Who Cums First - Escort or Client

[doitb4ugo]

I had a recent session where it seemed that my partner was momentarily caught off guard when I decided to cum prior to him cumming. In almost ever session with an escort that I have had, it seems that the escort cums first then helps the client get off. Is this the case for others and if so, is there a reason why this works better for the session.

 

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[Epigonos]

Well I’ll be damned!!! The questions that get asked around here absolutely blow my mind at times. I’ve been hiring escorts now for ten years and it has NEVER, so much as, entered my mind to wonder if there is a proper order for who should cum first the escort or the client. I have ALWAYS assumed that the one who cums first is the one who is ready to cum first; thus sometimes the escort cums first and sometimes the client cums first. Frankly this is simply a nonissue for me.

[BaronArtz]

I wouldn't worry about it. YOU are the client.

[ChiTown]

Cum again?

 

In almost ever session with an escort that I have had, it seems that the escort cums first then helps the client get off. Is this the case for others and if so, is there a reason why this works better for the session.

 

Rich, In my somewhat limited experience (I'm trying to improve upon that) , the escort typically cums first. I don't know if there's any particular reason for it, but I sort of like it that way. I think it's hot to see him get off before I do and it sure doesn't hurt in helping me go over the brink.

[gp0560]

I had a recent session where it seemed that my partner was momentarily caught off guard when I decided to cum prior to him cumming. In almost ever session with an escort that I have had, it seems that the escort cums first then helps the client get off. Is this the case for others and if so, is there a reason why this works better for the session.

 

This curious guy wants to know...

 

Where is Miss Manners when we really need her?

[instudiocity]

I always blow first - most of the time my escorts take a Loooonnnggg time to cum. Sometimes, they don't come...

[Mark450]

In all fairness, on a particularly busy day how many times could an escort be expected to cum? I think its more about the client's needs, but if the escort can 'round the bend then all the better.

[AdamATL77]

As an escort, I always hold off for the client to shoot first unless he says he wants me to shoot first. I find I can give my clients a better experience if I put off shooting before them (stay sexually charged). Personally, I like seeing others get off more than myself. I also keep track of which clients request that I shoot a load so that I never arrange two of them too close together.

 

I think the more important issue is letting your escort(s) know whether you expect them to shoot. It will also help you eliminate those escorts who are naughty and say things like "That will be 3><+r4."

[nate_sf]

As an escort, I always hold off for the client to shoot first unless he says he wants me to shoot first.

 

Ditto. I TRY to hold off unless the client says he wants to see me shoot. That way the client is the one who is setting the pace. Every now and then I can't control it and cum before, but I try my best to let the client make the call.

[Guest Merlin]

Some escorts tend to think the session is over when the client comes. I prefer to come last because I lose interest somewhat after I come. Whoever comes first should wash his hands to avoid a transfer of fluids by JO.

[AdamATL77]

Some escorts tend to think the session is over when the client comes. I prefer to come last because I lose interest somewhat after I come. Whoever comes first should wash his hands to avoid a transfer of fluids by JO.

 

Some escorts do assume the session is over when the client shoots. Some clients do too. Some escorts come to that conclusion because of how much lack of interest the client has after he shoots. The best thing to do after a client shoots is for the client to say what he expects or wants next. No escort is an actual mind reader.

[Guy Fawkes]

I prefer that we both cum at the same time. But perhaps I'm a bit old fashioned BTW: Which time are we talking about?

[AdamATL77]

I prefer that we both cum at the same time. But perhaps I'm a bit old fashioned BTW: Which time are we talking about?

 

Well, with the client I call Daddy, that would the third time (his third time in an hour). ;-)

[Guest greatness]

It doesn't take a long time for me to cum. I usually cum first within a few minutes so escorts don't have to stay with me for an hour. Everything is done with me in less than 30 minutes unless there is a long foreplay or massage. So Rich I'm younger than you are but you seem to make young escorts cum first. You must be a superman! Hugs~~~

 

I had a recent session where it seemed that my partner was momentarily caught off guard when I decided to cum prior to him cumming. In almost ever session with an escort that I have had, it seems that the escort cums first then helps the client get off. Is this the case for others and if so, is there a reason why this works better for the session.

 

This curious guy wants to know...

[Juan Vancouver]

There is no "right" way about it...

 

As an escort, I always hold off for the client to shoot first unless he says he wants me to shoot first. I find I can give my clients a better experience if I put off shooting before them (stay sexually charged). Personally, I like seeing others get off more than myself. I also keep track of which clients request that I shoot a load so that I never arrange two of them too close together.

 

I think the more important issue is letting your escort(s) know whether you expect them to shoot.

 

What he said.

 

Some escorts do assume the session is over when the client shoots. Some clients do too. Some escorts come to that conclusion because of how much lack of interest the client has after he shoots. The best thing to do after a client shoots is for the client to say what he expects or wants next. No escort is an actual mind reader.

 

That.

[daviddd49]

Interesting question. I suppose it all depends upon what's going on, who the escort is, how I'm feeling at the time, how much time we're spending together. If I'm seeing the escort for just a couple of hours, I usually assume that he's got other appointments that evening and so I don't demand that he cum. If he wants to cum, of course I enjoy that too, but I don't require that the escorts I see cum every time. If he comes first, that adds to my excitement as I cum. If I cum first, and he wants to cum as well, I'm always happy to help him.

 

In short, I pretty much treat the escort like I would a boy friend.

[Guest greatness]

David you are so sweet...

 

Interesting question. I suppose it all depends upon what's going on, who the escort is, how I'm feeling at the time, how much time we're spending together. If I'm seeing the escort for just a couple of hours, I usually assume that he's got other appointments that evening and so I don't demand that he cum. If he wants to cum, of course I enjoy that too, but I don't require that the escorts I see cum every time. If he comes first, that adds to my excitement as I cum. If I cum first, and he wants to cum as well, I'm always happy to help him.

 

In short, I pretty much treat the escort like I would a boy friend.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Interesting question Rich. First I guess it presupposes that either or both parties do cum. The third option is that neither party cums -- that sometimes that is not the end all and be all. You know, in thinking about it, there really are 5 possible permutations to the question: 1) client cums/escort doesn't; 2) client doesn't/escort cums; 3) both cum but escort cums first; 4) both cum but client cums first; and 5) neither cum. And you know, I never noticed it before you just asked, but in my last 5 sessions with different escorts, I've actually experienced each of those 5 permuations once. And each of the sessions were thrilling and exciting and I wouldn't change a thing about any of them, even the one where neither of us came. But I don't think I noticed any hesitancy on any of the escort's behalf as to the order in which we did or didn't cum. But it does raise a question that I may need to raise in my sessions. But it's always seemed to happen naturally up until now so maybe not. I know I've never gone into a session with a game plan of any sort, least of all who cums first.

[cany10011]

I'm a little selfish and don't really care if the escort cums or not. I've met some who rather not come as they need the staying power for other appointments. I prefer that as well as it's less likely that my sheets need to be laundered as I can come in a very neat little puddle on my chest or on the guys backside...

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

In my most memorable sessions with escorts we've cum simultaneously.

[happyguy2]

Years ago, when I was in my twenties and started hiring, it seemed that when the client came, the session was over. Then, to my great surprise, in that Villa Giu... whatever in London ... is it still open and what is its name? , I had escorts cum a few times before i did. Then, in past years, i told guys i liked to cum several times. They always say: good for you, cum as much as you like, and then I will .... But there has been no pattern for me.

[NYTomcat]

Ok If I cum... which is an if.... its usually after the escort. Yes I get turned on getting my partner off.

[adriano46]

I have some similar view on this question.

 

I usually hire a guy for the whole experience - to cum is a nice part of it, but not the whole thing. Inasmuch as younger escorts (not a blanket statement, but my experience) seem to cum and then feel "Time's up!" I do not push that. I do admit that on my selfish side, I hate to think they are "saving it up" for a later client. This is why I like to hire for longer periods, and often for an overnight - HE IS ALL MINE!!! (including his cum)

 

But there is a deeper issue here. What if I (the client) can't cum in the session? I whack off so much (at least once or twice a day, though in late middle age), that when I am actually WITH an escort, I am so enthralled by the moment, the cum machine shuts down! Something like what Tomcat mentions (though probably not exactly the same, but "IF I CUM, which is an IF..." I sometimes feel embarrassed about this, and moreso when, an hour afterthe guy leaves, I am able to cum.

 

Maybe I should go through withdrawal from porn!!!

 

Anyway, if the escort cums, I am happy; my only caveat is that for many of them, once they DO cum, the magic of the moment seems to flicker out.

[gtx1]

Cum again!

 

In an hour session, I want to cum at least twice. Once before the escort and then again after he cums. That's the best of both worlds and like some of the other posters, I really get off on making him cum. Usually the second is the better of the two.

 

For an overnight, I expect there to be three or four opportunities during the encounter to get off and get him off.

 

Do you recommend discussing these expectations with the escort before hiring or at the beginning of the session?

[dapurplebear]

In all fairness, on a particularly busy day how many times could an escort be expected to cum? I think its more about the client's needs, but if the escort can 'round the bend then all the better.

 

I agree about how many times - HOWEVER, if you want the escort to cum - they should - but they should know the expectations -- for me-- if they don't I am disappointed....