Ooops, FOUND OUT

[Guest dstud4hire]

Well, I knew it would happen one day....my 'ex' (and currently a great friend of mine) saw an escort ad in a magazine, was curious who it might be in the community, it referenced this site, and lo and behold, he came across my # and ad, recognized me, and called me up to razz me....

 

I guess I'm ok with it, I was going to try to deny it, say someone out in the community was illegally posting photos of me, etc, then thought...."what the fuck" so he knows.....but I did still ask he keeps it to him self....

 

Kinda weird though having someone so close to me who knows.......

 

nothing like being 'outted' hehehehe

 

Do any other scorts worry about that? what about clients worry about what friends would think if they knew you hired?

[DaninWA]

I've only hired an escort once, for my first time with a man. It was a wonderful experience and I'm glad I did it.

 

Two months ago, I told my bf that I had done this. He looked at me with disgust, told me I was pathetic, walked out, and I haven't seen or spoken with him since. His loss.

 

Dan

[+ deej]

It could be worse, sweet cheeks.

 

A good friend who's done porn & escorting over the years was in the middle of a messy breakup when the bf's parents saw him in Cinemax's "101 Rent Boys". Just the sort of extra angst you need during a messy breakup, eh?

 

Another friend had a co-worker walk up to him in the cafeteria one day and say "Hey, I saw the latest Jeff Stryker video. You looked great!"

 

ANYONE who puts their image out in connection with ANY endeavor has to be ready for the people you least want to know about it finding out. They WILL find out, with almost surgical precision. Murphy will see to it. :9

[Guest dstud4hire]

>I've only hired an escort once, for my first time with a man.

> It was a wonderful experience and I'm glad I did it.

>

>Two months ago, I told my bf that I had done this. He looked

>at me with disgust, told me I was pathetic, walked out, and I

>haven't seen or spoken with him since. His loss.

>

>Dan

 

that is awful!!!!

 

well, I've lost one BF over tis a while ago. I wrote about it on this system when it happened, he did porn at one point in his life, and totally judged this...when that happened, I thought, WOW, if he has a prob over this, wait till regular boy friend's

 

oh well, like deej said in the other response, gotta be prepped for this i guess...

 

[Guest ortrud45]

Well, I knew it would happen one day ...

 

Had a straight guy (friend) staying overnight at my home (in my guestroom for inquiring minds): the next day I had a trip coming up

and just needed to print out my e-mail-exchange for a set appointment

with an escort (phone-number). I took advantage of the situation (discretion) and wanted to do it when this friend of mine was taking a shower before going to bed quite early. By coincidence I just got a call at this very moment, chatted away and forgot about my PC ...

When I finished my conversation my friend was done with his shower and

out of the blue, before retiring, wished me a hot time tomorrow.

 

First I was very much surprised ... then after a moment of hesitation

analyzing how to react ... said "thank you" and tried to approach another topic of conversation. But my friend wanted to know more about it, why I hired.

So I just answered him that when I feel hungry I go out to shop and that with escorts there is in fact no difference.

He found my approach quite logical and was completely cool about it, we still are friends, no problem at all!

[Donnie]

>He looked

>at me with disgust, told me I was pathetic

 

That's probably how he feels about himself and is no reflection on you. I'll bet he hires escorts too and feels guilty about it!

[Donnie]

>Well, I knew it would happen one day....my 'ex' (and

>currently a great friend of mine)

 

He can't be that great a friend if you were afraid for him to know what you do for a living.

[nate_sf]

Even though nobody's ever said anything to me directly, I kind of assume that somebody outside of my escorting at some point has seen my face somewhere, especially since a number of my work associates are gay and I figure they're checking out the internet ads like anyone else. I haven't figured out what I'd say if someone says something, but I suppose I'll just 'fess up.

 

It was funny, though... I while ago I was in a porno, and during a party we were at my boyfriend told someone there, and by the end of the party it seemed like everybody was ribbing me about it, including friends I might not have thought of telling otherwise. What's weirder, or funnier, is that a few weeks later, a friend e-mailed wanting to know where he could find the video. Here's getting to know you!

[hiJinX]

I was seeing a guy once a couple of years back while I was a lurker around here, reading reviews daily, looking for the right guy to educate me sexually. To my surprise, I found him listed under "New Reviews" one morning . I forwarded him the review (which was positive) and told him that was cool people we saying good things about him (though the descriptions of him were WAY off in some reviews...sometimes he was in his 20s sometimes in his 40s, his cock varied from 6 to 9 inches). He told me that if I had any concerns about his side business, that I should express them. Since we weren't even vaguely serious, after the initial surprise that I was with a guy others PAID to be with, I really didn't have any issues. What difference did it make if he were just promiscuous for fun or if he got paid for it?

Things didnt fall apart for me until I called him one day (having spoken to him the day before about hanging out) and he had no idea who I was.x(

I had said my name and he just drew a blank and had to be reminded who I was. I was totally too sensitive about it but it soured me on him and we really didn't talk much after that. I, to express my hurt feelings and he to tell me I wasn't being fair about what had happened.

 

Some of my closest friends are escorts.

[+ deej]

>weeks later, a friend e-mailed wanting to know where he could

>find the video. Here's getting to know you!

 

ROFL!

 

One little-known porn performer told me that it sorta freaks him out to be out on a date and in the course of the evening finding out that his date has seen him having sex before they've even touched each other.

[DaninWA]

Gabriel,

 

It wasn't awful. As I see it, there was some other problem in our relationship that he wouldn't talk about. I believe he chose to use what I told him as a way to end the relationship, with me as the bad guy. Fine, I'll assume that role. I repeat, it's his loss.

 

This probably sounds conceited, but I happen to think I'm a pretty great guy. I treat people with honesty, courtesy, and respect and expect to be treated the same. Some people have taken advantage of this resulting in me sometimes receiving the short end of the stick. Having a reputation for honesty and integrity is more important to me than whatever I might get from underhanded, unethical, just plain mean behavior.

 

Keep smiling, guys! The world really is a wonderful place.

 

Dan

[Rick Munroe]

>As I see it, there was some other problem

>in our relationship that he wouldn't talk about. I believe he

>chose to use what I told him as a way to end the relationship,

>with me as the bad guy.

 

You're probably right; that's usually the case; you have a good attitude!

 

>This probably sounds conceited, but I happen to think I'm a

>pretty great guy. I treat people with honesty, courtesy, and

>respect and expect to be treated the same.

 

Doesn't sound conceited at all. That's exactly how I live my life, too, and it's definitely what I expect in return. :-)