Well-reviewed escort to me: "I'm not just comfortable doing that..."

[marylander1940]

Well-reviewed escort to me: I'm not just comfortable doing that (talking on the phone) I only text...

 

I don't know if this belongs to the deli or the lounge.

 

Why is so difficult to get a young folk and some who aren't that young to talk over the phone for just 2 min to see if there's chemistry?

 

c'mon guys, if I was a service provider I would ask clients to call me and talk for a few mins instead of endless texting for hours.

[BaronArtz]

Maybe he was on the toilet taking a poop, while he texted you this message?

[sincitymix]

Maybe he was on the toilet taking a poop, while he texted you this message?

I HATE HATE HATE when I'm talking to someone on the phone and I hear a heavy stream of urine followed by a flush.. or intense grunting and what sounds like a watermelon being dropped into the toilet bowl. Its like.. really? really?

[marylander1940]

I HATE HATE HATE when I'm talking to someone on the phone and I hear a heavy stream of urine followed by a flush.. or intense grunting and what sounds like a watermelon being dropped into the toilet bowl. Its like.. really? really?

 

that would be a great time to say: "may I call you back in 5 minutes".

[marylander1940]

Maybe he was on the toilet taking a poop, while he texted you this message?

 

I'll never know... he just told me he was uncomfortable talking over the phone at any time.

[AdamSmith]

Extremely bizarre.

[marylander1940]

Extremely bizarre.

 

Thanks for bringing the thread back to subject.

[+ purplekow]

Maybe he thought you sounded too something and decided he did not want to bother talking with you any further. Too bossy, Too demanding, Too Fem, Too rude. I do not know if you are any of those things, but it does not take much time to spot someone with those characteristics and a quick getaway may have seemed to him to be the best way to handle it.

[rvwnsd]

Well-reviewed escort to me: I'm not just comfortable doing that (talking on the phone) I only text...

 

I don't know if this belongs to the deli or the lounge.

 

Why is so difficult to get a young folk and some who aren't that young to talk over the phone for just 2 min to see if there's chemistry?

 

c'mon guys, if I was a service provider I would ask clients to call me and talk for a few mins instead of endless texting for hours.

 

I prefer to text, but if someone wanted to talk on the phone I would not refuse to do so. What would he have done had you met in person? Texted? I can just see him typing grunts into his iPhone and sending them to you.

[body2body]

The only time I ever hired without first speaking to the provider he had a voice that would have been appropriate for a 13 year old girl. Since then, if I can't speak with you, then I will not hire you. It is also easier to determine if someone is nuts, or high, or drunk, or has a limited command of English.

[AdamSmith]

Come to think, I've never arranged a hire other than by phone call. Speaking live lets you learn so much so easily about each other.

[+ SundayZip]

Maybe he thought you sounded too something and decided he did not want to bother talking with you any further. Too bossy, Too demanding, Too Fem, Too rude. I do not know if you are any of those things, but it does not take much time to spot someone with those characteristics and a quick getaway may have seemed to him to be the best way to handle it.

 

Maybe the well-reviewed escort is a jerk with an overblown opinion of his own importance. I'd immediately pass on any escort who would refuse a short phone conversation.

[marylander1940]

Come to think, I've never arranged a hire other than by phone call. Speaking live lets you learn so much so easily about each other.

 

Besides, just 2 mins to talk... Even Obama has enough time for a phone call.

[Rod Hagen]

I'm so behind: my number, 310-360-9890 (shameless promotion), is a LAND line and doesn't take texts, even when forwarded to my iPhone.

 

I do need to change that, but the idea of responding to rentboy.com texts saying, wassup? how hung?, ad nauseam, makes me nauseas .

[mike carey]

Rod [and others], I think the issue is matching the client's and the escort's expectations, if you want to talk or text or e-mail do so, and if the other guy doesn't want to do any of them, that's up to him. Either party can decide that's a red line and break off contact. As Alec Andrews said in another thread he doesn't like to chat on the phone to people he hasn't yet met as clients. He is entitled to do that, and if, as a client you don't like that you can move on. Remember, it is a reaction between two people, not machines. I tend to talk in sentences, not 'Sup'. And Rod, thanks for leaving your phone number, even if it is a landline!

[AresEscortNYC]

98% of the time I suggest a prospective client and I speak briefly, its a great vetting agent for me (are you unbalanced, on drugs, a time waster etc., conversely, are you sane, respectful, can we communicate) all can be deduced in a 2-3 minute call. When clients find it incredibly difficult to fit in a 2 min convo at any point during the next 24hrs that's a red flag for me.

[jimboivyo]

if you're not happy with the outcome, just keep moving on

[+ WmClarke]

I hate to talk on the phone, but will always do so if a prospective hire wants me to. When I make my initial contact, I always provide a direct email and cell phone number so the escort can choose how to continue communication. Some prefer email, some prefer text, and some prefer phone calls--and they're all good!

[ZhenXBear]

In my two experiences, I wasn't asked to call and have a conversation, but I wouldn't have a problem if I was asked to do so. Everything was handled by email or text up until the moment of meeting. Granted, I was a bit nervous but probably no more so than if I was going on an actual date. I'm conversive so I had no problems once the ice was broken.

 

I think where I feel awkward is when I read advertisements that say "prefers phone calls". I'd really rather start with an email to say hello. I smile about deciding how to start that cold call. "Hi, is this HandsomeGuy747? I'm responding to you RentBoy ad...." lol, sorry...I just can't do that

[Steven_Draker]

Personally, I prefer a short, to-the-point, phone call over an endless text banter.

 

I don't have any hard rules and I don't "have to" speak to everyone before meeting, but IF I feel that some vetting is necessary, I would ask the person to call me.

 

Finally, I wouldn't refuse when a client wants to talk over the phone. I think it's beneficial for both parties.

[Samai139]

Marylander--in your initial posting you don't mention when the escort made this comment. Was it after several e-mails, several text messages, or was it after the first contact you made? My first reaction to your question was: "This is a generational thing." Young/younger people prefer to text---avoids long perhaps awkward/tedious/ going nowhere conversations. Perhaps the word "comfortable" gives an indication that for some reason(s) he didn't want to pursue a business transaction with you. As other have said--move on and find an escort you don't have a problem communicating with by phone. An after thought: is it possible that this escort has had previous experiences over the phone where potential clients have tried to negotiate the fee or wasted a lot of his time and never hired him? Just trying to examine all possible angles...

[corndog]

Personally, I prefer to set things up via text or email. In order for a phone conversation to be beneficial, both parties need to be in a discreet, quiet, distraction-free environment and not in a rush to get somewhere, or concentrating on what they're doing. Without all these factors, a phone conversation can be brusque or difficult to understand, not necessarily reflecting either person's personality. If an escort wanted to have talk by phone, I would text them to arrange a mutually convenient time for the phone call.

 

That being said, if a client wants to talk by phone, I think an escort should accommodate that request, as long as it brief and to point, and not an attempt for phone sex. In this case, "the customer is always right," and if the escort wants the business, they need to cater to the client.

[marylander1940]

Marylander--in your initial posting you don't mention when the escort made this comment. Was it after several e-mails, several text messages, or was it after the first contact you made? My first reaction to your question was: "This is a generational thing." Young/younger people prefer to text---avoids long perhaps awkward/tedious/ going nowhere conversations. Perhaps the word "comfortable" gives an indication that for some reason(s) he didn't want to pursue a business transaction with you. As other have said--move on and find an escort you don't have a problem communicating with by phone. An after thought: is it possible that this escort has had previous experiences over the phone where potential clients have tried to negotiate the fee or wasted a lot of his time and never hired him? Just trying to examine all possible angles...

 

Thank you for asking me this and posting about this issue.

 

I'll be more specific.

 

I texted to know if he was available later that day, and he replied "yes, what do you get into? Where are you staying?", I simply called him back, he didn't answer... I texted again: "call me when you have a chance". A minute later he texted me that: "I'm just not comfortable talking on the phone, I just text".

[marylander1940]

Personally, I prefer to set things up via text or email. In order for a phone conversation to be beneficial, both parties need to be in a discreet, quiet, distraction-free environment and not in a rush to get somewhere, or concentrating on what they're doing. Without all these factors, a phone conversation can be brusque or difficult to understand, not necessarily reflecting either person's personality. If an escort wanted to have talk by phone, I would text them to arrange a mutually convenient time for the phone call.

 

That being said, if a client wants to talk by phone, I think an escort should accommodate that request, as long as it brief and to point, and not an attempt for phone sex. In this case, "the customer is always right," and if the escort wants the business, they need to cater to the client.

 

I get your point, we need privacy, but people have been talking over the phone for almost a century, and now with cellphones you can just walk outside or go anywhere and call a person without having to be seated next to the phone or even holding it in your hand while walking.

 

I just prefer to talk for 2 minutes when they ask me: "What do you get into?", I love to text hotel's address, room number, "I just parked", etc... I was just asking for a 2 mins conversation to see if there's chemistry.

[AdamSmith]

Consider that you may have narrowly dodged an evening with the Dowager Countess!