

[CAROLINA ESCORT]

Just a quick thought. You seem to be getting canceled on a lot. I'd say that there's little respect involved. I can't see someone sending money to someone they don't respect or are really wanting to hire. You can ask, but I don't think it's going to work out.

[BaronArtz]

Mocha - I don't have the pleasure of knowing you, nor have I ever sent an inquiry to you. Also, I do not live in Texas. But indeed, you are getting cancelled on a lot. Instead of blaming external factors, such as the State of Texas, weather conditions or thinly-veiled racism, is there a possibility - however remote - that these cancellations stem from the way you yourself handle the 'sale'? Are you going for the 'hard' sell? Requesting that potential clients commit right then and there? If so, is it possible that many of them have buyer's remorse and cancel on you? Maybe qualifying your potential clients a bit better and being a bit subtle in the way you handle inquiries might help. I truly wish you the best of luck with that.

[coriolis888]

Mocha - I don't have the pleasure of knowing you, nor have I ever sent an inquiry to you. Also, I do not live in Texas. But indeed, you are getting cancelled on a lot. Instead of blaming external factors, such as the State of Texas, weather conditions or thinly-veiled racism, is there a possibility - however remote - that these cancellations stem from the way you yourself handle the 'sale'? Are you going for the 'hard' sell? Requesting that potential clients commit right then and there? If so, is it possible that many of them have buyer's remorse and cancel on you? Maybe qualifying your potential clients a bit better and being a bit subtle in the way you handle inquiries might help. I truly wish you the best of luck with that.

 

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[Mocha]

. But indeed, you are getting cancelled on a lot. Instead of blaming external factors, such as the State of Texas, weather conditions or thinly-veiled racism, is there a possibility - however remote - that these cancellations stem from the way you yourself handle the 'sale'? Are you going for the 'hard' sell? Requesting that potential clients commit right then and there? If so, is it possible that many of them have buyer's remorse and cancel on you? Maybe qualifying your potential clients a bit better and being a bit subtle in the way you handle inquiries might help. I truly wish you the best of luck with that.

 

It's seems hard for people to believe that 1 area can produce similar results along a grid. But unfortunently, some places produce such results. I don't know why it's so hard for people to believe. But I can't keep trying to make you all believers of something that I already know....is true.

 

As to your questions, no to all of them. Why? I'm going to explain why right now, and that's the end of this topic for me. On my tour, Before I got to Texas, I didn't have the issue. After wasting a whole week there with 1 client, I am currently in a different state and everyone has been showing up like they're supposed to, calling like they're supposed to, and paying like they're supposed to. The whole Texas thing is behind me now. But sadly my brother and 2 friends live there, and I told them I'm not coming there anymore because in months and years past, going to Texas has caused me too many financial setbacks. The good paying clients were laid off or furloughed, and it has permanently fucked up the Dallas and San Antone markets. Houston...don't even get me started. That's one of the most racists cities on the planet.

 

So, when I go someplace and every person I get is playing games, not showing up, trying to lowball me...how the hell is that my fault? No, they are the ones creating that situation. And it's pretty known that Texans just aren't very friendly people. Even the guy I stayed with for 6days, he was just like the rest of them. Stuck up, didn't want to spend too much money, and just all about keeping to himself and the neighbors on his block.

 

And then, for 4th of July dinner, my friend in San Antonio invited his neighbor over who was a fairly attractive Eastern European guy with a wife and baby...and my friend and his closed minded neighbors jokes around saying he looks like a jihad terrorist. That's so ignant. I can only imagine what people were thinking about me. You can miss me with that Texas 'ish because from day 1, there was always something I didn't care too much about it.

[jimboivyo]

I guess him taking all this time to write this is cheaper for him than real therapy

[bigvalboy]

This thread is beginning to sound familiar…...

 

+1

[+ Funguy]

Stay tuned for the next chapter...