Sorry but your pick up line was not good enough

[+ purplekow]

Went out of my comfort zone today when a telephone repairman came and spent several hours fixing a problem in my home. He was a nice looking guy in his 40s, no ring, more than usual attention to hair style and the uniform seemed a bit tailored. During his time at the house, I joked with him, offered him a beverage and asked if I could be of any help. There seemed to be a bit of a connection but I did not know for sure in which direction his interests lay. After he had my phone working and my internet restored, he asked me to check out the system to make sure it was working. I had an icon on my toolbar with a R rated picture of Seth Fornea. I clicked on that and he seemed interested but not overly interested in the picture.

He was set to get go, I just asked "Listen, I am curious if you sleep with men". He looked right at me held my gaze and asked why I wanted to know. I said I used to sleep exclusively with women but now I sleep with men. He then said, "Sorry but your pick up line was not good enough." and he left. His answer sort of stopped me in my tracks and by the time I recovered he was gone.

I know you do not catch a fish on every cast, but I thought I was being direct without being overbearing. So was it my pick up line or was he just not into me(n). (Unfortunately that meant I could not get into him either)

[+ purplekow]

http://www.google.com/search?q=seth+fornea&client=safari&rls=en&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=RfYfU622JMO2kQedt4HICw&ved=0CAcQ_AUoAQ&biw=1179&bih=895#facrc=_&imgdii=_&imgrc=o01lH4NK4balrM%253A%3B7EVF1Y1sqH6NgM%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252F2.bp.blogspot.com%252F-tBG-cfCYiWM%252FUf68lJ2a_yI%252FAAAAAAABZ20%252FeYkEIb25rOw%252Fs1600%252FSeth-Fornea-Colt-Studios.jpg%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.myportiswaspsays.com%252F2013%252F08%252F5-questions-with-seth-fornea.html%3B470%3B705

[gallahadesquire]

Once heard uttered by a friend of mine: "Pardon me, are you of Ukranian Descent?"

 

They actually started talking after that.

[maninsoma]

1. Kudos for you for actually making the attempt, even though it didn't work.

 

2. Though I think his response was a bit odd, I will say that your "pick up line" seems too impersonal to me. You basically just told him that you used to be straight but now you're gay, and his response was basically, "So what?" Who even knows whether the guy could relate to that experience; if he's gay, maybe he's only ever slept with men. Even though it surely would have been more challenging to be more direct (at least it would for me), I think that saying something about what made you interested in him would have been better.

[hornytwells]

Sounds like he wanted you to make him an offer, possibly involving a large tip?

[bigvalboy]

LOL...sorry, but it was a weak pick up line. To me it sounded like all you wanted to do is sleep with him, which is possibly exactly what you wanted, but I think you should have complimented him in some way. I usually ask if they are married or if they have a girlfriend, if the answer is yes, I then say she's a lucky girl. It usually brings a smile. If they are single, then I have the opportunity to ask why.

 

You could cut the phone line and have him come back, and give it another go....

[Steven_Draker]

Sounds like he wasn't interested and didn't want to hurt your feelings.

[+ beethoven]

If you have a picture of this hot stud on your computer, it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to understand what you were asking, and what you had in mind. I agree with Steven Draker that he was looking for a nice way to say no.

An odd retort, but I don't think that anything else you could have said would have produced the desired outcome. (Or out cum.)

[hornytwells]

I still think that was a strange response……if he wasn't interested surely he would have said, "not my thing" or some such other remark.. maybe I am reading too much into it, but "the wrong pick up line" sounds to me like there could have been a right one, as in "any other services you provide". I think he was wanting you to make him an offer…….. but that could just be me! (Have had it happen to me in similar circumstances, which is why i am saying that)

[Lookin]

Sounds like a pretty good line to me. Perhaps next time you could punch up your delivery a little. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

http://www.inc.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/preview/slideshows/bigstock_Wealthy_Man_8768902.jpg

 

Listen, I am curious if you sleep with men.

[+ friendofsheila]

Well, if your pickup line had sucked, but you looked like Brad Pitt and George Clooney put together, would he have said "no"?

 

I second Draker's assertion, then.....

[bigvalboy]

Sounds like a pretty good line to me. Perhaps next time you could punch up your delivery a little. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

http://www.inc.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/preview/slideshows/bigstock_Wealthy_Man_8768902.jpg

 

Listen, I am curious if you sleep with men.

 

:D....

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

purplekow: "Listen, I am curious if you sleep with men". (Translation: I'm asking you about sex while we're alone here in my house, so I'm probably into you... but maybe I just want to tell you what I heard in church last week.)

phone guy: "Why do you want to know?" (Translation: I could tell you I don't discuss personal matters with customers, but I'm still listening... )

purplekow: "I used to sleep exclusively with women but now I sleep with men." (Translation: I may be available if you want to make me an offer.)

phone guy: "Sorry but your pick up line was not good enough." (Translation: Your approach lacks commitment. I would have said Yes if you had taken the risk of saying you wanted me. Alternate translation: I'll let you suck me off for $20.)

 

Conclusion: Next time you're in a similar situation put some skin in the game. One Yes will make up for twenty Nos. (An insight that changed my life...)

 

I wouldn't bother cutting the phone line. He made up his mind and moved on.

[Steven_Draker]

http://www.inc.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/preview/slideshows/bigstock_Wealthy_Man_8768902.jpg

 

[video=youtube;IPvv5uQndc8]http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=IPvv5uQndc8#t=2

[desertguy1954]

I agree, I just think he was not interested.

Two of the best ones that I ever had used on me were: Years ago in a bar this guy I had been cruzing came up to me and and said what is your name? I told him and he told me his and he said nice to meet you, my mom said never talk to strangers. We had a very good night.

 

The other one was fairly recent, had been talking to a guy almost all night in a bar and when he got ready to leave, he asked if I was going to shut the place down. I said no that i was going home. Told him sorry but my place was a mess and asked him for his number. He said, well, that means you have to go home with me. He then said and this is what sealed the deal "I am a great cuddler." Yes he was a great cuddler among many other things. So another great night was had by all.

Guess that I fall for sappy pickup lines, but they sure were worth it for that one night.

[+ FreshFluff]

I don't think it was just plain lack of interest. After all, he could have cut you off when you started to ask about who he slept with.

 

Wanting to be paid is one possibility. Another is that he's straight and was just screwing with you.

[Diverdan]

I too thought it was a strange response, but I suspect if the two of you had some other interaction during his work, he had already made up his mind about getting involved with you. There is a lot that goes into chemistry and under the circumstances he has a lot more to lose than you. After all, he is on his work time. I have had situations where I have invited a workman to come back after he is off work and have a drink, as I really appreciated the quality of his work and the fact that he did not make a mess. That has worked about 20% of the time when I was interested in getting to know the workman more. Often the response has been, I never get together from my work situation, but if I meet you elsewhere, I hope we can chat. Where it has worked, sometimes we just had a drink togther and some great conversation, and that was it. Other times it led to a lot more fun and several get togethers over the years. I don't think the pick up line is the major factor here, it is a lot of other things that may or may not have occurred while he was doing the repair work, IMHO.

[+ nycman]

He's just not that into you.

[BaronArtz]

You should have gone to your bedroom, changed into just your undies while he was working and at the end you could have said: "Excuse me, I'd like to give you a tip but my wallet is in the bedroom"

 

Works really well on UPS delivery guys too.

[+ purplekow]

Sounds like a pretty good line to me. Perhaps next time you could punch up your delivery a little. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

http://www.inc.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/preview/slideshows/bigstock_Wealthy_Man_8768902.jpg

 

Listen, I am curious if you sleep with men.

Thanks Lookin. Had a good laugh at this. Reading this back, I think he was probably right. It was not a line but since the goal was to get him out of that tailored uniform, a more personal attempt probably was the way to go. I am inexperienced with picking up me and clearly my rap needs some work. Well, at least I gave it a try and the bright side is, blaming the line means I do not have to concentrate on whether or not he likened me to a gargoyle.

[Guest]

The fact that he led you on a bit and then responded with "Your pick-up line wasn't good enough" seems to imply that there was a pick-up line that would have been. One possibility is that he was interested in cash. That statement seemed to beg the question "What could I have said which would have been good enough?", which might have prompted an offer. The other was that he was turned off by your statement that you used to sleep with women. I, for one, don't find it at all sexy--quite a turn-off, in fact--that a guy presents himself as bisexual, or confused, or reformed, or whatever. Did you somehow think that he was interested in whom you used to sleep with, or that you proclamation may have somehow turned him on? What was your purpose in sharing that information?

[BgMstr4u]

I wonder what his tone of voice was during the exchange. Just reading the dialogue without the expression it looks to me like he was deflecting your pickup line, possibly because he thought it was out of line, in a way that wouldn't be a downright putdown. The litmus test for me would be -- Was he smiling as he left? If so, perhaps it was an acknowledgement that you tried but he couldn't for whatever reason respond. Maybe his employer is on the employees' case about interactions with customers -- liability lawsuits come in all sizes, shapes and colors, after all. Or maybe he is in a relationship and doesn't want to play around. Or maybe he's so good looking that he gets tired of people hitting on him. Or maybe he was genuinely weighing the possibility and decided to get on with whatever was next on his schedule. Maybe he is a genuine connoisseur of pickup lines. I agree with the poster who suggested that a compliment might have gone further.

[+ purplekow]

I, for one, don't find it at all sexy--quite a turn-off, in fact--that a guy presents himself as bisexual, or confused, or reformed, or whatever. Did you somehow think that he was interested in whom you used to sleep with, or that you proclamation may have somehow turned him on? What was your purpose in sharing that information?

Many people have a more fluid sexuality and are not confused or reformed, they merely are. After asking him if he slept with men, he asked why I wanted to know, and I prefaced that I now sleep with men with the fact that this was not always the case. My purpose in sharing that was to further the interaction, which I admit I did not do well.