Escort didn't ask me anything...

[kaboom35]

I've been recently hiring quite a bit and this is the first time i've come across this. A recent email conversation with a VERY well reviewed escort was going quite well in scheduling a session and his personality shined through verbally in his typed words. He never asked me anything about as far as what i'm "into", or would like from the session. Usually the escort asks this is the first or second email but I guess we were just tying to nail down a date/time. So after we booked I asked him if he wanted to know anything about me...if he had any questions. He wrote back that he had no questions at this time. I then replied, "oh so you don't want to know what i'm in "into" or anything?" And then he replied "Sure, if you want"

 

Again, first time this has happened so I don't even know how to respond. I can just brush it off and just let him know what I would love from the session but is this a fail on his part not inquiring about it in the first place? He doesn't know if i like to kiss or not, if i'm top or bottom, kink or no kink. I just found it odd that he didn't seem to care or was interested.

 

thoughts ?

[Alec Andrews]

This unnamed escort could def. be me... I personally am always prepared for anything and everything... very little surprises me. So I usually don't ask. Unless someone is coming in with a specific fetish... then I will always be able to provide a good time no matter what the interests are. Most people with specific requests generally will bring them up before the session.. so if they don't... then I usually know it will be a normal fun session with nothing to worry about...

 

Communication wise... why don't you just tell the escort everything you enjoy? This way this are no surprises and if you want something he doesn't provide.. that will give him the opportunity to speak up.

[kaboom35]

This unnamed escort could def. be me... I personally am always prepared for anything and everything... very little surprises me.

 

Thanks Alec. The escort in question was NOT you but we will be meeting soon I appreciate your comments. see you soon!

[kaboom35]

I agree. I was probably just overthinking. I'll just tell him what i'm into. sorry for this pointless post. lol

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

I like "What kind of experience would you like to have?"

[kaboom35]

I like "What kind of experience would you like to have?"

 

Well I hope to make it to DC sometime so you can ask me that question.

[kaboom35]

I always ask. I'm mainly asking to see if the client is a top. One needs to be prepared for these things.

 

you will always be a top for me Killian.

[loverboy95]

During my first e-mail, I always say what I am into and anything else related. I find it best to just get it out in the open right there and then.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I have been with three escorts that have not asked any questions. The first one was new to the business and just inexperienced. However, the other two didn't ask anything other than when, where and for how long. In both cases, they had asked where I learned about them, and after stating where I saw the ad and that I had visited their websites, I believe they both knew that provided services that met my desires. Thus no questions needed.

[+ purplekow]

This unnamed escort could def. be me... I personally am always prepared for anything and everything... very little surprises me. So I usually don't ask. Unless someone is coming in with a specific fetish... then I will always be able to provide a good time no matter what the interests are. Most people with specific requests generally will bring them up before the session.. so if they don't... then I usually know it will be a normal fun session with nothing to worry about...

 

Communication wise... why don't you just tell the escort everything you enjoy? This way this are no surprises and if you want something he doesn't provide.. that will give him the opportunity to speak up.

 

Well now I have a goal, to flap the unflappable Mr. Andrews. The mind reels with possibilities.

As for the original question, he is a professional escort. He probably reads people pretty well. He knows that most visits do not vary too much from the usual unless the client makes it clear that it is going to do so. So, I do not think it is a failure on the escorts part not to ask.

I make it clear to an escort that I love to kiss and then see where things go from there. Lately things have been taking turns that are surprising to me, but apparently not to Mr. Andrews.

[thickornotatall]

as you know Kaboom 35....I always am very specific...I never want a problem.....I like to kiss..and don't want someone to turn away...or maybe I will touch the behind...gotta be proactive...upfront and remember..it's all about you!

[+ Robster]

sorry for this pointless post. lol

I don't think it was pointless at all. It's been very enlightening for me. I always assumed these things were discussed before the appointment, so the escort would be aware of what the client is looking for. But apparently, that's not always the case. When I finally take the plunge, I'll be sure to bring it up myself if need be.

 

Rob

[manTOman]

Hey kaboom,

I see you inquire about LA often so I got only one question:

 

Thanks Alec. we will be meeting soon see you soon!

 

Why, oh WHY haven't you met Alec already?!?!?!

[mike carey]

Why, oh WHY haven't you met Alec already?!?!?!

Some of us are taking our time!

[+ Keith30309]

I've been the route of "just showing up" without any advance communications and it's led to some disappointing encounters.

I can avoid escorts who's profile is very clear about some particular niche they serve I'm not into but most profiles convey an ability and willingness to meet a broad spectrum of client requests - "from mild to wild" and "anything safe and fun". Even the best, most experienced pro can't read minds and I'd much rather an escort know in advance what I am looking for and what I enjoy so there's a common sharing of expectations and we don't find ourselves staring at each other blankly when the time comes.

 

I've begun sending a brief email as follow-up to an introductory text/phone call that says I enjoy A, B and C and does the escort think we would make a good match. (For example, I enjoy kissing but some guys avoid it). If gives him an opportunity to 1) let me know if he's not into something, and, 2) be mentally prepared, without ambiguity, to segue into a comfortable, relaxed session.

 

I appreciate being asked what I like - I think it's professional and demonstrates an interest in meeting my needs and preferences.

[mike carey]

I was also concerned when this thread was first posted. I can understand that many clients would want to make sure that their escort understood what they were into. In many cases that might be essential to having a good time with them. I would want to be sure that an escort knew what I wanted.

 

That said, I'm guessing that there would be good escorts who could work out intuitively what their client wanted, or could do so as they chatted as the appointment started. I had thought, 'Alec Andrews could do this, and easily' before he came into the room and said that was how he played it. I don't claim any special insight (and I've only exchanged a couple of e-mails with him, but that is how he came across).

 

Bottom line, it's nice to be asked, but if he gets it right the fact that he may or may not have asked is not so important.

[kaboom35]

Why, oh WHY haven't you met Alec already?!?!?!

 

haha. It'll happen.

[kaboom35]

And that if the client wants something specific - i.e. to be dominated, to do it only in certain positions, etc., he assumes the client will tell him that either in advance of the session or as the session is progressing

 

This makes total sense. I'll make sure I volunteer information when needed.