What would you do?

[Atlantagaguy]

Last night I was at a local strip club and met a guy who I liked and wanted to go back to the VIP room. After I paid the $10 for the wrist ban we settle down to the Lap dance. First thing out of the dancers mouth was” $20 per song and I need the money now”. He said it was the bars policy. Of course I had been to that bar many times and knew it didn’t have a policy. Here is what I did, I pulled the $400 I had in twenties from my wallet gave him $20 and put the rest back in my wallet. After the first dance he then asks me if I wanted another, my reply was that I was prepared to have a good time with him, But he insulted me by asking for money upfront. I thank him and then left.

 

So what would you have done?

[jjkrkwood]

Last night I was at a local strip club and met a guy who I liked and wanted to go back to the VIP room. After I paid the $10 for the wrist ban we settle down to the Lap dance. First thing out of the dancers mouth was” $20 per song and I need the money now”. He said it was the bars policy. Of course I had been to that bar many times and knew it didn’t have a policy. Here is what I did, I pulled the $400 I had in twenties from my wallet gave him $20 and put the rest back in my wallet. After the first dance he then asks me if I wanted another, my reply was that I was prepared to have a good time with him, But he insulted me by asking for money upfront. I thank him and then left.

 

So what would you have done?

 

I NEVER cave to pressure of any kind. If I dont like the rules, I dont participate in the game.

[wnybear]

I may or may not have done the one dance with him, would have depended on my mood. In your case you let him know he mseed up and could have made a lot more money that night had he not been a jerk. Would definitely have had a chat with the bar manager, it doesn't help their business when dancers do this sort of thing.

[Decatur Guy]

This is pretty much why I don't ever go to strip clubs. There's free porn on the Internet and hot guys to have actual real sex with for free if you do the work or very hot guys to have sex with off Daddy's and the other sites with just one straight-up fee.

[Steven_Draker]

Here is what I did, I pulled the $400 I had in twenties from my wallet gave him $20 and put the rest back in my wallet.

 

I wouldn't flash a wad of cash in front of a stranger. Better safe than sorry.

[Atlantagaguy]

I wouldn't flash a wad of cash in front of a stranger. Better safe than sorry.[/color]

 

I agree with you if I wasn't in a safe enviroment but I knew the manager and most of the bar staff.

[josephga]

I wouldn't flash a wad of cash in front of a stranger. Better safe than sorry.[/color]

 

This" plus I agree with Decatur Guy about looking in other places. Guys that strip are there to do just that strip and milk guys out of as much money as possible during their time there. Which should be expected after all it's a strip club. If I stripped at a club and a guy wanted to go vip I would assume he wanted a more private one on one area and was looking to spend.. imo a strip club isn't the place to go to get lucky or hope for a escort experience. you could easily spend hundreds with it resulting in nothing.

[Xander]

At strip clubs you're paying a lot more for a fantasy that usually doesn't pan out..

[mmk123]

Atlantaguy

I think you handled the situation well. You could have been as big of a jerk as he was and just left and not gave him the $20 but you held your end of the agreement and paid him for one dance (though I am sure that you might have been tempted to just walk away).

 

I can agree with the posters that said about it being a bad idea to flash a wad of cash but I think you had your Julia Robert/Pretty Woman groove going on when she walked into the high end store that rejected her and she showed them how much she would have bought from them but purchased from another store due to their rudeness. This dancer probably could have gotten a few more dances out of you but now he never will (also I hope you did tell the management about that because if he is rude to you it is probably happening to other customers).

[instudiocity]

Strip clubs are appropriately named because everyone employed by the club is united in stripping you of your money.

 

Even if you willingly hand over your dollars, unless you are paying for titillation, you aren't ever getting any value for the bucks.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I think you handled the situation better than I would have.

 

By paying for the first dance and flashing the extra $20s, he knew you have the cash to pay, so you were not likely to rip him off. It was then his decision how to respond, and he blew it.

[Steven_Draker]

By paying for the first dance and flashing the extra $20s, he knew you have the cash to pay, so you were not likely to rip him off. It was then his decision how to respond, and he blew it.

 

Sam, not sure whether you and I understand the same way the OP. But I'd say at that point it was already too late to fix anything. The situation was "rotten" right from the beggining.

 

First thing out of the dancers mouth was” $20 per song and I need the money now”

[+ Tom Isern]

for me this would have been a very simple calculus: was i having fun and was it worth another $20. it's not like you were on a date. the guy probably gets stiffed regularly and wanted to make sure he was going to get paid. chill and have fun if you want. or leave. but this is, to my understanding, pretty standard strip-club behavior. if you're into stripper, play the game. if not, leave, or pick another stripper.

[+ poolboy48220]

I think you handled this perfectly. I'm going to start using that approach. I'm a regular at our local club, most of the guys know me and know I'm good for a long series of dances & a good tip if we're having a good time. There's one guy, otherwise a nice guy and gorgeous, who's been pulling the "it's this much for XX, this much for XXX" once we get in the private rooms. Next time he does that I'm just cutting off the dance. Very few of the guys handle things quite that mercantile-ly, I don't need the dances from the guys who do.

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

You handled it pretty much the same as I would have done. My question is what was his reply to your comment? Did he "get it", that he could have made a lot more perhaps if only he hadn't been so greedy up front?

[Atlantagaguy]

You handled it pretty much the same as I would have done. My question is what was his reply to your comment? Did he "get it", that he could have made a lot more perhaps if only he hadn't been so greedy up front?

His reply was “do you not want to do more”; I inform him that I was prepared to do more. I also told him he was cute, hot and gave a very good dance, but it was such a turn off having to pay upfront. I also inform him that I came back to the VIP room trusting he was going to give me a good dance and he should have trusted that I would have paid him appropriately.

I personally think it would be a good lesson learned by all. I have seen some of the comments from some of the professionals on here either condemning strip clubs as a fantasy, or saying it was a standard practice of strip clubs. First I don’t know many dancers getting stiffed by a customer, nor is paying up front the standard practice in a strip club. I personally enjoy going to strip clubs and have met a lot of really nice guys. Many of these guys have come into my home and hotels rooms.

Some have said I should have said something to the management. I didn’t nor I would, I felt as though I made my point. Why should I try to get the guy in trouble? He is young and hopefully he learned, if not when it happens again the light bulb may turn on. The kid is really cute and I want him to do well. I didn’t become successful in my business by not making mistakes and learning. If people complained about my misstakes to management in my younger days I might have been fired and never giving a chance.