How Far In Advance Do You....

[ErieBear]

For those that jack-off, if you have an appointment with an escort scheduled, how far in advance of that appointment do you stop jacking off in order to make sure you're good and "charged up" as it were?

 

This is probably too personal, but I thought I'd ask anyway.

 

Thanks.

 

EB

[bigvalboy]

LOL LOL...What kind of question is this? but you since asked, and it did make me laugh today. I would say several days...and that is all I have to say about that EB...

[Epigonos]

The day before and like bigvalboy that's all I have to say on this subject.

[ErieBear]

laugh[/color] today. I would say several days...and that is all I have to say about that EB...

 

I know that I may ask a lot of elementary questions, please remember that I'm not just new to hiring, I'm also new to gay sex. And I don't have a lot of resources to ask some basic questions.

 

I apologize if I have offended anyone.

 

Thanks!

[Decatur Guy]

I like your questions. I am such a habitual jack-off-once-a-day guy, usually no days. But sometimes I have save up for a day or two.

[bigvalboy]

I know that I may ask a lot of elementary questions, please remember that I'm not just new to hiring, I'm also new to gay sex. And I don't have a lot of resources to ask some basic questions.

 

I apologize if I have offended anyone.

 

Thanks!

 

No need to apologize...seriously it was a very cute question, you put a smile on my face, and that is all that matters.

[raife]

Very good question actually! Day before for me as well, two if I know the guy's especially intense or I'm expecting a double-header.

[bigvalboy]

Very good question actually! Day before for me as well, two if I know the guy's especially intense or I'm expecting a double-header.

 

Almost afraid to ask, but what is a double-header? Double header as in....curious, but not sure what direction you are going.

[tom1980]

For a normal one hour appointment, I usually stop the day before. For longer appointments, I stop 2 or 3 days before. One time after I'd gone a couple of days without jacking off and then scheduled an one hour appointment, I jacked off a few hours before to make sure I didn't have any prematurity issues. That actually worked out pretty well and I'd do it again if I found myself in that situation.

 

What I find most amusing/curious is that you addressed the question to those of us who jack off. I think there are two kinds of guys: those who admit they jack off and liars. Maybe I'm wrong, but I never met a guy who credibly denied jacking off.

[+ purplekow]

Doubleheader I would think would mean trying to come twice in a session.

For me, I put off jerking off for several days and up to a week. Then the night before the meeting I will usually have a rather large and easily achieved orgasm which seems to prime the pump as the next day's orgasm with the escort is usually more voluminous and usually there is a second act to our play.

[Guest JackF]

That is a legitimate question and certainly not a weird one, IMO. At least you are asking because there are some clients out there (as maxwell has brought up in prior threads) that JO 12x prior to an appointment and then get angry at the escort when they cannot achieve an orgasm.....go figure, hah.

[ErieBear]

I think part of the issue for me is that I take a very long time to climax and often don't when I have sex with someone. It's actually kinda embarrassing sometimes. I addresses it with a urologist whose only response was "well, I've got a hundred patients with the opposite problem and would love to trade places with you.". Which, obviously, didn't really deal with my issue. I later found out that the problem is so unusual that there haven't been any studies on it of treatment designed for it.

[+ Travis69]

I think part of the issue for me is that I take a very long time to climax and often don't when I have sex with someone. It's actually kinda embarrassing sometimes. I addresses it with a urologist whose only response was "well, I've got a hundred patients with the opposite problem and would love to trade places with you.". Which, obviously, didn't really deal with my issue. I later found out that the problem is so unusual that there haven't been any studies on it of treatment designed for it.

 

I also have problems achieving orgasm. I have found it depends on time of day, how tired I am, have I just eating a meal, is my bladder full, position I am in, is my mind thinking of something else. Experiment with your body and see if any of these factors affect you. Unless you are 18, a great erection and orgasm aren't as easy as the porn films would lead you to believe.

[Lankypeters]

15 minutes before.

[Michael Wayne]

some of my clients actually jack off day off session up until 3 or 4 hours before the appointment. why? TO AVOID PREMATURE EJACULATION! mANY OF MY BEST CLIENTS ARE MARRIED GUYS WHO DON'T GET dick alot so they get real charged up when they do. I get alot of 5 and 10 minute appointments so I reccomend this method to them and they can then usually last longer and sometimes even long enough to satisfy me...... as far as clients who do not cum is concerned this is NOT uncommon at all. This is the other side that we don't discuss much on here. age is an issue, no doubt. The older a guy is the harder it is to actually ejacualate-for some guys. I find also that if a client is inexperienced as a bottom then sometimes the natural reaction is to go soft especially when a good top has massaged them before and is instructing them to relax. The body has natural defense mechanisms and when a big or huge cock is invading their ass it is natural to not be quick to shoot. The more sessions I have with a new client the better they become at power bottoming as the kids now days call it. So I see both sides of the fence here. I see quick shooters and I see no shooters. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[SteveEscort]

I find also that if a client is inexperienced as a bottom then sometimes the natural reaction is to go soft especially when a good top has massaged them before and is instructing them to relax. The body has natural defense mechanisms and when a big or huge cock is invading their ass it is natural to not be quick to shoot.

 

This, I find happens anyway. I love being fucked and I can be topped by 4-5 clients on any given day (I rarely get 4-5 clients a day but it has happened) and I can keep my cock hard but if for example he want's a bit more rougher with my hands tied behind by back whilst working my arse, I find it hard to stay hard because I have no stimulation of my cock. I also find that if I am concentrating on giving a a guy deep throat, I will lose my erection if he does nothing to help me maintain it.

[Guest]

I think part of the issue for me is that I take a very long time to climax and often don't when I have sex with someone. It's actually kinda embarrassing sometimes. I addresses it with a urologist whose only response was "well, I've got a hundred patients with the opposite problem and would love to trade places with you.". Which, obviously, didn't really deal with my issue. I later found out that the problem is so unusual that there haven't been any studies on it of treatment designed for it.

 

What a blow-off response from the urologist! I'm guessing that you were talking to this urologist at a social situation rather than as a patient, because you phrased it "with a urologist" rather than "with my urologist." If I'm guessing incorrectly, you should find yourself another urologist. This problem is very common. More common, in fact, than the "opposite problem." If you've recently come out of the closet, the cause is more likely to be psychological, and should get better in time. That being said, there are a number of medical reasons which should be ruled out. Many substances can cause difficulty with erection and ejaculation, including alcohol, cigarettes, marijuana, and multiple medications, with antidepressants topping the list, as well as a number of BP meds. Poorly-controlled hypertension and DM will also cause difficulties with erection and ejaculation. Of course, diseases of the prostate or testicles can also cause such problems. You deserve seeing a doctor to rule out medical reasons if you haven't already done so (a good primary care physician should be able to do the basic workup, and certainly any even half-competent urologist should be able to do this).

As for the original question, I'm usually a once-a-day jerker, and will usually skip a day or two prior to seeing an escort. If I skip two days, a good escort will be rewarded with a sight worthy of a geyser in Yellowstone National Park.

http://wikitravel.org/upload/shared/e/e7/Yellowstone_grand_geyser.jpg

[ErieBear]

It was actually with a urologist who I was seeing as a patient. I never went back. I tried another urologist who promptly left the room while pants (and underwear) were still around my ankles. Not too happy about showing the folks in the hallway my business. It's taken awhile, but I've finally found one that I like. There are some medical issues that are affecting it and they're working now to see what they can do about it.

 

I finally came up with a saying about the matter. If you spend your day with dicks and assholes, you might not be the nicest guy either.

[instudiocity]

I've found a 'day of release' gives me more stamina for the date and a more satisfying time.

[Guest]

It was actually with a urologist who I was seeing as a patient. I never went back. I tried another urologist who promptly left the room while pants (and underwear) were still around my ankles. Not too happy about showing the folks in the hallway my business. It's taken awhile, but I've finally found one that I like. There are some medical issues that are affecting it and they're working now to see what they can do about it.

 

I finally came up with a saying about the matter. If you spend your day with dicks and assholes, you might not be the nicest guy either.

 

Wow! You actually paid the guy to brush off your concerns in a flippant manner! That's incredibly unprofessional. It's amazing guys like that can stay in business. I would report his behavior to your primary care physician, so hopefully he won't keep sending patients there. I wonder if this is more of an East Coast phenomenon? The only case I heard of which was worse than this actually involved a dying cancer patient. When the patient expressed frustration that the oncologist seemed to have run out of options, the oncologist literally reached in his desk to pull out a wand such as this http://www.ad-promotion-gift.com/upimage/1939/25091/magic-wandgreen-3.jpg and said "I wish I could wave this wand and make your cancer go away, but I'm not a magician!". The fact that he kept a wand in his office desk implied he actually used this as a "standard speech"! May I ask how you came to be seen by that first urologist? Was this through the VA system or something?

[ErieBear]

Nope. He just admitted to the same hospital, so my doc sent me to him. My family doc doesn't send people to him anymore, lol.

[unsub2O17]

One of the many reasons that I like these forums is that they raise issues that I'd never even thought of or thought to question. EB, I love this question. I am like you in that I'm new to both escorting and men, though I'm probably quite a bit older, and I do have (prostate?) problems with both erection and premature ejaculation. I was taught in my youth that sperm count reached its maximum after three days of abstinence. Therefore, I figured, that that was when desire and performance would also reach their peak. Of course, I jerked off more like once a day. But when I wanted to "perform," I waited at least three days...then. Now, with my first escort, I waited two weeks and about went crazy. And it still didn't happen! As I've got to know him and become more comfortable with him, and he with me, I've reduced the time to 6 days--with great success. Now, after reading this thread, I'm wondering if I should just keep reducing the days and see what happens. Also, what do I do about seeing a new escort?? I think that I'll start with a week, and, again, see what happens. If I'm just masturbating, for me 2-3 days is now what works best. But I am 65!