Escorts giving a sex show with their real-life lovers...

[Juan Vancouver]

I have a question to all of you. All thoughts will be heard attentively and appreciated:

 

It is commonly accepted and assumed that real-life partners that have only protected sex with everyone else, when they are together have unprotected sex with each other. Nobody thinks twice about that, as far as I know.

 

What would be your reaction if an escort allowed you to witness the love-making with his real-life partner?

 

I am a total voyeur myself but keep thinking about the outrage that ensued when Brent Everett did that fateful bareback video with his boyfriend. I assume that it has to do with the depiction of unprotected sex, but I am very curious to know all of your opinions. Please contribute at your heart's content.

 

Enquiring minds want to know...

[+ honcho]

I don't make any assumptions or any judgments about real-life lovers having unprotected sex with each other.

 

I would just think that they would have every right to make that choice for themselves, whether or not I was present, and if they did

choose to have unprotected sex in front of me, I would be flattered by the implicit trust ... (and I certainly would also not assume that

they would welcome anybody else to participate in their unprotected sex).

[Luv2play]

Personnaly I would love it. I too am a bit of a voyeur and to be privy to love-making between two real life lovers who are also escorts and have the requisite physiques and personalities to match would be a real turn-on for me. Just my opinion, I have never actually witnessed this before.

[happyguy2]

I would be first in line to book that kind of show. I would love to be up close for the passion that can only happen between real life lovers. Interestingly, as soon as I see unprotected sex starting in porn, I turn it off. Just can't watch it. BUT, when I read your suggestion of a real life couple, I was truly interested. And if it was YOU?????? Wow!

[adriano46]

Juan, this is a really difficult question to answer on various levels.

 

Full disclosure - I enjoy watching BB porn films, and fantasize about BB sex a lot.

 

However, because I have lived through the years of AIDS awareness, I have a hesitency bordering on absolute fear to engage in any anal sex (as top or bottom). Spent years being tested frequently for AIDS due to my job and position (always NEG), and would like to keep it that way.

 

Still, the thought of it entices me (and I am sure some others have had this feeling). Sex with condoms is actually a turn-off for me, which is why I just learned to forego anal sex (not wanting to be infected). Admittedly, did try it (BB) a LONG time ago with 4 different guys in some border-line dangerous ways and was blown away by how GREAT it felt, but fear of infection and subsequent tests for a decade have come up NEG so I am grateful for that, and just refrain.

 

I recently experienced a 3-way with an escort and his partner/friend (they since have moved on to others), and was really turned on by their unchoreographed unprotected sex -- some of the hottest sex I have ever witnessed. They were kissing, and performing 69 in a pool of sweat and the next thing I know, one mounted the other to a screaming climax which also helped me to climax. After they left, though, I was filled with guilt about "enabling" them on what is dangerous territory, especially as they are no longer together. I realize it is THEIR decision at the moment, I never asked them to do it nor even mentioned it, but I felt bad just the same, knowing that they possibly did this to entertain me.

[gp0560]

I love to watch two hot guys having sex with each other, but so far I've only seen it in movies/clips/videos. In other words, I've watched sex-making, not love-making. If non-partners were making sex in the same room with me, that would be hot, too. But to watch real-life partners making love . . . I dunno.

 

Isn't love-making too meaningful and intimate for me to be watching right there in the same room with them? I mean, I could understand being a hidden voyeur, but it's a whole other thing to be a visible witness. I would be very uneasy about being there. And it disturbs me to think that they could choose to put their intimacy on display like that.

 

With sex-making, I know the intimacy is faked for my entertainment. How can I avoid thinking that the love-making might be the same thing? And, personally, I would be uneasy about "socializing" with them afterwards.

 

To sum up, Juan, I think that no, I would not choose to be a part of this scene.

 

But wait, how about this? The partners pretend to fake it?

[EZEtoGRU]

Juan, this is a really difficult question to answer on various levels.

 

Full disclosure - I enjoy watching BB porn films, and fantasize about BB sex a lot.

 

However, because I have lived through the years of AIDS awareness, I have a hesitency bordering on absolute fear to engage in any anal sex (as top or bottom). Spent years being tested frequently for AIDS due to my job and position (always NEG), and would like to keep it that way.

 

Still, the thought of it entices me (and I am sure some others have had this feeling). Sex with condoms is actually a turn-off for me, which is why I just learned to forego anal sex (not wanting to be infected). Admittedly, did try it (BB) a LONG time ago with 4 different guys in some border-line dangerous ways and was blown away by how GREAT it felt, but fear of infection and subsequent tests for a decade have come up NEG so I am grateful for that, and just refrain.

 

I recently experienced a 3-way with an escort and his partner/friend (they since have moved on to others), and was really turned on by their unchoreographed unprotected sex -- some of the hottest sex I have ever witnessed. They were kissing, and performing 69 in a pool of sweat and the next thing I know, one mounted the other to a screaming climax which also helped me to climax. After they left, though, I was filled with guilt about "enabling" them on what is dangerous territory, especially as they are no longer together. I realize it is THEIR decision at the moment, I never asked them to do it nor even mentioned it, but I felt bad just the same, knowing that they possibly did this to entertain me.

 

I am kind of where Adriano is on this. I rarely have anal sex (once or twice a year) and when I do, it is always with a condom. When I watch gay porn (generally I watch straight porn but occassionally gay porn), I always want to watch bareback sex. It is just more of a turn-on. However, I must say that if I knew an escort was doing bareback porn (whether with a lover or a stranger) I would stay away from that particular escort. Probably a double standard I know......but thats how I see it.

 

I absolutely would not assume all gay lovers have un-protected sex when with each other......especiallly if they have an open type relationship or one or both are escorting. For me, unless the relationship is 100% monogamous on both sides, unprotected anal sex has risks attached. This of course is just my opinion. Others will feel differently.

[seeker630]

I've hired probably 4-5 couples for combination sex-show & three-way. Some used condoms with their partner & some didn't. I don't recall thinking much about it either way - I assumed they were following whatever their usual practice was, and the responsibility was theirs.

[JT Brooklyn]

I Personally know that in the "Heat of Passion" neither Partner reaching for a Condom seems to be more Popular than ever... among those Young'uns who have not been around from the beginning of HIV/AIDS!

 

Big Mistake..Wrap It Up! Is it really worth not wrapping it up...when having Sex..I think not! "Paying" to see this? Sorry NO from JT...

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

While I would willingly be a voyeur (please don't tell my neighbors) for such a scene, I have to wonder, would knowing there was an audience allow it to be a true love making session, or would it be all about the sex? Probably a great scene either way, but potentially stirring different emotions for all involved?

[Diverdan]

Juan,

This is a most intriguing question. Depending on the actual chemistry, I guess I would really enjoy being party to the observation and perhaps eventual participation in such an event. I know some real-life partners who continue to use condoms, or have continued to use them for several years, even after several tests showing no infections. But, I also know those who after some period of time don't wrap up anymore. I think the reason for continuing to use condoms is not just about HIV, but also for other STDs, and bacterial infections that can come from the anal tract. But as with all things in life, there are always risks, and if they choose one way, that is not for me to judge. Watching two guys who are totally into each other can be a huge turn on, and it wouldn't make any difference to me if they were escorts or not. However, there is a certain amount of additional interest if the escort is one whom you like and enjoy. I'm not sure I answered your question, but that's the best I can do for now.

[+ Gar1eth]

Juan,

 

I am fifty. I never had sex of any type until I was 41. I had trouble accepting being gay and still do. However part of the delay in me having sex was not just fear of being gay, but also the fear of AIDS. In 1981 I was 20. While I was not part of the epidemic or even personally at risk because of my abstinence, it made a big impression on me. Here I was closeted more than I am now, never had sex, and by having sex with the people I was attracted too-- I was setting myself up for death.

 

Bareback in particular does nothing for me. I mean if 2 hot guys on film are going after, I'm attracted to it because they are hot-- not because they are bare.

 

So for me-- I'd prefer the 2 guys 'suit up' if I am going to be part of the scene-- even for the part where they play with each other. As for watching without participating, I think I'd be just as turned on if they were using protection as if they weren't-- as I said it their 'hotness' I'm reacting to-- so my vote-- if I'm watching or participating-- condoms please.

 

Gman

[GoodFella69]

Juan: Thanks for the thought-provoking and, um, probing question. I'm a voyeur and would love to watch sexy, masculine lovers get it on. But, it would be just as much of a turn-on (and perhaps even more of one) if the partners fucked with condoms. Bare-backing would be an unnecessary distraction to an otherwise hot sex-show. If I was paying for the show, I'd say, "let's play it safe, fellas."

 

Goodfella

[Bart]

I do love watching porn. I definitely love the fantasy and get off imaging myself as the bottom, especially when two or three guys are really into each other, kissing, fucking, etc. I do admit I am into BB sex on film, I do find it hot, but most of all guys who are into each other, BB or not.

 

Where I depart from everyone else is that I am not into watching a live porn scene. I love three-ways. Probably my favorite fantasy come to life is two hot guys with me. I have done lots of three-ways and a couple of four-ways, as well. I have had couples in real life, guys who have worked together a lot and guys who have just met when I put them together. I tend to prefer the previous two but the last one has worked really well too as long as they have communicated prior to coming.

 

I have seen the guys get it on with each other and for the life of me, it does nothing for me live. In fact, when it is a real life couple, I want to leave the room. Seeing it on film is one thing, but live, no I actually get a bit embarrassed and just want to head to the bathroom. I don’t know why, but I want to be the center of attention. If someone is getting fucked it’s me and me only. I don’t even like the guy who is fucking me getting fucked by the other guy.

 

So Juan as much as I fine you extremely hot and thought of you and Thor and of course I have seen with you with Kevin, just an incredible fantasy. I do not want to see it in person, however, if you want to film and send it to me, fabulous. In fact I bet you could make a small fortune if you filmed you and Thor going at it. But live no go only one ass gets fucked and its mine.

[Guest Magnus]

I've had two 3-ways recently with guys who are boyfriends in real life. One couple was Luka and Leonardo in NYC (I posted a review about them on the reviews site). I also had a nice 3-way with Kaleb and Nick (I posted a semi-review here on the "Deli" site in response to and inquiry about Kaleb. However, I erroneously referred to Kaleb's boyfriend as Rick, instead of Nick) http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?78125-411-on-Kaleb-Storm-in-NYC&p=694578#post694578

Anyway, I don't know how long Kaleb and Nick have been together, but Luka and Leonardo have been together for a few years. In both cases each couple used condoms when fucking each other. Part of the reason for having a real life couple for a 3-way was that I wanted to watch them going at it. In both cases, using a condom was never an issue with either couple, they used them without question. However, I did not specifically ask if they did not use condoms in their private lives, but watching each couples' interplay during our sessions lead me to believe that they did use them.

On the other hand there are couples who, even though they are also escorts or in the porn industry, use condoms with clients and in the industry, but not with each other. Here's an example:

http://www.tube8.com/gay/amateur/pedro-andreas-daniel-marvin/441711/

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey guys!

 

I really appreciate all your responses and different points of view on the matter. Possibly to disappoint some of you, when I asked I didn't have any plans for Thor and myself; I asked because for the first time in quite a long time I was asked a question about escorting that I had not previously considered from every angle.

 

When posting in my ad for Seattle that I was bringing Thor with me, a gentleman who reads this forum emailed me making reference to another thread in here apparently talking about real lovers and asked me whether Thor and I would provide that service. (I can't find that other thread, but didn't look for too long.) I was a little taken aback and out of reflex said no, but it really left me thinking the reasons for which I said that and I decided I would ask your opinion. I am glad that I did. Now I have a lot more material to help me reach a personal conclusion that sits well with Thor and myself.

 

Big hugs to you all!