It seems so Different....Is It?

[doitb4ugo]

Having been experimenting/experiencing sex with other men (non-escorts), I am noticing a great deal of differences in my experiences so far. Would love to hear your thoughts/comments on your perceptions...

 

1. no particular time frames

2. Activities do not seem to follow the familiar patterns

3. orgasm and timing seem less important

4. less emphasis on Customer feel

5. it's about 2 (or more) people getting what they want

 

I'm sure there are many others.....what do you think??

[maxwellissmart]

Having been experimenting/experiencing sex with other men (non-escorts), I am noticing a great deal of differences in my experiences so far. Would love to hear your thoughts/comments on your perceptions...

 

1. no particular time frames

2. Activities do not seem to follow the familiar patterns

3. orgasm and timing seem less important

4. less emphasis on Customer feel

5. it's about 2 (or more) people getting what they want

 

I'm sure there are many others.....what do you think??

 

I'm not quite sure why you'd be surprised—of course it's going to be a different dynamic when you're hiring someone as opposed to tricking around for free. What kinda amuses me about your post is "LESS emphasis on Customer feel" as opposed to "NO emphasis on Customer feel." Are you saying that you still feel like you're hiring when you are not?

 

(and by the way: #5 still happens pretty much when you're hiring)

[doitb4ugo]

I'm not quite sure why you'd be surprised—of course it's going to be a different dynamic when you're hiring someone as opposed to tricking around for free. What kinda amuses me about your post is "LESS emphasis on Customer feel" as opposed to "NO emphasis on Customer feel." Are you saying that you still feel like you're hiring when you are not?

 

(and by the way: #5 still happens pretty much when you're hiring)

 

Thanks for the response....I had not had sex with a guy until recently....and my only experience until a short time ago was with escorts....Funny but a good number of guys seem to be about pleasing me when we get together....I find that surprising when not paying for it...I don't feel when I'm with an escort that they are getting what they want...I feel they are delivering...here I may be wrong but it's much more scripted due to fitting all the action into a set time frame...

[+ purplekow]

Partners tend toward being less good looking. Some non-escorts are actually in more of a hurry than an escort is. More drama in general, well the first time round at least. After you know someone, the drama factor usually drops.

[nate_sf]

There are definitely differences between having and encounter with an escort and getting together with a fb or trick. There is the rule of thumb that the reason to hire an escort is (a) have them show up, and (b) have them leave. But there's more to it, particularly a commitment from all parties to do certain things together or get to a certain outcome. That's much more fluid and uncertain with a hook-up. You can tell an escort what you want and ideally he'll do it (or he'll say no) whereas with a hook-up you can't be sure if he'll oblige or how he'll react. As PK says, there is also often more drama in a hook-up because you don't really know where you're partner is coming from and what they're looking for.

 

I know this sounds totally biased as a sales pitch to hire an escort, but that's not my intention. Rather, just think when doing a hook-up that there is a different dynamic and rules of the game than hiring an escort. You've already acknowledged that with your list. If I'm bored, alone and horny and switch on Grindr I know the experience (if I'm able to actually get someone to show up) is going to be different than when a client calls and schedules and is wanting to get off. Definitely more uncertainty.

 

I'll second Max that as an escort I get a lot of fun and satisfaction with the sex I have in my appointments, which is a big part of why I stay in the business. There is a motivation and excitement with the client that is not always there with a hook-up. But with any encounter I think it always goes better if you are able to say what you want. It might be more comfortable to say what you want with an escort, but if you can do that with a fb, trick or group that should make it a better experience too.

[Bosguy]

Thanks for the response....I had not had sex with a guy until recently....and my only experience until a short time ago was with escorts....Funny but a good number of guys seem to be about pleasing me when we get together....I find that surprising when not paying for it...I don't feel when I'm with an escort that they are getting what they want...I feel they are delivering...here I may be wrong but it's much more scripted due to fitting all the action into a set time frame...

 

First of all, having met you, you are an extremely good looking, handsome man who should have no problem in any situation

 

Secondly, the non-escort encounters are truly widely hit or miss. I've found so many games going on and that's a total turn-off for me

 

Finally, I hope all your adventures turn out well.

 

Boston Bill

[Michael Wayne]

I really try to make my clients feel as if they are NOT with an escort. This is the boyfriend experience......however.......many times the RULES are enforced by the client more than by me. I would NEVER call the clock on someone, ("how rude," as jar jar binks would say) BUT I have clients call the clock on themselves all the time. This is a very common occurance: I am topping the client and having fun taking my time and it is close to the end of the hour or two hour period and client says, "I better go ahead and cum cause my time is about up and I am sure you have another client waiting...." So I have to stop and tell him that I am very much enjoying his ass and that the clock is the last thing on my mind. I further tell him that if we run over 15 minutes or 30 minutes I am NOT going to upcharge him. Then I re insert, the client RELAXES and we have a great time!!!! Then that client will call me again! This is the reasoning behind my 2012 advertising slogan, "I AM ABOUT THE COCK, NOT THE CLOCK!" http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[Michael Wayne]

To further explain

 

So many clients feel like every escort is the same and so what happened with escort x will happen with escort y. I have spent a career having to prove to clients that I am not like the 90% of escorts who are very unprofessional and whose customer service SUCKS! There are about 10% of us who really do deeply value our clients and who realize that this biz is about REGULARS and REPEATS. It is this type of escort who develops a good reputation and a national following. As I have said before and will say again: during my many years in this biz I have seen a hundred guys totally wash out who were cuter than me, had a better body than me or (yes, I hate to admit this) but even have a longer and /or thicker dick than me. What none of them had was the abilty to truly LIKE the client and BE NICE to the client. Their rotten , nasty ATTITUDE makes them fail and so I have to spend much of the time in my initial appointment with some of their victims trying to convince the new client that I am different. They EXPECT me to be in a hurry or to have an attitude. How sad...