Washing of Hands after Bathroom Call

[rocky]

OK, this is both an ask the escort and ask anyone of the fellow who visit M4M. I think it should be no thought what so ever, you go take a bathroom break (and you know it's just a pee break) but return without washing hands? Now, I see an escort on weekends and we've been together for over 10 years; in the morning he'll give me a "peck" and say, have to pee and he does, flushes and no water I'm hearing cleansing of hands. Now this from an individual who won't share a toothbrush, we have separate towels, very neat, clean, etc.; I don't get it. what should I do?? Well maybe just say, wash your hands..

[Juan Vancouver]

Without having to go through the fact that urine is the cleanest, most sterile secretion that will come from a healthy man's body, the thing that matters is that this clearly makes you uncomfortable. To avoid any discussion or hurt feelings either way, if I were you, next time he does that (or next time any partner does that) I would laugh a little when he comes back and I will say something like:

 

"I have to confess something... (little laugh) I know it's a bit silly but when you pee and don't wash your hands afterwards I can't focus on anything else... (little smile) I know it's a personal thing, but I would be able to take my mind off this thought if you did wash your hands. It's not a big deal, it would just make me a bit more comfortable."

 

Then pat him on the butt affectionately, and with your attitude show him it's not a big deal and it doesn't even merit a conversation.

 

If I am suggesting not to open it for discussion and present it as a little quirk of yours is because this is really not a matter of factual hygiene but personal comfort. Any escort (or partner) worth his salt would respond kindly to this approach and would try to remember to wash. Things are much easier to deal with when they are taken out of the right or wrong arena.

 

There is no reason for which you would have to put of with anything that makes you uneasy without talking about it.

 

I hope this is helpful. =)

[tom1980]

I always wash my hands after peeing and usually use soap (I always use soap to wash after taking a crap), but it doesn't disgust me if a guy doesn't wash his hands after peeing. If it bothers you, mention it. Tell him that you have an issue with toilet germs and would like for him to wash his hands after peeing when he's with you. Or you could get out of bed and get him into the shower so that you can wash him all over.

[+ beethoven]

If you're concerned about the health of "your guys" down there (as Seinfeld's neighbor Kramer calls them), one ought to wash his hands BEFORE taking a pee! As was stated, urine is sterile, and not washing hands after urinating can't cause any harm. But society says to do it, and I'd never fail to wash my hands if anyone else is present.

I'm amazed at how many people fail to wash their hands before eating. I can't say anything to anyone I'm with, as that would be insulting. Anyway, it's their problem, not mine.

[+ Travis69]

Close the lid before you flush. Germs from what is in the bowl can fly 20 feet in the air.

[wisconsinguy]

If you're talking about getting up in the am, walking into the BR, NOT touching the seat, NOT touching any part of your "junk," then factually you might be ok. However, if you touch the seat, touch your unit, bla, bla, bla, you would probably culture off some stuff you may not want to pass off with your hands. Yes, urine is fairly clean, but it also cultures a few bacteria out as well. Usually from the urethra as the urine escapes. Always best to wash those pinkies no matter what type of discharge you do.

Healthguy

[sfguy]

I understand why it's off-putting, but I don't think it's a huge deal, especially given the things that probably happened before he peed or after he peed. Likewise, I understand that bacteria gets on the surfaces of the bathroom, but they're all over the bed too. Given the context, it wouldn't bother me.

[bigvalboy]

Close the lid before you flush. Germs from what is in the bowl can fly 20 feet in the air.

 

And 5 feet even with the lid closed....that's close enough to get all over the towels Only gay men would know this kind of stuff...lol

[Frequentflier]

I don't have the knowledge to opine on urine being sterile so somebody doesn't have to wash their hands because of that. Cmon, they are touching their genitals and then coming back to me and not long thereafter we're making breakfast. Wash your freaking hands! Washing your hands more regularly (I've read but I'm no germ expert) results in fewer colds. I'm not overly fixed on cleanliness but when I do an overnight or weekend, while discussing details before finalizing, I comment on at least one a day showers being necessary. I like a clean body and only certain areas (the face) shaved

[Guest countryboywny]

Depending on my perceived "cleanliness" of a public restroom, I usually do not wash my hands after peeing.. I think my wee-wee is cleaner than touching public faucets, wet sinks and exit door handles.

[MscleLovr]

I'm a hygiene-freak (and I hate how people cough and sneeze openly nowadays) but I agree with what's been written about how this is not worrisome. The only published research that I know of was in The Lancet about 25 years ago; hands were swabbed before entry and on leaving a public bathroom. Surprisingly perhaps, not washing hands after urination was the best course of action (as defined by number of bacteria on the hands). FWIW hot air-dryers were the worst in terms of multiplying the bacteria found on hands.

 

But as the matter troubles you, why not simply mention it? I don't see how he will object to a polite request to wash his hands before you resume your intimacy.

[doitb4ugo]

Washing your hands after peeing would be helpful in ridding them of the germs coming from a cock that had just been sucked and all those aweful mouth germs were still active.

 

PS - I don't fret about someone not washing after touching what I am about to put into my mouth. Seems funny to worry about his hands at a time like this.

[Steven_Draker]

I think my wee-wee is cleaner than touching public faucets, wet sinks and exit door handles.

 

We have a winner! Urine is sterile; everything else you touch in a public bathroom it is not.

 

Wash your hands.

[+ Gar1eth]

Depending on my perceived "cleanliness" of a public restroom, I usually do not wash my hands after peeing.. I think my wee-wee is cleaner than touching public faucets, wet sinks and exit door handles.

 

I touch the faucet when turning it on before I soap up. After soaping up, I use my elbow to turn off the faucet and obtain the paper towel. I use the paper towel to open the door. Frequently nowadays you will see a waste basket at the door because of this. If the towel is dirty, I've done the best I can. If there is an air dryer and no towel I try to use my shirt to open the door.

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

We have a winner! Urine is sterile; everything else you touch in a public bathroom it is not.

 

Wash your hands.[/color]

 

Urine may be sterile but

 

#1. Urine is a great culture medium for bacteria. So they like to grow in it.

 

#2. I've read that the penis, groin, and thighs become colonized with E.coli and other fecal germs. So touching that area would get them on your hands. Now they are your own bacterial flora- so you are pretty much immune to to them causing you harm. But if you are going to end up touching anything else- someone's hands, a doorknob, cookies in a bowl, etc- you could probably transmit them to someone else.

#3. Dried urine is sticky!!

 

Gman

[Frequentflier]

Depending on my perceived "cleanliness" of a public restroom, I usually do not wash my hands after peeing.. I think my wee-wee is cleaner than touching public faucets, wet sinks and exit door handles.

 

I with you on this. I wash my hands though and the last thing they touch are the paper towels and I always use them to open the door. The other alternative is the pocket size hand cleanser liquid. I not freakish about germs it just that I hate having a cold or flu and I've convinced myself (right or wrong) that regular hand washing reduces the risk.

[Frequentflier]

If I'm paying, you're washing your hands

 

I'm making a list of all the respondents who said they don't wash their hands so if I ever meet them they'll understand my look of horror when they extend their hands !

[doitb4ugo]

I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that if someone not washing their hands after going to the bathroom is an issue, how do you wrap your heads arounds kissing, giving or getting a blow job, or rimming someone....

[Frequentflier]

I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that if someone not washing their hands after going to the bathroom is an issue, how do you wrap your heads arounds kissing, giving or getting a blow job, or rimming someone....

 

All those areas are washed before playtime begins. Although I don't insist on someone washing their lips or brushing their teeth before I check their tonsils with my tongue. So, similar but different

[doitb4ugo]

you're quite right. in the scenario of the OP, the bathroom break was in the middle of play....

[rocky]

I have heard some great advice and comments. As far as one's sexual encounter with an escort or other friends with benefit, I would expect a thorough cleaning before hand. I'm just a bit surprised in general that someone leaving the rest room without washing ones hands wouldn't be more of an issue, hey they leave signs in restaurants for their help..

[+ Travis69]

Some people don't use soap and water but do wipe their hands well on the closest towel. Maybe that's the towel you'll use for your next shower or face washing!! The possibilities of what doesn't and does happen in the bathroom after using the toilet are endless and scary!!!

[Daverwr]

If you're talking about getting up in the am, walking into the BR, NOT touching the seat, NOT touching any part of your "junk," then factually you might be ok. However, if you touch the seat, touch your unit, bla, bla, bla, you would probably culture off some stuff you may not want to pass off with your hands. Yes, urine is fairly clean, but it also cultures a few bacteria out as well. Usually from the urethra as the urine escapes. Always best to wash those pinkies no matter what type of discharge you do.

Healthguy

 

Thanks, WisconsinGuy. As someone with an neurogenic bladder, I know first hand that it is very easy to have a urinary tract infection and not even know it. An infection that might not be detectable to one could have dire consequences to another. Wash Your Hands Boys! Is it really so difficult or time-consuming?

[Francois]

I never wash. Hand sanitiser.

[bobchitown]

Cmon, they are touching their genitals and then coming back to me

 

And, unless you know some magic way to have sex I don't know of, those same genitals are soon going to be your hands or mouth or heaven knows where. The guy's hands are the least thing I'd be worried about, but then I'm the poster child for anti-germophobia.