I could use some help/advice/questions answered + the 411

[Bart]

Hello Zhen guy welcome to hiring gentlemen. You have received a lot of good advice. #1 respect yourself and the person whom you chose to be with. #2 don't over do the initial contact stick to facts as best as possible, age weight height and your interests. An opening apt of 2 hours is a good starter. I would avoid asking a lot of personal information about the gentleman that is not relevant to meeting him. #3 avoid the party people such as anyone with Party boi in the title or socially drugs, the result can be rather mixed.

 

As to recommendations to hire, http://www.rentboy.com/Listing.aspx?lid=376801&iid=446625&scid=147898998&sp=1&pos=6&locid=1400&type=escort Andrew Maroc would be a great first time hire. Really a super nice guy, very intelligent, great personality and sexually exciting but knows how to pace it. I do get the appeal of hiring a nice 20 something guy with a fresh look but first time out you do want experience. Don't be surprised if you find your fantasy encounter does not match reality and not in a negative way. We all have expectations but this is a time for exploration you would be surprised by what you may like and your body and mind may not be on the same frequency so be open to trying new things if they might fit you the opportunity in front of you.

 

Good luck and let us know how it turns out.

[+ sf westcoaster]

You can not go wrong with Andrew Maroc. I give the escort information about me - age, weight, etc and then give them a fairly detailed description of what I enjoy. Also I always ask them t0 confirm the fee. I have found that upfront communication pays off .

[Amoco]

Do yourself a favor and fly Chris Eisenhower in for your first session. His rates are reasonable and nobody, NOBODY, will do it better. The small amount of extra money for his plane fare will seem irrelevant afterwards...and it will be an all-star experience that will set the bar for the future...

[Felix]

Be careful not to fall in love. Remember, you're only renting

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Do yourself a favor and fly Chris Eisenhower in for your first session. His rates are reasonable and nobody, NOBODY, will do it better. The small amount of extra money for his plane fare will seem irrelevant afterwards...and it will be an all-star experience that will set the bar for the future...

 

Well he should go with who/what he wants and if I fit that, great. Zhen, I'm happy to give some honest advice if you want to contact me with your questions.

[namchebaz]

Hey Zhen,

One other benefit of hiring...it's a great confidence builder and you'll likely soon find yourself meeting more men on scruff (or at the grocery store or at church or...wherever you decide to meet other guys), and getting together for fun. And you'll definitely have some new tricks learned from your hiring experiences that will make your buddy ask "where did you learn to do that???". You just gotta jump in!

[+ dutchmuch]

Be careful not to fall in love. Remember, you're only renting

 

+1 Felix the Cat. And, the escort will not be a friend. You are only renting.

 

http://ts1.mm.bing.net/th?&id=HN.608051980994807468&w=300&h=300&c=0&pid=1.9&rs=0&p=0

[+ Funguy]

+1 Felix the Cat. And, the escort will not be a friend. You are only renting.

 

http://ts1.mm.bing.net/th?&id=HN.608051980994807468&w=300&h=300&c=0&pid=1.9&rs=0&p=0

 

I may only be renting (and i am very clear on that) but I have a great time with my guys and share a meal and talk and laugh and have fun out of the bedroom. No, I'm not in love with any of them but I do think of them as friends. They are human beings as well, not just mechanically going thru the motions, and human beings thrive on friendship. Were they not escorts and i met them somewhere, yes I would still be their friend.

Do they think of me as a cash machine or a friend? It's probably both - I'm not totally deluded.

[+ Gar1eth]

Hey Zhen,

One other benefit of hiring...it's a great confidence builder and you'll likely soon find yourself meeting more men on scruff (or at the grocery store or at church or...wherever you decide to meet other guys), and getting together for fun. And you'll definitely have some new tricks learned from your hiring experiences that will make your buddy ask "where did you learn to do that???". You just gotta jump in!

 

I haven't found this to be the case. However if it's a universal experience for most other people, I'm glad.

 

Gman

[Felix]

I may only be renting (and i am very clear on that) but I have a great time with my guys and share a meal and talk and laugh and have fun out of the bedroom. No, I'm not in love with any of them but I do think of them as friends. They are human beings as well, not just mechanically going thru the motions, and human beings thrive on friendship. Were they not escorts and i met them somewhere, yes I would still be their friend.

Do they think of me as a cash machine or a friend? It's probably both - I'm not totally deluded.

 

I agree. Good escorts are gifted, not just physically. Falling in like is great

[Decatur Guy]

Welcome aboard.

 

My only piece of advice to add the fine chorus: Don't mentally put too much at stake on this one encounter. You'll eventually need to hire several times to get the rhythm of things. It takes a few encounters to hone your own instincts. You can't judge too much -- good or bad -- from one encounter.

 

Out of your list, I'd go for Andrew Moroc.

 

Here's a guy I've never hired, but I think would be excellent for newcomers or vets:

 

http://www.rentboy.com/Listing.aspx?lid=36093&scid=148187864&sp=1&pos=17&locid=1400&iid=14525&type=escort

[namchebaz]

Out of your list, I'd go for Andrew Moroc.

 

Here's a guy I've never hired, but I think would be excellent for newcomers or vets:

 

http://www.rentboy.com/Listing.aspx?lid=36093&scid=148187864&sp=1&pos=17&locid=1400&iid=14525&type=escort

 

In addition to seeing Andrew Maroc, I've also spent the nite with Steve Stacks (the link to above) and I agree -- he'd be good for anybody regardless of experience level. He's pretty amazing.

[+ Funguy]

Zhen - if I were going back a while to my first hiring experience and having a bit of knowledge now that I didn't have then, and despite your seeming penchant for the younger guys, without hesitation i would contact Allen Silver. Though he is a DILF, he can take you through the ropes beginning to end for you to enjoy the complete experience. You are going to learn a few things too. Then when you go back out to the big bad world you will be more than prepared. I've reached a point that maturity and experience trumps youth every time!

Check out his website: allensilver.com

[Peaker]

Benefit of reviews

 

In regards to your concern about weight and age: I believe this is one important advantage of good reviews (including most of the reviews on this site). I always look at the characteristics of the reviewer. If the reviewer has characteristics (such as "older" or "extra pounds") AND has had a good experience with the escort, I assume that I will too. In addition, if the reviewer and escort had an did things similar to what I'm looking for, this, too, assures me that this is likely an escort for me. Finally, in my initial interaction with escorts I try to focus on what I'm looking for, my characteristics, and when I'd like to get together in a fairly business like fashion. I think this provides reassurance to the escort that I'm not trying to waste his time and "get off" on the initial interactive process with no intention of hiring. I've hired many escorts over the years, and when I look back I'm amazed at how many wonderful experiences I've had - especially with escorts that have received a good review on this site.

 

Of your prospective candidates, I've seen with Andrew Maroc a number of times. I've reviewed him. I can assure you he's one of the finest escorts I've ever met. He doesn't seem to have problems with age and weight. He has a great body, a wonderful personality, is very intelligent, and aims to please!

[tcruiser7]

He's real, and the real deal....

 

Really bigvalboy ? Do tell. I'll be in SF this weekend and I'm looking. He's on my current list. Pm me if you can thanks.

[ZhenXBear]

Guys, sorry I've been remiss in posting a response to all of this very helpful information. Thank you so much for taking the time to offer up your experiences and to get me ready for this. I'm happy to report that I did indeed finally get off the bench and into the game. I found a very nice guy on one of the sites, who oddly enough, wasn't one of the choices that I listed above. I messaged him and after several conversations via email back and forth, and texting we finally set up a date.

 

All, I can say is that it was a great experience. I was surprised to learn that Escorts receive a lot of calls/requests from people who are a bit on the strange side. He laughed at one point and said it was really refreshing to have a client that was actually interested in talking to him and learning something about him that didn't occur behind closed doors. He hasn't been doing this long but I was kind of surprised to learn that I was the first guy he's seen who took him out to dinner, but hey, that's just how I am.

 

I must say that after so long, it was amazing to have someone hug me and even more so to kiss me. For the first time, in ..well, a long time, I felt charged with an energy that I had nearly forgotten existed within myself.

[ZhenXBear]

He's real, and the real deal....

 

I did email him, as he was my first choice, but unfortunately didn't get a response. Perhaps he was busy and my message just fell through the cracks.

[m4hotness]

Zenxbear! Welcome to the forum! I'm so happy for you that you had such a great experience! I'm thinking that we would all like to know whom it was. If you rather, please pm me.

[american executive]

Hi ZhenX

 

Years ago, I too worried that I wasn't attractive enough for a hot-looking escort. But your "swag" and true attractiveness will come out through your personality. I send a photo once I book an appointment. It works for me. I believe that I get that "first impression worry" over with. I am not heavy or unattractive but still have doubts. Remember, you are the client. If you are confident, upbeat and have a great attitude you will be a great client.

 

Best wishes and have fun!