Falling in love with an escort

[MFLV]

Just wondering, is this the same young guy that you want to help with college tuition ?

[MrMiniver]

I mean this with all respect and no offense but you may think the vehicle is offered with no strings attached and that's what you tell yourself but the reality is that there are strings attached. I think if you searched your mind and heart you'd realize that the vehicle would not have been offered if you hadn't been attracted to him. There's string number one. There are probably others based on your original post.

 

I would never be in the business of telling other people what to do. There are no cookie cutter explanations for every situation. However, the likelihood that this ends in anything other than tears and heartbreak for you are practically zero. Find a way to get out now or channel your feelings towards him in another direction.

 

We probably could all give you examples from our own lives of how things like this have not gone well but that won't help you. You probably already know that or have heard enough of those stories.

 

The best I can wish you is that this will be too painful for you. Does it have a chance of working out somehow? There's always a chance but I'm just saying it's highly unlikely.

[BaronArtz]

Just how did he see other clients, if he lives in a rural area and doesn't have a vehicle? For over 2 years, no less? Were they all incalls maybe? Let's hope he doesn't live with his parents ... And let's hope he doesn't sell the truck for cash.

[Becket]

It's no coincidence that this thread has received five times more views than a normal post, and so many thoughtful responses. Obviously this is an experience that almost all of us who frequent this site have both enjoyed and endured. It is a paradox. It is absolutely wonderful to be in love with someone, especially someone who is beautiful and with whom one can have sex and life experiences. And it does in fact hurt like hell.

[+ WilliamM]

Just wondering' date=' is this the same young guy that you want to help with college tuition ?[/quote']

 

Given the strong support the OP has received in this thread, I welcome his answer to your question.

[+ purplekow]

Could you repeat that in English?

More clearly: He is hiring a hot guy he likes. He has feelings for him that likely are not reciprocated. If he confronts him, the hiring will end and his getting laid will likely stop. So don't scare him off with words of love and as a result send him off into the arms of another.

[+ FreshFluff]

If it were me, I'd probably go with PK's suggestion and avoid any big revelations. I'm sure he can sense that you care about him, but he might not be ready for an outright ILY.

 

Even if this doesn't work out, maybe you'll meet someone else while you're seeing this guy. I know, when you're falling for someone, it always seems like you'll never care for anyone else. But I'm betting you will.

[Okliehomo]

I very much sympathize with your situation. When I was very new to this, and fresh out of the boyfriend world, I got more than a little confused/conflicted with a few guys. I gave one a IMac with Final Cut on it, because he had aspirations to be a screenwriter. But when I read the screenplay, I was like, "Stick with the dick, buddy". I think helping people financially is a slippery slope, in general, not just escorts. There is always an expectation... like you expect him to make his life better and maybe subconsciously, you hope that he will like you more because of it or start to see you in a non client way. I know in my life I have helped a lot of people. ALOT. And I can assure you that they do not like me more because of it. I don't even think they respect me more. Because the bitter lesson that I have learned (ok, still learning) is that most people do not want to change and you cannot make someone magically want the same things that you do or want to live the same way that you do. I really thought if I gave some one a hand, helped them pay this bill, or showed them what it's like to have a little something that they would take pride in it and want it for themselves. But most times, it has turned out to be just a band aid, a temporary fix and two months later, they are right back in the same old shit. My Mother used to tell me, "Be broke.... just say that you don't have it"... but my lack of self esteem has always lead me to try and fix it. Like Liza, you know? Maybe this time, it will be different, maybe this time, he won't get a pay day loan and go to the casino.....She also told me more than one, "Being charitable is a Godly trait..... I'm just not sure where you got it from.".....

 

Best advice I can give anyone pursuing this hobby is always #1. Do not fall in love with a dreamer. I mean, escort. Ever. It is business. And if you can't keep that in perspective, it's going to be a rocky road. I remember this guy Jody from Austin when I first started hiring, actually stated in his ad, "This ain't Pretty Woman and you are not Richard Gere."

 

Please do not read any judgey tone into this. I have been there. Just hoping you can enjoy this and keep a clear head and a closed purse.

[manTOman]

Okie,

I don't know you but that is such a wonderful post that I bet speaks volumes to many in this forum.

 

Thanks!

[Epigonos]

Damn Okie, I remember Jody from Austin well. I hired him on two separate occasions. He was quite short but had one hell of a great body. I remember I was totally wowed by that line from his ad "This ain't Pretty Woman and you are not Richard Gere." and, obviously like you, I have never forgotten just how true it is. Good memories!

[instudiocity]

If it were me, I'd probably go with PK's suggestion and avoid any big revelations. I'm sure he can sense that you care about him, but he might not be ready for an outright ILY.

HE GAVE THE ESCORT A FUCKING TRUCK! Used, Broken Down or New, it was a fucking truck! I don't mean the escort fucks like a truck, I mean the client gave away an asset similar to CASH but not as easily spent. The most any client should/could expect is the escort throw him a freebie or two hundred.

 

Maybe this time, it will be different, maybe this time, he won't get a pay day loan and go to the casino....

 

She also told me more than once, "Being charitable is a Godly trait..... I'm just not sure where you got it from."...

 

"This ain't Pretty Woman and you are not Richard Gere."

Okliehomo, you sir are wise beyond your ears...<joke>

[gallahadesquire]

I had finally found someone to see on a monthly basis. Then he had a boyfriend. I met the two of them, and had a great time. Then the Boyfriend embezzled to pay the rent. I got the Cat.

Then I got the escort.

 

I had offered to give him a place to stay, if he ever needed it. He took me up on it.

 

It's been slightly over a year, now, having The Cat and The Ex-escort. Sex is completely "off the table," but I have a "housemate" who's charming, supportive, helpful, and HERE. [since I live in fear of having a broken hip, it's great to have someone else around the house to find the body.]

 

My point: Be careful. Demand little. Go for it.

 

After several years of being blackmailed, I've learned bad from good. [Different person]. I was given a gift when I started medical school: I found a rooming house, and was ejected therefrom about 6 weeks into term. A [now deceased] friend took me in for the next three months.

 

Pay it forward. Attach no strings, hard that that may be. Withdraw? I think not. Make sure he knows that, someday, he will have to do something similar for someone else.

 

That's all I have to say about that.

[+ purplekow]

Did everybody on this site go to medical school or does it just seem that way? Funguy Gallahadesquire Unicorn.....

[jakeleyman]

Just how did he see other clients, if he lives in a rural area and doesn't have a vehicle? For over 2 years, no less? Were they all incalls maybe? Let's hope he doesn't live with his parents ... And let's hope he doesn't sell the truck for cash.

 

I thought I answered this question along with a couple others but do not find it posted. I apologize if this is a duplicate post but I have asked the gorgeous blonde country boy the same question and exhibited the same curiosity many of you have held about "other clients." My guy's response ? For the first time in over two years of non-stop pillow and car talk - silence. "That is a confidential subject" was his reply. Wow - do you start to follow why I love this guy?

[cany10011]

Actually, my read is that the escort is trying to maintain a professional distance (despite your friendly and generous overtures) when he says, "that is a confidential subject."

 

 

 

 

I thought I answered this question along with a couple others but do not find it posted. I apologize if this is a duplicate post but I have asked the gorgeous blonde country boy the same question and exhibited the same curiosity many of you have held about "other clients." My guy's response ? For the first time in over two years of non-stop pillow and car talk - silence. "That is a confidential subject" was his reply. Wow - do you start to follow why I love this guy?

[jakeleyman]

Actually, my read is that the escort is trying to maintain a professional distance (despite your friendly and generous overtures) when he says, "that is a confidential subject."

 

Sure, you may be correct on that... but it also said to me that he planned to keep our business relationship private, which is pretty much what most of us hope for from escorts. His response was so automatic and quick...kind of ethics driven. But of course, making sense of these things all become a little clouded when we are dealing with cute 23 year old blonde country boys.

[instudiocity]

I thought I answered this question along with a couple others but do not find it posted. I apologize if this is a duplicate post but I have asked the gorgeous blonde country boy the same question and exhibited the same curiosity many of you have held about "other clients." My guy's response ? For the first time in over two years of non-stop pillow and car talk - silence. "That is a confidential subject" was his reply. Wow - do you start to follow why I love this guy?

You're lucky he didn't tell you that you were overstepping the bounds of client/escort relationship. Next thing you know, he's going to show up in a brand-new Corvette or something and then your Sugar Daddy status will be cut down considerably. Everyone needs to maintain some secrets. Thinking that you can ask about his consorts is crossing the client/escort line.

 

Actually, my read is that the escort is trying to maintain a professional distance (despite your friendly and generous overtures) when he says, "that is a confidential subject."

I agree. He could do so many other things like, stop seeing jakeleyman, get offended, point out the jakeleyman is crossing boundaries - which is how I read his "'that is a confidential subject."

 

I date an escort with an escort boyfriend. He doesn't share data about clients with his BF, that's business and the BF is pleasure according to him. And I haven't hired the boyfriend. He's quite attractive, but I don't want to be involved with two guys in a relationship. They breakup, I might be out a great lay.

 

Sure, you may be correct on that... but it also said to me that he planned to keep our business relationship private, which is pretty much what most of us hope for from escorts. His response was so automatic and quick...kind of ethics driven. But of course, making sense of these things all become a little clouded when we are dealing with cute 23 year old blonde country boys.

It's a backhanded way to take his comment - telling you he's not sharing info on others isn't the same as pledging confidentiality about your relationship to you. Just how does he explain the truck to other people? Oh, my Sugar Daddy gave it to me? Methinks NOT!

[+ honcho]

I did not go to medical school. I think there were a couple of frequent posters who were (aircraft) pilots.

[Steven_Draker]

I think there were a couple of frequent posters who were (aircraft) pilots.

 

That would be KMEM and GoodFella69.

 

But most of all, I think, we have teachers: both current and retired.

[Lookin]

Next thing you know, he's going to show up in a brand-new Corvette or something and then your Sugar Daddy status will be cut down considerably.

 

 

Maybe. Maybe not. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

 

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[+ Gar1eth]

I did not go to medical school. I think there were a couple of frequent posters who were (aircraft) pilots.

 

Did I miss something? I'm not sure where this statement came from.

 

Gman

[Irtwo]

So this is the same guy that was given the college loan, correct? That is very generous. I hope it works out positively for you.

[jakeleyman]

So this is the same guy that was given the college loan, correct? That is very generous. I hope it works out positively for you.

 

Others are probably sick of hearing about some things I have done or plan to do regarding the escort in question, but I do not want to ignore a question since most of you guys have offered some very good advice. First of all, buying a truck in my area is not an extremely generous act. Some of you may easily have spent an equal amount for a weekend with one of the NYC or LA guys whom we hear about often on this site. And yes, before this vehicle thing came up, I decided to pay for the escort in question to attend a community college. That is on hold temporarily but I plan to follow through with this provided my finances do not see major reversals , and regardless of our relationship at the time. I want to say one more thing. The above poster felt that I crossed a line when I queried my escort about fellow clients . I do too and so did my escort! It was a part of random conversation while sharing a margarita and I was impressed that he politely but quickly told me the question was not one he would be discussing! I was pleased with his response. Thanks again guys for some nice comments.

[instudiocity]

Did everybody on this site go to medical school or does it just seem that way? Funguy Gallahadesquire Unicorn.....

I didn't attend medical school, but I love to play doctor!