Tipping

[Guest Starbuck]

Forgive a novice question, but ... I am looking forward to my first time with an escort next week and wonder if, on top of the agreed upon fee for his time, tipping is also customary? And, if so, if there's some standard percentage that's appropriate for a satisfying time together? Thanks for any input

[tsgarp]

There is no single answer to this. If his fee is reasonable from the outset AND you have a great time, it would be considered a good thing to add 10% or so. My 2 cents.

[MscleLovr]

Welcome Starbuck! This topic has been addressed before several times - it's no problem that you ask it again, but please use the search function on the upper RHS. In essence, there are some people who agree with tsgarp and many who would not tip since the escort freely sets his fee. I hope you've been clear with the guy you're meeting as to what you enjoy, just as I'm sure he's been clear about the fee he expects afterwards.

[Guest Starbuck]

M'Lord, thanks for your advice, Sir! I did try using the search feature first but none of the stuff that came up seemed to relate specifically to my question ... maybe reference to tipping was made WITHIN those particular posts but was not the "title topic." As to being clear about what I'd enjoy, I may have (so far) fallen short in that area. The gentleman has been clear about his fee and about what he enjoys (which completely covers what I'd enjoy). He has great reviews and has been responsive in communications. But I haven't specifically told him I'd like A, B & C -- and, to tell the truth, I'm not so sure I can handle "C" or if I just think I'd like to try to handle it. Are you advising that I should not expect anything I don't lay out on the table first? I guess I was thinking there might be some "go with the flow" and I'm kind of OK with that. (But I am wondering now if that sounds like dumb "newbie" talk?)

[tyro]

Hi Starbuck!

To answer your question directly, I did (generously) tip the first guy I hired. I don't do that so much anymore because, as has been said, the guys do make 100% profit if you go to them, which is generally how I see "mah boyzes." Right now, especially if this is your very first time hiring, I'd say it's more important to communicate well and enjoy the experience.

T

[Epigonos]

Starbuck

 

I have been hiring escorts now for about eleven years and, to date, have NEVER tipped one. I always explain to a guy I am considering hiring exactly what I am looking for and ask what his fee would be for those activities. He sets his fee and, as a general rule, I NEVER bargain. If his requested fee is too high I apologize for wasting his time, sign off and move on. If his fee is in the ballpark we proceed. I consider escorts professionals and as I do not tip the other professionals I use (doctors, lawyers, dentists, auto mechanics, etc.) I do not tip escorts. For me, at least, it is that simple.

 

P.S. I NEVER hire an escort from an agency, however, if I did I "might" consider tipping him.

 

P.P.S.S. Good luck, relax, enjoy and I wish you a fantastic experience

[Guest Starbuck]

Tyro & Epigonos -- First of all, I'm duly impressed by all the pedigrees (lord, baron, earl) -- OK, so I feel a little lowly right now; I'll cope. Thanks, both of you, for your input. Epigonos, I see your point about "professionals" (and, funny thing, this fellow mentioned to me that he is a business "professional"--other than the kind of professional we're talking about). But Tyro raises a good point because this fellow is coming to me (as opposed to me going to him) and is about 45 minutes away. On the other hand, my understanding is that he does not host on his home turf ... and it is, of course, his choice to take the appointment.

[bigvalboy]

Please do not use me as a guide, since I generally tip about 25%. I am and always have been a very heavy tipper. It is just something that I am comfortable with. My Dad never tipped more than 10% so I am not sure where all of this came from. But since I feel good doing it, I don't try and second guess myself. In the end there are no kids to put through college or someone to leave my money to or a some wife out there buying Prada and Chanel, so I just tip what makes me feel good....

[Guest Starbuck]

BVB ... Oh, Man, do I hear you! I've often suspected that my own inclination to tip well comes directly from watching my father throw a few bucks on the table after a fine meal, well-served. I always made sure to have cash on hand if we ate out together and, as he was walking toward the door, I'd improve the tip by multiples. Getting off topic with that, but I had to share. I suppose I could bring it back around by saying that I'm pretty sure my dad never hired a male escort either. So the acorn fell far from that tree.

[+ azdr0710]

I hope the meeting goes well....smile, take it slow and easy, chat him up but don't ramble, offer some water or a beer....keep you eye on the clock and make sure all of A, B, and C get done!.....

 

if the meet was entirely fine, I'll leave a few extra dollars and my trademark Trader Joe's gift card for $25 or so...most love it and it might remind them of me later on when they use it....one bodybuilder I used to see requested a Benihana's gift card so he could go get an all-you-can-eat sushi meal afterwards...he also liked cans of tuna....

[JT Brooklyn]

Well I guess a TIP flys in Manhattan alot...But in Brooklyn at what $250/300 an Hour in 2013..The TIP is included!

 

As was said to me.."Your Regular Participation is better than any TIP I would ever get"! Cums to alot more than 1 Tip!

[MalcomXpark]

... In the end there are no kids to put through college or someone to leave my money to or a some wife out there buying Prada and Chanel, so I just tip what makes me feel good....

 

You don't even have nephews or anybody else you'd like to have something from you when you pass away?

 

P.E.T.A.?

 

I have a favorite nephew, and I have an account for him, but he doesn't know it yet.

[bigvalboy]

BVB ... Oh, Man, do I hear you! I've often suspected that my own inclination to tip well comes directly from watching my father throw a few bucks on the table after a fine meal, well-served. I always made sure to have cash on hand if we ate out together and, as he was walking toward the door, I'd improve the tip by multiples. Getting off topic with that, but I had to share. I suppose I could bring it back around by saying that I'm pretty sure my dad never hired a male escort either. So the acorn fell far from that tree.

 

That is so damn funny. I thought that I was the only one doing that. My Dad would tip sometimes 5% when we went out, so like yourself, I would always slip back into the restaurant and slide the waiter (sometimes cute) another 20% or so....He did catch me once and asked what it was that I handed the waiter. I told him that I gave the waiter the rest of his tip...he and my Mom were furious. OMG we argued all the way home...lol....but I was an adult at that time, so I stood my ground. I still laugh to myself when I think about it.

[bigvalboy]

You don't even have nephews or anybody else you'd like to have something from you when you pass away?

P.E.T.A.?

 

I have a favorite nephew, and I have an account for him, but he doesn't know it yet.

 

Actually no...My sister and her husband are Bentley people. They certainly don't need my money. AND my neighbor just died this morning of lung cancer....52 years old....life is short....I'm spending every dime while I am alive.

[MalcomXpark]

Actually no...My sister and her husband are Bentley people. They certainly don't need my money. AND my neighbor just died this morning of lung cancer....52 years old....life is short....I'm spending every dime while I am alive.

 

First of all I'm sorry to hear about your neighbor!

 

What about cousins, any other family members? Your Alma Mater?

[bigvalboy]

First of all I'm sorry to hear about your neighbor!

 

What about cousins, any other family members? Your Alma Mater?

 

lol...stop it.

[marylander1940]

Well I guess a TIP flys in Manhattan alot...But in Brooklyn at what $250/300 an Hour in 2013..The TIP is included!

 

As was said to me.."Your Regular Participation is better than any TIP I would ever get"! Cums to alot more than 1 Tip!

 

I agree with you!

 

250/300 per hour! That's enough, even in NYC.

 

Ryan Rose charges 350 for incalls, he doesn't need a tip.

 

http://www.rentboy.com/Listing.aspx?lid=385966

 

thread about Ryan Rose

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?94055-I-did-not-know-RYAN-ROSE-escorted&highlight=ryan+rose

[down_to_business]

That is so damn funny. I thought that I was the only one doing that. My Dad would tip sometimes 5% when we went out, so like yourself, I would always slip back into the restaurant and slide the waiter (sometimes cute) another 20% or so....He did catch me once and asked what it was that I handed the waiter. I told him that I gave the waiter the rest of his tip...he and my Mom were furious. OMG we argued all the way home...lol....but I was an adult at that time, so I stood my ground. I still laugh to myself when I think about it.

 

Would there have been a lesser argument on the way home if you would have said you gave him your phone number instead??

[Steven_Draker]

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Since we're in a playful mode, here's an old thread I dug out for you ... (if you wanna have a laugh that is)

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?91212-Topics-we-should-not-bring-up-in-2013-to-avoid-repeated-conversations&highlight=tipping

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

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Since we're in a playful mode, here's an old thread I dug out for you ... (if you wanna have a laugh that is)

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?91212-Topics-we-should-not-bring-up-in-2013-to-avoid-repeated-conversations&highlight=tipping

 

Best thread ever.

[Frequentflier]

Actually no...My sister and her husband are Bentley people. They certainly don't need my money. AND my neighbor just died this morning of lung cancer....52 years old....life is short....I'm spending every dime while I am alive.

 

BVB. You have a great plan - to spend every dime while you're alive and I hope you're enjoying every cent (are the hot pizza delivery men still making passes at you when they arrive with dinner?) - you might consider a further suggestion of maxing out your credit cards and writing a check that won't clear before the last day. And yes i realize that this suggestion requires a bit of luck and reasonably accurate estimating to pull off

[+ azdr0710]

I do recommend the thread in Steven's post above....even if most of us read it last January, worth another look and laugh....read the entire thing

[tyro]

I concur. It was worth revisiting.

T

[marylander1940]

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[+ bigjoey]

If the guy is amazing on our first get-together and I want to see him again, I give a large tip so he will remember me and be encouraged to see me next time.

 

I tend to hire for overnights or weekends. During that time, I treat the escort well from good meals or a show to gym time and and sometimes a small gift or souvenir; at that point, the fee is normally all the money that changes hands. After a weekend with me, they like the way they are treated so I always get return visitors without a tip. I show my appreciation by treating them well when they are with me and that seems to be enough. Now, it is not just treating them to good things that are physical like a show or meal but by treating them with decency and respect.