Gay men and tattoos

[Mocha]

In the section "SCARY" ...

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Scary to know that any of these guys could have been plotting some mass murder in a place of worship in a confederate-proclaimed state.

[Mocha]

This tattoo topic, in case anyone hasn't followed, jumped off the backpage thread bandwagon. It's nice of the OP to create a new thread. However, the responses from an older, possibly more conservative audience is going to be different than if you go to a gay bar or the local gym. Most everyone is.

 

As someone with no tattoos, the thing I'm having trouble with this "new" trend, is that it "SEEMS" like guys with tattoos tend to be friends or date seriously other guys with tattoos. And that's becoming a big problem for me. Just the other day I caught someone I briefly dated, currently dating another dude with several tattoos. But, they both have tattoos so they're probably made for each other. People in the gay scene I've found, tend to openly size up a person with tattoos up against someone who doesn't. Like, "where's your tattoos?" Bitch I don't have any. STFU.

 

Beyond that it could be other things, but I definitely am beginning to believe that not having a bunch of tattoos is becoming some social buffer in my life. Not that I really plan on changing it by getting one, but just my opinion on it. At the same time, I still pull guys who have anything from 1 tattoo to "100 hours" of them. It's just when you get a bunch of tattoo guys in 1 room, I feel like I become invisible. I'm all about body, clothes and jewelry. These days, guys will get a tattoo quicker than they'll get a nice necklace or gold bracelet.

 

But most heavily tatted guys are usually too into partying or into themselves, even if they did initially show interest in me. So things don't tend to manifest itself.

[Rudynate]

This tattoo topic, in case anyone hasn't followed, jumped off the backpage thread bandwagon. It's nice of the OP to create a new thread. However, the responses from an older, possibly more conservative audience is going to be different than if you go to a gay bar or the local gym. Most everyone is.

 

As someone with no tattoos, the thing I'm having trouble with this "new" trend, is that it "SEEMS" like guys with tattoos tend to be friends or date seriously other guys with tattoos. And that's becoming a big problem for me. Just the other day I caught someone I briefly dated, currently dating another dude with several tattoos. But, they both have tattoos so they're probably made for each other. People in the gay scene I've found, tend to openly size up a person with tattoos up against someone who doesn't. Like, "where's your tattoos?" Bitch I don't have any. STFU.

 

Beyond that it could be other things, but I definitely am beginning to believe that not having a bunch of tattoos is becoming some social buffer in my life. Not that I really plan on changing it by getting one, but just my opinion on it. At the same time, I still pull guys who have anything from 1 tattoo to "100 hours" of them. It's just when you get a bunch of tattoo guys in 1 room, I feel like I become invisible. I'm all about body, clothes and jewelry. These days, guys will get a tattoo quicker than they'll get a nice necklace or gold bracelet.

 

But most heavily tatted guys are usually too into partying or into themselves, even if they did initially show interest in me. So things don't tend to manifest itself.

 

There probably are a lot of tatted-up men who are preferentially attracted to other tatted-up men. Is it really that important? Do really think it limits your dating options that much? Do you really think it's personal? Can you imagine the emotional freedom you would give yourself if you just developed a thicker skin and allowed yourself to realize that it's not personal...it's not about you?

[thickornotatall]

I often wonder how many hours it takes to sit and have full sleeves...legs...back..or any other part inked..and how much does that cost....I see lots of men/women that look as if they can't afford a meal let alone all that ink....Do they barter ...charge...skip a meal...Not really my business..just curious....

[Rudynate]

I often wonder how many hours it takes to sit and have full sleeves...legs...back..or any other part inked..and how much does that cost....I see lots of men/women that look as if they can't afford a meal let alone all that ink....Do they barter ...charge...skip a meal...Not really my business..just curious....

 

 

Big pieces are done in multiple sittings. For big work, the guy I go to schedules in three-hour blocks. How long it takes depends on the design. A half-sleeve would typically take about 10 or 12 hours.

[Mocha]

There probably are a lot of tatted-up men who are preferentially attracted to other tatted-up men. Is it really that important? Do really think it limits your dating options that much? Do you really think it's personal? Can you imagine the emotional freedom you would give yourself if you just developed a thicker skin and allowed yourself to realize that it's not personal...it's not about you?

 

I'm not seeing your defense here. Yes it's important to me, because like I said, majority of the men in the community are becoming increasingly tatted up. Atleast in the western half of the country/big cities on the east coast, it's hard to find those who aren't tatted up. But at the same time, I won't diss someone who isn't. BUT...a tatted guy might overlook someone who isn't. I just explained it in the post how and why.

 

I just stated an opinion/hypothesis based on my observations/experiences. I can't even answer the post because I don't understand where you're coming from. In one sentence you're agreeing hypothetically to what I'm saying, in the next you're saying grow a thicker skin.

 

If my experiences aren't "about me", then who else would it be about? Kabuki buzzle the clown?

[Rudynate]

I'm not seeing your defense here. Yes it's important to me, because like I said, majority of the men in the community are becoming increasingly tatted up. Atleast in the western half of the country/big cities on the east coast, it's hard to find those who aren't tatted up. But at the same time, I won't diss someone who isn't. BUT...a tatted guy might overlook someone who isn't. I just explained it in the post how and why.

 

I just stated an opinion/hypothesis based on my observations/experiences. I can't even answer the post because I don't understand where you're coming from. In one sentence you're agreeing hypothetically to what I'm saying, in the next you're saying grow a thicker skin.

 

If my experiences aren't "about me", then who else would it be about? Kabuki buzzle the clown?

 

You don't have any control over men with tattoos, or whether or not more people are getting tattoos, or whether or not tattooed men prefer to date other tattooed men, or whether or not tattooed men ignore you because you are not tattooed. The only thing you can control is you. You can get tattooed, hoping that tattooed men will start paying attention to you, or you can learn an attitude that helps you live with it. If you don't want to get tattooed, the alternatives are going around upset that more men are getting tattooed and are ignoring you because they are more interested in each other, or finding a way to relate to it that doesn't upset you. Assuming the attitude that it's not personal, that it isn't something "they" are doing to you, will make you a lot more comfortable.

[Guest ChrisW]

Art is subjective right? Not everyone will like it and thats okay. Tattoos are body art and as long as the person with the tat feels like they are better off because they have one then I see no issue with it.

 

I saw a guy at the gym a few weeks ago with an Angela Lansbury tattoo and while I wouldn't in a million years get a tat like that it probably brings a smile to his face when he thinks about it as my back piece does for me. If you don't like that a guy has body art then don't put your weiner in him. Simple enough huh?

[Rudynate]

Art is subjective right? Not everyone will like it and thats okay. Tattoos are body art and as long as the person with the tat feels like they are better off because they have one then I see no issue with it.

 

I saw a guy at the gym a few weeks ago with an Angela Lansbury tattoo and while I wouldn't in a million years get a tat like that it probably brings a smile to his face when he thinks about it as my back piece does for me. If you don't like that a guy has body art then don't put your weiner in him. Simple enough huh?

 

 

Smart men are so sexy.

[+ Gar1eth]

 

I saw a guy at the gym a few weeks ago with an Angela Lansbury tattoo and while I wouldn't in a million years get a tat like that it probably brings a smile to his face when he thinks about it as my back piece does for me.

 

 

You can get Angela Lansbury!!!! I hope it was in her Mame character. Ok, my previous objections to tattoos are now null and void. Excuse me while I look up the closest parlor in the Yellow Pages!!!

 

Gman

[+ poolboy48220]

I just watched a video with Robb Johnson, whose huge tattoo across his upper chest, stretching shoulder to shoulder, read, in cursive, "Only God, knows why". Bad punctuation is not sexy.

[Rudynate]

I just watched a video with Robb Johnson, whose huge tattoo across his upper chest, stretching shoulder to shoulder, read, in cursive, "Only God, knows why". Bad punctuation is not sexy.

 

That's why God invented proofreading.

[Steven_Draker]

I just watched a video with Robb Johnson, whose huge tattoo across his upper chest, stretching shoulder to shoulder, read, in cursive, "Only God, knows why". Bad punctuation is not sexy.

 

If you follow the reality show "Ink Master" on Spike, you'll realize that misspellings happen.

 

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[down_to_business]

If you follow the reality show "Ink Master" on Spike you'll realize that misspellings happen.

 

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http://www.doseoffunny.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/bad-tattoos-spelling-3-400x200.jpg

 

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I heard someone talking about "Heel on Wheels" on the radio the other day.

[+ poolboy48220]

and a co-worker today phoned in sick, with unnecessary detail about why, including getting a quarter-zone shot. I thought it might be Siri misunderstanding her, but I tried it and Siri got cortisone correct.

[Mocha]

You don't have any control over men with tattoos, or whether or not more people are getting tattoos, or whether or not tattooed men prefer to date other tattooed men, or whether or not tattooed men ignore you because you are not tattooed. The only thing you can control is you. You can get tattooed, hoping that tattooed men will start paying attention to you, or you can learn an attitude that helps you live with it. If you don't want to get tattooed, the alternatives are going around upset that more men are getting tattooed and are ignoring you because they are more interested in each other, or finding a way to relate to it that doesn't upset you. Assuming the attitude that it's not personal, that it isn't something "they" are doing to you, will make you a lot more comfortable.

 

Let's just be clear...tattooed men do pay attention to me. Just ask Ray Dalton, one of the most tatted up guys in the business. Not to mention the guy from last weekend, the guy before that, and the other dozen or so guys before that, including the one who had a very cool octopus tattoo covering his entire back. Matter of fact, just ask every guy I slept with because I'm starting to think every guy I've met with under 40 has had atleast a tattoo or 2 lol.

 

Maybe I'm coming off contradictory. Pardon me if I am, Again, it's not about tatted men being "bad", or doing anything "to me". It's not that I haven't been found attractive by tatted men either (all of my personal, amateur porn videos I've done, the guys were tatted. And I mean ALL of them).

 

I guess it's just kind of hard to explain, from someone who doesn't have a tattoo. I guess what it is, as it relates to this thread title, lots of gay men are now getting or having tattoos and it's become part of the culture. But it's also straight culture and tribal and worldwide culture. Without a tattoo, it's like living in Denver without a dog, NYC without Timberlands, or LA without a BMW. You feel compelled to get 1. But, I agree in how you say it, maybe the segment who is only into other tatted guys isn't anything significant enough to base a conclusion off of.