Escorts: How is your "Boyfriend Experience" different from your Non-BFE?

[Amoco]

Considering your name, I would think you'd have a real pull to the academic! I apologize for intellectual using this process but I think this stuff is very potent and when it feels good, it's similar to opiates - quite literally. I had an escort tell me once that it only takes 4-5 guys "falling in love" with you to keep escorting lucrative, and that the trick was being seductive enough to keep them coming back without encouraging them to get too possessive and needy. Many of these guys are masterful seducers and have little regard for the consequences - like drug dealers. So, I don't think any of this is as simple as "we're all adults here".

 

That said, I know Brad well and think the world of him.

Edited May 20, 2015 by Amoco

[+ quoththeraven]

I'm not a scientist but isn't a core difference between men and women in general is men can have and walk away from sex much more easily than women. One key indicator is men hire escorts much more than women.

Regardless I do tend to get attached more than most guys so I just have to deal. One way is to hire different pros

 

That may in fact be a difference, but it's unclear and probably impossible to determine to what extent it's a product of social conditioning and to what extent it's inherent. Also, there's a lot of variability, and as is said in the thread about the extent to which escorts are fucked up, generalizations, while snappy sounding, can't catch life's nuances, as your second paragraph proves. The only thing we can say with certainty is that social conditioning plays a role. See research on operant conditioning, positive reinforcement, and many studies of gender stereotypes.

 

There are other reasons women are less likely to hire escorts. Sexual shame, women as a group having less in the way of financial resources with which to hire escorts, a belief that monogamy is protective of women, concern about disease and safety, and a smaller pool of escorts from which to pick, since there isn't enough demand or money being made for an escort to survive on female clients alone. Women wind up seeing bi escorts because the straight escorts have to gear their shtick to muscle worship, domination, or whatever, and may not be able to transition easily to the kind of attitude and services women are likely to want.

[Guest Starbuck]

I had an escort tell me once that it only takes 4-5 guts "falling in love" with you to keep escorting lucrative..."

 

When he said that, Amoco, was he referring specifically to overweight clients ... or was there an amusing typo (or auto-incorrection) in your post?

[marylander1940]

Everyone has their own ideas and perceptions about what a BFE is and what it involves. For many people the experiences of past relationships are what we use to define the interactions that we seek out in such an encounter.

 

How do you as a companion prepare for this type of request? Do you specifically ask? Do you instinctively know? Are they more difficult for you? More enjoyable? More taxing?

 

Clients: What defines this type of experience for you?

 

I think BFE involves kissing, cuddling, is always more romantic...

 

NBFE... is whatever you have in mind from a role scene to servicing an escort, or him servicing you etc without the typical affection you get from a bf.

[ZhenXBear]

I'm not a scientist but isn't a core difference between men and women in general is men can have and walk away from sex much more easily than women. One key indicator is men hire escorts much more than women.

Regardless I do tend to get attached more than most guys so I just have to deal. One way is to hire different pros

 

I'm not certain if this is a "man/woman" thing more so than a generational construct. I was recently reading an article about the Sexuality of today's 20-something's and Millenials, and they've found that they place a lot more emphasis on the quality of their interactions with friends, family and sexual partners than Gen-Xers or still older people. They also value happiness and happiness in career choices over financial gains as a whole.

 

With this in mind the ability to "walk away from sex" and get on with your day/week/life may very well be a social construct of time and generation. As the Generation Y'ers age may likely carry their views and values forward into the venue and influence the landscape of how this business is conducted, making that type of behavior more fringe than mainstream.

Edited May 20, 2015 by ZhenXBear

[TruHart1]

Off topic, when looking for a collective noun for a group of escorts, 'an anthology of pros' was the winning suggestion.

I love that!! So clever.

 

Rob

+1

 

I so agree, Rob! That is a wonderful play on words!!!

 

TruHart1

[TruHart1]

I'm not certain if this is a "man/woman" thing more so than a generational construct. I was recently reading an article about the Sexuality of today's 20-something's and Millenials, and they've found that they place a lot more emphasis on the quality of their interactions...etc.

 

With this in mind the ability to "walk away from sex" and get on with your day/week/life may very well be a social construct of time and generation. As the Generation Y'ers age may likely carry their views and values forward into the venue and influence the landscape of how this business is conducted, making that type of behavior more fringe than mainstream.

 

Let's face it, this entire hobby is definitely more fringe than mainstream in every way!!!

 

TruHart1

[ZhenXBear]

Let's face it, this entire hobby is definitely more fringe than mainstream in every way!!!

 

TruHart1

 

Lol, Tru. What does this mean for fringe elements within a fringe, let alone a niche within a fringe of a fringe!

[TruHart1]

Lol, Tru. What does this mean for fringe elements within a fringe, let alone a niche within a fringe of a fringe!

 

Zhen, I believe it means we can state uncategorically that we, as happy clients, have all found our own particularly rewarding niche of this fringe of a fringe within this hobby!!! I know I have!

 

TruHart1

[+ Funguy]

But going back to the original: How is the BFE different from the non-BFE?

[phraughy]

It is a fine line to walk. I had an escort I fell in love with once because the interactions seemed so genuine. He was just really good at his job. I stay grounded in reality now.

[Prettyboysyndrome]

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Everyone has their own ideas and perceptions about what a BFE is and what it involves. For many people the experiences of past relationships are what we use to define the interactions that we seek out in such an encounter.

 

How do you as a companion prepare for this type of request? Do you specifically ask? Do you instinctively know? Are they more difficult for you? More enjoyable? More taxing?

 

Clients: What defines this type of experience for you?

[jjkrkwood]

I dont think a BFE can be defined. It should be whatever the client THINKS it should be. He knows what he is looking for, and if the escort is comfortable with it, Great !

[Prettyboysyndrome]

I can hire a companion easier than bfs but i know what bfs are you cant buy one.its selling yourself short.i am sick of bfs gay marriage ruined my life im sick of being pressured.ill pay for a fulltime fuck buddy call urself a trainer .i want a fulltime but id have paper work drawn up so no common law marriage can occur .i feel bad if youve only had a paid bf.you cant hustle me im mot fuckwithable theres alot who have no clue how to cut bait.

[+ freecahill1965]

I can hire a companion easier than bfs but i know what bfs are you cant buy one.its selling yourself short.i am sick of bfs gay marriage ruined my life im sick of being pressured.ill pay for a fulltime fuck buddy call urself a trainer .i want a fulltime but id have paper work drawn up so no common law marriage can occur .i feel bad if youve only had a paid bf.you cant hustle me im mot fuckwithable theres alot who have no clue how to cut bait.

It seems like you have had some bad experiences. I hope moving forward you can use this forum to help you find good providers that will treat you with the respect you deserve.

[Kevin Slater]

Escorts: How is your "Boyfriend Experience" different from your Non-BFE?

 

Mostly just a few drunken late night texts afterwards.

 

Kevin Slater

Edited January 18, 2018 by Kevin Slater

[+ Funguy]

Based on Brad's posting early in this thread, I met him and am enthralled with him and have met him multiple times, multiple hours and never been even close to disappointed. Based on his posts, he is actually the only escort to whom I have expressed the desire for a real BFE and boy do it get it!

[Prettyboysyndrome]

It seems like you have had some bad experiences. I hope moving forward you can use this forum to help you find good providers that will treat you with the respect you deserve.

Ive had bad experiences with actual bfs no if i hire a guy dont pretend shit.i prefer a human to my hand i love my hand i dont trust my cum depositories real or paid unless i can see them on security cameras. I can pretend with the best.but when things get real and the big boat of life is sinking truth is im taking my life boat and extra one and all the life jackets i have pets nobody wants to know they are a distant 5th after two dogs and a cat and my possessaions they might get lucky and find a random headboard but while things are good i Love you baby boy .my babies are ride or die a hos a ho and that refers to trifling bitches paid through benefit of dating me or paid to "train" me .im kinda jokin but not no man will oit rank my kids and by big ass dogs and hrh hwr serene highness nadja.all my pets are russian two Caucasian ovcharkas vlad and Rasputin and nadja.found a white persian kitten on the streets of moscow when i went to pick up the boys.thats fate .not ohh whats the odds we are at the same bathhouse.no not fate

[jjkrkwood]

Is it ME, or has this thread taken on a weird vibe ?

Edited January 18, 2018 by jjkrkwood

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Ive had bad experiences with actual bfs no if i hire a guy dont pretend shit.i prefer a human to my hand i love my hand i dont trust my cum depositories real or paid unless i can see them on security cameras. I can pretend with the best.but when things get real and the big boat of life is sinking truth is im taking my life boat and extra one and all the life jackets i have pets nobody wants to know they are a distant 5th after two dogs and a cat and my possessaions they might get lucky and find a random headboard but while things are good i Love you baby boy .my babies are ride or die a hos a ho and that refers to trifling bitches paid through benefit of dating me or paid to "train" me .im kinda jokin but not no man will oit rank my kids and by big ass dogs and hrh hwr serene highness nadja.all my pets are russian two Caucasian ovcharkas vlad and Rasputin and nadja.found a white persian kitten on the streets of moscow when i went to pick up the boys.thats fate .not ohh whats the odds we are at the same bathhouse.no not fate

[+ JEC]

I’m looking for more of a slutty girlfriend than a BFE, any takers?

[+ freecahill1965]

Ive had bad experiences with actual bfs no if i hire a guy dont pretend shit.i prefer a human to my hand i love my hand i dont trust my cum depositories real or paid unless i can see them on security cameras. I can pretend with the best.but when things get real and the big boat of life is sinking truth is im taking my life boat and extra one and all the life jackets i have pets nobody wants to know they are a distant 5th after two dogs and a cat and my possessaions they might get lucky and find a random headboard but while things are good i Love you baby boy .my babies are ride or die a hos a ho and that refers to trifling bitches paid through benefit of dating me or paid to "train" me .im kinda jokin but not no man will oit rank my kids and by big ass dogs and hrh hwr serene highness nadja.all my pets are russian two Caucasian ovcharkas vlad and Rasputin and nadja.found a white persian kitten on the streets of moscow when i went to pick up the boys.thats fate .not ohh whats the odds we are at the same bathhouse.no not fate

I agree with you. Animals are more loyal to us than people. It is awesome that you have found good ones that love you and you love them. I hope that your experiences with the bfs improve. There are many thorns in life but remember there are many roses as well.

[jjkrkwood]

I agree with you. Animals are more loyal to us than people. It is awesome that you have found good ones that love you and you love them. I hope that your experiences with the bfs improve. There are many thorns in life but remember there are many roses as well.

 

@freecahill1965, i am amazed that you actually made some sense out of the post your replied you. I couldnt figure out WTF was going on there.. I just thought he was posting as the drugs kicked in ?

[jjkrkwood]

It's simple to the point : A BFE involves compassion and interest, while a non-BFE is a simple fuck and go.

 

Interest ? Well, I suppose.... I have had boyfriends that were only interested in my MONEY ! And shouldnt compassion be a normal human emotion in ANY situation ? I'm not sold here !

[+ Tarte Gogo]

@freecahill1965, i am amazed that you actually made some sense out of the post your replied you. I couldnt figure out WTF was going on there.. I just thought he was posting as the drugs kicked in ?

Maybe we are missing out, JJ, we are doing it wrong: boyfriend experiences involve Moscow street kittens!