A New Cadence

[Guest RyanCade]

For the past two and a half years in this profession there has been a passion that drives me to continue and a conflict in my heart that at times drove me crazy. The passion was to continue providing unconditional love and acceptance to the amazing men who have given me the opportunity to spend time with them. and the conflict in my heart was not only in my heart but in my spiritual life. I have been examining my job, the ups and downs and once again considering giving it up. The men I have met who are starving for love affection and compassion are the men who have inspired me to carry on to this day. I have often wondered if I was doing more harm than good when it was time for me to leave and I saw the sadness return to the gentleman's eyes.

 

I have decided that for the sake of my own spiritual growth and to allow me to be of maximum service to those who seek true compaionshipo and unconditional love and acceptance, I will continue offering that service as a NON SEXUAL companion. My new rates will be set at less than half for a trial run.

 

My desire is to bring light into the eyes of the lonely. I will be available to anyone who desires a real companion and friend. My time may be used however it would be most useful, from hiking, dinner dates, long walks, vacations, cuddling on the couch, sun rises or even an extra hand around the house.

 

I believe you may find a this type of encounter more fulfilling, with longer lasting satisfaction.

 

Every human deserves to be loved and needs affection and companionship.

 

I will be providing more information soon on my site and as requests are made, I will be posting new travel dates. I will also be making arrangements to serve those who are in need but unable to afford the service. This is truly my passion and the part of my job that liberates my heart.

 

Don't miss the dance- From the man behind the name RyanCade

 

Jeremy

[trooperbill2000]

Don't give it up or change unless you just want to. You are a great guy and you have definetly not "done more harm than good" or hurt anyone.

 

Be easy on yourself. You are a winner!

[curious2000]

I really think you should think about this more before you make such a drastic change in your services. While I think many men would benefit from this type of "loving" BFE experience, you would also really lose a lot of your current and future clients by being "non sexual". I think it's admirable you want to take this spiritual leap and offer this type of service, however I think it would also effect your income and really limit your client base. Why can't you do both? And then you will really separate youself from other escorts and offer a unique more spiritual loving connection at a certain price and then ALSO offer that same type of loving experience with the addition of sex at a higher price? Then you have the best of both worlds! Now that is something I would love to find in an escort: one that combines the loving "BFE" experience along with hot, passionate sex. You are a very special and beautiful person and obviously going through a deeply personal journey for you to make such a drastic change in your escort service. Why don't you take some time before you do this and think about it first. Whatever you decide I hope it brings you and your clients happiness and joy and satisfies you on your life's journey.

[wayout]

I speculate that perhaps there is a great need for this and that it is currently going largely unfullfilled. The biggest question (and biggest concern) would be how to tap into that specific segment that would use this companionship service. I don't know exactly how you can find out how to identify potential customers and where to advertise, but I do think you need to do some homework to fully understand how to give this approach the best opportunity for success before you make any significant changes to your business model. Perhaps others on here can give some insight into how one might make this a successful venture.

[imrthr]

 

For the past two and a half years in this profession there has been a passion that drives me to continue and a conflict in my heart that at times drove me crazy. The passion was to continue providing unconditional love and acceptance to the amazing men who have given me the opportunity to spend time with them. and the conflict in my heart was not only in my heart but in my spiritual life. I have been examining my job, the ups and downs and once again considering giving it up. The men I have met who are starving for love affection and compassion are the men who have inspired me to carry on to this day. I have often wondered if I was doing more harm than good when it was time for me to leave and I saw the sadness return to the gentleman's eyes.

 

I have decided that for the sake of my own spiritual growth and to allow me to be of maximum service to those who seek true compaionshipo and unconditional love and acceptance, I will continue offering that service as a NON SEXUAL companion. My new rates will be set at less than half for a trial run.

 

My desire is to bring light into the eyes of the lonely. I will be available to anyone who desires a real companion and friend. My time may be used however it would be most useful, from hiking, dinner dates, long walks, vacations, cuddling on the couch, sun rises or even an extra hand around the house.

 

I believe you may find a this type of encounter more fulfilling, with longer lasting satisfaction.

 

Every human deserves to be loved and needs affection and companionship.

 

I will be providing more information soon on my site and as requests are made, I will be posting new travel dates. I will also be making arrangements to serve those who are in need but unable to afford the service. This is truly my passion and the part of my job that liberates my heart.

 

Don't miss the dance- From the man behind the name RyanCade

 

Jeremy

 

 

This post reminds me of a Brazilian novela (soap opera).

 

The arrangement or proposal set forth in this thread is unrealistic because this forum is not a "lonely hearts club" as the proposal seems to imply.

 

I can't wait for more drama and chapters. I wait in great expectation for the entertainment.

 

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[jimboivyo]

Dude, you're preaching to the wrong choir. This is not the place to unveil this kind of new outlook. Just stop while you can, ask the management to remove this post and go about your way. This message center is not the place for non-sexual companionship. The truth is that it's mostly a one stop shop for guys who only want an hour of sex, so selling your 'personality' and 'presence' will only fuel the fire for self criticism.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Ryan,

 

I applaud you!

 

While I feel not only zero guilt about my sexual services, but instead feel proud and excited about them, I believe that if you feel the slightest conflict, either by guilt, shame, or for any reason, you should simply stop.

 

No amount of money, no amount of clients needing your sexual services, nothing in the world is worth doing something that you don't feel comfortable about. I am sure you have been providing an excellent service, but I am convinced that if you are being moved to transform your practice you will create a specific market for yourself.

 

I wish you the best of luck, much fulfillment and profound professional pride. I hope you still post here now and then.

 

And lastly, ignore other people's opinion entirely. (Including mine.) Your heart is constantly telling you where to go, when and how to do it.

 

Listen to it and you will live a long, healthy, fulfilling life.

 

 

Big hug and my best wishes!

 

 

Juan

[JT Brooklyn]

"Working Guys" do at some point decide when to "Move On" in other directions... Non-Sexual.

 

The Majority who have Posted on Hooboy or Daddys just Pull their ADS. When a Name is brought up sometimes an Old Client will just say he no longer Works It!

 

RYAN..The Best to You in the Future....

[+ purplekow]

You know, as I get older, my sessions with escorts have become less sex until we drop and more how about a drop of tea. That said, I have friends. I have family. I can certainly use more friends and less family, but this is not a service for which I would pay. There is a word to describe the kind of relationship of which you speak: supportive, caring, attentive and sexless.....that word is marriage.

[Guest countryboywny]

Ryan,

 

Do what works for you. I wish you all the luck in the world, and hope everything works out. You're one of the good ones and I support you.

 

CB

[NYTomcat]

You know, as I get older, my sessions with escorts have become less sex until we drop and more how about a drop of tea. That said, I have friends. I have family. I can certainly use more friends and less family, but this is not a service for which I would pay. There is a word to describe the kind of relationship of which you speak: supportive, caring, attentive and sexless.....that word is marriage.

 

Ryan you are and have always been a favorite of mine and unlike others here...who shall remain nameless .. I do hire for more. . Much more... than the sexual experience. That said. I think pk is correct. I am willing to pay for the entire package. In fact I would feel cheated without it. I want the passion and companionship but without sex I am paying to have a friend. .. while it may be that I do that already. Im not sure that knowing that and honestly going out to hire for it would be a blow my ego could withstand. I tell you this not cause I think its wrong but for you to understand The concerns your future clients may face

 

Ultimately Juan is right you need to do what is best for you. And in that regard I wish you the best success in finding your path.

[Boston Guy]

I think that you should do what is right for you. Your posts here have revealed what seem like serious issues and concerns with what you have been doing. If you need to stop it for personal reasons then that is exactly what you should do. Whether or not you can make a living offering non-sexual companionship is a completely different question. You may or may not be able to and if you find that you cannot then you'll need to decide at that time if you want to pursue something entirely different or return to your prior status as a "full-service escort", with all of the issues that will accompany that decision.

 

Were it me, I might have tested the water first by publicizing the availability of non-sexual services at half-rate prices and then judged what the demand was going to be while still continuing as a full-service escort in the interim. But that might not be the right decision for you.

 

Good luck with whatever course you end up taking.

 

BG

[Diverdan]

Our Life Changes in so many ways...

 

Ryan,

 

I have never met you, but have read with interest your many postings on this site. I was not surprised by this thread, as I have sensed for many months that you have been unsure of the direction you want your life to take.

 

For what it is worth, I have a number of friends who have a full time jobs in other walks of life, but they also offer "companionship" on a part time basis, sometimes only on weekends, or occasionally for a several day trip when they can manage that with their other work commitments. I don't know of anyone, however, that has managed to make a living doing what you propose to do. Not that it can't be done, I just personally don't know of anyone who has done that.

 

I also know of a few guys who only escort or provide companionship or massage services on a very limited part time basis. They find much satisfaction with a very different full time or mostly full time job totally unrelated to companionship or escorting, but maintain the part time experiences to satisfy another part of their psyche. Maybe that is another way for you to find a more deeply satisfying life. In any event, it is essential that you be happy with what you decide to do, as if you are not happy with what ever work you do, that will have a very negative effect on you in so many ways.

 

You might also want to consider having this kind of discussion with a gay male therapist/life coach to help you sort out your feelings in this regard. Some of the guys that I referred to above found that investment very worth while.

 

So, I will add my "good luck" and "best wishes" to those of the other posters here. Know there here is one more guy who wants nothing but the best for you in what ever decision you make.

[Boston Guy]

I'll be seeing an escort this weekend who I've been seeing occasionally for about ten years. At one time, I saw him frequently but now it's only occasionally and more like old friends getting together. To the best of my knowledge, he sees a few other long-time clients here and there but otherwise hasn't taken a new client in years. He's a good guy, a smart guy, and he's got a good job. There may come a time when he decides that he doesn't want to see anyone anymore and, if so, I'll understand. But, if that happens, we'll likely stay friends and keep the relationship going with a drink or a meal here or there.

 

There are all sorts of ways to "stop" escorting. I hope Ryan finds the way that works best for him.

 

BG

[imrthr]

 

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- - But, if that happens, we'll likely stay friends and keep the relationship going with a drink or a meal here or there.

 

BG

 

The concept sounds great. However, putting the situation in the light that fits Ryan's proposal, would you pay the guy to "keep the relationship going with a drink or a meal here or there?"

 

I suspect you wouldn't.

-

[Boston Guy]

No, I would not, nor would he expect me to. We've just become the kind of friends who can see each other after a period of time has elapsed and pick up the sentences in mid-stream.

 

BG

[+ glutes]

I have decided that for the sake of my own spiritual growth and to allow me to be of maximum service to those who seek true compaionshipo and unconditional love and acceptance, I will continue offering that service as a NON SEXUAL companion. My new rates will be set at less than half for a trial run.

 

 

I want to see who is going to fork over $125-150/hour to allow your spiritual growth...

[Pegasus]

Ryan,

Have you considered furthering your education and becoming a licensed counselor or professional life coach? Whatever your future holds, it's been enlightening to read your posts. Like so many others here, I wish you the very best.

[Guest RyanCade]

I do truly appreciate all of your posts, concerns, and well wishes. I have been contacted privately by a few people, and it's clear I should clarify a few points.

 

I did not in any way mean to imply that the men I have worked with did any harm to me or my spiritual life. As a matter of fact, they helped me a great deal, and inspired me.

 

My decision to provide companionship and unconditional love for those in need rather than sexual gratification is due to my recent experience with a gentleman and several others who expressed a sincere appreciation for the love and acceptance I was able to show them during our visit. If it weren't for these guys I would discontinue my services all together.

 

One of my recent posts landed me in a hot bed once again. I do not wish to meet or serve gentlemen with the mentality that was so clearly expressed on this board after that post. I have too much love in my heart and genuine compassion, to spend my time defending such controversial issues. THAT was just one of the determining factors. I have put a lot of work into my business over the last two and a half years and many hours defending my sincerity and credibility. I am tired...

 

My decision to continue providing NON SEXUAL services is for that guy that may one day read this and allow me to be of service to him. I don't expect there will be many and I knew that when I made my decision. but it's there if its needed or desired. There are many men out there confused about the sexuality, in desperate need of a friend they can talk to about who they are and how they feel. I want to be there for them. I noticed a few comments about "paying for a friend" Thats not the case at all. Anyone in need of a friend may call me any time day or night and as I have always done, I will talk to them free of charge if I have time. I significantly reduced my rates to make my service affordable. Paying for friendship no, but rather compensation for time to allow me to continue providing the service. I have to eat too. people pay counselors all the time and most charge more than I am asking.

 

To the guys who have belittled me and mocked my words and sincere attempt to be of sevice, if no one has told you today, I LOVE YOU, unconditionally no matter how you feel about me or question my motives.. I don't have an ill bone in my body toward you. I am sorry you don't understand but we all have our own path and I wish you the very best as you travel yours. And if you ever find yourself down and out, you can call me and I will offer my ear and help in any way I can. I am not a perfect human being, and I have done things that at the time seemed right, but probably left some hurt feelings in my wake. That doesn't define who I am today.

 

My experience as an escort, and as an ex problem drinker, and growing up in a family who taught the principle of unconditional love for all human beings no matter what, has defined who I am today. I have found myself in a very dark and scary place in the past, and I am forever grateful to those loving people who were there for me during those times. I have recently become aware of my true purpose in life, and that is to help others. The world is full of wounded souls who are crying out more than ever for help. My puppy Miah and I have enough love to share with those people and that is exactly what we are set out to do.

 

My mother has worked her entire life to help those in need and it's time I join her. I am being guided by my inner voice to do so.

 

I am here and I am not bowing out. I will be starting a new blog and posting an ongoing account of my life experiences and my life story up to this point for anyone who may be interested. It may take a week or so to get going as I am still on the road.

 

WITH ALL MY LOVE AND RESPECT

Jeremy W. Moore

[doitb4ugo]

Bravo, Jeremy. I have kept out of this but after your post I have to commend you for your growth and acceptance of who you are and what kind of life you want to lead going forward. We may lose a great escort but, as you know, it is not about us....Congrats and much hope for your future path.