What does an escorto owe a client.

[Edward]

It has been widely discusssed that when a chient cancels on an escort that the client owes the escort some compensation. What does an escort owe a client. Case in point. I scheduled an overnight with an Escort. I traveled to the escort's city, which was quite some distance from where I live. Checked into a nice hotel. When I arrived at the hotel I text my guy and told him the room number. Everything great. At 8:30 I received a text form him saying he had issues with the plumbing in his house and said "Tonight is definitely not gonna work."

[josephga]

imo he owes you compensation how every you won't get it just like a escort won't get it when a client bails..

[bigvalboy]

imo he owes you compensation how every you won't get it just like a escort won't get it when a client bails..

 

Agreed...Joseph has it exactly right..IMO don't think that compensation would ever happen. I personally would never think to compensate and escort if I canceled, but then again, I would NEVER cancel unless it was legit. The reverse is true also. If I flew into a city and came out of pocket air, hotel..etc. I would not expect to be compensated. It would not even cross my mind. It is the chances you take and the cost of doing business. When you travel, I think that it is imperative that you remain flexible, calm and ready to roll with the punches at the moment that things go badly.

 

My Sister just returned from NYC, from a business trip. She walked into the meeting at 8 am the second day of arrival and the secretary of the client she was seeing said simply, "Oh there has been an emergency, Mr. (blank) can't see you this trip" He was a very lucrative client and there was nothing more that could be said...Out of pocket air, hotel, meals, ground transportation, care for the kids back here in LA etc. add that up and it is thousands of dollars. Write it off as a loss on your taxes and go on with life. It is the cost of doing business.

 

Escorts have lives also, they have emergencies just like clients do, they have reasons for canceling. Now it is your choice to decide if you want or are willing to see them again, but other than being a little irritated, I would just go on with the trip, and try and hire someone else.

[MiamiLooker]

You should have purchased Escort Cancellation Insurance.

[down_to_business]

It has been widely discusssed that when a chient cancels on an escort that the client owes the escort some compensation. What does an escort owe a client. Case in point. I scheduled an overnight with an Escort. I traveled to the escort's city, which was quite some distance from where I live. Checked into a nice hotel. When I arrived at the hotel I text my guy and told him the room number. Everything great. At 8:30 I received a text form him saying he had issues with the plumbing in his house and said "Tonight is definitely not gonna work."

 

Take a little comfort from the fact that you didn't give him a deposit (like some advocate) as well because you would have as good of chance getting that deposit refunded as you will of recouping your travel expenses.

 

Crap like this makes me furious and I am puzzled by the double standard here, if an escort gets stood up "the client needs to pay him for his time and should be tarred and feathered, strung up, or publicly humiliated". When an escort stands a client up it's " I am sure the escort had a good reason".

 

Edward, I am sorry that this happened to you and at 8:30 PM the day of the meeting after you had already flown up there and checked in, shows a complete lack of mutual respect and common courtesy. Totally unexcusable, unless the "plumbing issues" the escort was referring to was his internal plumbing.

[+ Travis69]

I think the escort should have offered to rebook for the next night and reduce the price to cover all the client's extra expenses.

[seeker630]

It has been widely discusssed that when a chient cancels on an escort that the client owes the escort some compensation. What does an escort owe a client. Case in point. I scheduled an overnight with an Escort. I traveled to the escort's city, which was quite some distance from where I live. Checked into a nice hotel. When I arrived at the hotel I text my guy and told him the room number. Everything great. At 8:30 I received a text form him saying he had issues with the plumbing in his house and said "Tonight is definitely not gonna work."

 

I'm sorry that things didn't work out. Did you try to re-schedule for the next day, or was there any further communication?

 

Assuming that the escort was aware of your out-of-the-ordinary efforts, I think he should have made some effort to accomodate you at another time.

 

Some posters are assuming you incurred the cost of an airflight, as well as the hotel - is that correct?

[Edward]

Hotel was $250 and I drove each way 400 miles each way. I guess what I am hearing on this forum is about the unfortunate escort when a client breaks an appointment and how much his time is worth. Not only the out of pocket expense in my case but my time is worth something. It would have taken about as much time to fly as drive when you thak into account travel to the airport, getting there an hour + before your flight, the flight itself, getting out of the ariport to your hotel.

[SteveEscort]

It has been widely discusssed that when a chient cancels on an escort that the client owes the escort some compensation. What does an escort owe a client. Case in point. I scheduled an overnight with an Escort. I traveled to the escort's city, which was quite some distance from where I live. Checked into a nice hotel. When I arrived at the hotel I text my guy and told him the room number. Everything great. At 8:30 I received a text form him saying he had issues with the plumbing in his house and said "Tonight is definitely not gonna work."

 

In all the years I have worked as an escort, not once has a client ever compensated me for a last minute cancellation but saying that I would never accept it anyway. I have never ever, in my twelve years as working as an escort, ever let down a client who had booked in advance. I realise that things happen during the course of a week, or a day or whatever but I treat this like it was a 9-5 job and so if I am committed to working for an employer that way, I am committed to working for myself in that respect too.

 

If anything, maybe the escort should offer a discount if you re-schedule but if I was the client who went to considerable expense I probably wouldn't rescheule.

[jjkrkwood]

Hotel was $250 and I drove each way 400 miles each way. I guess what I am hearing on this forum is about the unfortunate escort when a client breaks an appointment and how much his time is worth. Not only the out of pocket expense in my case but my time is worth something. It would have taken about as much time to fly as drive when you thak into account travel to the airport, getting there an hour + before your flight, the flight itself, getting out of the ariport to your hotel.

 

Edward, these are the risks you unknowingly "accept" when entering the escort game. Its unfortunate, but lamenting about it wont change it now, or in the future. There is no accounting for unforseen occurences, and perhaps the escort could have given you a bit more notice, but thats hindsite now. Add this experience to your book of memories. If anything you gained some cocktail party chit-chat.

[jjkrkwood]

In all the years I have worked as an escort, not once has a client ever compensated me for a last minute cancellation but saying that I would never accept it anyway. I have never ever, in my twelve years as working as an escort, ever let down a client who had booked in advance. I realise that things happen during the course of a week, or a day or whatever but I treat this like it was a 9-5 job and so if I am committed to working for an employer that way, I am committed to working for myself in that respect too.

 

If anything, maybe the escort should offer a discount if you re-schedule but if I was the client who went to considerable expense I probably wouldn't rescheule.

 

Steve, many of us that work have a "work ethic", or should, but that doesnt account for unforseen occurences that might take precedence. In the snow storm this winter, there was no public

buses running, and I take a bus to the train... So I walked 2 miles thru snowdrifts to get my train because I run an IT company and businesses depend on my service. However, if I had a family emergency or was stricken with appendicitis, I would not have made the effort to go into work. Everything is relative, and while I dont know the severity of a "plumbing situation" cut the guy some slack on the cancellation. Perhaps a frank converstaion between Edward and the escort about compensation is in order here? While he probably wont be reimbursed for his expenses, perhaps he will get a 1/2 price make-up visit if he chooses to go that route. ? As I said, there are many risks you accept when playing the escort game, and cancellations and expense is one of them.

[jawjateck]

Unfortunately, that's the downside of this hobby. There are times when the best contrived plans go awry. This the reason I never travel to another city just to meet one escort. I always have a back-up plan (e.g. another escort or something touristy to do). The fact that he did not inform you immediately when he knew he had a potential conflict, tells you he is unprofessional. That is the more important sign to you about his escorting abilities, than the actual cancellation. You may choose to schedule another meeting with him, but I would probably not.

 

Bottom line: he lost out on the opportunity to meet you and be paid simply for having fun with you. Further, you're probably a good guy, so if you choose not to call him again, then he lost out on the possibility of a repeat client. That's a major blow to his finances.

[Edward]

I am not after compensation. My main point I wanted to make was it is not always the escort that gets cancelations. I myself have had to cancel appointments, but they were made days in advance. I will nolonger make advanced appointmenst because my own schedule is changeable. Is forum seems to be very pro-escort and it is always the client that is the SOB. I have sent the guy (escort) several messages since he canceled. He has not responded. One asking if he wanted to rebook. I will see if he responds and how things play out.

[seeker630]

I am not after compensation. My main point I wanted to make was it is not always the escort that gets cancelations. I myself have had to cancel appointments, but they were made days in advance. I will nolonger make advanced appointmenst because my own schedule is changeable. Is forum seems to be very pro-escort and it is always the client that is the SOB. I have sent the guy (escort) several messages since he canceled. He has not responded. One asking if he wanted to rebook. I will see if he responds and how things play out.

 

Obviously you suffered significant inconvenience & expense. I think the forum is generally pro-escort BUT it is not of one voice. Escort cancellations have been discussed before. Sometimes they seem justiifed, other times...not. One problem is that we almost never hear the escort's version, and so we don't know if there was a legitimate reason to cancel - at best, we only know how they communicated with the client. Was the 'pluming proeblem' a stooped up drain or an overflowing toilet? Doiubt we'll ever know.

 

I'm sorry this happened.

[unsub2O17]

Jawja's plan seems, to me, the most constructive (the old lemonade out of lemons approach). If the escort had a legitimate emergency and wants to reschedule and it's convenient for you, great. You'll have even more to talk about. If not, move on (don't waste time on recriminations) to the plan B (backup escorts and/or touristy things to do in a different city).

[unsub2O17]

When I first started seeing my, now, favorite escort, some problems caused him to cancel twice at, literally, the last hour. Both times, he was fervent in his apologies and wanted to reschedule to the tune of "tell me when is convenient for you, and I'll make it happen." I stuck with him, and am very glad that I did. Not as helpful for a long distance relationship but a useful guide as to a positive escort response.

[Keenan]

It has been widely discusssed that when a chient cancels on an escort that the client owes the escort some compensation. What does an escort owe a client. Case in point. I scheduled an overnight with an Escort. I traveled to the escort's city, which was quite some distance from where I live. Checked into a nice hotel. When I arrived at the hotel I text my guy and told him the room number. Everything great. At 8:30 I received a text form him saying he had issues with the plumbing in his house and said "Tonight is definitely not gonna work."

 

Things do come up on each end now and then and its understandable that there will be cancellations. If the client traveled from out of state to see the escort and rented a hotel room or spent a lot of money to get to the escort then I feel that the escort should offer to reimburse at least a portion of the travel costs. Now if the escort is travelling to the client on the other hand and wasn't paying for anything other than the escorts time I would feel no monetary compensation would be owed but it would be nice for the escort to suggest a time to reschedule.

 

On the flip side if a client needs to cancel and calls in enough time then I don't think that the client should owe the escort any compensation. If the escort has already traveled out of state or to the client and then the cancellation took place then I would feel that the client would need to reimburse the escort for the lost time travelling where the escort wasn't able to see a client.

 

Just my opinions.

 

Keenan

[Decatur Guy]

Edward, sorry that happened. I'll echo what Jawjateck says.

 

There are so many things that can go wrong. This is why I never plan a trip solely around meeting a specific escort.

 

If I am going to travel with that in mind, I'll make sure of two things:

 

1. I have other fun, non-sexual activities planned. I make sure this is a trip I'd be doing regardless of whether the appointment is kept.

 

2. Go to a city where there's a good chance of finding another escort quickly if you're canceled on: NYC, Chicago, Miami, Los Angeles, San Francisco. I can't imagine not being able to find someone else that very same day in those cities. And all those places happen to satisfy criteria No. 1 as well. I could have no sex in any of those cities and come back having had a great time. There's just no way I'm going to ... let's say ... Valdosta, Georgia ... just to meet a specific escort.

 

And yes, I get what you say about the cancellation bitching feeling one-sided sometimes. One of the biggest complainers about client cancellations on this forum is an escort who canceled on me twice (and accounts for 100% of all escort cancellations I've received).

 

 

P.S. - DAMNIT DAMNIT DAMNIT -- I hate the time-out feature.

[BostonPhil]

I don't have much to add that has not already been said other than I'm sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately just like us escorts, there is not much you can do. If he hasn't tried to make it up to you somehow by now chances are he isn't going to.

 

I am curious though Edward, what do you think he should have done or handled it? My question sounds a little like I'm being an ass but I don't mean it that way at all. I really am curious what you would have found acceptable. I have never been in a situation like that cancelling on a client last minute when they had come from out of town to see me, so I kinda want to know. I have had to cancel but I have always made up for it by offering another time and it has always worked out.

[Muscle Lover 2]

Nonetheless, Edward, your original point was heard -- and well taken. It is not only escorts who suffer in last minute cancellations. I, too, have traveled in order to see a specific escort only to have him cancel on me. Fortunately, I did have the names and phone numbers of 3 potential back-ups and just hit the phone line till I found another man to fill in for him.

[Phil_musc]

Steve, many of us that work have a "work ethic", or should, but that doesnt account for unforseen occurences that might take precedence. In the snow storm this winter, there was no public

buses running, and I take a bus to the train... So I walked 2 miles thru snowdrifts to get my train because I run an IT company and businesses depend on my service.

 

This is absolutely wonderful and inspiring to read. Clearly you were listening to your father when he told you what life was like when he was a boy - y'know: "when I was your age we had to walk to school through rain, sleet and snow, and we never complained because, well just because." And now here you are, JJ, an adult still living up to your father's example and living proof of decency, honesty, and the american way. I feel a song coming on myself right now and I'm reaching for my kleenex to dab my tearing eyes - I'm so moved. Thanks for sharing. ;-)

[Phil_musc]

There's just no way I'm going to ... let's say ... Valdosta, Georgia ... just to meet a specific escort.

 

While I have no personal knowledge, I have friends who tell me that Valdosta is lovely this time of year and should not be missed. DG, you may want to reconsider your position, at least as far as Valdosta is concerned.

[josephga]

I''ve never canceled a massage session. Even b4 doing this I was never late or canceled anything. When I would go to work id be the person that always got there 20 minutes early. Id set in the break room have a soda or something while waiting too clock in. Never been late for a date either id always show up at the restaurant 15 to 20 minutes early.. I even leave a one hour gap between all my massage clients in case of them showing up late or early.

[Xander]

I've canceled on a few clients (NEVER overnights) and have given them a free hour in return -- needless to say, ALL of them took me up on the offer lol

[josephga]

I've been getting allot of these waiting until the last minute to do anything types. i'm normally 10am to 10pm everyday but sunday. on sunday noon to 7 now tonight im having to work until 10 pm because everyone sat at home on their ass all day and waited until 5:30 to call. did a 90 minute at 6 now doing another 90 minute massage at 8:30 the other 3 that called will just be out of luck.. people waiting until 6pm to ask if you can do a 7pm massage