Rejected in Texas

[TXTWOSTEP]

So, I had a first time experience the other day. I actually got turned down by an escort, although he was kind in the way he did it but I must admit I was a little hurt by it. I had contacted a guy from rentboy and although he had not been reviewed on here (I know, I know…) he had an interesting, verifiable background and had done some porn work in the past so I knew he was ligit. When I contacted him I was upfront about my stats which includes being in my early 60’s. He contacted me back and said he did have availability but to make sure we would have a good experience he asked for some pictures. I hesitated but decided, what the hell, and sent him a couple (g rated). I then got back a response that, while I was a handsome guy, he didn’t think it would work for him.

Now I’ve thought about that quite a bit over the last week or so. I was a bit hurt at first….I mean really…to get rejected by a paid service!!! I’m admittedly a little long in the tooth but I’m not a bad looking guy, average build, etc etc. I finally came to the conclusion that I’d rather he be honest than try to fake it and waste his time and my money. So….I moved on, hired a planetjockboy new guy and had a rockin time!

[Decatur Guy]

I was once turned down by an escort as well, and pretty early in my hiring days. At the time, I was struggling with the self-esteem issue some other clients face: Has it come to the point I have to pay money -- and GOOD money -- for sex? it takes me more than a day than an escort makes in an hour. It's not an easy decision to spend that kind of money.

 

So throw in the fact that $200 an hour AND my looks still weren't enough, and that was pretty ego bruising. But better to have hurt feelings and $200 in your pocket than to have been out the money and have the hurt feelings anyway.

[Frequentflier]

Hi Txtwostep. Don't let the experience bother you for a second longer. You didn't get "rejected" by your Mom, another relative, friend, etc whose opinion and relationship you actually care about. You have no idea the motives of the escort. Is he legitimately the guy in the pictures? Does he look anything like the pictures now or are they outdated and he's put on years and pounds. Is he getting pictures for some nefarious reason? Send stats, sure and I always do, but I never send pictures. Very glad you rebounded and had a great time with another man - something that made both that guy and you happy.

[Becket]

Ha. I once had an escort get up and leave in the MIDDLE of a session! "just not working for me," he said.

 

Talk about feeling rejected!!!

 

What I have learned is that if there is not chemistry, he's wasting his time and I'm wasting my money. No matter how much cash is on the table, it's still sex and intimacy. If it doesn't work, it's nobody's fault. It just happens. Move on to the next hot guy.

[tyro]

Very glad you had a positive experience with the guy from Jockboys. Review him for us.

T

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I think it is much better to be rejected before scheduling an appointment than to get there and have him not be able to perform.

[down_to_business]

I don't recommend lying to an escort about your appearance but I do recommend simply moving on from any escort that demands a picture from you. I am a strong believer that the very best escorts can find something to connect with just about anyone.

If I really want to experience rejection and be judged, I will put myself out there and go on a real date.

[Xander]

I have never turned down a client. But I was *REALLY* close one time. He was in his 80's. And he had a catheter in. Never mentioned either of this. He also insisted I fuck him - that part never panned out.

[unsub2O17]

That's tough. It's happened to me twice--once when I was just starting out and the other about a year later. In both cases, I found that the best antidote was having a rockin good time with a different escort as soon as possible. Just like you, Txt. And I'm 67, so you're not, by any means, alone.

[DeeGeeBee]

I agree with your remark "I am a strong believer that the very best escorts can find something to connect with just about anyone." I've met many escorts who clearly love sex so much they can find a vibe with anyone.

 

I don't recommend lying to an escort about your appearance but I do recommend simply moving on from any escort that demands a picture from you. I am a strong believer that the very best escorts can find something to connect with just about anyone.

If I really want to experience rejection and be judged, I will put myself out there and go on a real date.

[BigK]

Just happened to me recently. I thanked the escort. It's a little deflating, but it's so much better to not see an escort rather than being in the middle of a session and realizing that the escort is not into you at all.

 

It's just part of the interview process to improve your odds of having a good time.

[down_to_business]

Just happened to me recently. I thanked the escort. It's a little deflating, but it's so much better to not see an escort rather than being in the middle of a session and realizing that the escort is not into you at all.

 

It's just part of the interview process to improve your odds of having a good time.

 

Most escorts are genuinely pleasant to be around but almost all are not really into me. Maybe some are better at not showing it than others??

[Diverdan]

I have only had one experience where someone told me that it just would not work out. This was after many conversations and attempts to meet, and he was always the one that kept changing things. I was pretty upset at the time, but upon reflection, I am glad he said it would not work, as the first clue for me should have been that he was drinking a beer when I arrived on time, and when I went to use the bathroom, there were at least six empty beer bottles on the counter. When I came out of the bathroom, he told me that he was sorry, but that "it was not working for him". He was a good looking guy and had some great pictures, but in retrospect I thought later that some of them might not have been him, as he looked smaller and thinner than some of the pictures. So, I saved my money and later that evening had a great time with someone else. I am a firm believer in chemistry, and the best guys seem to find something to make the chemistry work. So glad you had a good time and don't look back !!

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[smendez1942]

I'm a firm believer in people telling the truth about themselves

 

If you're morbidly obese, say so up front. don't play games. If you have weird growths or anything that might impede an escort's ability to have intimacy, disclose it. The worst thing you'll hear is no and over an email, that's not really a big deal

[diehard_002]

OP, one way of looking at it is we reject most escorts by not hiring them. so the occasional reverse rejection is ok. i see dancers being rejected all the time at nyc lap dance places...some customers can be real insensitive.

[bigvalboy]

OP, one way of looking at it is we reject most escorts by not hiring them. so the occasional reverse rejection is ok. i see dancers being rejected all the time at nyc lap dance places...some customers can be real insensitive.

 

100% correct, and this is the first time that I have seen someone mention this. I rejected a dancer the other night, in fact even made a disparaging comment about him to the bartender when I walked in. Not my finest hour. I was quickly called out for it, and then was introduced to the young man. While he was not my type, he was charming, well spoken, gracious, and tried to be attentive to me, which is what most if not all of the patrons were looking for last night.

 

I remember watching him walk away and I was thinking to myself what a complete 'ass' I had been, and that he must face rejection on a nightly basis. Many of us rarely put these kids on an equal footing, and think of them as simply a commodity that is to bartered with.

[smendez1942]

I see the OP's problem as a balance of power issue. Many guys here hire to satisfy sexual need but to also feel some sense of having the upper hand. I've read 'I paid him to leave' a lot here and that screams of a person who has control issues going on

 

When an escort says no, it turns the tables. Some people like that, some don't. I wouldn't let it keep you up at night.

[BallerBoy]

I see the OP's problem as a balance of power issue. Many guys here hire to satisfy sexual need but to also feel some sense of having the upper hand. I've read 'I paid him to leave' a lot here and that screams of a person who has control issues going on

 

When an escort says no, it turns the tables. Some people like that, some don't. I wouldn't let it keep you up at night.

 

I agree with this ^^

 

While I'm only in my mid 30s, I've hired 2 guys in the past. One 23, and the other 25. My self esteem has an even-flow to it (some days, I'm good, others I'm feeling low).. Despite working out and having a nice body, I really struggle with social relationships. So the "power trip" I get when I hire an extremely sexy younger guy pumps my ego. However, unlike most guys who hire escorts, I'm able to see this flaw in myself and make the necessary adjustments when needed to protect my ego and pride. Most guys would see me and ask; "why do you have to pay someone for sex?".

 

The answer is much deeper and complicated of course. But in the end, not all clients are equal. Some hire escorts to fulfilled and replenish a fragile or deflated ego. Others hire simply because they want the sex with a hot guy. All of the reasons require realistic expectations.

[discreet]

I agree with your remark "I am a strong believer that the very best escorts can find something to connect with just about anyone." I've met many escorts who clearly love sex so much they can find a vibe with anyone.

 

I'd second this one, I hire escorts because I don't want to be rejected like usual dates etc. I don't share face because I am discreet, so most dates won't work because gay guys always ask for face pictures and there are so many fake profiles online. Now, I hire escorts because I don't wanna deal with this BS and save some time and energy for me. Plus, if I were to be rejected, I'd be rejected by random hot guys online without any money involved, it's much easier to handle. I am not paying over 200 per an hour for his enjoyment. This is where escorts have to work and earn the money. Initially, I thought escorts would have some discount for younger and decent looking guys because the job would be easier, so I introduced myself honestly in details but never worked that way. Always the same rate. Then I thought, why bother? Since then, I don't share pictures, I never shared my stats or anything, and I've run into a very few escorts who actually asked for my stats and pictures. I just move on. And among the guys I hired, no one rejected me even though they didn't see my pictures and stats. I think that is where professional guys shine. Period. If an escort get the same rate for serving a 80yo man, he must serve me with the same rate without rejecting.

[MalcomXpark]

I think it is much better to be rejected before scheduling an appointment than to get there and have him not be able to perform.

 

Yes, or even worse, get there and the client not been able to perform as a top or as a bottom, because he forgot to take his blue pill (because he NEVER needs it) or because he couldn't keep his legs up in the air to bottom.

 

I know a local DC escort and he told me in the last month he had 4 obese guys trying to fuck him and they couldn't, he even lifted their watermelon size bellies, but they couldn't reach his ass to fuck him. Obviously they all say, it never happened to them before, they are always tops...

 

Btw, when someone is so fat, the skin grows back around his cock, which means he's no longer cut, he's uncut and he must wash it before sex...

 

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[seeker630]

 

The answer is much deeper and complicated of course. But in the end, not all clients are equal. Some hire escorts to fulfilled and replenish a fragile or deflated ego. Others hire simply because they want the sex with a hot guy. All of the reasons require realistic expectations.

 

Very true.

[GoodFella69]

Discretion is of upmost importance to me. So I've never felt comfortable sending an escort my pics when he insists on me doing so before he will confirm an appointment with me. However, in many years of hiring, I've only experienced two escorts who demanded photos from me up-front (once in NYC and once in Texas). Both times, I moved on to other fellas.

 

Goodfella

[MrBigTL]

I personally have never been rejected outright by an escort, and I have even sent photos ahead of time so that they knew what they were getting into with me, but then I have always believed honesty is the best policy. I have no growths or any other outstanding negatives, but as a 50+ year old gay man I am very sensitive to the fact that I might not be someone's cup of tea, but would prefer to know that up front rather than wasting my time and money on a sub par experience. I like to have a good time and I don't mind spending money doing so, but I hate to waste time if it is not going to work. So far, no one has said no, but I prefer for the option to be out there. Just my experience and practice.