Returing to the Bar Scene After Escorts

[+ Charlie]

I stopped trying to seriously cruise in bars after I hit 50; now I just go as a spectator, and if something happens, it happens. The worst thing is to go to a bar when you're really horny, because it's like dangling food in front of a caged animal. I enjoy visiting a bar the most right after I have had a good session with an escort.

[Huey]

>It's a lot of work to get lucky just once in awhile, but also fun.

 

I'm jealous ... I've been trying to get Lucky, he keeps telling me I'm not his type .

[+ Lucky]

Keep trying, Huey!

[chrismac]

I visit bars from time to time, especially when traveling. I met a really hot guy in Portland, OR last time I was there. In my hometown of San Diego, I usually go with a friend or two, and start cruising from there. But bar hopping is less preferable to me than checking out the online hotties, which has been successful. I'll be in NYC this weekend and already have a few hot studs lined up. We'll see how many come through. }(

[Guest Bitchboy]

I met my most recent (and last!) boyfriend at a bar, after a couple years of hiring escorts. For some reason, once I met him and started dating him exclusively I suddenly became everyone's type. I've had more offers in the past few years. I guess happiness is an aphrodisiac.

[btmstudnyc]

Who doesn't want to get lucky?

 

 

JIM

[buzz]

All depends on what you're looking for. In my 40s I had lousy luck in bars, but in my 50s I discovered the world of young men who are hot for older guys. Now that I'm well into 60s, it is dynamite. Problem is you have to go to the right bars....places where young men who like older men hang out. for example, I have never had a problem at the Townhouse in New York.

 

Recently had a hot guy in his 30s come on very strong with me. The sex was fantastic.

 

Also I am finding to my surprise that guys my own age are becoming attractive to me.

 

But if you are looking for the perfect face and perfect body with the capacity for endless sex, you probably have to pay....as I do from time to time.

 

cheers

buzz

[+ Lucky]

Who doesn't want to get lucky?

 

Well, for starters, those cute Asian guys at the Roxie last Tuesday!

[Guest DevonSFescort]

I've had quite a few clients who hired me during what could broadly be described as "transitional periods" in their lives, and who later got in touch to tell me that they were either having fun in the dating scene or had already settled down with somebody. It makes sense: it's a cliche to say that good escorts bring out and respond to the sexy parts of their clients, largely because it's true. A lot of guys walk away from a good experience with an escort feeling "empowered" and better about themselves, and it's not surprising that others will pick up on, and be drawn to, that boosted sense of confidence.

[Rick Munroe]

>A lot of guys walk away

>from a good experience with an escort

>feeling "empowered"

 

And if the escort had a really huge dick, they also walk away a bit bowlegged.

[Guest Bitchboy]

If I may take a moment to be serious here, which is not something I'm prone (I love that word!) to doing here because it usually gets me into trouble, what you say, Devon, is so true. It's exactly what happened to me, and my Professor Higgins was none other than our very own Rick Munroe. I'm not even sure if he remembers who I am since I have a real name not even close to this moniker I use here. I had been steeped in heterosexuality and finally, after years of sneaking around, I made the break and got honest with my spouse and child. I felt absolutely horrible about myself and also believed I was so repulsively ugly no one would ever look at me twice. I hired others besides Rick (and at his urging Derek as well) but Rick is the one who made me feel handsome and desireable. I couldn't get over how he made me feel. I didn't even hire him a lot, but we exchanged emails a lot and every one was a confidence building experience for me. The following summer I met my boyfriend and we even ran into Rick and Derek on Fire Island a couple of times. I couldn't believe I was even the same person. So I have a lot of gratitude to escorts, and to Rick and Derek in particular. They really helped in giving me a life!

[Guest alanm]

Has this topic ever been discussed here? Don't think so! It happened to me from economic necessity (IRS and the downturn in the market); it's hard work but surprisingly enjoyable. I started to hire escorts about 5 years ago when it seemed at 49 I was too old for the bars. Tonight there were three guys whom I would have hired in a minute if it had been a hustler bar(they were with other people, not that I ever really stood a chance as a one night stand or anything else). But there are also decent guys in their 40s and 50s. It's a lot of work to get lucky just once in awhile, but also fun. Anyone else have a similar experience? Is anyone doing both at the same tiime?

[Rick Munroe]

Hey Bitchboy (and I think I finally know who you are now, you handsome sneak :* )..it's posts like yours (and emails I've exchanged in the past with you & other guys) that really make me feel good about myself (not that this huge ego needed help there, but you know what I mean). I think it's mutual; when this escorting thing is done right, we both walk away not only physically satisfied but emotionally as well. When (if?) I retire, that's what I'll miss the most. OK, I'd better stop now before I start to get choked up; choking and gagging are two things that are definitely not my style.

[Guest Tomcal_]

I came "out" 6 years ago and knew nothing about the gay dating scene. With out boring the crap out of all of you, i will skip the why's but I was intimadated by the gay scene/bars and had my first M4M sex with escorts, I was very lucky never had a bad experience, and continued on and off for the next 4 years. I travel every week for business so it was just easier then trying to find someone, with the escorts it's a sure thing. Last year I discovered Rio Saunas thanks to Trilingual and went 4 times this past year, lots of boy lots of sex and all very easy. When i came back in Oct. from the last trip, i went to the bars and right back to the dating scene and the first night out was frustrated by not finding someone who i wanted who also wanted me!

I went out the next weekend and found someone and did again the next week. this past week i went out with 3 different guys on dates, yet i still hire when the time and mood fits and i am going back to Rio in April! You can definitly go back to the bar scene after hiring for a period of time(interestingly, one of the guys i am dating, escorts, he found me on Gaydar dating site, I haven't told him that i have hired in the past). I really am enjoying the bar/dating scene, and I think my escort experiences(certainly Rio) have given me additional confidence. Go do what makes you feel good!!