Is this a crazy idea?

[gallahadesquire]

I'm staying at a lovely Inn in New England, where I've stayed before. I ran into the assistant manager: a slender, 5'11" fellow who saw me, gave me ahugesmile, and remembered my name.

 

Today, I went to the front desk ( A Dutch Door) and ad to ask hima couple of things. I was kind leanings the half door. He came over, leaned on the oth half, and smiled, the we finished.

 

Good lord, beings of an advanced age, I find it hardtop believe he has anything but a business interest. It won't affect anything like a tip. I am completely confused as to whether, if not how, to give hima suggestion >>wink wink<< >> nudge nudge<<.

 

Any suggestions?

[smendez1942]

Older men letting their small head do all the thinking causes all sorts of entertainment.

 

My advice is to not risk really embarrassing yourself.

[gallahadesquire]

Older men letting their small head do all the thinking causes all sorts of entertainment.

 

My advice is to not risk really embarrassing yourself.

 

Thank you , Confucius!

[smendez1942]

*grin*

 

While I didn't mean for it to come out like that, it was rather amusing. I need to learn to not drink before 5pm

[gallahadesquire]

*grin*

 

While I didn't mean for it to come out like that, it was rather amusing. I need to learn to not drink before 5pm

 

I'm in a dry town and forgot to bring. DRAT!

[+ beethoven]

What you've told us in your initial question doesn't reveal his sexual orientation at all. Perhaps you could discreetly inquire if there's a gay bar in town? See what the reply is.

[gallahadesquire]

Trust me, there isn't, but I appreciate the suggestion. I might ask a similar question …

[rvwnsd]

Older men letting their small head do all the thinking causes all sorts of entertainment.

 

My advice is to not risk really embarrassing yourself.

 

 

I would scratch the word "older."

[Guest verymarried]

Would mentioning to him that you have not stayed in a nicer place since you vacationed in Provincetown make any sense?

[Frequentflier]

Your question is a good one G and some of us have either been in your position before or may be soon How does one thread this needle....how about:

 

1) If there is a good coffee shop somewhere, best if available in the inn, maybe you could say "I love the coffee here or at XXXX so if you have a few minutes maybe you could stop by and tell me more about this appealing little town unless of course you have to get home quickly to your wife?"

2) "While I respect this is a dry town, is there any reasonably legitimate way for a gentleman to get a drink?"

 

I've been in a position similar as yours and anticipate I'll be again - hopefully I'll be better equipped to thread the needle

[actor61]

One of the worst things about being an "older" gay man is the confusion that goes with it. I'm 61 but am told I look 20 years younger, which is very flattering, but I never pretend to be what I'm not. I'm 61. No use saying I'm 41. Young gay men seem to enjoy hanging out with me (I'm in the Arts) and I find it really tempting to think they're flirting with me but in reality, would a 24 year old kid really be flirting with a 61 year old man? The confusion comes from the mixed signals: the little touches, the hugs, the pecks on the cheek which can make you think that you're going to get lucky but the truth is, in Los Angeles, in show biz, at 61, you're pretty much invisible sexually. I have to fight the impulse to think that young gay men are interested in me and face the hard truth that they like me, just not like "that". There are plenty of attractive men around my age and sooner or later I hope I meet one but when a hot, young desk clerk, barista, student - whatever - flirts with me I just tell myself it's for a better tip or he's practicing for when somebody he's really attracted to comes along.

[+ purplekow]

Be direct. What is so horrible about being turned down. You can't hit a home run without swinging the bat. If you miss you miss, but at least you didnt miss out.

[briancalihc]

Most hotel personal are very personable. They are naturally friendly people, but are expecting you to leave. They see hundreds of different people a month and keep records on all guests. It's part of their training

[Frequentflier]

Be direct. What is so horrible about being turned down. You can't hit a home run without swinging the bat. If you miss you miss, but at least you didnt miss out.

 

EXACTLY...like in hockey (and other sports), if you don't shoot you can't score. The OP should go for it and share details of his hot romp in the sack with the hottie at the inn. I've had my fill of work already this week and I need some truthful stories to imagine will take place for me next week

[+ FreshFluff]

How about just talking to him, asking him about his weekend plans and so on? It's safer than asking direct questions that might scare him off he's in the closet. If he's interested, he will give off signals that show it.

[Diverdan]

I am with Fresh Fluff... ask him about life in this small town... ask where one might get a drink, ask him where some good places are to eat, walk, see the sights, etc. I have had some wonderful experiences with younger guys just by being a nice guy, and a lot of wonderful things developed as a result. If he is gay, and is trying to give you some signals, that will become apparent over time, just not immediately. Remember, he has more to lose than you. If he is gay and you were not, he could get in trouble with his superiors by coming on to a guest who might be offended. So, if you are staying for awhile, take it slow and easy and you may be rewarded. But, if you don't try, you will never know what you might have missed. Good luck and let us know how it all turns out.

[sfguy]

Be direct. What is so horrible about being turned down. You can't hit a home run without swinging the bat. If you miss you miss, but at least you didnt miss out.

I agree with this. There are so many times I regret not making a move or not chatting up a guy who was cruising me. I was always concerned about being rejected or feeling stupid if I misread his glances. But now I feel stupid for not trying and for letting my self-doubt interfere. I know it's easier said that done. In my head, his rejection of me involves insults and the entire bar laughing at me. But in reality, he might say yes! And even if he doesn't, most guys are very polite about it. And if he is a dick about it, then ultimately you dodged a bullet.

 

Now, obviously, you don't wanna jump straight to, "So... wanna fuck?" (unless it's that type of establishment I suppose). But I'm sure you can figure out what would be appropriate.

[Guy Fawkes]

Give him a brilliant smile and say: "Are you open to being taken to dinner by an older gentleman?"

 

 

Know what I mean? Know what I mean?

 

I'm staying at a lovely Inn in New England, where I've stayed before. I ran into the assistant manager: a slender, 5'11" fellow who saw me, gave me ahugesmile, and remembered my name.

 

Today, I went to the front desk ( A Dutch Door) and ad to ask hima couple of things. I was kind leanings the half door. He came over, leaned on the oth half, and smiled, the we finished.

 

Good lord, beings of an advanced age, I find it hardtop believe he has anything but a business interest. It won't affect anything like a tip. I am completely confused as to whether, if not how, to give hima suggestion >>wink wink<< >> nudge nudge<<.

 

Any suggestions?

[Greathands]

Most hotel personal are very personable. They are naturally friendly people, but are expecting you to leave. They see hundreds of different people a month and keep records on all guests. It's part of their training

 

There are always exceptions. I used to work the night shift at a small hotel. I was the only staff member on duty for most of the shift. One evening a guy checked in around 11:30 PM. After a bit of chatting he asked if there were any gay bars in the area. I made some suggestions and told me to let me know what he thought of them when he returned. Around 2:30 AM he came back to give me his report. I then invited him to join me in the back office where we got more aquainted before he headed to his room to get some sleep.