Why ask for a thread to be closed?

[MiamiLooker]

Other than a thread that's in violation of TOS, why do posters ask for a thread to be closed? It seems presumptuous and rude to me. If one doesn't like a post or a thread, then don't read it. Why not just let a thread die a natural death rather than demand that the plug be pulled?

[KMEM]

Simply because everything and more had been said? Otherwise, just to observe the social graces? Suggestions are NOT commandments.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[imrthr]

Simply because everything and more had been said? Otherwise, just to observe the social graces? Suggestions are NOT commandments.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

 

Everyone, please stop and close this thread.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

Let us not get faulty memories.

 

What you posted was not a suggestion it was more of a command.

 

Remember, now?

 

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[Diverdan]

I asked that the thread be closed because nothing worthwhile can come from further discussion. As a clinical psychologist I know whereof I speak. The continued discussion of this thread has only brought out the basest of emotions, and the entire issue is one that should, in my humble opinion, have been handled between the two individuals involved in a private and frank discussion. It was my suggestion to close the thread, and I first did that in a private message to the moderator and then in a public posting. As has been pointed out, I guess none of the terms of service have been violated. I have been a "lurker" here for years, and only recently have been posting and adding comments to posts when I thought that something I had to say might add to the value of the discussion. I see no reason to tear anyone down, be it a client or escort. I would certainly NEVER reveal private information about another person that could be construed to be inflamatory, derogratory, etc. That is best done on a one and one basis.

 

Handling conflict is one of the most difficult of all personal interactions. I have spent years helping individuals and groups handle conflict. Just as we all have different personalities, styles of communication and personal preferences, we have different ways of handling conflict. But, science has shown us that the best way of handling the most intense forms of conflict between two people is to handle it directly, privately, and with a large degree of tact and control.

 

This is the last post I will make on this subject, and I will not read any further posts on this subject, and I suggest others ignore future posts as well.

[KMEM]

Let us not get faulty memories.

 

What you posted was not a suggestion it was more of a command.

 

Remember, now?

 

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Please stop is a command? What planet are you from?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ purplekow]

I had asked for the thread in question to be closed after about 3 posts as it was clear it was leading to a confrontation which would leave the major posters bloodied and scarred and the issue no further resolved that it was at that point. When I was told no TOS violations had taken place, I had to accept that I tried to help avoid what seemed to be an ugly interaction and was not able to do so.

[imrthr]

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[instudiocity]

please stop is a command? What planet are you from?

Best regards,

kmem

amen

[instudiocity]

Please do not think that you are the only educated person on this forum.

I didn't get the impression of superior intellect. I understood a specialized knowledge related to the subject.

 

I agree that the initial matter should have been handled privately between the two parties. However, how does one "unring a bell" or "put the genie back in the bottle?" Ryan authored the thread, made it public and wrote all those awful things about his client.

 

This forum is intended as a place for clients and escorts to exchange ideas, often times, about escorts. Ryan is the author of a hurtful thread that violates a trust he had with his client. Considering that Ryan does this type of behavior, it would be inappropriate, at this time, to attempt to pretend that the statements were never made or never were made public.

 

This thread is a warning to potential clients of Ryan what could happen to them if they hire him.

 

I agree. It kinda obviates any claim of "Discretion' made by a poster-escort. I probably wouldn't hire an escort who pledged "discretion*".

*Except anonymous postings on Daddy's Message Board

[Guest alanm]

I asked that the thread be closed because nothing worthwhile can come from further discussion. As a clinical psychologist I know whereof I speak. The continued discussion of this thread has only brought out the basest of emotions, and the entire issue is one that should, in my humble opinion, have been handled between the two individuals involved in a private and frank discussion. It was my suggestion to close the thread, and I first did that in a private message to the moderator and then in a public posting. As has been pointed out, I guess none of the terms of service have been violated. I have been a "lurker" here for years, and only recently have been posting and adding comments to posts when I thought that something I had to say might add to the value of the discussion. I see no reason to tear anyone down, be it a client or escort. I would certainly NEVER reveal private information about another person that could be construed to be inflamatory, derogratory, etc. That is best done on a one and one basis.

 

 

If you have been a lurker here for years then you know the thread in question is relatively mild compared to many heated discussions on this site.

 

You must be relatively new to computer Message Centers in general. People have arguments all the time that would be considered destructive in your daily world.

Unless you develop a thicker skin, you will be upset often. To some degree, this response is also directed to Kmem's comments concerning closing the other thread.

[+ deej]

If you have been a lurker here for years then you know the thread in question is relatively mild compared to many heated discussions on this site.

 

Ironically, many of the most heated of those threads were discussions of threads we actually did close.

[OneFinger]

Ironically, many of the most heated of those threads were discussions of threads we actually did close.

 

You're absolutely right on that one.

 

But, on a more cynical note, I'm wonder what threads (like the one in question) are doing to the bottom line? I'm not sure I fully understand how a website makes money. But, I'm assuming the clicks, responses, increased readership, and a "peak" in activity has got to be good for the advertisers.

[+ deej]

But, on a more cynical note, I'm wonder what threads (like the one in question) are doing to the bottom line? I'm not sure I fully understand how a website makes money. But, I'm assuming the clicks, responses, increased readership, and a "peak" in activity has got to be good for the advertisers.

 

Let me show you a secret.

 

Scroll all the way to the top of this page. (We'll wait.) Scroll all the way back down to the bottom and make a list of all the advertisements you see along the way.

 

Did you come up with the same number of advertisers as I did? I'll bet you did!

 

This is a place for EVERYONE INVOLVED in the business of escorting to have discussions. It isn't a place to find always happy cartoon characters. The business of escorting can get ugly and so can discussions of it. Discussions can also be light and poetic, and there will sometimes be works of art. (Have you SEEN Brandon Williams' butt?)

 

That's what we're here for. Both sides.

[imrthr]

High School English, 101(first semester)

 

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[MsGuy]

English As A Second Languege, 1st Edition

 

I'm no English major but I've always found a certain ambiguity inherent in the use of an imperative verb, especially if modified into its polite variation.

 

"Please show some common sense."

 

Now did I just bark out an order, issue an invitation or make a request?

If you can't hear my tone of voice, it's kinda hard to tell, isn't it?

 

For further exploration of this fascinating topic:

 

http://www.englishgrammarsecrets.com/imperative/menu.php

[imrthr]

 

English As A Second Languege, 1st Edition

 

I'm no English major but I've always found a certain ambiguity inherent in the use of an imperative verb, especially if modified into its polite variation.

 

"Please show some common sense."

 

Now did I just bark out an order, issue an invitation or make a request?

If you can't hear my tone of voice, it's kinda hard to tell, isn't it?

 

For further exploration of this fascinating topic:

 

http://www.englishgrammarsecrets.com/imperative/menu.php

 

 

What an interesting site - thanks for the link.

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[rvwnsd]

There is a way to stop a thread without having a moderator close it. Simply stop adding to it. It will die.

[orbital sander]

You're absolutely right on that one.

 

But, on a more cynical note, I'm wonder what threads (like the one in question) are doing to the bottom line? I'm not sure I fully understand how a website makes money. But, I'm assuming the clicks, responses, increased readership, and a "peak" in activity has got to be good for the advertisers.

 

This sounds like a topic of discussion from the "other" M4M board that you seem to regularly (and more often) participate in. Give Lucky a kiss for me...

[KMEM]

I am from a planet where we learn to read a sentence in its entirety so as to not lose its meaning.

 

What you wrote initially was “Everyone, please stop and close this thread.” (see above) which is not the same as “Please stop” as you are now editing what you wrote.

 

Furthermore, I wrote “What you posted was not a suggestion it was more of a command.”

 

If you use any high school English book, you will determine that your sentence (unedited) is “more of a command” than a suggestion. "More of" does not mean the same as "is" when written alone.

 

I was surprised at your nasty response but I now realize your response is part and parcel to your membership in the posting police.

 

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What planet are you from is a nasty response? Want to trade my membership in the posting police for yours in the English police?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[imrthr]

 

What planet are you from is a nasty response?

 

In the manner you used it, yes, it is.

 

 

Want to trade my membership in the posting police for yours in the English police?

 

Best regards,

 

KMEM

 

 

No, I do not. I have no such membership and, therefore, cannot trade something I do not possess.

 

I'll let you join that brigade then you will have three titles to your credit.

 

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[KMEM]

Arthur-

 

You are so silly. Who can contenence your replies or presence? You are indeed a member of a society of silly persons, but who am I to judge? I do not.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[imrthr]

 

Arthur-

 

You are so silly. Who can contenence your replies or presence? You are indeed a member of a society of silly persons, but who am I to judge? I do not.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

 

Your post is not only rude, it does not make any sense.

 

Among other things, you contradicted yourself and you used a word (contenence) that does not fit with what you attempted to say.

 

You wrote - - ",who am I to judge? I do not."

 

Are you that dense? Your post is a judgment post. You judged me in your post.

 

Your response began with a judgment (although it contained an incorrect word that made your response senseless) yet it is clear that you don't understand that you made a judgment in your post.

 

As a matter of fact, your post makes about as much sense as the pathetic posts made by Ryan Cade. Maybe you two should meet and attempt to get a group discount on mental health treatments.

 

I am really surprised that you chose to show such immaturity. In some of your prior posts that you made, you appeared to be reasonably normal. Obviously, that is no longer the case.

 

"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." —Mark Twain ..

 

By the way, I do not know who Arthur is. Is that another signal of your pseudo intellect?

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[instudiocity]

snip... snip ...[/font] Discussions can also be light and poetic, and there will sometimes be works of art. (Have you SEEN Brandon Williams' butt?)

 

That's what we're here for. Both sides.

I've only seen Brandon's butt in photos, but when I finally see it in person, seeing it will only be the first and last things on my list for that work of art!

I'll probably be mutter Lord Byron during AND that's EXACTLY why we're here!

[KMEM]

If you don't know who Arthur is, why are you replying? Again, silliness.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[imrthr]

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