Met this really nice guy but not sure if he's gay...

[cynicalflannelwearer]

Hello everyone!

 

I frequent a Starbucks in my area and the last few times I went in I noticed this clean cut, attractive guy in his 20's checking me out.The last time I saw him I got my drink and sat near him, he said that he has seen me here a lot and introduced himself to me.I felt some sparks as we struck up quite a conversation and he laughed at all my jokes.

 

The thing is, he is a real estate agent or broker, and on his myspace page he put his orientation as straight. Now I know I was not seeing what I wanted to see, this cute guy was totally checking me out and flirting with me, and we had a great conversation.

 

I really want to pursue this, but I am not sure if I am getting my signals crossed or what. Advice please!

[Diverdan]

If you keep meeting him and you both enjoy the conversations, things will probably move on to where you want to go. Just don't rush it and let him take the lead.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

Wow I hope it works out. You can invite him for a drink. I think he is waiting for you to move first? Maybe he is waiting for your invitation. I know a guy who is a very chatty real estate agent in my area. He is very cute and in his 20s. But he seems to chat with anyone though. Hugs~~~

 

Hello everyone!

 

I frequent a Starbucks in my area and the last few times I went in I noticed this clean cut, attractive guy in his 20's checking me out.The last time I saw him I got my drink and sat near him, he said that he has seen me here a lot and introduced himself to me.I felt some sparks as we struck up quite a conversation and he laughed at all my jokes.

 

The thing is, he is a real estate agent or broker, and on his myspace page he put his orientation as straight. Now I know I was not seeing what I wanted to see, this cute guy was totally checking me out and flirting with me, and we had a great conversation.

 

I really want to pursue this, but I am not sure if I am getting my signals crossed or what. Advice please!

[adriano46]

Like some of the others have alredy said, go slowly and carefully and try not to read into the situation too much.

 

As you stated, he has initiated his, so he may have his reasons. It might be hoped that he is on the same team, and the orientation issue on his myspace page is simply professional "cover" (which in my experiences it seems many peple do on their social networking).

 

Continue the inconsequential meetings over coffee, the small chat, see what common interests you have and (if he does not move on to the next step), ask if he wants to go to meet for a drink (if he drinks), or go to some event, or meet on a weekend day for a walk or sports or whatever.

 

As you get more comfortable, if a good occasion arises, you can casually mention your own orientation without a dramatic announcement. You would be surprised how many young men (even the straightest of them) have absolutely no judgemental attitude in this, and you may even get the benefit of a friend for more than sex, though if it turn out he too is gay, you get the icing on the cake. KIt can be a win-win situation as long as you do not push it.

[RockHard]

The disarming power of a flirt.

 

I know a guy who is a very chatty real estate agent in my area. He is very cute and in his 20s. But he seems to chat with anyone though.

I've encountered numerous chatty real estate agents through the years. Whether L.A., NYC, Chicago, or Florida, they all seem to share the same "networking" style personality. I guess it's the nature of the "got-to-get-a-listing" beast.

 

I've been seduced by a few straight businessmen in my career. Some straight guys know how to pour on the charm. One CEO would hug me every time I met with him and it wasn't one of those chest bump hugs. I once worked with a beautiful guy who smiled and winked at me whenever we made eye contact. I melted each and every time and swore he was gay. All these guys were straight and once our relationships deepened, talking about sex became easy.

 

Whenever someone lists himself as straight, I tend to take a man at his word out of respect. Early 20's is young, so it's possible the guy could still be in the closet. I no longer have any experience flirting with younger men. They're not my thing.

 

I'm not a fan of relationship games, even the playful kind, and younger boys tend to be flighty that way. I don't have patience for that style of courtship. If I want to know more about someone, even if the information is personal, I find a tactful, delicate way to ask my question. Knowing where one stands prevents a foolish looking outcome and doesn't waste a lot of time with unrealistic expectations.

[cynicalflannelwearer]

I know a guy who is a very chatty real estate agent in my area. He is very cute and in his 20s. But he seems to chat with anyone though. Hugs~~~

 

Hmm, now that you mention it he does seem to chat with whomever is sitting next to him. Damn! But he was totally checking me out!

[cynicalflannelwearer]

 

Whenever someone lists himself as straight, I tend to take a man at his word out of respect. Early 20's is young, so it's possible the guy could still be in the closet. I no longer have any experience flirting with younger men. They're not my thing.

 

I'm not a fan of relationship games, even the playful kind, and younger boys tend to be flighty that way. I don't have patience for that style of courtship. If I want to know more about someone, even if the information is personal, I find a tactful, delicate way to ask my question. Knowing where one stands prevents a foolish looking outcome and doesn't waste a lot of time with unrealistic expectations.

 

Yeah,I know that it seems odd that the guy would be flirting with me but list his orientation as straight.He is also masculine and dresses like a typical straight guy.But he was checking me out!! LOL. I know i am being redundant , and this may sound conceited, but I am a good looking guy in my late 30's, and I am attracted to him and find him an interesting and a nice guy to be around.

 

I think I will take it as slow as he wants to, and maybe, if he is straight, have developed a friendship with a nice guy, and if he's closeted help him on his journey in life.Oh, who am I kidding, he was totally checking me out!

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

Lesson begins @ 1:09

Good luck!!

 

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[instudiocity]

...Oh, who am I kidding, he was totally checking me out!

I've had that happen recently and the age difference is HUGE! He's 23 and I'm 55! He's got a reputation among his friends as quite the lover but crashes hard when the girl dumps him.

 

I enjoy spending time with him. And that's as far as I'm going to go. He's a good hugger, tight and warm, full frontal contact. A great jokester and drinking buddy. Last time we were drinking together he stood between a mutual friend am me at the bar. His arms were all over my back. When he gets like this, his friends call him 'Hooks'. When he's drinking the hooks come out and he's in love with everybody.

 

Oh, and the poster who made the comments about 20-somethings have a open-mindedness about gay people. It's true. They seem to think it's more important to be fucking than WHO you're fucking.

 

We live about 100 miles apart, me in the city, him away at college. When his in the city partying, my place is his crash pad.

 

If nothing more happens, he's a joy to have in my life.

 

I keep telling myself I don't need to have sex with him...but it would be fun!

[RockHard]

Wishful thinking.

 

and this may sound conceited, but I am a good looking guy in my late 30's

 

Good-looking is relative. Gay men tend to have very distinct opinions on how they define "good looking." One man's butt-ugly is another man's knight in shining armor. We see this a lot in The Gallery and The Deli, when discussing escort's looks. Unless another man tells you he thinks you're handsome or hot, you really can't know for sure what he's thinking when he looks at you.

 

I've experienced plenty of straight guys at my gym, complete strangers, who strike up conversation with a question about my haircut, beard-or-no-beard, my workout routine, my pubic tattoo, my pool shoes, even questioning how I shave my body hair. I'm always surprised by these questions because I'm never conscious of any of these guys "checking me out."

 

who am I kidding, he was totally checking me out!

 

You can say it all you like but, unless he leaned over from his urinal to sneak a peek at your cock in your urinal, readers have no idea what "he was totally checking me out" means. IMO, "totally" means he had your cock in his hands.

[Guest greatness]

Aww don't be discouraged. He might be interested in you. Please let us know how it goes~~~

 

Hmm, now that you mention it he does seem to chat with whomever is sitting next to him. Damn! But he was totally checking me out!

[Guest greatness]

I love hugging and just spending time with guys. Instudiocity you have everything~~~

[instudiocity]

I love hugging and just spending time with guys. Instudiocity you have everything~~~

Well, not EVERYTHING, but I only want what they are willing to give. I can be very satisfied, drunk in his arms. Oh, hell, I can be satisfied drunk.

[Zapped]

Hey--a big age difference can be a PLUS, not a negative for hot younger guys. Same thing with how in shape you are. It's amazing how many slender/built guys in their 20s have a thing for older guys with some meat and a belly on them. When I was in my mid-thirties, depressed about my belly, I met a very hot guy in his early 20s who was nuts for me and the belly. And now I'm in my early 50s, finding the same phenomenon. So good luck, and don't sell yourself short.

[+ FreshFluff]

From what I've read here, lots of men have relationships/flings before coming out. Just keep flirting while maintaining a bit of plausible deniability.

[MsGuy]

Just keep flirting while maintaining a bit of plausible deniability.

 

I've got the flirty part down pat but I'm having a little trouble with my plausible deniability.

 

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[Guest greatness]

Aww that birdie is so cute~~~ Hugs~~

 

I've got the flirty part down pat but I'm having a little trouble with my plausible deniability.

 

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[cynicalflannelwearer]

From what I've read here, lots of men have relationships/flings before coming out. Just keep flirting while maintaining a bit of plausible deniability.

 

That sounds like a good idea....when I saw him yesterday I told him I was anal as I got out my hand wipes to clean my hands before I ate my muffin. LOL. There goes the

 

plausible part!

 

Well, if it doesn't lead to anything, at least i'm having a little fun!

[Guest greatness]

Yes.. Have a good conversation is great too. It doesn't have to lead to a sexual relationship. Thanks for the update..

 

That sounds like a good idea....when I saw him yesterday I told him I was anal as I got out my hand wipes to clean my hands before I ate my muffin. LOL. There goes the

 

plausible part!

 

Well, if it doesn't lead to anything, at least i'm having a little fun!

[Rick Munroe]

He is also masculine and dresses like a typical straight guy.

 

Oh, well, if he's masculine, then he couldn't possibly be gay.

 

Btw, how does a typical straight guy dress? (I'm seriously asking!)

[+ Italiano]

 

Btw, how does a typical straight guy dress? (I'm seriously asking!)

 

Tight tight straight jeans, tank top, earring, a ring, a cock ring and one, MAX two drops of Chanel Nr 5.

[cynicalflannelwearer]

 

Btw, how does a typical straight guy dress? (I'm seriously asking!)

 

Well,to me, it means a back wards facing baseball cap, no color coordination, baggy jeans hanging off their ass, no color in their wardrobe, and no fashion sense LOL

 

In other words, like some butch lesbians I know.

 

How is that for a stereotype about straight dudes and butch lesbians?

[instudiocity]

I love hugging and just spending time with guys. Instudiocity you have everything~~~

Taking my 23 year old to the wine country today for his first wine tasting EVER. At least I get to break his Wine Cherry.

[nate_sf]

Well,to me, it means a back wards facing baseball cap, no color coordination, baggy jeans hanging off their ass, no color in their wardrobe, and no fashion sense LOL

 

In other words, like some butch lesbians I know.

 

How is that for a stereotype about straight dudes and butch lesbians?

 

Hey, that's how I dressed back in the 90s! Does that mean I was straight or a lesbian back then? lol

[RockHard]

Yikes!

 

...when I saw him yesterday I told him I was anal as I got out my hand wipes to clean my hands before I ate my muffin.

What a turn-off. If some guy used that line on me during a flirt session, I'd run for the hills. Mentioning the word "anal" while using hand wipes is a double deal-breaker for me. The thought of shit, alcohol, and muffin at the same time is enough to make me puke. Some of you men have no clue how to seduce.