Safety when an escort visits

[Tonyko]

When reading the recent review on Friday - Matt Steele - New York City - I cringed because I have been in that exact situation, the reviewer was fortunate that things in his apt were all that got broken. Once it had happened to me (also in a NYC apt, thou a different escort, the demand for their "donation" before they agree to turn around and leave seems to be a common thread since the same words were used) I decided that it would never happen to me again. So here is my advice and here is what I do; and I have had to do this at least two more times btw, I was one of MANY who posted a review a while back about one of these notorious bait and switch scorts, prob is they change photos and names and use a diff pre-paid cell with every new ad.

When and escort shows up who is clearly NOT the individual pictured in his ad, (and it's never for the better) and if he is already IN your apartment, NEVER confront him on the spot. Most of the ones who do this never even PLAN on staying, they're banking on you not wanting them and their goal is to intimidate or frighten or threaten you with a loud scene to get you to hand over the cash they know you have prepared just to get them to turn around and leave.

So now I keep a set of old keys right beside the door that I can grab. (btw it's hard to tell thru a peephole exactly what they look like and they tend to enter quickly walking right past you so they're in before you know it) The second it's obvious this is NOT the person I thought I was hiring, NOR is it someone I want to be with and certainly not PAY for, I play it nice and sweet and stop them from getting any further in saying I'm the building's realtor and this is just a furnished studio where I'm more comfortable meeting them to make sure they're not a whacko or bringing a buddy to rob me ha ha and now that I see that they're okay (I compliment them :-) I grab the keys and open the door and say we're going up to "my" penthouse. These guys are rarely the brightest bulbs in the box, and if you're sweet and cool they fall for it. And the minute they pass back out thru the door I SLAM AND LOCK IT BEHIND THEM. (In an LA apt I said I had keys to a buds on another floor with a jacuzzi. In an LA home I said the driveway was a share and they had to go out and move their car)

In one case he may have sensed something because he asked for his donation right away anyway, and I patted my pocket and said NP it's right here as "we" walked out. (that one stayed in the hall talking to me thru the door calling me names untill I threatened to call the cops. The one I locked out of the house DID have a buddy with him who showed up along side him once he realized he wasn't getting back into my house)

The bottom line is never confront them once they're IN your home and never let on that you're pissed that they're not the photo in the ad, be cool amd nice and do ANYTHING you can to get them ON THE OTHER SIDE OF YOUR DOOR. "My room mate's still here he's supposed to be gone, PLS wait by the elevators as soon as you see him leave you can come back" "I have to walk my neighbors's dog or he'll start barking non stop come with me it'll take 10 minutes" "I'm starving do you mind if we go get something I'll buy you din and pay for an xtra hour " "you can't park there you need a neighborhood permit " say ANYTHING to get them on the other side of the door.

MOST of us are kind souls with a tendency to feel uncomfortable, even when we're being conned, saying what boils down to YOU are an UNATTRACTIVE NON-HOT person lol. But remember these are CON'S who prey on us. It's okay to hurt their feeliongs. (on the other side of the door :-)

[+ purplekow]

I usually carry a phone to the door and hold a conversation while I answer it. I signal that I am on the phone and then to wait. I do this for escorts and for any unexpected knock on my door. I speak for a bit and then either close the door or let them in. If I close the door, I usually say, Excuse me i'll be just a minute and close the door. Lock it and ask that they leave.

[+ FreshFluff]

So now I keep a set of old keys right beside the door that I can grab. (btw it's hard to tell thru a peephole exactly what they look like and they tend to enter quickly walking right past you so they're in before you know it) The second it's obvious this is NOT the person I thought I was hiring, NOR is it someone I want to be with and certainly not PAY for, I play it nice and sweet and stop them from getting any further in saying I'm the building's realtor and this is just a furnished studio where I'm more comfortable meeting them to make sure they're not a whacko or bringing a buddy to rob me ha ha and now that I see that they're okay (I compliment them :-) I grab the keys and open the door and say we're going up to "my" penthouse. These guys are rarely the brightest bulbs in the box, and if you're sweet and cool they fall for it. And the minute they pass back out thru the door I SLAM AND LOCK IT BEHIND THEM. (In an LA apt I said I had keys to a buds on another floor with a jacuzzi. In an LA home I said the driveway was a share and they had to go out and move their car)

 

How do they usually respond when they realize they're locked out?

[maninsoma]

When I've invited guys over to my place whom I've not previously met, I've always been waiting for them outside when they arrive. Yes, that's an inconvenience for me since some guys aren't prompt. I'm always waiting outside for a bit because I go down early so I am already outside when the prompt ones arrive. And I tell guys to call me from a block or two away (if they're early) so I can be downstairs waiting for them. I would never want to be in a position where someone is ringing my doorbell and I invite him inside immediately. At least if I meet him outside my building, I can not only detect fraud (different guy, way too old of photos) before inviting someone in but I can also get a sense of the guy as we walk to my unit.

[armadillo]

I always meet an unknown in a coffee shop below my condo. I explain there is security at the reception,a nd that I have to vouch for them and get them through the gate. Also, your meeting is recorded on the coffee shop video system should something go wrong later.

[Tonyko]

Re how do they respond, some get beligerant like the one who stayed in the hall yelling thru the door and wouldn't leave (remember, their goal is to get money and leave and they don't like it when they're snagged) and some accept it and leave quietly - usually the ones who genuinely are there to work but use such an old photo and knock so much off their age they look nothing like that anymore. (there's one blonde guy - ny nj area used to use the name surfer boy or something like that, his ad said 25 and his face pix were (we now know) airbrushed to the max, so the person who shows up is easily in his 40's. (still very hot, and many like myself went ahead with it, but for many it was dissappointly jarring when they were expecting a college boi) *he has since, after many reviews complaining about this while still remaining complimentary about his body and looks, removed the age from his r.b. Ads. But the photoshop covering up of his true age remains.

[+ ArVaGuy]

I've had a couple of very scary hires, one resulted an a physical assault. Rather than relate that incident again, here's an incident that happen more than ten years ago.

 

I hired a very popular DC area escort who was well reviewed on this site. He had a stellar reputation for delivering an incredible experience. I hired him and he came over to my place. I have to say he more than lived up to the advance billing. One of the best hires ever. Could not have asked for better in my wildest dreams.

 

At at the end we settled the payment exchange and he was packing up and getting dressed. As he picked up his backpack a set of brass knuckles fell on to the hardwood floor with a loud ping. Dead awkward silence ensued for a few seconds. I was taken aback and the escort was momentarily figity. He then said he needed the brass knuckles for his protection. I sheepishly agreed but was slightly unnerved. He was a well built and muscular guy. I'm sure he could defend himself well as MMA was one of his favorite sports. He could have taken me I'm sure.

 

After he left I nearly flipped out. This was only a few years after I'd been assaulted by an escort in Atlanta. I never hired the guy again. I'm not criticizing him, or any escort, for needing to protect themselves. But carrying such items is not good. Consequently I do not have guys over to my place since that experience.

 

BTW, the escort retired a couple of years after the incident.

[armadillo]

It has happened to me that they did show up looking like their pics /stats, but cigarette hanging out of mouth / unshaven / showered / drug addled.

Again, first time meet in a public spot!

[Tonyko]

When it comes to escorts it's always going to be "caveat emptor" for us. But I got even with one who scammed me not once but TWICE in LA, fake photos of hot young guys diff names diff cell numbers. The first time he asked for his "donation" up front which should have been the give away but I was more trusting back then. That time he went out to his car to get his phone and duh never returned. The second time months later I went to HIS filthy apt in The Valley, and was shocked when I entered to see the same guy (hidden behind his door) as he closed it behind me. (he's a BB short but hugely built and probably pushing 45 poss older) And he was holding a metal nun chuck. (sic?) I was naturally scared since he was blocking the door and he made sure HE was behind ME as I entered. (these guys RARELY remember US btw) He demanded his donation right away which I reluctantly gave him. He couldn't run out obviously so his in- call thing is to just make YOU want to leave soon as he has his money. He tells you he won't do anything wont even take his shirt off and you can't touch him he has a skin condition then he just babbles about body building until you walk out. So a few months later I got even. I had a bud visiting from Europe who was leaving and still had a pre pay cell he'd bought for LA, and THERE on RB was his ad again, diff name diff cell BUT he'd stupidly gone back to the photos he was using the first time he got me. (I saved them just in case) SO I made an appmnt with him using the phone my bud had left (he gave the same BS line about ALL he does oral n kissing blah blah) and offered him and xtra 200$ to come to "my place" at the tip of MALIBU lol. (for anyone who doesn't know LA from his dump to there is like driving from NYC to Philly lol. (I used a real address in case he checked, but it was a construction site of a house being built on the ocean nothing but beams lol.) He called me TWICE on the way there lol, saying he was late the freeway was jammed, then again almost an HOUR later saying he was finally on Pacific Coast Highway the LONNNNG rd that runs along the coast into Malibu lol, both times I said NP just get here when you can I'm waiting lol. Almost another HOUR went by before that phone rang again, but now I stopped answering it lol. OH it felt SO GOOD! It rang at least 20X! It's childlish I know BUT SO gratifying lol!

[armadillo]

So a few months later I got even.

 

"Revenge is a dish best served cold, bitch."

 

Well done Tonyko!

[Lookin]

The bottom line is never confront them once they're IN your home and never let on that you're pissed that they're not the photo in the ad, be cool amd nice and do ANYTHING you can to get them ON THE OTHER SIDE OF YOUR DOOR.

 

 

Sometimes it's possible to ease a guy out by distracting him with small talk, for example asking him if he likes animals. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

 

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[Tonyko]

I agree with all you said that is DEF the safer way to go. But luckily the real professional con men like this one (there's piles of his warning reviews on Daddy echo-ing my same experience on BOTH coasts) tend not to seek any retrobution they just chalk it up as a fail and move on to the next mark. (Its like a shop-lifter who gets eye-balled by security before he leaves the store so he's forced to put it back and leave empty handed lol, he doesn't come back to get even he just moves on to another store)