Thank you! Don't come again.

[manTOman]

I had something pretty weird happen to me recently. Here's a bit of history so that I can ask my question.

 

Some time last summer I booked a session with a well reviewed escort on one of his trips to my city.

It was a multi-hour session and I tipped, what I consider well. Afterwards I sent him an email to thank him, and he responded back with some relatively positive feedback. I always thought it a possibility to see him if our roads crossed again.

 

Then some time last winter I sent him an email asking him to let me know if he's planning any trips to my location, to which he responded that he would.

Then I found out that he had definitely made a trip to my location, but I never got an email from him. No biggie! Maybe it was a short trip, or he was all booked up, or whatever. I didn't think much of it.

Then recently I saw a posting on RB that he was coming my way again. I emailed him right away requesting a session. A full on session, with a suggested date and time. And I never heard back from him.

So I'm left wandering, what the hell happened? If he was already booked for my suggested time, he could've suggested a different one.

 

Has anything like this ever happened to you. I can't think of a possible reason why he would go dark on me.

And to the escorts, what are possible reasons why you would cut off a client? I don't think that I was ever rude or disrespectful. I don't recall profess my love for the guy. And I'm squeaky clean with minty breath when I go to appointments. Could it be an honest mistake, or am I being purposefully ignored?

 

Should I email him, or should I just let it go?

Any insight would be helpful.

[down_to_business]

Let it go.

 

You could spend day after day speculating on the reasons and still would never know for sure. Unfortunately, you aren't ever going to get closure on this and for your own sake, you really should just let it go. Definitely don't beat yourself up over it.

[OrdinaryJoe]

Agreed - let it go. You can wonder until the cows come home and never know. He might have found out you knew his sister. Or maybe he was too into you and he doesn't want to see you again for fear of falling for you. Or maybe he's mistaking you for someone else. Or maybe he loved your breath but he really didn't like that mole on your knee. Or maybe you mentioned that you love Madonna and he HATES Madonna...or, or, or.

[marylander1940]

...Then some time last winter I sent him an email asking him to let me know if he's planning any trips to my location, to which he responded that he would.

Then I found out that he had definitely made a trip to my location, but I never got an email from him. No biggie! Maybe it was a short trip, or he was all booked up, or whatever. I didn't think much of it.

Then recently I saw a posting on RB that he was coming my way again. I emailed him right away requesting a session. A full on session, with a suggested date and time. And I never heard back from him.

So I'm left wandering, what the hell happened? If he was already booked for my suggested time, he could've suggested a different one.

 

Should I email him, or should I just let it go?...

 

May I suggest texting/calling him?

 

Sometimes escorts' emails end up in junk mail inbox if I don't add them to my contact list.

 

I know it's a long shot, but maybe that's what happened. I don't think an escort would turn down a multiple hour appointment with someone they've already met.

 

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[Str8boyluvr]

I agree with the "let it go" advice. By now there's no excuse for him not having seen at least one of your communications. You've held up your end of the deal, if he can't do the same that's cause for concern and a deal-breaker, regardless of his reasons. Plenty of other hotties out there - enjoy discovering them!

[marylander1940]

...Plenty of other hotties out there - enjoy discovering them!

 

Maybe there aren't so many hotties out there in the town where the OP lives or not with the alleged escort's looks.

 

I know I'm old fashioned, but a phone call or a text message is a great way to show you're interested, besides as I said before escorts email hundreds of would-be-clients when they visit a city, adding his email to your contact list would a void emails been sent to the "spam" inbox.

[JT Brooklyn]

Move On.."To many Men to little Time"

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

the sting of indifference

 

I had something pretty weird happen to me recently. Here's a bit of history so that I can ask my question.

 

... It was a multi-hour session and I tipped ... I sent him an email to thank him ... I don't think that I was ever rude or disrespectful ... I'm squeaky clean with minty breath when I go to appointments.

manTOman,

Your self description fits me as well. Also,

• When I cancel on short notice I insist on paying.
  
• I am a repeat customer and hire during "dry spells" when business is slow.
  
• I provide positive reviews and discreet introductions when requested to do so.
  
• I am loyal. I've stuck with two guys through their legal problems, one guy through rehab, and several when they slacked off at the gym...
  

In other words, like you I think I'm a keeper and expect to be treated well. At my job, we cultivate customers like me and treat them like princes. So when I am the good customer, I do feel the sting of being treated with indifference.

 

Could it be an honest mistake, or am I being purposefully ignored? Should I email him, or should I just let it go? Any insight would be helpful.

I doubt it's either a mistake or that you're being ignored. He's not thinking like a businessman. This is probably how he treats everyone -- friend and customer alike. If you can accept that, keep an eye on his ads and call when he's in your area. Otherwise, put him out of your mind.

[ctc2001]

This is kind of similar to another recent thread:

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?98644-Strange-escort-behavior-I-keep-experiencing

 

The two things:

 

Why he didn't respond to your message - If the escort is well known and popular, the sheer volume of responses he may have received (soon after posting an ad for your city) might have caused him to inadvertently missed/overlooked your e-mail. I've had this happen to me.

 

Why he doesn't contact you to let you know he'll be in your city - Discretion possibly. While some escorts may keep lists or phone numbers of past clients, some may not keep any lists what so ever. I personally, don't ever want an out-of-the-blue text or call from an escort, even one that I would like to see again. Also, I'm not comfortable with an escort, who travels internationally, to keep records of our texting history or storing our e-mail communication on his laptop hard drive rather than the mail server (if he uses an e-mail client like Thunderbird or Outlook which gives you the option). When anyone enters a country, everything they bring with them can be subject to search, even the data stored on personal phones and laptops, even if those devices are password protected. I don't want my name and number coming up on some search a customs official might perform.

[rickp]

Emails very often get inadvertently lost in the spam folder. Call him.

[Amoco]

Emails very often get inadvertently lost in the spam folder. Call him.

 

Respectfully, Rick, shouldn't an escort of any experience know to check their spam folder everyday? Seriously?

 

I agree that you'll never know whether it's intentional or just a function of who this guy is, but in my limited experience I have certainly experienced a fair amount of escort irresponsibility, particularly regarding communication. It's so interesting to me that the OP immediately went to what he may have done wrong, as opposed to the possibility that the service provider was irresponsible on several different levels - no matter what the ultimate reason turns out to be - even if he's not responding because you have bad breath, he still needs to tell you. Again, my experience: some escorts do this professionally, and others don't. To assume otherwise is folly.

[marylander1940]

Emails very often get inadvertently lost in the spam folder. Call him.

 

Finally an escort of all posters agrees with what I've been saying since the beginning of this thread.

 

Respectfully, Rick, shouldn't an escort of any experience know to check their spam folder everyday? Seriously?

 

Yes, they should but sometimes emails get automatically deleted from the spam folder within 24 hours.

A phone call is the best way to show you're serious about getting together.

 

I agree that you'll never know whether it's intentional or just a function of who this guy is, but in my limited experience I have certainly experienced a fair amount of escort irresponsibility, particularly regarding communication.

 

Sometimes they don't even show up...

 

It's so interesting to me that the OP immediately went to what he may have done wrong, as opposed to the possibility that the service provider was irresponsible on several different levels - no matter what the ultimate reason turns out to be - even if he's not responding because you have bad breath, he still needs to tell you. Again, my experience: some escorts do this professionally, and others don't. To assume otherwise is folly.

 

Exactly, the typical "What's wrong with me?"

 

It's an awkward moment when you have to tell a sexual partner he has bad breath, but that is better than having to keep up with it for multiple hours. Personally I've been in both places, telling someone about bad breath or been told that.

 

Maybe the OP is uncut, some Americans who are uncut don't take the time to wash it after peeing. In that case what about starting the date with a shower?

 

It would help if the OP uploads a link to the ad of the escort in question, I've already asked him that by PM. If the OP tried to meet a serial No-show like Ryan Rose we can just tell him he was lucky he got to see Ryan at least once...

[rickp]

It's not a matter of not knowing how to, but my spam folder has about 150 junk emails in it every day. I do not read through every single one of them. Most of my clients call me.

Respectfully, Rick, shouldn't an escort of any experience know to check their spam folder everyday? Seriously?

 

I agree that you'll never know whether it's intentional or just a function of who this guy is, but in my limited experience I have certainly experienced a fair amount of escort irresponsibility, particularly regarding communication. It's so interesting to me that the OP immediately went to what he may have done wrong, as opposed to the possibility that the service provider was irresponsible on several different levels - no matter what the ultimate reason turns out to be - even if he's not responding because you have bad breath, he still needs to tell you. Again, my experience: some escorts do this professionally, and others don't. To assume otherwise is folly.

[marylander1940]

It's not a matter of not knowing how to, but my spam folder has about 150 junk emails in it every day. I do not read through every single one of them. Most of my clients call me.

 

Exactly!

 

Specially when some emails from potential clients don't even have a subject, it just says "Re:"

[Kevin Slater]

I am a repeat customer and hire during "dry spells" when business is slow.

 

How do you know when that is?

 

Kevin Slater

[manTOman]

Wow, that's a lot of comments!

Thank you Gents!

 

Here's a couple of quick things I need to add.

 

I might call/text or email him again, although I doubt that it's the spam/junk folder issue, since prior to out first meeting we've exchanged plenty of emails and it never seemed to be an issue.

Also he's not a flaky kind. He has 30+ glowing reviews and is an ultimate professional in both business and personal handling of his clients, and that is not only from his reviews but from personal experience as well.

He's also not the kind to shy away from speaking his mind. So if it was a bad breath, BO or something similar I don't think that he'd have any troubles expressing it.

 

That's why I was a little blindsided by all of it. Anyways I have moved on, and have another guy booked in his place. If I do decide to contact him, and find out what happened, I'll update you all.

 

I also don't want to reveal his identity, because that would be too vindictive. After all it's his right to see me or not, and a little reality check is never too bad for one's ego.

 

And as per me feeling that it was something I did or do or have... Thanks for pointing it out. I got to stop doing that.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

How do you know when that is?

 

Kevin Slater

What I meant is that I hire steadily (about three times a month) from a short list of regulars. Sometimes a guy who's normally booked solid will mention a sudden drop off in calls, blaming the weather/holiday/economic news.

[marylander1940]

What I meant is that I hire steadily (about three times a month) from a short list of regulars. Sometimes a guy who's normally booked solid will mention a sudden drop off in calls, blaming the weather/holiday/economic news.

 

Something I've learned from several escorts is how unpredictable the business is, the keep telling me that "every day is different, you never know".

 

What do you mean with booked solid?

 

Can an escort see 6 guys in a day and have absolutely no free time at all?

[+ purplekow]

Something I've learned from several escorts is how unpredictable the business is, the keep telling me that "every day is different, you never know".

 

What do you mean with booked solid?

 

Can an escort see 6 guys in a day and have absolutely no free time at all?

Some escorts can book six guys in an afternoon. Satisfying all six is the difficult part.

[Samai139]

Wow, that's a lot of comments!

Thank you Gents!

 

Here's a couple of quick things I need to add.

 

I might call/text or email him again, although I doubt that it's the spam/junk folder issue, since prior to out first meeting we've exchanged plenty of emails and it never seemed to be an issue.

Also he's not a flaky kind. He has 30+ glowing reviews and is an ultimate professional in both business and personal handling of his clients, and that is not only from his reviews but from personal experience as well.

He's also not the kind to shy away from speaking his mind. So if it was a bad breath, BO or something similar I don't think that he'd have any troubles expressing it.

 

That's why I was a little blindsided by all of it. Anyways I have moved on, and have another guy booked in his place. If I do decide to contact him, and find out what happened, I'll update you all.

 

I also don't want to reveal his identity, because that would be too vindictive. After all it's his right to see me or not, and a little reality check is never too bad for one's ego.

 

And as per me feeling that it was something I did or do or have... Thanks for pointing it out. I got to stop doing that.

 

ManTOMan---good for you. From what you have written and reading between the lines, the escort has lost out, not you

[marylander1940]

Some escorts can book six guys in an afternoon. Satisfying all six is the difficult part.

 

Yes, you're right 6 guys in one day could happen but not every day or every week.

 

We're going off subject. Unless the OP as I've requested him by PM, publishes a link to the escorts' ad or calls him to ask what happened, we'll never know and all this talk wouldn't have any object.

 

I'm out of here.

[Steven_Draker]

I think someone suggested a while ago that if you want to know whether the cause is you, or the emails that get lost, is to contact the escort from a different email account ... but that borders with "stalking", isn't it?

[Newly]

I guess I'm going to agree with all the members saying "who cares"? Unless this escort is someone that is exactly the type you like or unless you're in an area with no other choices there are tons of escorts. Regardless of the reason why he's not answering just pick another one. You're paying him, not vice-versa, so it's really up to him to satisfy you. I've been with some really well reviewed escorts where we just didn't click. It's not because I did something wrong, nor did the escort do anything wrong, it's just what happens when you're dealing with humans. Now, if it happens with every escort you see there may be a problem, but if it's just one it shouldn't be a big deal.

[+ friendofsheila]

I agree that you'll never know whether it's intentional or just a function of who this guy is, but in my limited experience I have certainly experienced a fair amount of escort irresponsibility, particularly regarding communication. It's so interesting to me that the OP immediately went to what he may have done wrong, as opposed to the possibility that the service provider was irresponsible on several different levels....

 

I have the same opinion.

 

One escort arrived at my place and mentioned how it had been an incredibly busy day, just fielding incoming calls and emails. So I can see where they'd get overburdened by this.

 

Also, anyone who has tons of business chasing him might not be mindful of keeping up with ANYONE, good customers or indifferent. He might not be thinking far enough ahead to know that the good customers are worth maintaining. And I've met too many of these types who just don't care.

 

He could be any of those things.