Forum Members -- NYTomcat was in a car accident

[Guest antoanvegas]

Dear TC, so sorry to hear the bad news around you and your family.

Sometimes your troubles are tall, and it may feel like relief is as far away as the stars. But don't despair.

You'll be much better soon. Until you are, I won't stop trying to brighten your day, and I'll do my best to send a bit of magic stardust your way.Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

[+ kontor1]

I hope he will get better very soon! I wish him the very best and hopefully he will recover very soon! Million hugs to him!

[jackcali]

I'm sorry to hear of the accident, Tomcat, but I'm glad the news wasn't any worse than it is. Best wishes for speedy recoveries for you and your family. You're in our thoughts and prayers.

[NYTomcat]

I'd like to thank you all for you prayers. The good news is my daughter has only a minor concussion. My son is fine my wife and I have moved forward as friends. For now.

 

The bad news is that I may have some damage upcoming MRI will determine the extent but I have some tingling in my hand that should not be there. And they have found signs that require me to undergo a full cancer screening.

 

That and of course the new car is totalled. All in all though my kids are fine and perhaps I found a problem that would otherwise have gone undiagnosed. So .... there are always positives. Thanks again for the many well wishes and I appreciate the support more than you will ever know. Lets hope the cancer signs are just a red Herring.

 

It is amazing how an experience like this focuses you on what and who is important in your life.

 

Thanks again for all your well wishes and prayers

 

Tomcat

[Guest countryboywny]

All the best to you, Tom. I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers.

[Guest greatness]

Oh my Tom.. I pray that you don't have cancer.. You will be fine.. Sometimes doctors are too cautious.. Feel better soon.. Big special kisses and hugs for you~~~

 

I'd like to thank you all for you prayers. The good news is my daughter has only a minor concussion. My son is fine my wife and I have moved forward as friends. For now.

 

The bad news is that I may have some damage upcoming MRI will determine the extent but I have some tingling in my hand that should not be there. And they have found signs that require me to undergo a full cancer screening.

 

That and of course the new car is totalled. All in all though my kids are fine and perhaps I found a problem that would otherwise have gone undiagnosed. So .... there are always positives. Thanks again for the many well wishes and I appreciate the support more than you will ever know. Lets hope the cancer signs are just a red Herring.

 

It is amazing how an experience like this focuses you on what and who is important in your life.

 

Thanks again for all your well wishes and prayers

 

Tomcat

[Guest greatness]

Let's not forget to give him million kisses.. I heard kissing has a healing power... Especially from a hot guy like you Peter~~~

 

Million hugs to him!

[josephga]

It could be a pinched nerve maybe causing the tingling. My MS did however start with tingling and numbness in a hand

[+ deej]

And they have found signs that require me to undergo a full cancer screening.

 

That may just be the best news you've ever had in your life, if they find something that otherwise may have gone undetected until too late. Cancers that are found during "something else" are often found early enough to be treated. The ones that are found after they're already causing problems are a bitch!

 

Good luck!

[josephga]

That may just be the best news you've ever had in your life, if they find something that otherwise may have gone undetected until too late. Cancers that are found during "something else" are often found early enough to be treated. The ones that are found after they're already causing problems are a bitch!

 

Good luck!

 

Thats what happened to my friend in late 08. She was a heavy smoker since the age of 15. She had went to the dr with some problems coughing. Dr found nothing. She was later in a car wreck hit from behind on halloween night by a drunk driving. She complained of back pain went to a specialist ran test and she had lung cancer. If not for the car wreck who knows how long it would have been b4 finding it

[CowboyUp]

Tom,

Just a quick message to let you know I'm also thinking of you and your family and am wishing for you all to pull through this difficult time stronger and healthier than ever. You're in my prayers friend.

[+ g56whiz]

Can I join the legion of folks who wish you all a speedy and full recovery. And I too am unsurprised with Tyger's help.

[Guest Zack]

The good news is my daughter has only a minor concussion. My son is fine my wife and I have moved forward as friends. For now.

 

Often times, even when difficult times existed prior to an event such as this, crisis reminds us of the value and gift of love and family and the strength of it even while we remain strained because of it. It suddenly places life in an order that we sometimes take for granted or can not see so clearly anymore through the pursuit of our own happiness or other such complexities.

 

It is not uncommon for people who experience impact trauma, to soon afterward re-live the event, over and over, and to then realize how much worse the event could have been. This is, in an odd way, a gift. If for nothing else, for many people, it makes them better drivers in life - even though they were not even at fault.

 

We all take red lights and stop signs for granted, especially when passing through busy intersections with green lights at considerable speeds.

 

I know that being rear-ended at 17 with my entire family in the car at the time; made me a better driver from the first moment I stepped back into a car. Since that time, I have always been rear-end conscious and before I brake or even need to brake hard - I instinctively look to see who's behind me, so if I can - I can give them more room than necessary to respond to my braking hard - preventing me from getting hit again.

 

The bad news is that I may have some damage upcoming MRI will determine the extent but I have some tingling in my hand that should not be there. And they have found signs that require me to undergo a full cancer screening.

 

Never under-estimate the power of life and what it brings your way under less than desired -or perfect - circumstances.

 

You, like most of us before you - have learned from the worst which has happened to us and to others like us through no fault of our own and grown stronger for what we have learned because of it.

 

This incident, I believe, is nothing more than that, and to you, and to your family, I wish you well through-out it all.

 

It will be, I suspect and hope, just another piece, of the peace puzzle, falling into place for you all.

[Lookin]

Another round of good wishes heading your way. I hope the silver linings will soon far outnumber the clouds.

[NYTomcat]

I think deej and Zack are probably right. Either way much better to know early and get a jump start that to while away oblivious. Plus as my good friend tbinchi pointed out. Traumatic events have a great way of focusing us on the family and what iis important. Zack get credit for that as well. This has really helped to bring the bullshit emotional crap do an end and let us focus on what is truly important. Friends and family. You never realize who and what is important to you until you face the idea of not seeing them everyday.

[Guest BrandonWilliams]

I think deej and Zack are probably right. Either way much better to know early and get a jump start that to while away oblivious. Plus as my good friend tbinchi pointed out. Traumatic events have a great way of focusing us on the family and what iis important. Zack get credit for that as well. This has really helped to bring the bullshit emotional crap do an end and let us focus on what is truly important. Friends and family. You never realize who and what is important to you until you face the idea of not seeing them everyday.

 

Very well said TC. Thinking of you often and sending you many healing vibes. Again, you prove to be an inspiration.

[Guest Zack]

You never realize who and what is important to you until you face the idea of not seeing them everyday.

 

Well said and realized. That doesn't necessarily mean that you jump ship against those you might have believed to be otherwise in the beginning.

 

Escorts are escorts. They have little, if any of the needs which you require, outside of their hourly, weekly, or monthly service.

 

They may provide and disguise their services well, when it's your time - but they are escorts and their game is to make you feel like the Superbowl champs as apposed to the person you are. You already may now know this, so when you become enamored - one way or another - with any of them - you have now become a victim of not necessarily their trade - but of yourself and your inability to realize the difference.

 

Coming out is so much more than getting off with people you pay to do so with.

 

It may be a beginning, but it will never be an end to what you are really looking for.

 

I'd like to further this in private should you be so interested.

 

And I'm glad your kids are well through this. The crash being.

[NYTomcat]

Well said and realized. That doesn't necessarily mean that you jump ship against those you might have believed to be otherwise in the beginning.

 

Escorts are escorts. They have little, if any of the needs which you require, outside of their hourly, weekly, or monthly service.

 

They may provide and disguise their services well, when it's your time - but they are escorts and their game is to make you feel like the Superbowl champs as apposed to the person you are. You already may now know this, so when you become enamored - one way or another - with any of them - you have now become a victim of not necessarily their trade - but of yourself and your inability to realize the difference.

 

Coming out is so much more than getting off with people you pay to do so with.

 

It may be a beginning, but it will never be an end to what you are really looking for.

 

I'd like to further this in private should you be so interested.

 

And I'm glad your kids are well through this. The crash being.

Sorry Zack. And there our agreement ends. My family may be important to me. But there are many others who flash through your head as well. Look lawyers are lawyers. Paid to rip people apart for money. But they are also human beings. Their job notwithstanding. The same holds true for escorts. Now im not saying the fantasy you pay them for should be believed. It is their job to make you feel like the Superbowl champ during your time together. That does not mean they don't often like their clients and have personal friendly connections with them.

 

Yes it was an escort who talked to me for days off the clock. Who made me feel comfortable enough to be me. To get therapy. To come out

It was another escort who off the clock talked to me while I lay nearly paralyzed while my family was treated and I waited alone to determine if I would have nerve damage. This was not their hourly weekly or monthly service. This was one human being helping another one in need.

 

While the experience may have focused me on what I want. That does not diminish my friendship with some of the men I've met here.

 

You seem blinded by the idea that I hold some romantic fantasy. I do but an escort is not the featured partner. Or maybe he is. But I haven't met him yet. However. I do hope that when I find that partner he is as caring and supportive as many of the working men I've met here. Im sure many have been abused by the men working in this life. But im happy to say the men I have met have all given far more of themselves than there services ad paid for.

 

And Yes coming out is more than paying for sex with.men. its developing a bond with them. Learning the life sharing the joys and the heartaches and it seems like any human being escorts are capable of all these experiences. And many are happy to share them.

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

All in all though my kids are fine and perhaps I found a problem that would otherwise have gone undiagnosed. So .... there are always positives.

TC, absolutely wonderful that you're already in a positive frame of mind. No matter what lies ahead, your positive outlook will do wonders for you. Keeping my fingers crossed for more good news (and it's not easy typing with crossed fingers!!).

[+ g56whiz]

Spiritually speaking, in the great summary of the law ("Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second [is] like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 22:37-40) there are several subtleties easy to over look. In order to love G_d that thoroughly, you have to know yourself and in order to love your neighbor as yourself, you have love yourself. TC has apparently grown in both pursuits and more power to him for it. Here's to your continued growth and that of your family both physically and spiritually.

[best hotel]

....be well sweet Tom

[Diverdan]

Thanks for updates, Tom

 

I am thrilled to hear the good news from you, Tom, and you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers, not only for you, but for your entire family. I pray too that the additional tests will come out negative for cancer and everything else. In a few years I am sure you will look back on this as just another step on life's journey, even though right now it seems to be an incredible sidestep. Just know that your friends, including your friends who happen to be escorts for a living, are routing for you in so many different ways. Let me know in a pm if there is anything that I can do to be of help, even from a distance.

DD

[+ glutes]

Get Well T.C.!

 

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[Guest greatness]

Well said. Kisses and hugs~~~

 

Spiritually speaking, in the great summary of the law ("Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second [is] like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 22:37-40) there are several subtleties easy to over look. In order to love G_d that thoroughly, you have to know yourself and in order to love your neighbor as yourself, you have love yourself. TC has apparently grown in both pursuits and more power to him for it. Here's to your continued growth and that of your family both physically and spiritually.

[JoeyBryant]

A bit late to the after-party, but wishing Tomcat a speedy recovery.

 

...I thought Texas was the only place where they blow thru stop signs and redlights, as I found out the hard way earlier this year! It just sucks because those fuckers over there run after they nearly kill someone, atleast the bitch who hit you stopped (sounds like she had no choice!)