Pay before or after?

[Tighty]

When seeing someone new, should I pay before or after? It seems like the consensus here is pay after. However, if I pay before then I can just pretend I never paid versus my anxiety over don't forget to pay later. I know I'm being anal about it.

[Griffin Donavon]

Sniff sniff..

[big-n-tall]

I say after. If you're meeting someone new and he doesn't meet his end of the bargain/transaction, then you're out all your cash for a possible bad experience.

 

Now if you meet one of the many reputable fine fellows in the industry (many on this board) I say it doesn't matter when you give up the cash. :-P Most times I give the money after, but sometimes I give the money up front. I pay upfront usually because sometimes I forget I'm with an escort by the end (because we're that comfortable with each other).

 

There is one particular escort I have actually left from seeing (on more than one occasion) and forgot to pay. He forgot as well. I have run back up to his room or mine many a time. And yes, he always got his money. LOL!

[+ Tygerscent]

Out of respect, politeness, trust and for legal reasons, I never accept payment until after our session... And that is regardless if whether its two hours, two days, one week or one month your together.

If I was hiring, I would never pay upfront~

Tyger~

http://www.tygerscent.biz

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

Tygerscent on men4rent.com

AAAtygerscentxxx on rentmen.com

Ty in Portland on Daddys Review's

 

Travel: Northwest: (PDX, Seattle, Bend, Salem) Most of August.

LA: mid August.

Mid West: October and possibly August.

Iceland, Amsterdam, Brussels, Brugge: Sept. 4th - 24th

[Tighty]

Tyger, if the new client never asked, do you convey that they pay after?

[+ Tygerscent]

Absolutely. I refuse payment until after the session. I am payed strictly for my time only~ I don't sell sex~

I never pick "the envelope" up off the table and I have them put it into my pocket... AND I NEVER count in front of them~

 

Tyger~

http://www.tygerscent.biz

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

Tygerscent on men4rent.com

AAAtygerscentxxx on rentmen.com

Ty in Portland on Daddys Review's

 

Travel: Northwest: (PDX, Seattle, Bend, Salem) Most of August.

LA: mid August.

Mid West: October and possibly August.

Iceland, Amsterdam, Brussels, Brugge: Sept. 4th - 24th

[tom1980]

When a reputable escort comes to my hotel room, I often leave the money on a table or desk in plain sight. If it's a guy I've never met before and he doesn't have reputable good reviews, then I keep the money in my pocket and pay it at the end of the session.

 

When I go to an escort's hotel room or home, I always keep the money in my pocket until the end of the session and then pay the escort at that time. I also don't use envelopes. I hand the escort the cash directly or set it on a table or desk while he watches so that he knows it is there.

[+ azdr0710]

tom1980 makes good suggestions....however, I usually use envelopes just to keep the cash contained and to be a little discreet and respectful....always tell your guy ahead of time that you'll be leaving the money out at the end of the meeting....don't discuss $$ at the meeting at all (hopefully he doesn't try to upsell you halfway thru - the good ones won't)....if he wants to "take care of business" at the beginning, remind him what you said before.....if he persists, well, I don't know.....

[Tighty]

When a reputable escort comes to my hotel room, I often leave the money on a table or desk in plain sight. If it's a guy I've never met before and he doesn't have reputable good reviews, then I keep the money in my pocket and pay it at the end of the session.

 

When I go to an escort's hotel room or home, I always keep the money in my pocket until the end of the session and then pay the escort at that time. I also don't use envelopes. I hand the escort the cash directly or set it on a table or desk while he watches so that he knows it is there.

 

Do you count the money in front of him?

[Mark Gordon]

Before, during or after is good. And let me know if you need an itemized receipt..

[Guy Fawkes]

I put the money in an envelope with their name on it. It's in plain view when they arrive. Remember that on my site we always assume that: "Stats/Fees listed are the opinion of the reviewer and always assumed to be for time only."

 

When seeing someone new, should I pay before or after? It seems like the consensus here is pay after. However, if I pay before then I can just pretend I never paid versus my anxiety over don't forget to pay later. I know I'm being anal about it.

[jeepman]

I handle payment the same way as Daddy does- in an envelope in plain sight with the gentleman's name on it. However, if I have been with the guy before, I prefer to put it in his pocket as I give him a kiss goodbye. No one has ever counted in front of me but there was one occasion when the gentlemen came back to my room after he left (he apparently counted while waiting for the elevator) and told me that I paid him too much. He apparently was not expecting a tip (but he was certainly worthy of suck a tip.

[jeepman]

Hey Tyger- can I put it in your pants next time we meet?

[+ Tygerscent]

Heheh... Of course you can... At some point We both have to back to our personal home~ :-) We share together time as we will and mutually... Deep and healing. Deep and giving/sharing mutually~

Some part of my self realizes that what is shared between individuals is both sharing and growing points not shared between others... Our time together is our opportunity to heal personally and give back eventually. Even between partners, therapists, family... Shared essential human being with providence in mind towards personal growth~ that is our self growth and provision back with ultimate goal... We grow and provide back into the life we do create on our own accord. In human terms we "need": acceptance, growth and some giving back point~?

Receive to give back in the productive way we are able and possible~?

 

Tyger~

http://www.tygerscent.biz

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

Tygerscent on men4rent.com

AAAtygerscentxxx on rentmen.com

Ty in Portland on Daddys Review's

 

Travel: Northwest: (PDX, Seattle, Bend, Salem) Most of August.

LA: mid August.

Mid West: October and possibly August.

Iceland, Amsterdam, Brussels, Brugge: Sept. 4th - 24th

[bcohen7719]

Absolutely. I refuse payment until after the session. I am payed strictly for my time only~ I don't sell sex~

I never pick "the envelope" up off the table and I have them put it into my pocket... AND I NEVER count in front of them~

 

Tyger~

http://www.tygerscent.biz

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

Tygerscent on men4rent.com

AAAtygerscentxxx on rentmen.com

Ty in Portland on Daddys Review's

 

Travel: Northwest: (PDX, Seattle, Bend, Salem) Most of August.

LA: mid August.

Mid West: October and possibly August.

Iceland, Amsterdam, Brussels, Brugge: Sept. 4th - 24th

 

Tyger,

 

Do you have any links that go further into legal analysis relating to

payment before vs. after?

 

Does this vary by locality/state/country?

 

BC

[Frequentflier]

I handle payment the same way as Daddy does- in an envelope in plain sight with the gentleman's name on it. However, if I have been with the guy before, I prefer to put it in his pocket as I give him a kiss goodbye. No one has ever counted in front of me but there was one occasion when the gentlemen came back to my room after he left (he apparently counted while waiting for the elevator) and told me that I paid him too much. He apparently was not expecting a tip (but he was certainly worthy of suck a tip.

 

Wow...how great of your guy to come back to you. I'd reward a guy like that with many repeats

[Guest Starbuck]

In my first experience (this week), an hourly rate for the escort's time was mentioned in his initial email response to me. Money was never discussed again. When I said I hoped he'd stay for 90 minutes, he didn't clarify the rate; he trusted me to do the math. The money was in an unmarked envelope on a dresser all along. At the end of our time together, I put it on the bed next to the bag he was packing. He eventually (in no big rush) picked it up and packed it without opening it. We kissed for a long time at the door, said goodbye and a few minutes later I got a text message saying that it had been nice to meet me. I don't have a lot of experience with this (as I admitted up front), but my gut tells me this is how a classy guy handles things.