Insulted!?!

[robberbaron4u]

In rummaging through my clothes closet, I determined to dispense with several "high-end" top coats that, for me, would now require a footman's assistance in getting on and off at the door. I offered the coats, which are in "like-new condition" to an escort of my acquaintance who makes his home in a cold climate, and, he informed me that he was "insulted" by my offer of "used clothing". On the other hand, I made a gift of a really spendid English Crombie-style topcoat in dove gray, replete with a velvet collar, to a young attorney who has represented my interests in the past, and he was delighted with it. Should I don my dunce cap and take myself to the corner in having made the offer?

[+ Travis69]

Some people are strange about "hand me downs". Bet the escort wouldn't turn down "old used money" found in the bottom drawer of your highboy.

[bigvalboy]

In rummaging through my clothes closet, I determined to dispense with several "high-end" top coats that, for me, would now require a footman's assistance in getting on and off at the door. I offered the coats, which are in "like-new condition" to an escort of my acquaintance who makes his home in a cold climate, and, he informed me that he was "insulted" by my offer of "used clothing". On the other hand, I made a gift of a really spendid English Crombie-style topcoat in dove gray, replete with a velvet collar, to a young attorney who has represented my interests in the past, and he was delighted with it. Should I don my dunce cap and take myself to the corner in having made the offer?

 

Absolutely not. I think that much of this is a matter of personal preference. My 'Brother in Law' who is of substantial means wears only Bijan. While clearing out the other day, he offered me two Bijan sport jackets, which he could no longer wear because of weight gain. I gladly accepted. While telling a friend of mine, who is struggling and unemployed, of what I thought was my good fortune, he promptly informed me, with a look of disgust, that he thought it was absolutely revolting and could not imagine anyone wearing a used garment...Each to his own. "One mans junk, is another mans treasure"

[jawjateck]

I will gladly accept any hand-me-downs from my fellow Hoovillains. I'm no snob.

[robberbaron4u]

Well, there are two exceptional DB topcoats of the finest Scottish tweed with magnificent fur collars from "way back when", deck attire for taking one's constitutional on the Atlantic voyage in late autumn, one for the going out, the other for the coming in to port. "Pristine" in condition and free to a "good home", the caveat being that they are sized to my once-upon-a-time lithe 38R body. Not practical in any way, I suppose, these days, but, I suppose they could be displayed in a dressing room as "art".

[BaronArtz]

I would have offered to buy them from you perhaps, but my size is 42L ... I think that high end vintage clothing is very classy. It conveys a sense of style without being snobbish. Very 'old money' in a way. Your escort friend missed out on a great deal - his loss.

[jjkrkwood]

You were coming from a "good" place with your offer. HE applied a different message to your gesture. Perhaps that says more about HIM than it does about you ? I wouldnt worry Robber, its really a personality and values thing. Theres no right or wrong, and you never know, you might have forgotten to empty the pockets of that "tip" money you forgot to offer your OTHER boys, which he may have "found".... :o

[wnybear]

You made a nice, sincere offer, he chose to see it as an insult. That's his lose and his issue. You did nothing wrong.

[nate_sf]

I buy a large proportion of my dress clothes at vintage stores and consignment shops. There is one down the street that has amazing stuff, with both "vintage" consignment as well as brand-new stuff thrown in for good measure. Their selection is so nice and they are very choosy with what they take, I even took a client there once who wanted to get a couple of sweaters. I'll admit I was concerned the client might not want to go to a store with "used" clothing and could be insulted, but it seemed like it would be more interesting than just going down to Macy's.

 

I am always grateful for the people who have decided to dispense of their nice duds by donating them or taking them to consignment so that someone else like me can enjoy them. But I also know people who love shopping for the latest and greatest and could not imagine taking a "hand me down" or consignment. Maybe they got saddled with hand-me downs as a kid, maybe the concept is just totally unfamiliar to them, who knows. It does seem to be a kind of "old money" custom.

 

Also, thank goodness for consignment for leather and uniforms! ;-)

[+ deej]

There's also a bit of sexism here.

 

A lot of men wouldn't be caught dead in "vintage" clothing who will applaud a starlet wearing "vintage Armani" (or any other designer) on the Oscars red carpet.

 

You just can't please all the people all the time. <shrug>

[bigvalboy]

Well, there are two exceptional DB topcoats of the finest Scottish tweed with magnificent fur collars from "way back when", deck attire for taking one's constitutional on the Atlantic voyage in late autumn,

 

Oh robber, you do have a wonderful knack for painting the most enticing of pictures. I am assuming that your adventures on the 'Transatlantic' in late autumn will be a chapter all by itself in the book. Uuummm, oh the stories! A friend once tried to get me aboard the "Kennard Lines" for a 'Atlantic' run. I passed as I thought that it would be a bit of a bore, and I lacked the proper attire, perhaps I was mistaken.

[LookingAround]

I think its hilarious that people will sleep on "used" sheets in a hotel or in a friend's home but they won't wear "used" clothing.

[jawjateck]

Well dang it.....I was 38R in my late 20s, have now spread to 41R, but others can make a mental note of that if they would care to pass along any seconds or during their Christmas shopping. hahahaha!

[cany10011]

You were doing a good deed. Don't mind what he said. I only give things I cherish or enjoy to people i like or know.

[Epigonos]

This is interesting. I am something of a clothing snob. My shirts and ties are from Turnbull & Asser and my dress shoes are Ferragamos. However, a couple of years ago a young friend of mine offered my two of his used suits. They were in pristine condition and the only reason he was getting rid of them was that he must maintain a very current wardrobe in his business. I jumped at the opportunity, love the suits, and didn’t even have to have them altered.

[SteveEscort]

I think its hilarious that people will sleep on "used" sheets in a hotel or in a friend's home but they won't wear "used" clothing.

 

Over here in England we have what's called "Charity Shops", on my visits to New York, Mississippi, New Orleans, Savannah etc I have never ever seen a single charity shop and my relatives in New Orleans make a beeline for them when they come to stay with me in England. I buy quite a few items from them. People donate unwanted clothing and they sell it and raise funds for their charity like Cancer Research, Scope (for people with cerebal palsey), Mind (the mental health charity) and the most famous one Oxfam.

 

Just before I went to Turkey earlier this month I got a pair of brand new Yves Saint Laurent Jeans in Scope for £6 and a brand new pair of unwanted Lee Cooper jeans which still had the original shop tags on for £4, yes £10 for £100 worth of clothing. In the summer they had a pair of Diesel casual shoes in, still in the box in Scope, they wanted £10 for them, they were listed on the Diesel UK site for £79.99. Bargain.

 

I have bought most of my candle holders, vases even rugs in charity shops and earlier this year my hand luggage broke a few days before my flight and I went into Cancer Research and they had a donated one for sale for £3. How lucky was I, I had planned to go to a department store the next day and pay £30 for one.

 

Used items just need someone else to love them and make use of them. in a way that their previous owners couldn't.

[adriano46]

I had a major move about a decade or so ago; had to pack up an apartment in Europe that had many personal momentos and small treasures, and in moving, found that my new place was already heavily furnished and most of my things (collected over 15 or so years) were too eclectic for the new place.

 

Conveniently at that time I was seeing on and off 3 different escorts: 1 from Toronto (who I met in Amsterdam); 1 in Seattle, and 1 in Las Vegas. For 6 months I saw each of them about 4 or 5 times, often for overnights, two of them for nearly a week at a time.

 

I came to know the guy from Seattle (who was in his early 30's, slim, slightly hairy but sexy as all get out in his glasses, and very erudite and interesting) had a background in antiques and art. We spent a day in NYC when he was between clients having a late lunch in Bryant Park and then walking up and down the antique shops on the Upper East Side. I mentioned in passing my "collection" and he expressed an interest in some of the objects. I carefully (and I did not ask him about this first), prepared a large box of some of the items (mostly Asian but some other areas as well), wrapped them in a piece of silk sari cloth I had and mailed it to him. This guy offered to PAY ME for this, as he said it was way too generous. I did not see it as being pricy when I acquired it, and refused money from him. He was very gracious, and I was appreciative.

 

The guy from Toronto also received a large package from the same collection together with some expensive European (Dolce e Gabbana) sweaters I wore perhaps once, and a nearly brand new laptop (I was given a new one from another firend, and did not need one I had bought the month before). From him, he was gracious at first, later he hit me up for more; then tried for money; then tried to shake me down in blackmail if I would not pay him "hush money" on my ID. I dropped him, have never heard from him again.

He was neither gracious nor appreciative and I was disillusioned with him.

 

Last guy - Las Vegas trickster; he was flacky and I should have stpped thinking with my dick and more with my brain. Refused anything used or handed down; demanded everything new (and very expensive), and he knew in NYC where the MOST EXPENSIVE stores were. Later a very expensive rare and unique wrist watch I was given as a gift "went missing". He had spent 5 days with me; had the run of my apartment. I hardly ever wore that particular watch (I usually have one dress, one sports and one for rare occasions watch; this was a 4th watch too expensive for me on 99% of the occasions). By the time I noticed the watch missing, he had disappeared and I learned a lesson.

This guy was inappreciative, boorish and a thief.

 

From this tale I have learned one thing. An escort worth seeing over and over is one who can appreciate another's generosity graciously but can also walk the fine line of not taking it for granted nor using it for futher gain. That is an (all-too-rare) git these days.

[cany10011]

I'm so glad i'm not a clothes horse any more. I still have 10 year old ferragamos and gucci shoes that look pristine as well as a handful of nice dolce gabbana, prada, gucci suits when I wear on the lecture/business circuit. Nowadays, I"m more casual at work and wear comfy ecko shoes, bonobos pants, and cheap tailored shirts from my trip to shanghai. A friend who works in the fashion industry is looking for a new job and with each subsequent follow-up job interview in the same firm, she has to buy a new suit, purse, shoes to look to role. I asked her why and she said she'd hate to run into anyone who met her in a previous interview wearing the same outfit. Crazy. She confided that she bought an expensive 3000$ suit, wore it and returned it (of course, the label was discreetly hidden). I don't have the guts to return something like that, lest buy it. I'd rather spend it on other vices.....

[bigvalboy]

Over here in England we have what's called "Charity Shops", on my visits to New York, Mississippi, New Orleans, Savannah etc I have never ever seen a single charity shop and my relatives in New Orleans make a beeline for them when they come to stay with me in England. I buy quite a few items from them. People donate unwanted clothing and they sell it and raise funds for their charity like Cancer Research, Scope (for people with cerebal palsey), Mind (the mental health charity) and the most famous one Oxfam.

 

Just before I went to Turkey earlier this month I got a pair of brand new Yves Saint Laurent Jeans in Scope for £6 and a brand new pair of unwanted Lee Cooper jeans which still had the original shop tags on for £4, yes £10 for £100 worth of clothing. In the summer they had a pair of Diesel casual shoes in, still in the box in Scope, they wanted £10 for them, they were listed on the Diesel UK site for £79.99. Bargain.

 

I have bought most of my candle holders, vases even rugs in charity shops and earlier this year my hand luggage broke a few days before my flight and I went into Cancer Research and they had a donated one for sale for £3. How lucky was I, I had planned to go to a department store the next day and pay £30 for one.

 

Used items just need someone else to love them and make use of them. in a way that their previous owners couldn't.

 

We actually have many shops that are similar. Several of the cancer organizations run shops where they take in donations. When my mother passed, I gave thousands of dollars worth of clothes to them, and it felt good to do it. In return they also give you a blank receipt for tax purposes, where you can fill in any amount that you want, so that you can write it off on your taxes. It is a win win for everyone.

[bigvalboy]

I think its hilarious that people will sleep on "used" sheets in a hotel or in a friend's home but they won't wear "used" clothing.

 

That is hilarious, I never looked at it that way. I will say that to my friend who was so disgusted by the used Bijan sport jackets that were given to me...

[cany10011]

Steven, in nyc, there is housingworks and angel street thrift shop.

[seeker630]

Over here in England we have what's called "Charity Shops", on my visits to New York, Mississippi, New Orleans, Savannah etc I have never ever seen a single charity shop and my relatives in New Orleans make a beeline for them when they come to stay with me in England. I buy quite a few items from them. People donate unwanted clothing and they sell it and raise funds for their charity like Cancer Research, Scope (for people with cerebal palsey), Mind (the mental health charity) and the most famous one Oxfam.

 

Just before I went to Turkey earlier this month I got a pair of brand new Yves Saint Laurent Jeans in Scope for £6 and a brand new pair of unwanted Lee Cooper jeans which still had the original shop tags on for £4, yes £10 for £100 worth of clothing. In the summer they had a pair of Diesel casual shoes in, still in the box in Scope, they wanted £10 for them, they were listed on the Diesel UK site for £79.99. Bargain.

 

I have bought most of my candle holders, vases even rugs in charity shops and earlier this year my hand luggage broke a few days before my flight and I went into Cancer Research and they had a donated one for sale for £3. How lucky was I, I had planned to go to a department store the next day and pay £30 for one.

 

Used items just need someone else to love them and make use of them. in a way that their previous owners couldn't.

 

In my part of ofthe US (North Carolina), these are often called 'thrifts'. In my town, the local school PTA (Parent-Teacher's Association) runs one, as does another non-profit which benefis the poor & homeless.)

[AdamSmith]

In my part of ofthe US (North Carolina), these are often called 'thrifts'. In my town, the local school PTA (Parent-Teacher's Association) runs one, as does another non-profit which benefis the poor & homeless.)

 

Ditto for Raleigh. City is lousy with them.

[JoeyBryant]

Used items just need someone else to love them and make use of them. in a way that their previous owners couldn't.

 

I've began to find that out. I now tend to look at new and used items simultaneously. Generally I'll buy new if I simply can't find it used. But if I buy used, I'm buying something that I can't afford new. Like the Wooden Basset Furniture dresser I bought awhile back. $75. Normally like $700. Bought a set of McAllister brass fireplace tools for $30...normally $185. However, when it comes to clothes I rather hit the Mall and just catch the Clearance near the end of the season (I've bought or looked at full-priced sweaters and button up shirts only to see them on clearance 2 months later). I personally don't like the idea of wearing used clothing and shoes are certainly not negotiable. Besides, every holiday my favorite brand of clothes always has something marked down anyway.

 

However, If I ever met someone who offered me a used genuine fur coat, I'd be all too happy to take it. However, it's generally not something I'd look for. I'm the type of person that's okay with certain things used as long as it's given by someone...even though I probably wouldn't have normally bought it that way e.g. the used laptop I bought from a guy I f****d a couple times. Goes to show something meaningful actually can come out of a hookup.

 

Now this guy looks good in this:

http://kaufmanfurs.net/gallery/albums/userpics/10001/thumb_mens_fur_coyote_parker.jpg

[robberbaron4u]

My good Anton, If you are a 38R, there is a very nice Canali dinner jacket, unworn and replete with its tags, in silk, wool and mohair. Being that the seated lunch is my social forte, and, heeding the advice of my great uncle to cultivate the friendship of men who will at least waste spit on you if you catch fire, there are only three or four houses to which I will accept an invitation for dinner, I have no need of it. Too, a nice Aquascutum topcoat, sized 40, in lambs' wool with a black velvet collar.