I'm in love with an escort - Help me please

[citylaw1]

You know something, you operate in your own little weird world. Noone was attempting to "counsel" him as none of us are qualified. We were offering an understanding ear and friendship so he didnt feel alone or lonely. Can YOU understand THAT ? Its the same type of thing you get from those paid boys lying face down on your bed, COMFORT.. And calling people names is not pretty, not even for a jewish lawyer.....

 

Aaah, comfort you were offering. BTW, I'm Irish Catholic.

[zeyfur]

I would imagine that if it had been JJ who was slagging off Dolphin, Citylaw and the usual suspects would have rounded up on him commenting on how insensitive JJ was and how the tone of the whole forum had been brought DOWN by him and how people were leaving the forum in droves because of JJ.

[EZEtoGRU]

Dolphin,

I agree with citylaw in that you really need to be seeking professional help urgently. The issues you describe here and in prior threads go well beyond having a PM conversation with anyone in daddy's world or just being told to loosen up and have a good time. The last thing you should be doing right now is thinking about hiring a guy or even trying to find a boyfriend. In you're current state, you are only going to attract other people with problems.

 

If you are feeling suicidal, get on a suicide hotline NOW!!! Beyond that find a good psychoanalyst or psychiatrist and put a good amount of effort into identifying the source of your deep unhappiness. Until you work through these issues and sort them out, you and not going to find a real solid boyfriend.

 

You sound quite bright in your threads so I am confident you have probably already concluded yourself that you need serious professional help.

 

You can turn your life around....that I know for a fact. However it's going to tale hard work with a mental health professional to do it.

 

Best of luck to you.

[citylaw1]

I would imagine that if it had been JJ who was slagging off Dolphin, Citylaw and the usual suspects would have rounded up on him commenting on how insensitive JJ was and how the tone of the whole forum had been brought DOWN by him and how people were leaving the forum in droves because of JJ.

 

No I wouldn't have.

[LurkerSpeaks]

One of the most important lessons I learned (through years of depression and pain, as well as some therapy) was that I am a great person. I deserve all the happiness in the world and I deserve to be loved. If someone is too shallow to see past my outer appearance to take the time to get to know me, then it is HE who is losing out. I am better off alone than with the wrong person. Until dolphin can honestly say that he too is a great person, then he will never find happiness. We have to like ourself before we can expect anyone else to like us.

[Decatur Guy]

I'm sorry you feel so bad. I have two pieces of advice:

 

1. I'll echo what others have said -- you need some professional help. You're likely suffering from some form of mental illness that might be helped with medicine, counseling or both. I know you don't have a job, so I realize that won't be easy to get the help. There might be some free services available.

 

2. Try to get out of your own head for a little while. You're very self-obsessed. All your posts are about you and your feelings and your inadequacies. See if you can engage the world some. Join a book club or a walking club or whatever interests you. Heck, join some of the discussions on here ... I don't see you in anything but posts about yourself and how you feel. Take an hour scrolling the various topics. There's lots to discuss. Start a discussion on here. Is there a TV show or movie you like? It will get your mind off yourself some.

[citylaw1]

Is there a TV show or movie you like? It will get your mind off yourself some.

 

The first 6 seasons of Dexter are available through Comcast, On Demand.

[citylaw1]

I would imagine that if it had been JJ who was slagging off Dolphin, Citylaw and the usual suspects would have rounded up on him commenting on how insensitive JJ was and how the tone of the whole forum had been brought DOWN by him and how people were leaving the forum in droves because of JJ.

 

The idiocy of this whole thread is astounding. The fact that it lies just beneath the "Who Likes Big Nuts" thread is most telling.

[maxwellissmart]

The idiocy of this whole thread is astounding. The fact that it lies just beneath the "Who Likes Big Nuts" thread is most telling.

 

Personally I think the profile is someone who is just fucking with you guys to get you to respond.

 

After going back through this person's threads and seeing how "value-oriented" and concerned they were about having a great experience for $300-350 (which we were reminded quite often was a lot of money and that they didn't have much money), I find it hard to believe they would drive 6 hours to meet with an escort just "to meet."

 

That is, I'm assuming Dolphin paid "Adam," because if we're expected to believe that Adam agreed to meet up without getting paid and has now taken the time to answer 20 or so more emails, then about the only thing Adam's eyes are sad about is that people like this contact him and won't leave him alone.

 

Bets are now open that Mr. Sad Eyes ends up being Erik Rhodes, and Dolphin is unaware of his untimely passing (sorry to break it to you, Dolphin), and will now milk that cow by threatening to jump of the Brooklyn Bridge in a fit of rage-despair because if only she... had... just... done... one... thing... more.

[robberbaron4u]

As I often preach, "Escorting is a business, a vocation not an avocation." Forget the rentboy, get help for yourself. . .now!

[Guest countryboywny]

Personally I think the profile is someone who is just fucking with you guys to get you to respond.

 

You may be right, Max. But I would rather take him seriously and look like a fool than telling him he's full of shit and have him do something drastic. But, that's just me.

[josephga]

You may be right, Max. But I would rather take him seriously and look like a fool than telling him he's full of shit and have him do something drastic. But, that's just me.

 

I tend to agree better to be safe than sorry.

[maxwellissmart]

I tend to agree better to be safe than sorry.

 

Yes, of course—but as someone just pointed out to me in a PM, if you were pre-op transgender, you'd already have quite a lot of experience with psychiatric analysis and so forth just to get your foot in the hospital door. If Dolphin were real, I seriously doubt that he or she would be writing a long dramatic tome that is basically the climax for a story that has been set up for a number of months now if you go back and read the threads—he or she would be on the phone with her counselor.

[+ FreshFluff]

Yes, of course—but as someone just pointed out to me in a PM, if you were pre-op transgender, you'd already have quite a lot of experience with psychiatric analysis and so forth just to get your foot in the hospital door. If Dolphin were real, I seriously doubt that he or she would be writing a long dramatic tome that is basically the climax for a story that has been set up for a number of months now if you go back and read the threads—he or she would be on the phone with her counselor.

 

I don't think facial surgery officially requires the patient to see a psychiatrist the way SRS does. I'm sure there are some surgeons who will do it without a sign-off.

[Boner]

he or she would be on the phone with her counselor.

 

But what if he/she is going thru the facial, transgender-reassignment surgery trying to escape from the ugly-grasp of those Scientology people and he/she is doing all this on the cheap and the D/L somewhere other than a regulated hospital facility and we were his/her last resort for help?

 

[edit]Seriously, though, whether Dolphin's struggles are real or fake, he/she is still in need of immediate professional intervention

[maxwellissmart]

I don't think facial surgery officially requires the patient to see a psychiatrist the way SRS does. I'm sure there are some surgeons who will do it without a sign-off.

 

I agree with you—I've known quite a few performers who wanted to go through the whole nine yards and be a woman. They had to undergo batteries of tests, live completely as women for a certain period of time and jump through a number of hoops to make sure their decision wasn't based on a hidden pathology—that essentially they WERE women already, just without the parts.

 

Is it possible this is real? Of course—it's possible that anything anyone posts on this board is the absolute truth. But is it likely, judging from past posts and the way that escorts act (and apparently Adam is a "standard-I'm doing this for the money-type" based on Dolphin's description)? And no, it's not up to me to make the final decision as to the validity of Dolphin's situation. I'm posting my opinion just like everyone else has—and yours is as valid as mine.

[RockHard]

Personally I think the profile is someone who is just fucking with you guys to get you to respond.

 

As in troll? Honestly, should anyone be surprised that such antics on this board might exist?

 

After going back through this person's threads

 

It always amazes me when someone takes the time or has a desire to do such things. I guess I have no sleuthing skill or interest. I tend to take everyone at face value, automatically assuming sincerity. Until someone raises a red flag. Then the guessing games begin.

 

I did not read the OP's post. He lost me at "I'm in love with an escort."

 

I'm delighted to read about the generous spirit that some of you seem to possess. "Better safe than sorry." I wish I could be less cynical on this board. I wish this board could be a place where confused gay men can go to seek all kinds of help, without the threat of troll behavior interfering.

 

I think some of you guys deserve a better board.

[maxwellissmart]

As in troll? Honestly, should anyone be surprised that such antics on this board might exist?

 

 

 

It always amazes me when someone takes the time or has a desire to do such things. I guess I have no sleuthing skill or interest. I tend to take everyone at face value, automatically assuming sincerity. Until someone raises a red flag. Then the guessing games begin.

 

I did not read the OP's post. He lost me at "I'm in love with an escort."

 

I'm delighted to read about the generous spirit that some of you seem to possess. "Better safe than sorry." I wish I could be less cynical on this board. I wish this board could be a place where confused gay men can go to seek all kinds of help, without the threat of troll behavior interfering.

 

I think some of you guys deserve a better board.

 

And to make it clear—I didn't go back through the threads to prove this person was a liar. I went back through them because I'd never heard of them before, so I started reading through what they had posted.

[MiamiLooker]

I wish this board could be a place where confused gay men can go to seek all kinds of help, without the threat of troll behavior interfering.

 

The OP has stated that he does not identify as gay. Of course, he could be confused about that, too.

[orbital sander]

I wish this board could be a place where confused gay men can go to seek all kinds of help, without the threat of troll behavior interfering.

 

Here at an escort review forum??? What a very funny notion.

I think that "confused gay men" would find little actual help in any online forum. Professional help in person would be more appropriate...unless you were "confused" about which escort to hire.

[RockHard]

And to make it clear—I didn't go back through the threads to prove this person was a liar.

 

I wasn't judging either way. Like I said, I rarely have the interest to know.

 

The OP has stated that he does not identify as gay.

 

Oops, looks like that post escaped me as well.

 

(Help for a confused gay man) Here at an escort review forum??? What a very funny notion.

 

This board has more than 10 forums. Do all of them focus on the discussion of escort reviews?

 

Many of the men who come here have decades of experience at life, love, and loss. Is utilizing such an incredible resource for a noble cause really such a "funny notion?" Or is it a "funny notion" that some gay men are not always preoccupied with only escort reviews and/or sex 24/7?

 

I find narrow-minded people really narrow-minded.

 

I don't expect this board to be anything other than what it is. But a creative guy can dream.

[Boner]

I wasn't judging either way. Like I said, I rarely have the interest to know.

 

THAT'S probably the most passive/aggressive, disingenuous comment, I have ever read here, or anywhere else, ever. Without question.

 

Congratulations!

[maxwellissmart]

I wasn't judging either way.

 

I didn't think you were—I'm just making a general statement before someone starts accusing me of having an agenda of taking Dolphin down. That wasn't my intention for going back and reading his posts.

[EZEtoGRU]

The OP has stated that he does not identify as gay. Of course, he could be confused about that, too.

Sexuality issues combined with gender identity issues can be a very complex mix. If the OP identifies him/herself more as a female, then not identifying as being gay could mean the physical attraction is towards males rather than females....if you see what I mean.

 

If everything the OP has posted on this thread is indeed true, I hope he seeks or is getting professional help. I do agree with other posters, however, that this could all be a hoax.

[Guest Connoisseur]

Aaah, comfort you were offering. BTW, I'm Irish Catholic.

 

There is nothing Catholic about your behavior or lack of sensitivity. You must be the non practicing type that already understands they will going downward not upward in the afterlife.