Would An Escort Say, "Whoa, That's Too Much Work For Me"? LOL!

[GuntherCory]

Gallahadesquire, I'm so sorry to hear about your problems, and that you haven't recovered so well. I wish you continued progress in the future. Believe me, I know what you're going through. Hang in there.

 

I'd ask you for some suggestions from your own escort list, but...what a drag they've mostly retired!

[GuntherCory]

Jjkrkwood, overthinking can be a major problem. If a person hems and haws, and keeps second-guessing his decisions, he'll never get anywhere. That's why I'm going to jump in the water sooner rather than later. So far, some of the escorts who've given me the fastest boner are Gabriel Clark/Lenfant, David of SF, AJ Irons, and Chad Brock. I wouldn't mind getting wet with any of them!

[GuntherCory]

If you want help making a decision, you could make a list of the guys you are most interested in seeing and ask forum members for input. Sometimes forum members have seen a guy but didn't publish a review or they can expand upon information in a review they did publish.

 

I agree this is a good idea. I've already started a few threads, asking for members' opinions or experiences with some of the guys I'm thinking about.

[Lookin]

If you've been lucky enough to have been teleported back to a state of near-virginity, you, my friend, are sitting in the catbird seat!

 

If I remember correctly, the days when every erotic touch led to an orgasm, and each orgasm led to another, were magic times indeed. It may be easier than you think to find an escort who wants a piece of that. http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/tongue.png

 

Call me old-fashioned, but it sounds like you don't have a problem - you have an opportunity.

 

Enjoy! http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/thumbsup.png

[GuntherCory]

ROFTLMAO, Lookin!

 

Too true.

 

Are you suggesting I stop thinking and simply dive in?

[jjkrkwood]

ROFTLMAO, Lookin!

 

Too true.

 

Are you suggesting I stop thinking and simply dive in?

 

 

Well Lookin is an Overthinker, and look at his Avatar pic and you can see what it did to HIM... not a pretty picture. LMFAO..

[GuntherCory]

Well Lookin is an Overthinker, and look at his Avatar pic and you can see what it did to HIM... not a pretty picture. LMFAO..

 

Yikes! What I'd want to smoke wouldn't be a bong!

[unsub2O17]

Hi Alex and Welcome,

 

Most has been said, but I have a slightly different perspective. I didn't start on this journey until I was 65, so I had a lot of your concerns, but for different reasons. I spent hours, days, weeks looking at M4RN because that was the website that came up first on Google. I did, indeed, want hot. But I also knew that I needed patient, good with first timers, and someone who specifically mentioned caring for older men. I also took Rockin Dave's online course on how to pick an escort (now, there's a new, practical idea for you!). Finally I picked. I cannot express the effort that it took to make that first call. Well, he was just what he had advertised. I read his reviews on M4RN, and HE recommended Daddy's. And, my first two times were nerve wracking and somewhat unsuccessful. But I stuck with it and him. We got to know each other better and became more comfortable. It seemed to me like all of a sudden, but on the third time--KABOOM! And it's been fantastic since. And, yes, I've branched out. So the message--go for it. Don't regret waiting (I did but I don't waste time on regret anymore), and give time and opportunity for you to get comfortable with your escort and for him to get to know you. BTW, on the issue of cumming too soon, I started abstaining a week before and just about went crazy. This next time it will be down to three days. It's only been two and I'm thinking about him all the time. Best of luck!!

[jjkrkwood]

Hi Alex and Welcome,

 

Most has been said, but I have a slightly different perspective. I didn't start on this journey until I was 65, so I had a lot of your concerns, but for different reasons. I spent hours, days, weeks looking at M4RN because that was the website that came up first on Google. I did, indeed, want hot. But I also knew that I needed patient, good with first timers, and someone who specifically mentioned caring for older men. I also took Rockin Dave's online course on how to pick an escort (now, there's a new, practical idea for you!). Finally I picked. I cannot express the effort that it took to make that first call. Well, he was just what he had advertised. I read his reviews on M4RN, and HE recommended Daddy's. And, my first two times were nerve wracking and somewhat unsuccessful. But I stuck with it and him. We got to know each other better and became more comfortable. It seemed to me like all of a sudden, but on the third time--KABOOM! And it's been fantastic since. And, yes, I've branched out. So the message--go for it. Don't regret waiting (I did but I don't waste time on regret anymore), and give time and opportunity for you to get comfortable with your escort and for him to get to know you. BTW, on the issue of cumming too soon, I started abstaining a week before and just about went crazy. This next time it will be down to three days. It's only been two and I'm thinking about him all the time. Best of luck!!

 

The only thing that bothers me about unsubs post is his Last comment. There are many people for whom hiring and the guys they hire become an obsession. It can creep on you and before you know it, you are smitten, and have a whole new set of problems on your hands. But I do agree that repeated performance with a singular guy will increase your comfort level and success with the session. But always remember, repeat performances and throwing money at the escort will not insure he will fall in love with YOU; with your money, MAYBE ?

[Dave]

Alex

just the way you were upfront to the forum about your situation is exactly how you should be to your potential escort(s). then listen carefully as to how he reacts... if i were you i would be dong this contact via live phone conversation, not email. you can tell a lot about a man by the way he talks.

yes, get moving on this - dont overthink it, and turn it into something impossible to tackle.

feel free to contact me directly if you have any specific questions.

good luck!

and since unsub2017 mentioned it, i will again be offering my webinar Best Client Ever. if anyone is interested in being notified of that once i set the date for it, please send me an email.

[unsub2O17]

Absolutely correct, JJ. Please don't be concerned. My hold on reality is intact. I KNOW that he's just a great guy who I'm lucky to have found. Eventually, he'll go his way, and I'll go mine. And I have used other escorts also. Sorry if I gave the wrong impression. I was just trying to say that masturbating fairly close to the encounter might help the problem of cumming too soon.

[seeker630]

Hi ALex, and welcome to the Forum!

 

Lots of good advice here, but I think it boils down to 2 basics: frank communication (about your situation and your expectations before hand, then letting the escort know during the session what is working or isn't) ; picking the right escort (which requires a little research as well as the afore-mentioned communication. Many, if not most, of the real pros will have had experience wth closeted, inexperience men and first-timers.

 

Best of luck! (And write a review afterwards )

[Decatur Guy]

First of all, congratulations on your long road to recovery.

 

As for what you asked, I'm sure there are any number of escorts well-reviewed here who are just as happy to go slow and easy with you as they are fast and rough with others.

[maxwellissmart]

I only know Max from the forums. One of the great guys here, but kinda secretive. I am sure if you pvt message him, he can provide you more info about himself.

 

Or can he?

 

Alex—one thing that hasn't been mentioned about your recovery (and this may or may not be applicable) is the state of your body and its appearance. Are you psychologically prepared to be with someone—naked? I have clients who won't take off their shirts or get completely nude with me because they have issues that prevent them from feeling completely comfortable. While I understand where they are coming from—it does create a distance that I would rather not be there. The cause might be weight, scars, or something else—I hope that if this does apply to you, that you'll be able to open up and give yourself up to the experience. If this is a potential problem—try to look at your escort like a counselor who can help you get past this, rather than someone who is judging you. You might find it's some powerful and relatively cheap therapy (and it goes both ways when—as a client—you stroke your escort's ego).

 

Just a thought.

[GuntherCory]

Hi Alex and Welcome,

 

Most has been said, but I have a slightly different perspective. I didn't start on this journey until I was 65, so I had a lot of your concerns, but for different reasons. I spent hours, days, weeks looking at M4RN because that was the website that came up first on Google. I did, indeed, want hot. But I also knew that I needed patient, good with first timers, and someone who specifically mentioned caring for older men. I also took Rockin Dave's online course on how to pick an escort (now, there's a new, practical idea for you!). Finally I picked. I cannot express the effort that it took to make that first call. Well, he was just what he had advertised. I read his reviews on M4RN, and HE recommended Daddy's. And, my first two times were nerve wracking and somewhat unsuccessful. But I stuck with it and him. We got to know each other better and became more comfortable. It seemed to me like all of a sudden, but on the third time--KABOOM! And it's been fantastic since. And, yes, I've branched out. So the message--go for it. Don't regret waiting (I did but I don't waste time on regret anymore), and give time and opportunity for you to get comfortable with your escort and for him to get to know you. BTW, on the issue of cumming too soon, I started abstaining a week before and just about went crazy. This next time it will be down to three days. It's only been two and I'm thinking about him all the time. Best of luck!!

 

Hi, Unsub.

 

Yes, I believe it will get better after I give myself and the escort some time to get to know each other, and become comfortable with each other. That's why I'll probably want to be with the same one person for multiple sessions, before branching out. Sex is always best (for me, anyway) when there's a certain degree of friendliness, comfort, and trust involved. I'm glad things eventually worked out well for you! It's great that you had that KABOOM moment!

[GuntherCory]

The only thing that bothers me about unsubs post is his Last comment. There are many people for whom hiring and the guys they hire become an obsession. It can creep on you and before you know it, you are smitten, and have a whole new set of problems on your hands. But I do agree that repeated performance with a singular guy will increase your comfort level and success with the session. But always remember, repeat performances and throwing money at the escort will not insure he will fall in love with YOU; with your money, MAYBE ?

 

 

Jjkrkwood, I've always had the upmost sympathy for people who latch onto others who, for whatever reason, are simply never going to interested in them "that way". Fortunately for me, however, I've always had enough of a protective instinct about myself to refrain from becoming attached to someone with whom a true, romantic relationship is out of the question. I don't need the grief. Just give me a friendly, laid-back, decent guy for an evening or two, and I'll be happy.

[GuntherCory]

Alex

just the way you were upfront to the forum about your situation is exactly how you should be to your potential escort(s). then listen carefully as to how he reacts... if i were you i would be dong this contact via live phone conversation, not email. you can tell a lot about a man by the way he talks.

yes, get moving on this - dont overthink it, and turn it into something impossible to tackle.

feel free to contact me directly if you have any specific questions.

good luck!

and since unsub2017 mentioned it, i will again be offering my webinar Best Client Ever. if anyone is interested in being notified of that once i set the date for it, please send me an email.

 

 

Dave, my first reaction was to correspond with potential dates via e-mail, but I think your idea about talking to them directly on the phone makes better sense. E-mail may be the easier route, considering I feel somewhat shy about the whole situation, but you can only real a real sense of the other person, and intuit his "vibes", in a live, one-on-one conversation. As long as I don't get tongue-tied and start to stammer!

[GuntherCory]

Hi ALex, and welcome to the Forum!

 

Lots of good advice here, but I think it boils down to 2 basics: frank communication (about your situation and your expectations before hand, then letting the escort know during the session what is working or isn't) ; picking the right escort (which requires a little research as well as the afore-mentioned communication. Many, if not most, of the real pros will have had experience wth closeted, inexperience men and first-timers.

 

Best of luck! (And write a review afterwards )

 

 

Seeker, the real question is, do the real pros have experience with...born-again virgins? LOL!

 

As for writing a review, you can bet I will. I'll be jumping from the rafters, eager to share my experience!

[GuntherCory]

First of all, congratulations on your long road to recovery.

 

As for what you asked, I'm sure there are any number of escorts well-reviewed here who are just as happy to go slow and easy with you as they are fast and rough with others.

 

Thank you. My road to recovery was long, but the journey gave me lessons I otherwise would not have learned, so in a sense, it was a valuable life experience. I just hope the next phase of my life, learning how to be a total 'ho, LOL, is just as valuable. (And a lot more fun!)

[GuntherCory]

Or can he?

 

Alex—one thing that hasn't been mentioned about your recovery (and this may or may not be applicable) is the state of your body and its appearance. Are you psychologically prepared to be with someone—naked? I have clients who won't take off their shirts or get completely nude with me because they have issues that prevent them from feeling completely comfortable. While I understand where they are coming from—it does create a distance that I would rather not be there. The cause might be weight, scars, or something else—I hope that if this does apply to you, that you'll be able to open up and give yourself up to the experience. If this is a potential problem—try to look at your escort like a counselor who can help you get past this, rather than someone who is judging you. You might find it's some powerful and relatively cheap therapy (and it goes both ways when—as a client—you stroke your escort's ego).

 

Just a thought.

 

Max, that was a very insightful post. Yes, after several years of physical challenges, my body is nothing to write home about. I'm lucky that there's almost no visible scarring anywhere, but whereas before my accident I worked out regularly and had a fairly decent physique, I'm now flabby around the gut. With 40 or so pounds to lose, I doubt my body would shock any experienced escort into having a stroke, but I know I'm going to be shy about taking my shirt off for the first time. I realize, however, that most escorts will have seen it all, as it were, and will probably be used to clients who are not gym bunnies. I figure, as long as I practice scrupulous hygiene, and show up freshly showered, with fresh breath, clean underwear (LOL), and a respectful, friendly attitude, the extra weight should not be reason enough, in and of itself, for the escort to send me packin'. I hope!

[maxwellissmart]

Max, that was a very insightful post. Yes, after several years of physical challenges, my body is nothing to write home about. I'm lucky that there's almost no visible scarring anywhere, but whereas before my accident I worked out regularly and had a fairly decent physique, I'm now flabby around the gut. With 40 or so pounds to lose, I doubt my body would shock any experienced escort into having a stroke, but I know I'm going to be shy about taking my shirt off for the first time. I realize, however, that most escorts will have seen it all, as it were, and will probably be used to clients who are not gym bunnies. I figure, as long as I practice scrupulous hygiene, and show up freshly showered, with fresh breath, clean underwear (LOL), and a respectful, friendly attitude, the extra weight should not be reason enough, in and of itself, for the escort to send me packin'. I hope!

 

It sounds like you'll do fine, then.

[GuntherCory]

It sounds like you'll do fine, then.

 

I hope so. But just because I know INTELLECTUALLY that having extra weight should not matter too much, on an emotional/sexual level, I'll bet that when I go to pull off my shirt, I'm going to be thinking, "Yikes! Maybe I should have waited until I slimmed down to my ideal weight!"

 

Anyway, we can't let fear of potential rejection prevent us from going for the gold and living our lives.

[maxwellissmart]

I hope so. But just because I know INTELLECTUALLY that having extra weight should not matter too much, on an emotional/sexual level, I'll bet that when I go to pull off my shirt, I'm going to be thinking, "Yikes! Maybe I should have waited until I slimmed down to my ideal weight!"

 

Anyway, we can't let fear of potential rejection prevent us from going for the gold and living our lives.

 

That's funny—you started this thread as a serf and now you're an apprentice. After you see someone and discuss it you'll be a lord at this rate.

[GuntherCory]

That's funny—you started this thread as a serf and now you're an apprentice. After you see someone and discuss it you'll be a lord at this rate.

 

OMG, you're right: my status is already rising!

 

Yep, after I get something ELSE to rise, and then eagerly share the news with y'all, who knows how high my message-board status will soar!

[Juan Vancouver]

Not a problem; an adventure.

 

Dear Alex,

 

As Jerry Blank in "Strangers with candy" used to scream:

 

"I'VE GOT SOMETHIN' TO SAY!"

 

I am looking at this from a very different perspective. You have been told that there are escorts who will be fine with your situation, real Pros who will be okay with taking it slowly and at your pace, escorts who have patience with first timers and inexperienced people.

 

I say forget those escorts. While they may give you a good service, this is not what you are looking for.

 

There are many (OK, maybe not many but a few) very good escorts for whom this would be a dreamed opportunity. They are not going to have patience with your limitations, They are not going to sit there biting their nails waiting for you to "get it" and finally be able to receive a good fuck; instead they are going to be excited and honoured by the fun opportunity of going through the process of learning your body with you.

 

We live for this shit! =)

 

It has always been my contention in this forum that there are two main types of escorts. (Well, there are many types, but I just want to talk about two.)

 

One is an escort, the real pro, the dream fuck, a man of a certain beauty and desirability, with a certain skill set and a good attitude who will give you a fantastic fuck. They will pretty much be able to work with most kind of clients and will adapt their skill set to the client's needs. They are great, warm, passionate and fun, and when what you need is a superb fuck, they are perfect for this job.

 

The other type is what I like to call the Intimacy therapist, the sexual healer. Call it what you please. This kind of escort loves using his body, his skill set, his experience and his awareness of his body and psyche to help you become more comfortable with your own. This kind of escort will give you a good fuck if that is what you are looking for, but he will also be able to help you learn how to navigate your own body, teach you healthy ways to explore your sexuality. For escorts like this a situation like yours is not something to be patient about; an escort like this will revel at the chance to give you a safe, loving and caring environment in which you can feel free to blossom. An escort like this has a lot of experience, tools and creativity to be able to make it easy, relaxed and fun for both of you, and what is more important, they have the sensitivity and the desire to do so.

 

There is nothing more fulfilling than seeing that flicker in the face of our clients, that expression that says "Oh, God, now I get it! This is actually fun!".

 

You should not come to them saying "Sorry, I am inexperienced, and can you please accommodate me?". Instead think of it more like "I have the adventure of my sexuality ahead of me and I want to share a few hours of this adventure with you. Would you be able to guide me through this?" (Okay, perhaps don't write this literally -it could sound a little intense, but you must at all times remember that you are sharing something wonderful with him. His whole practice as an escort is spent hoping that he will be able to help someone like you become a confident, relaxed, self-assured, able sexual being.) He is in this profession hoping that he will have a chance to help you realize how exquisite, unique and important you are.

 

One word of caution, though: make sure you remember that these talented men are teachers, guides, not lovers. You may experience powerful emotions which may make it easy to lose focus of the purpose they have in your life. Put yourself in their hands and remember that you are not there to be fulfilled, but to learn how to take the reins of your sexuality in your own hands. Dependance is just another face of disability. You should come to them with the intention of becoming a free, powerful sexual being.

 

It's school, it's not marriage. =)

 

Clearly you are on your way when it comes to research; you have already mentioned a few of the best sexual healers there are, so I have nothing else to say except congratulations for your recovery, congratulations for your big balls, having the bravery of facing life and grabbing the bull by the horns. I wish you a fulfilling, exciting and fun journey into yourself.