Coming to the DC Lunch? Clients please read

[+ purplekow]

Dave has asked me to help out a bit. IF you are a client coming to the luncheon, it is traditional that the clients pick up the luncheon check. So unless a benefactor comes forward to pay the whole thing, it will make the whole process of getting the bill paid a lot easier if the clients would bring cash. It is not necessary to show the cash first nor is it necessary to place the cash in an envelop on the bureau in plain sight.

 

I have told Dave that i would be willing to collect the money for the tab. Why I told him that, I am not quite sure. So if anyone else would like to undertake that task, feel free.

 

I do not have the means of accepting electronic payments so if there is anyone who does and who would take the task, please post and let the other attendees know that option to be available.

 

If all else fails, credit cards will be accepted by the restaurant, but I am sure they would appreciate keeping the number of cards to a minimum.

 

Thanks.

[Phil_musc]

Aww that's sweet, PK! Extra work for you though. Might I play Devil's Advocate for a moment, however. Might not the escorts pick up the tab instead - for them it's a business expense and could be written off at tax-time. Just thinking' here. . .

[Amoco]

Yes, Purple...which is the event where the independent contractors take their clients out for a drink?

[Guest Starbuck]

... Might not the escorts pick up the tab instead - for them it's a business expense and could be written off at tax-time. Just thinking' here. . .

 

A radical thought, philmusc! However did you think of it? Could it be that you've spent some time wooing, wining and dining clients ... or, conversely, as a client who has been wooed, wined and dined?

[Guest countryboywny]

Yes, Purple...which is the event where the independent contractors take their clients out for a drink?

 

Aww that's sweet, PK! Extra work for you though. Might I play Devil's Advocate for a moment, however. Might not the escorts pick up the tab instead - for them it's a business expense and could be written off at tax-time. Just thinking' here. . .

 

Since it's inception, it has been traditional that the clients pay for lunch at this event. I think it's an excellent good will gesture and a show of respect. IMHO, of course.

[+ purplekow]

This is my first such social event. i have received a few PM about this so I will share my opinion.

The tradition has been that the clients pay for the luncheon. The ratio of escorts to clients is about 1 to 1. I am sure all of the attendees can afford to buy their own lunch. And equally sure that all of the attendees can afford to buy lunch for themselves and a guest. So i cant imagine that this is a money issue.

 

So to the clients who wrote to me and to the rest I say, like most traditions, the origin of this one is not clear. CLient's treat has been the tradition. It is not a big deal either way. If next year, the group feels that in the spirit of collegiality, that turnabout is fair play, then fine. I would opt to keep the waters of this year's event free of eddies of discontent. Since this is a social gathering, let us keep it social and civil and keep an eye on the goal, which is to have a nice afternoon with a diverse group of interesting men.

[Bart]

PK I seem to recall that the method of collecting the money was different last year. I think the buns, I mean funds collector wore a thong and the clients handed the money to the escort and he deposit the money somewhere in the thong and gave the collector and nipple twist and kiss. So I hope you have a nice collection of thongs to choose from with a large pouch. Or we could take volunteers or new methods of walking around and getting the money.

[Guest countryboywny]

I'll volunteer to walk around in a thong and collect the money if I HAVE to. But, "ain't nobody that wants to see THAT!"

[+ Funguy]

PK I seem to recall that the method of collecting the money was different last year. I think the buns, I mean funds collector wore a thong and the clients handed the money to the escort and he deposit the money somewhere in the thong and gave the collector and nipple twist and kiss. So I hope you have a nice collection of thongs to choose from with a large pouch. Or we could take volunteers or new methods of walking around and getting the money.

 

I'd rather that the Client got the nipple twist and a kiss!

Wheeeeeeeee!

[RadioRob]

I have no problem chipping in for lunch. In fact, I had planned already on buying for a couple of guys already not knowing it was already being done for the group.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'll volunteer to walk around in a thong and collect the money if I HAVE to. But, "ain't nobody that wants to see THAT!"

 

I'd do the same, but that would definitely be more the stick than the carrot. No euphemism intended.

[buckguy]

I've been to previous installments and From the beginning I assumed that the clients paid. I think Leigh picked up most or all the tab the first year, which was a small group, but the dynamic has always been the same. I would guess that other meet ups work this way as well.

[BaronArtz]

Traditions are meant to be broken. The escorts make enough money as it is. At the very least, they can pay for their own lunch.

[Lookin]

What is this? National Pinchpenny Week? http://www.animateit.net/data/media/smiley712/smiley-sad027.gif

 

 

Don't get me wrong. I've taken business clients to lunch plenty of times and dipped into my own pocket once or twice when my expense account didn't cover it. I even laughed at their jokes till the check came. But I was trawling for a million dollar contract too, not a shot at a fifty-dollar reach around. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

 

Of course, I haven't been to one of these DC Lunches myself and it may well be where the big spenders congregate and where Easy Street is just off Avenue K. For myself though, I'd worry that if an escort got a load of my hiring budget before he bought me lunch, I'd be lucky to get an à la carte off the Kiddie's Menu.

 

 

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[+ purplekow]

Baron are you planning on attending? If so, if I do indeed collect the funds i will note you as a conscientious objector and calcuate the cost appropriately. Thanks for offering an opinion. Please do bring cash for your meal though. Thanks.

[Guest countryboywny]

I'm thinking the bottom line here is:

Since there is about a 50/50 ratio of clients and escorts, and if you hire escorts, are interested in meeting some of the guys on the list, then why would you be worried about dropping probably $50 for lunch?

 

I don't know the prices of the intended restaurant, but I'm pretty sure you can buy a nice lunch for yourself, chip in for an escorts lunch, and include a tip for fifty bucks.

[MiamiLooker]

This thread gives a clearer picture of how posters really view the escort/client relationship than a lot of the rhetoric that gets posted in other threads. The boss usually pays for business meals.

[paulsf]

Some of you assume everybody is a doctor or lawyer and has a big paycheck. Well lots of us are retired and live on social security and do a lot of saving up to use an escort or attend an event. Just saying everybody has different financial situations.

[buckguy]

I've been looking at retirement planning lately and social security alone would require a lot of saving for someone to hire, esp. Given other expenses. I suspect that people here generally make enough that they can pay for an extra lunch, esp. If they can afford to travel to DC. And FWIW I'm not one of the trust fund babies (I've met a few via the Message board)--far from it.

[BaronArtz]

If I personally invite an escort that I am interested in for lunch, of course I pay for the lunch. And at a nice restaurant too. And then some

 

This lunch format is different though, it's a group thing. I may not even be interested in hiring any of the attending escorts. I know there are 'traditions', and that's fine. I am sort of reluctant to pay a lunch for somebody I may not be interested in. That's my take on it, but I can see the other view as well.

[buckguy]

If I personally invite an escort that I am interested in for lunch, of course I pay for the lunch. And at a nice restaurant too. And then some

 

This lunch format is different though, it's a group thing. I may not even be interested in hiring any of the attending escorts. I know there are 'traditions', and that's fine. I am sort of reluctant to pay a lunch for somebody I am not interested in. That's my take on it, but I can see the other view as well.

 

This is really a bunch of straw man arguments. A great many of the escorts have been named and we probably could persuade Dave to provide an updated list. One of the many complaints is that one has rather little information before hiring and this rectifies that with a fairly nominal investment. I've met guys at previous lunches who hadn't really gotten on my radar screen and I have hired guys I've met.

[BaronArtz]

This is really a bunch of straw man arguments. A great many of the escorts have been named and we probably could persuade Dave to provide an updated list. One of the many complaints is that one has rather little information before hiring and this rectifies that with a fairly nominal investment. I've met guys at previous lunches who hadn't really gotten on my radar screen and I have hired guys I've met.

 

That's fine. I viewed it more as a purely social event and in fact I am more interested in meeting/comparing notes with the other clients rather than with the escorts. I am more curious seeing what the Ole Geezers look like

 

I live in NY, and I am very happy with the escort(s) that I am currently seeing. Most of the escorts attending the lunch, as I understand it, do not live in NY. I'd be glad to meet the escorts socially but that's it. For me, this lunch would not be not a screen for future potential hires. If a hire happens as a result of this lunch, great, but it is not at all my expectation.

 

For the escorts, on the other hand, this is a unique opportunity to present themselves to a potentially new client base (not to me, but to most of the other client attendees apparently). Paying for their own lunch is a low cost investment for them.

[+ SundayZip]

I was one of the guys who originally questioned the tradition of having clients pick up the tab for escorts but I'm now on board with the tradition. I had to remind myself that Dave really stepped up to the plate to make this luncheon happen. It is no doubt a lot of work and he's doing a great job! Also a big thanks to PK for helping out. If I was in Dave's shoes (my guess is that they're a lot bigger than mine), I too would bring forward the traditions from past, successful luncheons. At some point in the future when I'm doing the work, or at least after I've attended a luncheon or two (this will be my first), I'll be in a better position to second guess things. Meanwhile, a big thank-you to Dave and PK. I'll be there eager to meet everyone and very happy to contribute what I can.

[BaronArtz]

But of course! Nothing but sincere thanks and appreciation to PK and to Dave who put in the hard work organizing this lunch. It's a wonderful initiative and I'm sure, it will be a fun and memorable event with its very own traditions. I very much look forward to your comments and reviews.

[Guest countryboywny]

Please understand that I meant no disrespect or a judgement of any kind to anyone for whom this luncheon presents a financial hardship. My intention was to put a realistic price tag on what one could expect to spend at the luncheon.

 

When LBT was planning the very first DC event, his intention was two-fold. First and foremost, it was a way to say "Thank You" to the escorts for the wonderful, and sometimes needed services that they provide. At the time he was a closeted, married man, as I am today. He and I kind of got our feet wet in the escort world together and we were both very grateful for the guys we hired. This is how the tradition of paying for the escorts lunch began. At the end of the luncheon he "passed the hat". The first couple of years the contributions did not cover the tab and LBT alone at first, and he and I later covered the difference. The short fall in cash became less and less of a problem, right up to last year when we gave money back to people because we collected $1500 for a $900 tab!

 

Secondly, he thought that bringing clients and escorts together in a more social setting would be good for everyone involved. Clients could meet escorts, and escorts could meet potential clients. Although discretion always ruled the day, bringing like-minded people together made, and continues to make a very enjoyable event.

I would like LBT's tradition continued, and will make this offer: If you would like to come to the event, you only need to pay for your own lunch. To any escort attending who is not with a client, I will cover your lunch. I have too much respect for my dear friend LBT and the escort's attending on their own time to let it go any other way.

 

While LBT will not be present (he will be in town), he has contributed funds to thank everyone for all they've done for him.. y'all know who you are.