A Client with a Feet Fetish

[samandtham]

Just curious as to how you would go about a client who tells you that he has a fetish for feet (I do.)

 

The reason I asked is because the times I've hired, I always tell the guy beforehand of this, and if they can indulge it, I would be grateful.

 

During the session, usually at the beginning, I engage in a little worshipping of the escort's toes. I position mine (really well-kept, mind you) close to the guy's. I half-hope he'd reciprocate, but he doesn't—not even a massage.

 

I know feet isn't everyone's thing; I was wondering if I should have been more upfront in that I like to give and receive during the initial conversation. (Outside of this fetish, I am pretty vanilla.) Or should I go ahead and just seek out escorts who are into this type of fetish?

 

Cheers, S.

[Bryanforservice]

Hi Sam:

 

My advice is that you should always clearly articulate what it is you are hoping for in an appointment ahead of time. If that involves giving and receiving attention to feet, then you should say so. We aren't mind readers! But most of us are happy to oblige and indulge *your* fantasy. I often ask: "what would make a perfect appointment". Sometimes clients are shy to articulate what they really want, but with some gentle, non judgemental encouragement they begin to understand that sharing what makes them tick will make for a better session for all of us.

 

Hope that helps,

[samandtham]

Thanks, Bryan! I suppose the reason I don't actually say it that specifically is because I do know that for some escorts, the idea of sucking on someone's toes is gross.

[+ purplekow]

Hi Sam:

 

I often ask: "what would make a perfect appointment".

Hope that helps,

I hope you ask that before the appointment starts, cause what if you get the response: How about a whole lot more time for whole lot less money.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hi Sam,

 

When a client tells me he has a foot fetish what I immediately assume is that he wants to play with my feet. I love this and find it very enjoyable but in no way this includes playing with someone else's feet. I don't have a foot fetish and playing with feet just doesn't do it for me.

 

What I think you should say in your communication is that you have a foot fetish and are looking for an escort with a foot fetish for reciprocal play. It will save you much time and heart break.

[+ Socalguy]

Hi Juan,

I love reading your posts and respect you immensely so I hope my question doesn't come out wrong. I found it surprising that you said foot play didn't do it for you so you don't reciprocate. I guess my assumption has always been (and I mean no disrespect) that escorting is a service industry and that the majority of an escort's clients didn't 'do it' for them anyway but that they were game for anything that didn't fall out of their comfort zone. Is it more complicated than that, or does it vary depending on the escort?

[samandtham]

Thank you, Juan. I have approached it quite timidly to be honest; a more direct request might be better-received.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hi Juan,

I love reading your posts and respect you immensely so I hope my question doesn't come out wrong. I found it surprising that you said foot play didn't do it for you so you don't reciprocate. I guess my assumption has always been (and I mean no disrespect) that escorting is a service industry and that the majority of an escort's clients didn't 'do it' for them anyway but that they were game for anything that didn't fall out of their comfort zone. Is it more complicated than that, or does it vary depending on the escort?

 

Hey Wayne,

 

Thanks for your question and thank you for your kind words. =) In no way I think it is disrespectful and as a matter of fact I am glad you asked because this is one of my favourite subjects. Sorry it took me this long to respond, life has been incredibly busy and didn't have the peace of mind to come here and respond.

 

You are one hundred percent right in saying escorts are in the service industry.

 

Being in the service industry, however doesn't mean that we have to take what our customers want as something we must do. It would be ridiculous to go to a Thai restaurant and order tacos and a burger. Restauranteurs are part of the service industry but nobody would expect them to send their minions to the grocery store and force their cooks to learn to make taquitos and a burger. Why not? Because a service provider in the service industry only provides the services he offers. Nothing else. A restaurant will only serve what's in the menu, with really rare exceptions.

 

I know I don't speak for every escort. As a matter of fact I know some disagree passionately with me and take great pride in that.

 

In my personal case and in the case of many escorts, I am a service provider and the only item listed in my menu is "Expert companionship by a friendly man who has many different likes, talents, interests and abilities". My likes, talents, techniques, body parts, sex acts, you name it, are not an item in the menu. My companionship is. When I accompany you, we can together navigate whatever path we both as adults are interested in, but I am in no way obliged to do my client's bidding. At any time.

 

I have been asked to take a dump in the middle of my client's living room. I have been asked to punch my client's wife's pussy and hurt her. I have been asked to wear huge boots and stomp hard on my client's dick. I have been asked to punch my client hard in the gut for the whole hour. I have been asked to throw acid on some of my clients body parts.

 

I am a service provider and I love my work, but I have not done any of that. Not for me. Not in the menu. Exactly the same way french kissing a guy with terrible breath who "forgot" to brush his teeth is not for me. Exactly the same way than fucking a man who didn't douche and is oozing faeces is not for me.

 

I think specially in the States there is a confusion between service provider and slave. "The client is always right" belief has people demanding things that are simply outrageous and has service providers feeling inadequate for not being able to measure up.

 

I am fully aware that when some clients here read this they seethe in anger. My way is not for everyone. But if you are interested in meeting a man who is an expert in many ways of being together, who will be interested in making a connection with you, who will find pleasure in every second spent together and who will -at all times- be fully, honestly enjoying himself, then I am definitely a man for you. There is no acting, there is no pretending. If I say "Wow, that is nice!" I mean it. I know as a fact that for many clients that is a much needed breath of fresh air.

 

There are many escorts who will do anything. They will simply focus on rent money, will endure, withstand and be so fucking relieved when the session is over. There are many clients who prefer this kind of interaction, which is perfectly fine. Personally I feel that this dehumanization, depersonalization (as a client or as an escort) would possibly damage my ability to be present with another human being, to remember to read his signs, to remember to negotiate our mutual boundaries and respect them, it would hinder my ability to love myself and others.

 

I think it is possible this might not be the case for all men engaging in this kind of interaction. So I am glad there is such a wide range of escort experiences.

 

Some escorts will do anything. Some will only do that with which they are comfortable. So the lesson, time and time again, is communicate clearly, let your prospective partner (escort or not) know your desires and expectations and listen to what he has to say.

 

I wish you all intensely fulfilling interactions whatever way you prefer to have them!

[mike carey]

Well said, Juan.

[Steven_Draker]

Just curious as to how you would go about a client who tells you that he has a fetish for feet (I do.)

 

The reason I asked is because the times I've hired, I always tell the guy beforehand of this, and if they can indulge it, I would be grateful.

 

During the session, usually at the beginning, I engage in a little worshipping of the escort's toes. I position mine (really well-kept, mind you) close to the guy's. I half-hope he'd reciprocate, but he doesn't—not even a massage.

 

I know feet isn't everyone's thing; I was wondering if I should have been more upfront in that I like to give and receive during the initial conversation. (Outside of this fetish, I am pretty vanilla.) Or should I go ahead and just seek out escorts who are into this type of fetish?

 

Cheers, S.

 

Have you tried suggesting foot massage?

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Hey Wayne,

 

Thanks for your question and thank you for your kind words. =) In no way I think it is disrespectful and as a matter of fact I am glad you asked because this is one of my favourite subjects. Sorry it took me this long to respond, life has been incredibly busy and didn't have the peace of mind to come here and respond.

 

You are one hundred percent right in saying escorts are in the service industry.

 

Being in the service industry, however doesn't mean that we have to take what our customers want as something we must do. It would be ridiculous to go to a Thai restaurant and order tacos and a burger. Restauranteurs are part of the service industry but nobody would expect them to send their minions to the grocery store and force their cooks to learn to make taquitos and a burger. Why not? Because a service provider in the service industry only provides the services he offers. Nothing else. A restaurant will only serve what's in the menu, with really rare exceptions.

 

I know I don't speak for every escort. As a matter of fact I know some disagree passionately with me and take great pride in that.

 

In my personal case and in the case of many escorts, I am a service provider and the only item listed in my menu is "Expert companionship by a friendly man who has many different likes, talents, interests and abilities". My likes, talents, techniques, body parts, sex acts, you name it, are not an item in the menu. My companionship is. When I accompany you, we can together navigate whatever path we both as adults are interested in, but I am in no way obliged to do my client's bidding. At any time.

 

I have been asked to take a dump in the middle of my client's living room. I have been asked to punch my client's wife's pussy and hurt her. I have been asked to wear huge boots and stomp hard on my client's dick. I have been asked to punch my client hard in the gut for the whole hour. I have been asked to throw acid on some of my clients body parts.

 

I am a service provider and I love my work, but I have not done any of that. Not for me. Not in the menu. Exactly the same way french kissing a guy with terrible breath who "forgot" to brush his teeth is not for me. Exactly the same way than fucking a man who didn't douche and is oozing faeces is not for me.

 

I think specially in the States there is a confusion between service provider and slave. "The client is always right" belief has people demanding things that are simply outrageous and has service providers feeling inadequate for not being able to measure up.

 

I am fully aware that when some clients here read this they seethe in anger. My way is not for everyone. But if you are interested in meeting a man who is an expert in many ways of being together, who will be interested in making a connection with you, who will find pleasure in every second spent together and who will -at all times- be fully, honestly enjoying himself, then I am definitely a man for you. There is no acting, there is no pretending. If I say "Wow, that is nice!" I mean it. I know as a fact that for many clients that is a much needed breath of fresh air.

 

There are many escorts who will do anything. They will simply focus on rent money, will endure, withstand and be so fucking relieved when the session is over. There are many clients who prefer this kind of interaction, which is perfectly fine. Personally I feel that this dehumanization, depersonalization (as a client or as an escort) would possibly damage my ability to be present with another human being, to remember to read his signs, to remember to negotiate our mutual boundaries and respect them, it would hinder my ability to love myself and others.

 

I think it is possible this might not be the case for all men engaging in this kind of interaction. So I am glad there is such a wide range of escort experiences.

 

Some escorts will do anything. Some will only do that with which they are comfortable. So the lesson, time and time again, is communicate clearly, let your prospective partner (escort or not) know your desires and expectations and listen to what he has to say.

 

I wish you all intensely fulfilling interactions whatever way you prefer to have them!

 

Hey Wayne,

 

I'm like Juan—only if you substitute "role play" for "feet." I'm an incredibly tactile person and love both getting and giving, and I can appreciate the form and function of the foot—especially when it's a handsome, well-constructed one. And God knows I love shoes and boots and all that.

 

Role play? Meh. I offer up what I feel I'm good at and what excites me—and that's where the "service" of "service industry" comes into play, as it were. I look at it more as servicing my partner, and would have the exact same outlook towards someone I picked up in a bar, if they asked me to dress up and play Cops & Robbers. The last time I tried to do the role play thing, I came up with an entire scenario that the client completely destroyed within 15 seconds of starting. And the appointment never recovered.

 

Of course, once I have some experience with someone—then of course I'm happy to take encounters in a completely different and unexpected direction than what we've done before. That's where the old adage: "We'll give you what you want before you even know you wanted it" comes into play.

[wisconsinguy]

Hey Wayne,

 

I'm like Juan—only if you substitute "role play" for "feet." I'm an incredibly tactile person and love both getting and giving, and I can appreciate the form and function of the foot—especially when it's a handsome, well-constructed one. And God knows I love shoes and boots and all that.

 

Role play? Meh. I offer up what I feel I'm good at and what excites me—and that's where the "service" of "service industry" comes into play, as it were. I look at it more as servicing my partner, and would have the exact same outlook towards someone I picked up in a bar, if they asked me to dress up and play Cops & Robbers. The last time I tried to do the role play thing, I came up with an entire scenario that the client completely destroyed within 15 seconds of starting. And the appointment never recovered.

 

Of course, once I have some experience with someone—then of course I'm happy to take encounters in a completely different and unexpected direction than what we've done before. That's where the old adage: "We'll give you what you want before you even know you wanted it" comes into play.

I came into the game a little late in life. Other than pooping and peeing on each other, in degrees, I have a fetish for everything! Those little pinkies, ears, rimming. They are all the best! Falling to sleep in each others arms...WOW!

 

Chris, hope you r doing well? Rand

[+ Socalguy]

Wow, thanks a lot guys. I'm now thinking I've always oversimplified it. Juan, your restaurant analogy makes a lot of sense. I think we've become so Walmart minded where you can get absolutely anything you want that we forget about specialty shops where the selection is more limited but the quality is fantastic. I really appreciate the thoughtful reply. And Chris, PLEASE let me know if you ever need a foot rub/tongue bath WOOF!!

[mike carey]

That's where the old adage: "We'll give you what you want before you even know you wanted it" comes into play.

 

That puts it beautifully, Chris.