escorts in their 20's

[unsub2O17]

When I started to post this thread, "elder clients and younger escorts" came up, so this may have been addressed before, but here goes. I haven't been doing this very long, but I've been plenty active since I started, and I want to check something that I "think" I've noticed. That is that as a man in my 60's, I don't seem able to establish an exciting relationship with an escort in their 20's. By "can't establish" I mean everything from not being able to really turn them on sexually to not being of much interest to them as a person. This hasn't seemed to be a problem with escorts in their 30's (haven't tried the 40's but I intend to). Physically, of course, the 20 year old's perform amazingly, but they seem disconnected from me--not exactly "indifferent" just "on a different wave length". Is this a question of maturity, either of age or time in the business, or have I just hit the wrong escorts (for me) so far, and should I continue to look at escorts in their 20's as possible hires? Thanks, in advance, for your opinions. And I posted here because I want to hear from the escorts as well.

[jjkrkwood]

When I started to post this thread, "elder clients and younger escorts" came up, so this may have been addressed before, but here goes. I haven't been doing this very long, but I've been plenty active since I started, and I want to check something that I "think" I've noticed. That is that as a man in my 60's, I don't seem able to establish an exciting relationship with an escort in their 20's. By "can't establish" I mean everything from not being able to really turn them on sexually to not being of much interest to them as a person. This hasn't seemed to be a problem with escorts in their 30's (haven't tried the 40's but I intend to). Physically, of course, the 20 year old's perform amazingly, but they seem disconnected from me--not exactly "indifferent" just "on a different wave length". Is this a question of maturity, either of age or time in the business, or have I just hit the wrong escorts (for me) so far, and should I continue to look at escorts in their 20's as possible hires? Thanks, in advance, for your opinions. And I posted here because I want to hear from the escorts as well.

 

personally, i dont believe it has that much to do with the age, merely the chemistry. You picked some lemons. as you continue down your road, you will inevitably get some cherries... Dont despair. I believe getting the right escort is like picking a life partner. All the elements need to be there. Of course they are paid to "fake it" but sometimes you just cant.... And THOSE are the ones I have more respect for because they are REAL and will convey to you that it doesnt work for them, and unless you are brain-dead, you wont continue to pad their pockets.

[dannyboynyc]

I've hired escorts for many years - through my late 30s to (now) my mid 50s. I generally avoid hiring escorts who advertised their age in the 20 something range. My best experiences have been with escorts in their 30s or older. I do think a good escort has a certain type of personality. I could not show up an appointment and "function" with whomever opens the door. I also think age - with, presumably, maturity - also results in a better experience with an escort.

 

Just one opinion . . .

[tyro]

My go-to guys are at least a decade older than I, and I'm in my late thirties. I've never even seriously considered hiring someone younger than I am.

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[CowboyUp]

Great question "Unsub2017." In my hiring experiences, I've always had more enjoyable conversations and hotter, more satisfying sex with mature (30 to 45 y/o) escorts. I'm in my 50's and doubt that I will ever again desire to have sex with a man under 30. There are surely some superb providers in their early- to mid-20's, but I've yet to have a truly enjoyable sexual experience with one of them. We just have so very little in common with one another that the "sexual chemistry" fails to develop.

[down_to_business]

I think it depends on what you are hiring for. If you are interested in a one hour session, then I don't think age and maturity are that important. Almost anyone can appear interesting and/or interested for an hour. If you prefer extended and overnight hiring, deep conversations etc... then the older, wiser, more mature escorts can probably give you a much better experience. Just remember that while age doesn't necessarily equal maturity, generational gaps can have a profound effect on your experience.

 

With the younger guys, it sometimes helps if you can find some sort of common interest to talk about. Sometimes that might be a shared favorite sports team, a current movie or television show, a favorite food or love for cooking etc. etc.

[seeker630]

personally, i dont believe it has that much to do with the age, merely the chemistry. You picked some lemons. as you continue down your road, you will inevitably get some cherries... Dont despair. I believe getting the right escort is like picking a life partner. All the elements need to be there. Of course they are paid to "fake it" but sometimes you just cant.... And THOSE are the ones I have more respect for because they are REAL and will convey to you that it doesnt work for them, and unless you are brain-dead, you wont continue to pad their pockets.

 

I think the importance of chemistry is directly related to the type of encounter desired; the 'chemistry' for those clients looking to make more of a connection than purely physical is more complex. I like to chat a bit before getting physical, so there needs to be SOME common ground to carry on a conversation, and sometimes I get 'chatty' in the 'afterglow'.

[bigvalboy]

Unsub I have done both, younger and older. I can say with certainty that the older escort, and seemingly wiser, that would provide that connection, can't always do so. There are more factors to consider than just age, and a compatible connection is a VERY complicated thing. Sadly some times when you think that everything will be perfect with that older escort, when you think that most likely you will have a connection, it doesn't happen.. Looking back on my hiring, some of the best times have been with guys that are younger.

 

I think sometimes with the younger guys, you go into it with less expectations and for the simply reason of just having a great sex for that period of the hire. With an older escort I find myself thinking that there will by more of connection emotionally, more to talk about, more sharing of life's experiences, and sometimes you genuinely expect that bf experience. My thought was that an older escort had the life's experience and the emotional stability to provide that for a client. That is not always the case. A connection like that is rare I think, and sometimes you will be lucky enough to find that older escort that is on the same mental page as you, but so often they are not.

[SteveEscort]

Many of my clients have spoken from the same song sheet as what's been posted here. Most of my clients prefer to see an escort in his 30's than 20's because the service is usually far more superior (their words not mine).

 

Us, 30 something escorts, tend to have a bit more about ourselves, we're not just here for the money, we tend to have had more life experiences which allows us to converse and adapt to almost any clients needs and we usually know which buttons to press.

[adriano46]

I find that the ones who "deliver the goods" in a wide variety of ways (sexually, emotionally, intellectually) are the guys who are over 30 and who are proud of their age and who have experience. I find guys in their 20;s too vapid aside from - as one poster noted - a very quick one-hour session.

 

In masseurs, I also lean heavily towards older guys, guys who have muscularture and experience and who are generally in late 30's to 50's or more. They provide astonishingly good massages and an excellent enviornment in general. I also find them refreshingly open about sexuality -- supportive and understanding.

[citylaw1]

20 somethings are newer and most often looking for cash for school, etc. Once an escort reaches 30 something, they are more dedicated to the business and undoubtedly more experienced and wiser.

[Keenan]

I really believe it depends on the escort that you hire. Some you will have good chemistry with others not so much. Don't pass over the 20 something escorts just because of age just be aware going into hiring an escort that there may be instances where the escort isn't as connected as you may like. Also remember that some escorts can see multiple guys in a week or day so it can be likely that an escort may try to be somewhat detached and more business. Just try to find something in common or something you like about the escort.

 

Keenan

 

When I started to post this thread, "elder clients and younger escorts" came up, so this may have been addressed before, but here goes. I haven't been doing this very long, but I've been plenty active since I started, and I want to check something that I "think" I've noticed. That is that as a man in my 60's, I don't seem able to establish an exciting relationship with an escort in their 20's. By "can't establish" I mean everything from not being able to really turn them on sexually to not being of much interest to them as a person. This hasn't seemed to be a problem with escorts in their 30's (haven't tried the 40's but I intend to). Physically, of course, the 20 year old's perform amazingly, but they seem disconnected from me--not exactly "indifferent" just "on a different wave length". Is this a question of maturity, either of age or time in the business, or have I just hit the wrong escorts (for me) so far, and should I continue to look at escorts in their 20's as possible hires? Thanks, in advance, for your opinions. And I posted here because I want to hear from the escorts as well.

[jjkrkwood]

I really believe it depends on the escort that you hire. Some you will have good chemistry with others not so much. Don't pass over the 20 something escorts just because of age just be aware going into hiring an escort that there may be instances where the escort isn't as connected as you may like. Also remember that some escorts can see multiple guys in a week or day so it can be likely that an escort may try to be somewhat detached and more business. Just try to find something in common or something you like about the escort.

 

Keenan

 

I respect and am happy you didnt sugar coat you reply like alot of escorts here do and say something like, "I find something attractive about all my clients and truly love them all"... At least now we've heard that "if it aint working for you. it aint workin". Done.

[swallows22]

Always over 30. However, there is something about Travis in Boston that has caught my eye. Will test early August. Cheers!

[Keenan]

I respect and am happy you didnt sugar coat you reply like alot of escorts here do and say something like, "I find something attractive about all my clients and truly love them all"... At least now we've heard that "if it aint working for you. it aint workin". Done.

 

Is there any reason to sugar coat it? I find honesty and communication with my clients is the most important thing. If they aren't happy then I'm not happy.

 

Keenan

[Keenan]

Always over 30. However, there is something about Travis in Boston that has caught my eye. Will test early August. Cheers!

 

I would beg to differ, there are still some good escorts in their 20s, you just need to find the ones that appeal to you, not all will.

 

Keenan

[citylaw1]

I respect and am happy you didnt sugar coat you reply like alot of escorts here do and say something like, "I find something attractive about all my clients and truly love them all"... At least now we've heard that "if it aint working for you. it aint workin". Done.

 

I don't fuck 42 year olds; I certainly can't expect a 21 year old to fall all over one. When I was 21, my parents were my age now, and they appeared ancient to me. Outside of the occasional Daddy syndrome it's a grab for cash. How on Earth can we expect a 20 something to have anything in common with us?

[cany10011]

Agreed. Socially, i don't see how it can work. I'm 43 and escorts i see are usually in their mid 20s. We are both at different stages in life and probably have very different goals. I guess there are always exceptions as some of the escorts are quite mature (as opposed to my own naivete at that age).

[+ purplekow]

I don't fuck 42 year olds; I certainly can't expect a 21 year old to fall all over one. When I was 21, my parents were my age now, and they appeared ancient to me. Outside of the occasional Daddy syndrome it's a grab for cash. How on Earth can we expect a 20 something to have anything in common with us?

When I was 22, i sold women's shoes part time. I worked on commission. Toward that end, I became very knowledgeable about women's shoes and was courteous to my clients, interested in getting them just the perfect shoes and developed a few questions which allowed for friendly interactions. If i could do it as a 22 year old looking for a $4 commission, I believe it is reasonable to expect it from a 20 year old standing to make 50 times that.

 

For the most part, I have found 20 something escorts lacking in basic social skills and with unimaginative sexual skills. By the time an escort is 30, the grab for the buck guys have been weeded down and both the social skills and the sexual skills have been honed. For me though, the guys in the late 30s and above may have a bit of paunch, but the sex packs a wallop and the pillow talk usually is scintillating and intelligent.

[jjkrkwood]

Too many generalities being tossed around here... Age really doesnt matter for those guys looking for a pure sexual experience. Its about the connection , Lust and bedroom compatibility between the parties. For those guys however that are indeed paying for the "pillow talk" perhaps a more suitable and age appropriate escort would be in order.. But maturity CAN exists at any age, and immaturity can as well. I've met plenty of 30-60 year old fuckin flakey assholes, who had nothing to say, and whose social skills were non-existant.

[citylaw1]

When I started to post this thread, "elder clients and younger escorts" came up, so this may have been addressed before, but here goes. I haven't been doing this very long, but I've been plenty active since I started, and I want to check something that I "think" I've noticed. That is that as a man in my 60's, I don't seem able to establish an exciting relationship with an escort in their 20's. By "can't establish" I mean everything from not being able to really turn them on sexually to not being of much interest to them as a person. This hasn't seemed to be a problem with escorts in their 30's (haven't tried the 40's but I intend to). Physically, of course, the 20 year old's perform amazingly, but they seem disconnected from me--not exactly "indifferent" just "on a different wave length". Is this a question of maturity, either of age or time in the business, or have I just hit the wrong escorts (for me) so far, and should I continue to look at escorts in their 20's as possible hires? Thanks, in advance, for your opinions. And I posted here because I want to hear from the escorts as well.

 

I reviewed Prince Nick. I think he would be a good choice for you.

[Maxx00]

However, there is something about Travis in Boston that has caught my eye. Will test early August. Cheers!

 

Just a warning that I had an experience eerily like the one bad review of Travis in the review section (see my post about tipping). Perhaps you will have a great time like the other reviewers but I did not. Maybe the difference between the good and the bad is to have an out-call rather than an in-call. If you plan on an out-call, be sure to stay in the Boston city limits as he can only travel where the MBTA goes.

 

If you go forward, good luck!

[gilbert]

I like my escorts in the 20's or early 30's. I've had some very personable escorts who were in their mid to late 20's. Of course, maybe it helps that I am also very friendly and easy to get along with. When I look for an escort one of the qualities I look for is someone is personable and able to show me a good time outside the bedroom as well as in the bedroom.

[JoeyBryant]

Too many generalities being tossed around here... Age really doesnt matter for those guys looking for a pure sexual experience. Its about the connection , Lust and bedroom compatibility between the parties. For those guys however that are indeed paying for the "pillow talk" perhaps a more suitable and age appropriate escort would be in order.. But maturity CAN exists at any age, and immaturity can as well. I've met plenty of 30-60 year old fuckin flakey assholes, who had nothing to say, and whose social skills were non-existant.

 

I concur...

 

I have to admit I'm a bit butt-hurt about some of the comments about guys in their 20s. However, I can't discredit anyone's opinion or experiences or what they feel works best.

 

As far as guys in their 20s being only out for the money, that is just not true. Hello, this is a business and I can imagine most have the focus on profit. I've spoken to and known a handful of older escorts as well. Trust me, they all about the money too if not more. Definitely no talking down rates like one would with a 20s something guy. I think a better barometer would be to focus on how a person writes their ad, what kind of photos they have, etc and that would give an idea.

 

As someone in their 20s, I'm definitely invested and take this seriously. And more and more I get requests to meet clients over public settings and we are able to converse and relate as if the 20 or 30 year age difference mattered not. I mean think about it, most times you meet an escort it's going to be like dates 1, 2 and 3 in the dating scene. You're not going deep or talking too much about your life history. You're keeping things light and comfortable: the ambiance, work, recent vacations, current events...maybe a couple things about guys you've hired/past sexual experiences. But not going on and on about each other's past, finances, politics, hopes for the future that will just turn you flaccid in 5 seconds flat.

 

Then again, I have to admit most everybody I get involved with is older than I...40s and the current one is 34. But it's important not to blanket all 20-something escorts into one category because some of us actually get along real well with older men. It sucks to know there's potential clients out there who despite everything else being in place wouldn't hire me because of my age. But, I guess that's just (this) life. I certainly don't have any issue meeting older men to date though.

 

Oh, and someone made a comment about his parents being ancient at 42? Well...that's a major flaw in the gay community. One of my exes just hated when the time came when he turned 45. The scene loves to discriminate against age and race, however subtle or brazen. It's time out for the bullshit.

[bigvalboy]

I concur...

 

I have to admit I'm a bit butt-hurt about some of the comments about guys in their 20s. However, I can't discredit anyone's opinion or experiences or what they feel works best.

 

As far as guys in their 20s being only out for the money, that is just not true. Hello, this is a business and I can imagine most have the focus on profit. I've spoken to and known a handful of older escorts as well. Trust me, they all about the money too if not more. Definitely no talking down rates like one would with a 20s something guy. I think a better barometer would be to focus on how a person writes their ad, what kind of photos they have, etc and that would give an idea.

 

As someone in their 20s, I'm definitely invested and take this seriously. And more and more I get requests to meet clients over public settings and we are able to converse and relate as if the 20 or 30 year age difference mattered not. I mean think about it, most times you meet an escort it's going to be like dates 1, 2 and 3 in the dating scene. You're not going deep or talking too much about your life history. You're keeping things light and comfortable: the ambiance, work, recent vacations, current events...maybe a couple things about guys you've hired/past sexual experiences. But not going on and on about each other's past, finances, politics, hopes for the future that will just turn you flaccid in 5 seconds flat.

 

Then again, I have to admit most everybody I get involved with is older than I...40s and the current one is 34. But it's important not to blanket all 20-something escorts into one category because some of us actually get along real well with older men. It sucks to know there's potential clients out there who despite everything else being in place wouldn't hire me because of my age. But, I guess that's just (this) life. I certainly don't have any issue meeting older men to date though.

 

Oh, and someone made a comment about his parents being ancient at 42? Well...that's a major flaw in the gay community. One of my exes just hated when the time came when he turned 45. The scene loves to discriminate against age and race, however subtle or brazen. It's time out for the bullshit.

 

I agree Joey, no one can certainly in fairness, eliminate a younger escort, just because of age. I used to admit liking older guys to hire. I assumed, now I realize wrongly, that because they were older, we would have more in common, like life experiences, travel, perhaps a better sense of the world, or maybe just maybe a little of that bf experience thrown in for good measure. Not necessarily true. I have had a couple of unsatisfactory hires with guys that are older and I have now realized that it is impossible to judge.

 

I think that you show an astounding amount of maturity and insight into a multitude of subjects for your age that a lot of older guys would be envious of. While a good portion of younger guys are into to it just for the money, many are not, and are serious about making this a career. Also with older guys, you run the risk of hiring someone that is burned out in this profession, and that happens. I have talked to several that are just depressed about their life and unsure what direction that they should take now. If an escort tells me these sort of things over dinner, I feel somewhat responsible for his current mental state and sometimes I feel guilty and concerned. I am always trying to save someone...LOL and many times you just have to move on. Not everyone wants to be saved, or can for that matter.

 

Anyway, that's all I got for now. Hope you are well...regards, BVB