So what have I learned on Daddy's so far?

[Becket]

I'm stealing tanman4u's original idea and posting this thread for your commenting pleasure: What have we learned that we didn't know before, from being a member of the Daddy's forum. Three items come to mind initially to this newbie:

 

1. There are more desirable guys in the escort universe than I will ever get around to enjoying. But the anticipation and imagining is great fun.

 

2. It is really easy to offend others here. Something about message and meaning getting lost in translation once the words are in print.

 

3. Hanging out here is highly addictive. During the time I've spent hear my laundry has bred and att is screaming at me about not getting paid. Go figure.

 

.......and you?

[tyro]

I've learned how important it is to have a "tribe." No place I've worked has provided that for me. I'm not in contact with my family right now, so they're not my tribe either. Oddly enough, this straight woman has found hers here.

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[operalover21]

I'm stealing tanman4u's original idea and posting this thread for your commenting pleasure: What have we learned that we didn't know before, from being a member of the Daddy's forum. Three items come to mind initially to this newbie:

 

1. There are more desirable guys in the escort universe than I will ever get around to enjoying. But the anticipation and imagining is great fun.

 

2. It is really easy to offend others here. Something about message and meaning getting lost in translation once the words are in print.

 

3. Hanging out here is highly addictive. During the time I've spent hear my laundry has bred and att is screaming at me about not getting paid. Go figure.

 

.......and you?

 

Being offended is highly overrated and a highly overused emotion.

[+ purplekow]

That even the nicest posters can infuriate you at times. That the snobbiest of posters can give solid down home advice, so it pays to listen even when you don't think you could bear to hear another name drop. That the ether can generate real emotions and lasting friendships. That there are many men out there who are sexy to me who are not necessarily beautiful. That we are all looking for something special in our lives and many of us are willing to search in surprising places for it.

 

Oh and while the coward dies a thousands deaths and the valiant die but once, posters on Daddy's never die, they just pop up with a different name.

[Steven_Draker]

I agree with your "lost in translation" comment. It happens to me at least once every day.

 

I learned

 

1. To focus on the positive and weed out the negative vibes (work in progress)

 

2. To keep in touch with a few familiar faces and handles

 

3. The sense of community

[unsub2O17]

The need to communicate your honest (real) feelings and thoughts clearly and, if necessary, repeatedly.

[bigvalboy]

I learned that there are people here that I care about, worry about, think about and yet I have never met.

 

I have learned that when all is said and done, there can be common ground with those that I am diametrically opposed to politically, and at the end of the day, still laugh and understand one another.

 

I have learned that no matter what you say, there is going to be someone that disagrees with you, and there is absolutely nothing you can do to change their minds.

 

I have learned that meeting someone in cyber space can produce a deep and long lasting friendship, despite the obstacles, and that friendships can grow beyond this forum.

 

And lastly I have learned that I can find sexual happiness without paying for it....

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

hear my laundry has bred and att is screaming at me about not getting paid.

 

Your laundry does bareback?

[N13]

Keeping up the spirit of three things:

 

1. It isn't easy to stay on point.

 

2. There are people here who I think I would really enjoy meeting.

 

3. The overwhelming probability is that someone or someones are going to twist everything you write. You then decide "Fuck it!" and that you will no longer post. Then you post anyway!

 

why not break the rule - everyone else does.

 

4. I have had many belly laughs courtesy of some wonderful people!

[Phil_musc]

Your laundry does bareback?

 

Even though I come here to learn things, I also am surprised at the twisted humor that occasionally rears its lovely head.

 

Case in point - thanks, Chris!

[+ Charlie]

In almost 14 years on this MB, I have learned a lot of things, but I'll try to limit myself to three.

 

1. When I finally meet him, a poster never looks like the mental picture I have formed from reading his posts.

 

2. No matter how offbeat my questions, there is always someone here who will provide me the information I need (e.g., how much should I pay a clergyman to perform the burial service for my mother?).

 

3. When an escort starts participating here, he loses his mystique as a glamorous sex symbol and reveals himself to be as normal as all the other posters.

 

Oh, and one other thing: whenever I say something in a thread like this one, I get in trouble with someone.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

1. I look forward Fridays and the update to Friday Funnies. Jackhammer, thanks for starting the thread.

 

2. When hiring an escort, he can only meet your expectations when you clearly communicate those expectations to him.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

3. When an escort starts participating here, he loses his mystique as a glamorous sex symbol and reveals himself to be as normal as all the other posters.

 

I can't begin to tell you how many people on here I feel are that much sexier because they show a sense of humor, a brain and so on.

[tanman4u]

I'm stealing tanman4u's original idea and posting this thread for your commenting pleasure: What have we learned that we didn't know before, from being a member of the Daddy's forum. Three items come to mind initially to this newbie:

 

1. There are more desirable guys in the escort universe than I will ever get around to enjoying. But the anticipation and imagining is great fun.

 

2. It is really easy to offend others here. Something about message and meaning getting lost in translation once the words are in print.

 

3. Hanging out here is highly addictive. During the time I've spent hear my laundry has bred and att is screaming at me about not getting paid. Go figure.

 

.......and you?

 

I think you did a much better job of starting this post than I would have. The things I've learned haven't been as "deep" as some mentioned here. Since becoming a member here over a decade ago, and I'm thinking it was actually longer but that might have been just as a lurker, I know that it was during HooBoy days, this is the first website I go to when I roll over and turn on my iPad every morning. I don't know why. It's not like I'm hiring escorts every week and I'm certainly not qualified to be one, but I do hire several times a year and find some fascination in following the lives, rants, ravings, ideas, etc., of those who are or do.

So, in no particular order and not nearly as well though out as I thought it would have when I first broached the though earlier......

• Never pay up front.
  
• Always try to hire only well reviewed guys. (I haven't followed this one near enough but have only gotten burned maybe 25% of the time).
  
• When you don't follow the "well reviewed guys rule" and you get burned because of it at least try to write a review so save some other guy of suffering the same fate.
  
• Don't shave against the pubic grain if you want to avoid bumps.
  
• There's no such thing as the best lube.
  
• There's no such thing as the best poppers.
  
• Trying to negotiate a rate cheapens the whole experience. (As a result I have never tried to negotiate and am happy with that).
  
• I never knew until two weeks ago that there was a "Gallery" forum here despite my fetish (if that's the right word) for checking out pictures of hot looking guys. I don't know how I missed it as I almost always check out the "Male Strip Club" forum in the same section when I'm traveling.
  
• US strip clubs are lame compared to Canadian ones. I hope to be able to prove that in person some day.
  
• I never knew until one week ago that the "tumblr" links at the end of the postings were of even hotter pictures than the ones posted in that forum. I still don't understand why Daddy can't show whatever pics he wants anyway, it's not like you can't find those pics all over the web and with this site you even have to agree to "Terms of Service" to get on.
  
• There are guys on here that can find something hateful to say about just about any subject on earth.......I'm on some other travel forums though and they're waaaaaay worse.
  

I'm sure there are a lot more but it's all I can think of right now and besides I have a lot more Gallery Forum cruising to do to catch up on all the ones I missed out on.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I'd been having a pretty crappy last 36 hours. It wasn't one thing. Lots of small little things. Taken individually nothing major at all. But they kept coming, one after another after another. Like a snowball rolling downhill, gathering steam. And more little annoyances and problems as it rolled downhill.

 

Then someone posted a funny little reply to a thread. Just one little throwaway line. But for some reason, it really cracked me up. And somehow, that little laugh seemed to stop things in their tracks. And it's actually been sunshine and puppy dogs since (actually it was sunshine for a bit and we hadn't seen any in days. It wasn't long but it was sunshine).

 

So what is one of the things I've learned: you never know when what you say here might make someone feel just a bit better, even if you have no idea who or that wasn't even your intention. I've sent a thank you note to that person. It never hurts to say thanks to someone who lightens your mood just a bit. So especially to Jackhammer, edjames, and all the others who contribute to the Friday Funnies, thanks. That's always one of the highlights of the week.