What a difference . . .

[TruthBTold]

I have been seeing a gentlemen escort for over a year and he simply does not seem to be able to verbally express pleasure during our sessions. I can tell from the actual play that he is probably having a good time. I have mentioned that it would be great if he actually made some kind of noises that showed me that he liked what I was doing. I am not expecting whole sentences like, "Oh baby, that it is the best I've had." But even the occasional moan would really make me feel like I am pleasuring him and that is important to me. Otherwise I really like our time together. Am I just expecting too much? Maybe he feels like if he makes a noise to please me it will sound fake? Any thoughts on the matter.

[+ WmClarke]

Partner response is a big turn-on for me, so I think it reasonable to want some vocal indicators.

 

But maybe he's just a quiet lover in general.

[doitb4ugo]

You've put the ball in his court by saying what you would like in the way of responsiveness. Based on that, you have 2 choices, continue or find a gentleman who pleases you more.

[thickornotatall]

quite often action speaks louder than words......I'm not a fan of much talk during sex....and find too much from my partner to be distracting....like maybe I should stop and

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[+ poolboy48220]

I'm not very verbal. It feels staged to me. I'm big on the moaning, though.

[+ jrhoutex]

I agree partner response is a big turn-on for me too. Just understand everyone expresses themselves differently.

 

Your guy could be having the time of his life too, but if you want something different you should communicate what you want. Professionals who enjoy their work, work hard to please their client. Some guys are more intuitive to know what you like while others need some direction.

[+ purplekow]

I am usually verbal during sex but I have at times said something and suddenly my partner will stop and ask "what did you say" A mouthful of something can at times make the words less intelligible as well as less intelligent. But you want noise, you asked for noise. You should get noise.

[+ poolboy48220]

I am usually verbal during sex but I have at times said something and suddenly my partner will stop and ask "what did you say" A mouthful of something can at times make the words less intelligible as well as less intelligent. But you want noise, you asked for noise. You should get noise.

A bearish friend said he once said, while bottoming, "Fuck that fat ass". His partner stopped and said "Uh, no, don't say that".

[sincitymix]

I am usually verbal during sex but I have at times said something and suddenly my partner will stop and ask "what did you say" A mouthful of something can at times make the words less intelligible as well as less intelligent. But you want noise, you asked for noise. You should get noise.

 

I had a partner growl into my ear, "You might want to hold on tight, this is going to be a very rough and very bumpy ride."

 

Boy was he right!!

[Guest AnthonyDriller]

I tend to be vocal in my sessions no acting, However, I'm not vocal to the point of annoyance. I've had clients amazingly swallow me whole (9.5"). It's fun and I too expect to hear some response if I'm pounding your back out.

[ZhenXBear]

Completely quiet people are challenging. It makes me wonder if there's more I can do to make them happy. I do love subtle queues, facial expressions and short exclamations over porn-esque commentary, haha!

 

If I get feedback that something pleasures my partner, from a moan, intake of breath or subtle "That feels so good." I'm all about doing it again (and yet again).

[Juan Vancouver]

What needs to be asked is this: Why have you seen him for a year when he clearly isn't a good match for you?

 

You clearly need to be with a partner that lets you know you are giving him pleasure. You already expressed this to him and he is unable to fulfill that need... Why would you be going back to him? I know it drives me nuts when sex sounds like a protestant funeral. I am not much for the long drawn porn talk, but I also appreciate a moan, a groan, a yelp, even a pained scream. (Sue me)

 

Maybe it's time for you to explore other horizons?

[rvwnsd]

A friend told me that he once said to his partner "Yeah, tease that ass!" to which his partner replied "nyah, nyah, nyah, nyah, nyah, nyah."

[TruthBTold]

Juan, you are probably right (as always!). Of course, I tend to feel like a traitor. And the sex itself feels good. It is just this one thing that might make it better or easier.

[Phil_musc]

What is this gratuitous crack about a some sex being like a protestant funeral? I've been to protestant funerals where there are moans, groans, even the occasional sob, sometimes people are moved to tears by the emotion. They are not necessarily quiet events.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Partner response is a big turn-on for me, so I think it reasonable to want some vocal indicators.

 

But maybe he's just a quiet lover in general.

 

I used to never make noise during sex, and it's just one of those things that has developed as I've gotten older. Gasps, groans and moans are an incredible turn on. Like—seriously.

 

I don't like:

The Endless Questioner (which is usually the same question again and again that each time I feel required to answer because it's asked in a non-rhetorical kind of way)

Let's Repeat The Same Word Over And Over

The Guy Who Says "Manpussy, Mancunt, Boihole, Pussy-bitch" or any derivatives thereof

The Self-Deprecater

Mr. Non-Sequitur

Actor Man

 

Just give me some hot, spontaneous fuck talk and we're good to go.

[loverboy95]

When I am with someone, I totally want them to respond by making some kind of noise. Even if they later told me they enjoyed the sex, I wouldn't believe it.

[+ poolboy48220]

I don't like:

The Guy Who Says "Manpussy, Mancunt, Boihole, Pussy-bitch" or any derivatives thereof

big thumbs up to that. I was having a reasonably fun time with a guy in a bathhouse who started using those, and I had to leave.

[MiamiLooker]

While communicating (via email) recently with a Craigslist gem arranging our first meet-up, he asked “Do you like verbal or not as much? We can make it fast or slow as you like it.” It was very considerate and a bit surprising coming from a 21 year old.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

big thumbs up to that. I was having a reasonably fun time with a guy in a bathhouse who started using those, and I had to leave.

 

Right? And God help the man who boxes me in the ears in that cute, trendy way that porn stars like to do these days when they aren't spitting on each other or using the word "manpussy."

[Guest Starbuck]

I don't like ... The Guy Who Says "Manpussy" ...

 

God help the man ... using the word "Manpussy."

 

But what if he's a veterinarian?

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Do you know it took me five minutes to make the connection to what you meant?

 

"Ahhhhhhh...I see."

 

Oh Jesus, I need some coffee.

[Lookin]

Personally, when it comes to randy rhetoric, I find that less is more. I don't mind a few sweet nothings when somebody's circling the G-spot, but I sure don't want to feel like I'm getting filibustered by Ted Cruz. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

http://www.amsterdamgold.com/info/goudnieuws/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2013/09/ted-cruz.jpg

[rvwnsd]

...

I don't like:

The Endless Questioner (which is usually the same question again and again that each time I feel required to answer because it's asked in a non-rhetorical kind of way)

Let's Repeat The Same Word Over And Over

The Guy Who Says "Manpussy, Mancunt, Boihole, Pussy-bitch" or any derivatives thereof

The Self-Deprecater

Mr. Non-Sequitur

Actor Man

 

Just give me some hot, spontaneous fuck talk and we're good to go.

 

So "How do you like my manmeat up your boihole, pussy bitch" would be a non-starter?

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

It depends on whether or not Nordstrom is having a shoe sale.