The "Simon Dexter Syndrome" Explained

[hornytwells]

My comment was not meant in any way to be mean-spiriteed, somewhat the opposite actually, as I thought that by now calling himself gay he was perhaps rethinking his career in more positive terms?

[ravenous]

you know, I'm all for calling out an escort if he provided bad services several times - but let's keep it at that guys.

 

This thread has become weirdly mean spirited and the fact you guys are like spending a lot of time analyzing his life and personality and making a thread about that rather than his poor services - you guys aren't exactly shining beacons of goodness either.

 

I'm sure none of us here would claim we're 'shining beacons of goodness'. It's important to note simon's poor services are essentially based on his life experiences and characteristics hence why the subject is being discussed here.

[bcohen7719]

I absolutely shocked and astonished that some forum members, with all good intentions, call out

to limit criticism of exactly the type of individual we all do NOT wish associated with the

professional male sex work field.

 

There are so many outstanding male sex workers who set an example for others. These have

been pointed out on this forum, which is a sort of "Consumer's Reports" if anything.

 

I've heard privately from several forum members who have been humiliated and ripped

off by Simon Dexter. My own experience was mild by comparison. I continue to point

out Simon was always polite and well-mannered.

 

Does that mean it is OK with others in this small community to see an self-described "escort" put up ads on Rentboy, implying that he will provide certain services, but in actuality never intends to?

 

That is not professional male sex work. It is thievery and dishonesty and predatory behavior.

 

Yet another forum member with a particularly nasty experience with SD indicated

he was intending to contribute to this thread. He now holds back. He doesn't want to be attacked by the pro-escort group.

 

To those who think this thread has gone "too far," you are invited to first hire Simon

yourself. Get a taste of what it is like to be mocked and sneered at for being

gay, for just having natural gay desires--very nicely and politely, of course.

 

BC

[seeker630]

I absolutely shocked and astonished that some forum members, with all good intentions, call out

to limit criticism of exactly the type of individual we all do NOT wish associated with the

professional male sex work field.

 

There are so many outstanding male sex workers who set an example for others. These have

been pointed out on this forum, which is a sort of "Consumer's Reports" if anything.

 

I've heard privately from several forum members who have been humiliated and ripped

off by Simon Dexter. My own experience was mild by comparison. I continue to point

out Simon was always polite and well-mannered.

 

Does that mean it is OK with others in this small community to see an self-described "escort" put up ads on Rentboy, implying that he will provide certain services, but in actuality never intends to?

 

That is not professional male sex work. It is thievery and dishonesty and predatory behavior.

 

Yet another forum member with a particularly nasty experience with SD indicated

he was intending to contribute to this thread. He now holds back. He doesn't want to be attacked by the pro-escort group.

 

To those who think this thread has gone "too far," you are invited to first hire Simon

yourself. Get a taste of what it is like to be mocked and sneered at for being

gay, for just having natural gay desires--very nicely and politely, of course.

 

BC

 

No one should be afraid to relay their experiences here.

 

I'm truly sorry for your painful experience and I can understand the worthy desire to spare others a similar experience, but the attempts at psycho-analysis and delving into whether he really has an underwear line, etc. does seem to me to indicate a bit of an obsession.

[Scorpio]

No one should be afraid to relay their experiences here.

 

I'm truly sorry for your painful experience and I can understand the worthy desire to spare others a similar experience, but the attempts at psycho-analysis and delving into whether he really has an underwear line, etc. does seem to me to indicate a bit of an obsession.

 

I agree with seeker. What was the purpose of investigating whether or not he had an underwear line...it in no way reflects upon his service as escort.

 

Also, I have a bit of a problem with you continuing to paint yourself as an unsuspecting victim in all of this. You willingly and knowingly sought out Simon Dexter with complete knowledge of his escort practices. You basically threw yourself into the lion's den and were surprised that the lion devoured you even though that's the lion's nature.

 

By all means, continue to warn people about Simon's escort practices, that is one of this site's functions.. However, in my opinion, you should alter your approach. Clearly, warn others that you ignored all the all the information and warnings signs because you thought you'd be the expectation to the rule....and implore them to learn from your mistake.

[natmas02]

I'm sure none of us here would claim we're 'shining beacons of goodness'. It's important to note simon's poor services are essentially based on his life experiences and characteristics hence why the subject is being discussed here.

 

..What's the point of doing that really? A bad escort is a bad escort, leave it at that. There's plenty of "good" escorts that have a lot of personal issues as well. But it's not your or my business to post in-depth threads and research on a personal life of an escort. All I see is a huge red flag for you guys are clients that become obsessed.

 

The whole point of daddys is to review escorts based on the agreed time, price, and encounter of an appointment. Anything outside of said agreed appointment, especially with dealing with personal information about escorts or clients, has no business here. As discretion is a huge point for clients, the same respect should be shown to escorts as well.

 

You should keep discussion on poor services, or how he didn't follow through with what was promised just because he's just not a good escort - not because you think he has a personality disorder and how he doesn't have an underwear line.

[bcohen7719]

Fair enough--point taken. Let's end this particular thread, as suggested (at least, from this end).

 

One thinks that male sex workers in general, however, usually elicit more than a yes-no assessment of "Good escort, bad escort." Both this forum and the separate, independent "Reviews" section abound with rich complexities.

 

But again, your point is reasonable, and the timing was right.

 

BC

[bcohen7719]

Fair enough--point taken. Let's end this particular thread, as suggested (at least, from this end).

 

One thinks that male sex workers in general, however, usually elicit more than a yes-no assessment of "Good escort, bad escort." Both this forum and the separate, independent "Reviews" section abound with rich complexities.

 

But again, your point is reasonable, and the timing was right.

 

BC

 

P.S. Nasmat02: Welcome to Daddy's Review! You are a brand-new and

welcome "newbie" member....

[bcohen7719]

P.S. Nasmat02: Welcome to Daddy's Review! You are a brand-new and

welcome "newbie" member....

 

...and just joined in time to end this thread. Magnificent!

 

BC

[bcohen7719]

...lastly, here is Simon Dexter posing (e.g., as in "poser") in front of

a hired (not owned) car. No more after this.

 

BC

 

http://instagram.com/p/eDuChNIKJK/#

[gaypornfan]

well said natmas02

[irishjock]

The author of "Malignant Self-Love" describes Simon Dexter

almost to a "t." This is exactly what he was like.

 

BC

 

[video=youtube;iFUuaw8Pf1M]

 

This makes sense to me!! Thanks for the information.

[bcohen7719]

A few weeks ago, I spotted another local (NYC), handsome, muscular, "gay-for-pay" escort....

just as I had spotted Simon Dexter.

 

Hmmm. I really just wanted company that evening.

 

Still suffering from Post-Simon Traumatic Stress Disorder, the decision was

put off. Best to stay away completely from "straight" escorts, or not? Were

they all the same?

 

I took the plunge. I noted to Mr. New Guy via text messaging that

"I was more of a cuddler," but mentioned nothing about sex (which wasn't

really desired).

 

The visitor was extremely nice. Just like Simon, he lay

next to me in bed while we were watching a movie, a few feet away.

 

Was this to be another traumatic Simon-like

"HEY BUDDY, DON'T TOUCH ME!" experience?

 

No. After 5 minutes Mr New Guy blurted gruffly, "You said you liked to

cuddle, so lets cuddle!" He grabbed me by the scruff of my neck and

wrapped his arms around me. He was absolutely terrific, warm, and

affectionate. He didn't kiss, but asked after 15 minites "OK, what do you like to do

sexually? Want me to top you?, or what?"

 

I didn't really want to do anything, as I just wanted affectionate

company that evening.

 

But it just goes to show....not everybody is cruel.

 

BC