Have You Hit 50 Yet?

[IM_Moore]

In about 3 weeks I will be 50 years old and this has hit me like the PSA plane that nose dived into Normal Heights a few decades ago. For the past few months I kept telling myself no big deal, nothing to get freaked out about, consider the alternative to 50 (the alternative being dead). Then through a series of events the past week it has really taken a hold of me.

 

I don't want to end up like some 50 year old wanna be teenager dressing like I just escaped from grade school wearing a cap on backward and telling my escorts about the good ole daze. The thought is really depressing, especially since I am more a twink lover I guess. Every time I look at one of the escorts I hire or think of hiring I can't get it out of my head that I'm probably older than his parents, that I am usually 3 fucking decades older than him.

 

There is a song by the Stones I forget the name of it but one of the first lines is 'what a drag it is getting old' and then the one by Cher 'if I could turn back time' there is the Beatles 'Will you still need me will you still feed me when I'm 64' plus there is Nazareth's 'love hurts, love hurts' oh wait sorry that is what I usually sing when I am spanking one of my naughty escorts.

 

In all seriousness, have any of you guys reached this point yet? Did you have problems dealing with it? If so how did you deal with it?

 

And to the escorts out there do you mind clients as old as me? Is it kind of replusive?

 

And for those who believe age is just a number, fuck that. If it is a number try 666.

 

IM Moore (you are not).

[marc anthony]

>The thought is really depressing, especially since I am more a

>twink lover I guess. Every time I look at one of the escorts I

>hire or think of hiring I can't get it out of my head that I'm

>probably older than his parents, that I am usually 3 fucking

>decades older than him.

 

Take some comfort in the fact that to a 20 yo twink, everyone over 30 is old. So it really doesn't matter if you are 30 or 40 or 50 or 60... you are just old. So in that relationship, you really have not reached any magical plateau. lol

 

 

Nazareth's 'love hurts, love hurts' oh

>wait sorry that is what I usually sing when I am spanking one

>of my naughty escorts.

 

I knew there was some reason why I love that song. (IM, I guess we date ourselves by even knowing what the fuck Hair of the Dog is)

 

 

>

>In all seriousness, have any of you guys reached this point

>yet? Did you have problems dealing with it? If so how did you

>deal with it?

>

 

I am in my 40's, and I will say that as I get older, I find more fulfillment out of longer escort encounters. If you select your 20 yo twinks wisely, I have found that most of them find even old guys like us interesting if the encounter is more than just about sex. Somehow I find the sex more interesting if we connect on some additional level as well, which won't happen in an hour encounter. Growing old is never easy, IM. But a 3 day weekend in Montreal with a beautiful, intelligent, wide-eyed boy surrounded by gorgeous dancers... or a 4 day stint on Broadway with a 21 yo first-timer to the Big Apple, sure makes it easier.

[Guest DickHo]

The 50's are fantastic! I'm 52 and I'm having more fun now than my 40's, and possibly my 30's (but it was the 80's and I had a blast then!)

 

As far as escorts, or any trick for that matter, some of them have trouble keeping up with me. The only difference is that I don't 20 y/o's anymore--men in their 30's and early 40's are what I look for. Can't stand inexperience anymore.

 

Embrace 50 and have a blast!

[Guest Utopia]

Dude you are way old (just joking). I am 41 and don't even think about age all that much. I care more how I feel and today I feel pretty good.

 

You even said so yourself consider the alternative to ageing and it doesn't seem so bad. As long as you can enjoy life there is really no reason to worry about your age.

 

Hang in there old man.

===

"You realize that life goes fast

It's hard to make the good things last"

[Guest rizzuto]

I found 50 to be immensely liberating: I do things to please and satisfy myself, and not some (non-existent) standard that I'd imagined others to have.

 

You are paying an escort for his services, which includes playing a certain role. While the distinction between the escort himself and his persona is sometimes a very fuzzy line, a good escort will accept the client for who he is.

 

I'd encourage you to focus on your perception of yourself, and not the escort's perception of you. If you are happy with yourself and show it, odds are very good that your escort will be pleased, as well.

 

And I would stongly second marcanthony's suggestion of relating to the escort (or the escort's persona, actually) on a mind level before relating on a sexual level. Makes life better all the way around.

[axebahia]

>In about 3 weeks I will be 50 years old and this has hit me

>like the PSA plane that nose dived into Normal Heights a few

>decades ago.

 

Funny, that's how I feel about 40!

[Will]

This is a serious issue, regardless of how some people may respond to your post. For me, the 50s were the most interesting decade of my life thus far. So were the 40s, but of course I hadn't had the 50s yet. Now I am 63, and have found that -- for me -- the 60s really are difficult for lots of reasons. So for whatever it's worth, I'll pass on a few things I've learned and a few nuggets of experience, strength and hope about coping with those big "decades." I hope I'll give you something useful, and that you'll just ignore what's not.

 

1. I try to remember -- and to remind myself -- that the only alternative to growing older is death. That's a fact. When I think about it long enough, I usually stop moping.

 

2. There is nothing magical about the decade-birthday. Its only meaning is meaning that we attach to it; we can choose to project onto it a whole garbage can full of meanings that we've been saving all our lives (without having ever been there ourselves), or we can invent new meanings. The birthday and the decade it signifies will have the meaning that I decide to give it.

 

3. Every age of a man's life has its up-side and its down-side. I wouldn't be in my 20s again for anything, anything at all. Or my 30s. Or my 40s. And so on. Remember: to "be in my 20s" means to be in MY 20s, not somebody else's. No thanks. Been there, done that.

 

4. The up-side of the 50s far, far outweighs the downside. In fact, the only downside of the 50s I can think of -- it's genuine and a life-changing thing, but it really is the only one -- is slowing down. Everything all of a sudden takes longer than it used to; I got tired more quickly and it took longer to get un-tired.

 

5. Among many of the up-sides, I would count as the very best the growing sense of integration, of everything sort of coming together and the inner strength that accompanies that sense of consolidation. Another is the reality that a man in his 50s is at the height of his professional powers; he has authority, and wisdom, and experience. These translate into erotic terms, by the way, as all men -- young as well as old -- find self-confidence and inner strength to be very sexy, whether they say so or not. As regards twinks, you are better off at 50 than at 40. At 40 you could kid yourself into thinking that they think you're one of them. They didn't. At 50, you're on the same page: they look at you and see "Dad." You can look at them and see "Son." And that can be a great, fabulous beginning for even a one-evening-long date with an escort. Finally, on my 50th birthday a friend of mine told him that he'd never been hornier in his life than at 50. That was certainly true for me. About three months after my 50th birthday, I met a brilliant, talented, funny, and huge-hearted man 18 years my junior who looked like -- I kid you not -- a 6'4" hybrid of Cary Grant and Tom Sellek. We fell instantly in love WITH EACH OTHER and had three glorious years together before circumstances separated us.

 

I hope your 50th birthday -- and every day following -- is filled with the excitement, peace, and sense of power that only a man in his 50s can experience.

[Will]

P.S. If you want to talk about this more, privately, please send me an e-mail or a message.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Cher

 

is over 50 and I think "turn back time" refers to regrets over things done in the past, not the desire to be young once again.

 

Music is not the best reference point, as with much in popular culture, it was (even though the Paul and Ringo are now "quite old" as are the surving members of the Rolling Stones) and is meant for youth culture.

 

Madona is now older than 40 and she was recently asked by Matt Lauer if she was still relevant when she was being outsold by women young enough to be her daughter. Her response was very perceptive (and I paraphrase here): Is Frank Sinatra or Elvis relevant? Relevant in regards to what? I do not mean to imply that her music compares to theirs, the point is how she feels and how you feel. . . .

 

http://www.10percent.com/images/product/plus/3_CA-0407.jpg

 

It is possible, as the image shows, to be 50 and look very good and desireable. There are young men who are attracted to much older men, irrespective of whether they look like this man or not.

 

You have gotten a good deal of very good and perceptive advice, particularly from Will, but I agree with the comments below, if you wish to continue to hire (which I believe you should, if that is where your desires lead you) and the men you desire are very young boys in their early 20s:

 

>You are paying an escort for his services, which includes

>playing a certain role. While the distinction between the

>escort himself and his persona is sometimes a very fuzzy line,

>a good escort will accept the client for who he is.

>

>And I would stongly second marcanthony's suggestion of

>relating to the escort (or the escort's persona, actually) on

>a mind level before relating on a sexual level. Makes life

>better all the way around.

[Donnie]

>Every time I look at one of the escorts I

>hire or think of hiring I can't get it out of my head that I'm

>probably older than his parents, that I am usually 3 fucking

>decades older than him.

 

Now you know how Franco must feel.

[+ Lucky]

RE: Have You Yet?

 

I doubt that Francco is hiring ten year old escorts!

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

En Fait

 

>Now you know how Franco must feel.

 

Actually, this morning, I am feeling very chipper and wide awake. I already played with Jane for 25 minutes, my Message Center stalker is back in full bloom, my constant IM bombardment stalking has stoped on AOL, and my Dhalia's look the best they have all summer.

[Guest Jocoluver]

I hated the idea of growing old! and I am very ageist in wanting the company and sexual contact of 20-40yo escorts.

 

I am now 71yo (that is 8th decade, guyz!) and I am having a blast. Fortunately, I am healthy (slowed down) and horny as I can handle. There are numerous hot escorts who treat me "lovingly" and respectfully.

 

Don't despair! Life is a ball!

 

(Incidentally, I had an edocrinologic workup and found to have low levels of testosterone of testicular origin. I am using Andro-Gel patch daily and my libido is "restored"! Even have sore nipples like in adolescence.)

 

Enjoy!:9 }( :+

[ted]

Yes-I am 2 days away from my 57th. I agree, 50 was a tough birthday. I breezed right through 30 and 40, but 50, half a century, hit me like a ton of bricks. I think I had what some call my mid-life crisis then, maybe a little late, but in retrospect, it was very good for me. What did I do that year, lost 40 lbs, started working out, hired my first escort, took a look at my life and decided to change those parts of it I didn't like. Yeah, I've slowed down, and my memory isn't what it used to be, but its still better than some 30 year olds. I'm feeling much more fulfilled with my life and my job these days.

As far as hiring it hasn't been an issue yet. I tend to the thirty somethings anyway, but the class acts out there don't discriminate on age, and I'm not interested in the others.

And as far as older men looking good, get Tom Bianchi's over 40 calendar for inspiration.

[Guest Gringo]

The Stones song you refer to "Mother's Little Helper."

[Chuck50]

RE: Have You Yet?

 

I just turned 51 a few weeks ago. For my 5oth Bday I celebrated it all year. With a special Escort San Diego Dave we did lots together Walt Disney World. Vegas, A cruise to the Carribean, Houston for his Bday. Vegas again. What a year. This year is going well too. Orlando in February, Vegas in May and soon going to Ireland for 12 Days on a tour. All with Dave again. Alao have seen some younger guys and its not about age but attitude so remember that. One of the youngest escorts I have been with was one of the most mature in thinking and actions Ben from San Anotino. We gelled from the begining and will soon relive a little more time together in Houston. HUGS Chuck

 

 

Your only as old as you feel and even when you are not feeling great surround yourself with young guys to remind you that life can be fun.

[trilingual]

I'm now 57. Mentally I don't feel any older, but of course, my body reminds me from time to time that I'm no longer 20!

 

One thing to consider: If you're able to retire relatively early (I was eligible at 55) DO IT if you can possibly afford it. I was debating retiring or staying on a while longer when it dawned on me that I was going to be 57 this year, which means that in 13 years I will be 70!!! There is no longer an endless supply of "tomorrows." So if there's anything you have been wanting to do with your life besides working, now is the time to start planning for it. BTW, I've been so busy being retired (I abandoned my job at the end of last year) that I haven't had a moment of nostalgia for the office, or even thought about it. Life is just too full of things to do.

 

BTW, if you're worried about meeting guys who like older men, check out the Escorts South of the U.S.A section for all the posts about Brazil. As you'll see, age isn't as much of an issue there as it is in the U.S. You'll feel like a teenager again! If you don't believe me, just ask Tomcal!

[IM_Moore]

Thanks to each of you for your insight. I was having a bad night when I made the original post. For those who know me, no need to worry my next post will be 'back to normal' for me. This post was the exception.