The "Simon Dexter Syndrome" Explained

[bcohen7719]

The author of "Malignant Self-Love" describes Simon Dexter

almost to a "t." This is exactly what he was like.

 

BC

 

[video=youtube;iFUuaw8Pf1M]

[Glenn1441]

The important thing to mention here is that malignant narcissism is a symptom of very, very low esteem. Socially disturbing behavior always has roots in poor childhood development of healthy self-esteem or confidence. This PAPERMAG article from 2010 was written not longer after I met him at an informal social gathering at a wealthy gay man's apartment near Lincoln Center, NYC. As most of the guests invited were/are affluent, it was interesting to watch Simon interact with those guests. His interaction with me was clearly based on his need to not only impress me with his lofty goals and 'exceptional abilities' that were/are certain to allow him to easily achieve his goals, but also to level the playing field between us as he perceived it. At the time, I felt embarrassed for him, as my gut instinct told me his boldly stated plans to design male undergarments, and ultimately, clothing, did not square with what I know of the fashion/apparel industries. And sure enough, the line, DEX by Simon Dexter, never materialized. Here's the link to the interview :http://www.papermag.com/2010/08/simon_dexters_naked_ambition.php

Here is the link to his DEX site. None of the links provided on the site work, of course.

http://www.simondexter.com

His blog is defunct. A white page, nothing more (I assume his sites are compatible with Mac OS X and compatible browsers):

http://simondexterblog.com

Forum members who've met him may have found him, at the very least, polite, but my interaction with him was more along the lines of the PAPERMAG interview. His MO of self-aggrandizement was painfully uncomfortable to experience, and after 3-minutes of interaction I felt the need to get away from him.

 

 

The author of "Malignant Self-Love" describes Simon Dexter

almost to a "t." This is exactly what he was like.

 

BC

 

[video=youtube;iFUuaw8Pf1M]

[bcohen7719]

Wonderful insights and analysis, Glenn1441. "Painfully uncomfortable" is exactly what it was like.

It is an odd feeling to sense one's sexual attraction gradually bleached away the longer such

narcissists babble their nonsense. To be fair, again, Simon is exceedingly polite on the

surface. The disdain--competitive, just as you describe--gradually becomes too much

to bear. Even absolute masochists couldn't put up with it.

 

BC

[bigvalboy]

Wonderful insights and analysis, Glenn1441. "Painfully uncomfortable" is exactly what it was like.

It is an odd feeling to sense one's sexual attraction gradually bleached away the longer such

narcissists babble their nonsense. To be fair, again, Simon is exceedingly polite on the

surface. The disdain--competitive, just as you describe--gradually becomes too much

to bear. Even absolute masochists couldn't put up with it.

 

BC

 

Extremely interesting. Many thanks to BC for posting the link and to Glenn for his insight into the encounter...I actually have met a few people who are frighteningly similar to Simon. More than one of them was an escort. I always walked away baffled at how someone could have that sort of mind set. I remember thinking that maybe it was me.....thanks again for the post.

[BgMstr4u]

Fascinating video. I know someone just like that, have wondered about him, but did not have the terms to describe what I saw. He has recently gone into treatment for "depression" (that's a catchall term, I'm sure). It will be interesting to see what emerges.

[Glenn1441]

The individual you reference must be willing to dig deep within himself if he is to be relieved of the unpleasant behavior you've observed, since depression is merely a symptom of a deeper, underlying issue. If your acquaintance indeed displays signs of malignant narcissism, then facing the fear and self-loathing behind it will be a painful process indeed. A solid, unbiased behavioral therapist will not force a patient/client to confront fears and painful feelings or truths, but by the same token will not allow the client to 'run away' from them -- otherwise, treatment goes no where. At least that was the case when I was in therapy (which was not related to malignant narcissism, lol)...

 

Fascinating video. I know someone just like that, have wondered about him, but did not have the terms to describe what I saw. He has recently gone into treatment for "depression" (that's a catchall term, I'm sure). It will be interesting to see what emerges.

[bcohen7719]

Here's a copy of the review of Simon Dexter.

 

BC

 

http://movies.groups.yahoo.com/group/simondexter/message/2

[ravenous]

Simon shares similar attributes and characteristics in terms of attitude to Malachi Marx. Having been with the latter, I know firsthand to fall and have been duped into contributing to these egotists' business goals.

[Glenn1441]

Thanks... and there we have it. Not surprised by the negative review.

 

Simon shares similar attributes and characteristics in terms of attitude to Malachi Marx. Having been with the latter, I know firsthand to fall and have been duped into contributing to these egotists' business goals.

[bcohen7719]

The important thing to mention here is that malignant narcissism is a symptom of very, very low esteem. Socially disturbing behavior always has roots in poor childhood development of healthy self-esteem or confidence. This PAPERMAG article from 2010 was written not longer after I met him at an informal social gathering at a wealthy gay man's apartment near Lincoln Center, NYC. As most of the guests invited were/are affluent, it was interesting to watch Simon interact with those guests. His interaction with me was clearly based on his need to not only impress me with his lofty goals and 'exceptional abilities' that were/are certain to allow him to easily achieve his goals, but also to level the playing field between us as he perceived it. At the time, I felt embarrassed for him, as my gut instinct told me his boldly stated plans to design male undergarments, and ultimately, clothing, did not square with what I know of the fashion/apparel industries. And sure enough, the line, DEX by Simon Dexter, never materialized. Here's the link to the interview :http://www.papermag.com/2010/08/simon_dexters_naked_ambition.php

Here is the link to his DEX site. None of the links provided on the site work, of course.

http://www.simondexter.com

His blog is defunct. A white page, nothing more (I assume his sites are compatible with Mac OS X and compatible browsers):

http://simondexterblog.com

Forum members who've met him may have found him, at the very least, polite, but my interaction with him was more along the lines of the PAPERMAG interview. His MO of self-aggrandizement was painfully uncomfortable to experience, and after 3-minutes of interaction I felt the need to get away from him.

 

I found "Simon Dexter Underwear" below. Am I wrong--he's just lending his name/endorsement (his google "clicks")

to this website. Doesn't this all belong to someone else?

 

BC

 

http://www.underwearexpert.com/underwear-models/simon-dexter/

[Glenn1441]

You're incorrect, BC. The page in question is a 'brand page' on The Underwear Expert Site. But as you can see, product is not displayed. And that is because Dexter's underwear line was never produced.

 

I found "Simon Dexter Underwear" below. Am I wrong--he's just lending his name/endorsement (his google "clicks")

to this website. Doesn't this all belong to someone else?

 

BC

 

http://www.underwearexpert.com/underwear-models/simon-dexter/

[bcohen7719]

You're incorrect, BC. The page in question is a 'brand page' on The Underwear Expert Site. But as you can see, product is not displayed. And that is because Dexter's underwear line was never produced.

 

I am happy to be incorrect.

 

What is his name doing on that underwear website...?

 

Is that one of those advertising schemes where you

receive back 5 cents for every click--or something like that?

 

BC

[bcohen7719]

I am happy to be incorrect.

 

What is his name doing on that underwear website...?

 

Is that one of those advertising schemes where you

receive back 5 cents for every click--or something like that?

 

BC

 

Glenn1441,

 

Wait, I looked back again--you're right, it's just "Simon Dexter" on a blank

page, but the page has links to another company.

 

I'll send them an inquiry....

 

BC

[Glenn1441]

Yes, the page is blank, and the only links I see are those of advertisers and others that link to particular posts on the site's blog, none of which are related to Dexter specifically.

 

Glenn1441,

 

Wait, I looked back again--you're right, it's just "Simon Dexter" on a blank

page, but the page has links to another company.

 

I'll send them an inquiry....

 

BC

[bcohen7719]

Yes, the page is blank, and the only links I see are those of advertisers and others that link to particular posts on the site's blog, none of which are related to Dexter specifically.

 

Glenn1441,

 

.....just to triple-check, to be absolutely and unambiguously certain that Simon Dexter

was not an unsung corporate underwear mogul or captain of industry, I wrote to the webmaster

of the underwear site.

 

Apparently you are (still) correct.

 

BC

________________________________________

 

Dear [bC],

 

Thanks for your email and for reading The Underwear Expert. We are not

aware of any Simon Dexter underwear line.

 

Regards,

Michael.

 

MICHAEL KLEINMANN

Editor-in-Chief

The Underwear Expert, Inc.

http://www.underwearexpert.com

[Glenn1441]

I read via the Internet grapevine that the intended designer of the underwear collection is a genuine up-and-coming designer named Malan Breton. Apparently Breton met SD via his escort ad. They were to collaborate on the line, but now, seems Batan has moved far, far away from any dealings with this pathological liar and hustler.

 

Glenn1441,

 

.....just to triple-check, to be absolutely and unambiguously certain that Simon Dexter

was not an unsung corporate underwear mogul or captain of industry, I wrote to the webmaster

of the underwear site.

 

Apparently you are (still) correct.

 

BC

________________________________________

 

Dear [bC],

 

Thanks for your email and for reading The Underwear Expert. We are not

aware of any Simon Dexter underwear line.

 

Regards,

Michael.

 

MICHAEL KLEINMANN

Editor-in-Chief

The Underwear Expert, Inc.

http://www.underwearexpert.com

[bcohen7719]

I read via the Internet grapevine that the intended designer of the underwear collection is a genuine up-and-coming designer named Malan Breton. Apparently Breton met SD via his escort ad. They were to collaborate on the line, but now, seems Batan has moved far, far away from any dealings with this pathological liar and hustler.

 

Glenn1441,

 

Well, that concludes the above mystery. Yet I don't understand Simon "I'M STRAIGHT' Dexter's professed

love for a pre-op transsexual--meaning, that person still has a penis.

 

I turned to Youtube for insights.

 

Does the spokesman/woman below shed any light?

 

BC

 

[video=youtube;peZQzlWk09w]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=peZQzlWk09w

[Ajac]

Wow it is amazing how misleading the videos of Sean Cody can be. By the videos you see a funny easy going and likable guy. When you see his video with Addison you think these guys would be fun to hang out with. Now we see one is a narcissistic psychopath and the other actually a murderer. Kind of disturbing. I only hope Dennis on SC is really who he seems to be, it would break my heart to find out he kills puppies in his free time. I have to say I try to never hire gay for pay too often there is the underlying disdain that creeps out.

Wonderful insights and analysis, Glenn1441. "Painfully uncomfortable" is exactly what it was like.

It is an odd feeling to sense one's sexual attraction gradually bleached away the longer such

narcissists babble their nonsense. To be fair, again, Simon is exceedingly polite on the

surface. The disdain--competitive, just as you describe--gradually becomes too much

to bear. Even absolute masochists couldn't put up with it.

 

BC

[jimboivyo]

don't know this simon guy. he sounds like most young gay men these days, all sizzle and no steak

 

sean cody isin the business of selling fantasy just like most scorts that are talked about here. When the spotlight is turned off, I reckon most of us would be surprised at what our favorite escorts are like.

[hornytwells]

Interestingly enough, Simon Dexter is back on rent boy, servicing Phoenix, with a Manhattan cell number......

[+ azdr0710]

Interestingly enough, Simon Dexter is back on rent boy, servicing Phoenix, with a Manhattan cell number......

 

 

http://www.rentboy.com/Listing.aspx?lid=233262&scid=99088640&sp=1&pos=1&locid=1343&iid=104148

[hornytwells]

I see he now describes himself as gay in his profile, isn't that a first?

[ravenous]

I see he now describes himself as gay in his profile, isn't that a first?

 

It's like putting lipstick on a pig...

[natmas02]

you know, I'm all for calling out an escort if he provided bad services several times - but let's keep it at that guys.

 

This thread has become weirdly mean spirited and the fact you guys are like spending a lot of time analyzing his life and personality and making a thread about that rather than his poor services - you guys aren't exactly shining beacons of goodness either.

[Lewis H]

you know, I'm all for calling out an escort if he provided bad services several times - but let's keep it at that guys.

 

This thread has become weirdly mean spirited and the fact you guys are like spending a lot of time analyzing his life and personality and making a thread about that rather than his poor services - you guys aren't exactly shining beacons of goodness either.

 

I was just thinking the same myself.