Talking up the good stuff ... IT WORKS !!!

[Chuck50]

Ruben get your self some escorts HUN with all that money and a place and yes wheels to get around. IF only temporary will be better than the nothing you have had for so long. HUGS Chuck

[Guest CJ]

Hi guys

 

Just thought I would share with you an observation and get your help on making all our lives more positive.

 

You ever notice that we forget about all the really GREAT things going on everyday and talk and emphasize the BAD things?

Thanks CNN

 

Can we try talking up the things that will make our lives better...

 

look out your window and if the sun is shining.. how about an attitude like...What an awesome day with the sun shining and the birds,bugs, and sometimes the bushes<windy days> singing away

 

and if its raining....what an awesome day some rain for the plants and it is warm and I am gonna get a show with this storm later<smile>

 

I have had great success with talking up the good things. I have positive affirmations around me everywhere and it makes me feel better, even when the shit has hit the fan.

 

It also helps you to achieve your goals...when I wanted to lose weight I changed my phone banner to read CHOOSE LEAN !!! on the screen..to help me make good food choices. I lost 33lbs this way and maintain a nice lean muscular body. Why change the banner on the phone?

 

I look at my phone a few hundred times a week. Doesn't it make sense to have something there that picks me up, or encourages me to success. Currently it reads "Build Muscle 205" I will weigh 205 muscular pounds by December.

 

Some of you may think this is bullshit...you are the ones this message may help the most..try it for a few months I mean really try it and you will see what I am talking about...

 

By the way...it is going to be an AWESOME warm,sunny, and fun day for me in Toronto...heres hoping you choose to have a great week...

 

later<big sunny smile>

 

CJ

 

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ADAPT AND OVERCOME

 

P.S. I hope that this post and the discussion will help even one person fight off the shadows of depression that haunt some.<supportive smile>

[Rick Munroe]

>I look at my phone a few hundred times a week. Doesn't it

>make sense to have something there that picks me up, or

>encourages me to success. Currently it reads "Build Muscle

>205" I will weigh 205 muscular pounds by December.

 

OK, I just changed mine to read "Suck Cock 45-4". I will suck off a 45 year old married man at 4 o'clock today. Hey, it worked! He just emailed to confirm.

 

>P.S. I hope that this post and the discussion will help even

>one person fight off the shadows of depression that haunt

>some.<supportive smile>

 

What a beautiful idea. Even though I couldn't resist making a joke, I agree with you. It all starts on the inside and if you tell yourself you're happy, you will be. Also..anyone out there who is depressed/lonely should remember & know that this is a good first place to turn to. I've never known a more supportive/loving group of (albeit anonymous) guys.

[Guest Les]

Me thinks someone got fucked last night! :7

[+ glutes]

Me thinks that he did get 'the root' last night!

All kidding aside, there is a book (30 years old??) by Norman Vincent Peale "The Power of Positive Thinking". Never read it, by I use just the title in my thoughts.

[jack]

It does work. This is the top corporate executive thinking. This is wining Olympic thinking. This thinking should be taught early in school. This approach to thinking spins off into healthy positive thoughts. This thinking makes the difference between success and failure; between winners and losers. Once you make it a habit, you'll want to associate with other people who have positive thoughts about their lives and the world. This thinking gives you strength, hope, purpose. Negative thinking saps your energy. Great thread. Good thinking. :-)

[Cooper]

HEY CJ...You want nice, go to the Disney webpage. You want "in yer face", tell it like it is trash, then you're on the right page...Just kidding! Your message holds great meaning, and after reading some of the "bar-room-brawl" posts, it does make sense. Have a nice day!

 

Cooper: "Happiness is a short term memory".

[Houston Bonfires]

Hey CJ, Rick. . .et al

 

Thunderbuns called me a PollyAnna in another thread and it was the best compliment I've had in a long time. IAM2002 called me a beanfart and I'm still ROTFL.

 

Postive thinking is all that separates us from the assholes and I live for the differentiation.

 

Happy day all:-)

[Guest Ruben]

One week from today, on August 28, I'll turn 60 years old. I've spent most of that time alone, most of that time lonely and much of that time one centimeter this side of depression. I've plenty of money, a nice condominium and a good car, but there is no one to talk to, on one to sleep with and the nearest family is more than 300 km away.

 

It will take a lot more than "talking up the good stuff" and positive thinking, I'm afraid, for me to be up beat. How I wish it were otherwise!

[alanalt]

>By the way...it is going to be an AWESOME warm,sunny, and

>fun day for me in Toronto...heres hoping you choose to have

>a great week...

>

Given what my Dad's been telling (okay, complaining to) me about the weather in TO, that's optimism indeed!

 

But you're so right!:-)

 

Alan

[alanalt]

>It will take a lot more than "talking up the good stuff" and

>positive thinking, I'm afraid, for me to be up beat. How I

>wish it were otherwise!

 

Yeah Ruben, it's going to take more for you, but start small and work your way upwards! :-)

 

What I'd advise you to do is take some of that money and go on a vacation just as soon as you can. Go to a place like NY or Las Vegas or San Diego where there are lots of escorts and hire a couple of these boys! Have fun and refresh yourself!

 

Then when you've had a week (or two weeks, or three or whatever you can afford) go home and you'll be in a much better position to analyze your life and say 'Is this what I want?' and if it isn't change it! You're the only one who can.

 

Even at 60, you're still entitled to happiness and you can still find it! When my grandmother was in her 70s and had been widowed for more than 30 years, she met a man of her age. After a few years of freindship, she married him and enjoyed a decade before passing away at age 90! When I think back and remember how unhappy she was in her 60s and how happy she became, it's a true source of inspiration for me!

 

There's no reason that you can't change what's causing your unhappiness/loneliness. And while you're at it, keep what CJ posted in mind!

 

Alan

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>It will take a lot more than "talking up the good stuff" and

>positive thinking, I'm afraid, for me to be up beat.

 

It may take a change of scenery. It may take enrolling in an art class. It may take a new religion (or getting rid of an old one). It may take putting yourself out there. It may take taking risks.

 

If what you say about your situation is true, you are in the enviable position of having nothing to lose and of already having experienced the life you don't want for yourself. So you have a head start on becoming a happier person.

[bluenix]

>One week from today, on August 28, I'll turn 60 years old.

>I've spent most of that time alone, most of that time lonely

>and much of that time one centimeter this side of

>depression. I've plenty of money, a nice condominium and a

>good car, but there is no one to talk to, on one to sleep

>with and the nearest family is more than 300 km away.

>

>It will take a lot more than "talking up the good stuff" and

>positive thinking, I'm afraid, for me to be up beat. How I

>wish it were otherwise!

 

Hey, Ruben. For starters, Happy Birthday! You're ten years older than me, you old fart. ;-)

 

Mostly here I like to skewer people and post stupid graphics, but I happened to read your post when I'm feeling nice and in a mood to respond with a modicum of seriousness.

 

I'm guessing you're shy, because you are a "Charter Member" yet have only 4 posts to your moniker. Which further suggests you are -- and I'm still guessing -- more of a spectator than a participant. By which I mean you watch life, probably with interest, but something holds you back from offering much of yourself.

 

To whatever extent this might be true it resonates with me, because, while I get paid to evidence a shifting combination of analytical prowess and gregarious heartiness, and am fairly good at same (I claim), when my time is my own I am quite the bottled-up recluse. One social event a week, with a person or persons I actually LIKE, feels to me like a packed schedule. I actively limit anything more than this, in part through making it a standing policy never to answer my home telephone. (People I WANT to talk to get my cell phone number; otherwise I call them back the next day.)

 

I do realize that for most people this would not be a recipe for happiness, but I'm not most people.

 

Anyhow, I'm a big believer in 1.) looking at oneself in as objective a manner as possible, 2.) listening to what others have to advise but with a great big dollop of reservation and 3.) recognizing with as much clarity as I can muster when the forces operating ON me are great than the forces operating WITHIN me.

 

Bearing (2.) in mind, my advice -- and I'll undertake to be an active and friendly (key word for me)particpant -- is to post more about yourself. What's happening when you feel most content? When is the threat of depression most ominous? What do you do to dispell those feelings?

 

People here can be stupid, frivolous, arrogant, blah, blah, blah. And I just HATE it when they get all Hallmark cardish with soppy feeling for people they don't know and will never meet. Bleh. But by the same token the denizens here tend to be well-informed, thoughtful, hell, even caring. (Don't lump me in that last category, please.)

 

Anyhow, post an elaboration of your comments above. I'm certain mine won't be the only friendly reply.

 

blue

[BuckyXTC]

Ruben:

 

I don't know if you've hired any escorts yet, and my experience in that regard is just that, my experience.......but one particular escort I hired changed my life significantly.

 

While I'm about 11 years younger than you, I had pretty much immersed myself in my work, and had not really explored the sexual dimensions of my life. Due to the nature of my work, I have to be pretty discreet, so I've lived a pretty closeted life up to this point. Somewhat more than a year ago, I discovered this website and began to do some "window shopping". I hired my first escort, and it was an interesting experience, enough so that I decided to test the waters again. My second experience was nothing less than providential. It was such a positive experience that I haven't been the same since, and that is a good thing. I experienced a lot of loneliness and depression prior to that. My second escort left the business, but has remained my very best friend. I can talk with him about anything, and our friendship has given me a new sense of purpose.

 

I'm not going to tell you that hiring an escort will change your life. What I will tell you is that it is never too late to take and plunge and embark on something new, something that will allow you to garner new experiences and hopefully, new perspectives. The life we decide to live is pretty much one of our own choosing. As someone once said, "There's not much difference between a rut and a grave, except for the dimensions." Do something good and fun for yourself. You're worth it. The worst thing you can do is to do nothing. As Harvey Cox once said, "Not to decide is to decide".

 

Good luck, best wishes, and follow your bliss!

[Guest newawlens]

Ruben, reading some of the "positive thinking" stuff that gets posted here may give you the impression that reaching your goals is easy, just a matter of repeating some slogans. It isn't. Achieving anything worthwhile takes work, including finding and keeping a true friend or a real lover. Hiring an escort to fuck around with for an hour or two is not that much work, and it also isn't worth nearly as much. It can take your mind off your problems for a bit, but it can't solve them. If you want real friends, you're going to have to spend the time and effort to meet people and sift through them until you find someone you can really relate to. If you want a lover, that means even more work. In either case you'll have to deal with boredom, frustration and rejection in the process. You just need to ask yourself how badly you want it. Only you know the answer to that.

[Guest miketx]

>One week from today, on August 28, I'll turn 60 years old.

>I've spent most of that time alone, most of that time lonely

>and much of that time one centimeter this side of

>depression. I've plenty of money, a nice condominium and a

>good car, but there is no one to talk to, on one to sleep

>with and the nearest family is more than 300 km away.

>

>It will take a lot more than "talking up the good stuff" and

>positive thinking, I'm afraid, for me to be up beat. How I

>wish it were otherwise!

 

I too have spent most of my life alone & depressed.

I decided that life was not going to pass me by any longer. A couple of weeks ago I got a membership at a gym/bathhouse. I now exercise everyday and have met some nice people. What could be more fun then discussing the hot guys by the pool along with the stock market?

 

The guys that workout are from the 20's to well over 60. I was very afraid that I would feel out of place there, but all ages and sizes are represented. Along with some other things I have done recently, this one really hits the spot for the long term.

 

If you would like to chat, send me a message.

Miketx

 

On a lighter note, I found out on my second day that staring too long at some hot guy will cause you to lose your balance on the treadmill.

[Guest curious2000]

I believe that our thoughts really are more powerful tools than we are sometimes aware of that create either positive or negative energy in our lives. Here is an interesting article on the concept of "thoughts" actually creating vibrations or energy fields that physically attract either good or bad results in our lives like a magnate.

 

The article itself is really interesting, but sorry if the website offends anyone's religious beliefs, I don't really know much about this website, but is seems to be more about "spirituality" and not any specific religion. there is a link to website of Carolyn Myss and she wrote an interesting book about healing yourself with your mind and thoughts.

 

thanks for this great topic

http://www.beliefnet.com/frameset.asp?pageLoc=story/110/story_11069_1.html&boardID=43882

[foxy]

It's never too late to have a happy childhood.

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>Me thinks someone got fucked last night! :7

 

And right after that he attended his weekly AMWAY distrubutors meeting.

 

Thunderbuns

[Guest Dan]

Another great book is Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning. Frankl was a shrink who suvived the concentration camps. A truly inspirational story. Tim Robbins' character in The Shawshank Redemption shared a few characteristics with Frankl as well.

 

And CJ, it was a great posting. Down here in LaLaLand, we'd actually rejoice at a rainy day - we haven't had a good downpour since Feb!!!!

[Cooper]

>One week from today, on August 28, I'll turn 60 years old.

>It will take a lot more than "talking up the good stuff" and

>positive thinking, I'm afraid, for me to be up beat. How I

>wish it were otherwise!

 

Hey Ruben!

Let me join in the chorus by singing you a a HAPPY 60TH BIRTHDAY! Congratulations...

 

First off, Ruben, you don't want us to feel sorry for you, especially on a day of celebrating life. You got to get youself up out of that chair and go to the window and shout out "I'M AS MAD AS HELL AND I'M NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANY MORE"...Ok, feel any better. Now go to that phone and make a call, for you are making plans to come to NYC!...You've earned it...Treat yourself to the Plaza Hotel, take a carriage ride through Central Park, ride the Circle Line around Manhattan, see a Broadway show, (Lion King, Aida, Producers, Thoroughly Modern Milly, etc.). Treat yourself to a dinner at Tavern on the Green, the Rainbow Room, or McDonalds,etc.). See Times Square at night, go to the top of the Empire State Building and see the "world". Visit a museum or two, or three...Now! for the really fun stuff: enjoy a ball game at the famous male strip club, Gaiety!, ok, different bats and balls, but you'll enjoy the show. Also, try Splash, Stella's or Red's. Make a date with Rick, Jim, or any of the other GRRRRRRREAT escorts who write on this page. They'll really give you a b-day to remember. I could go on, but Ruben, you got the picture. It's not going to happen unless you make it...You can either enjoy your b-day, or you can ENJOY YOUR BIRTHDAY! ;-) So Ruben, what's it going to be? I'm waiting, we are all waiting...NO EXCUSES...

[Houston Bonfires]

Cooper,

 

You are wise beyond your years whatever those years happens to be. Ruben look at the responses on this thread. Look at the friends you've made here. Look at the people who have decided to care about you and your happiness. As a wise Rick Munroe said how great to have a place to come every day with such a diverse yet common sense of purpose and appeal to it. This place is a gold mine of information of diverse opinion of learning. The only thing that makes you old is your mind and what you think about yourself. Get your lazy ass up and out. Buy a puppy. Take a walk. Strip naked and streak down main street. Hire a good lawyer or for more fun a lousy one. Mame had it right when she said most poor sons a bitches are starving to death. Get your ass out and eat someone.

 

H B :9

[Samai139]

Ruben~~

First of all, Happy Birthday, next week. In October I'll be 62, so there!! 60 may seem like the "end" but guess what? It's not!! You are alive and you are a survivor, enjoy.

May I make a suggestion? I don't know where you live, but drive, fly or ride (bus, train, limousine) to Montreal for a few days. There are at least 5 or 6 bars with male strippers who would love to "chat" with you and relieve you of some money for lap dances!! And who knows? Maybe more. Seriously, it's a great place--if you need any tips on places to stay, bars to visit, write me, I'll help you out with some free advice.

Thanks to all of you for making a dreary, cloudy, humid day in Western New York a little more cheery, a lot more human and downright acceptable.

Also, if the chap who wrote about joinging the gym/bath house, whatever would give me some advice on what to look for, I'd be grateful.

Buzz;)

[Guest Ruben]

This is Ruben. I've been away from the computer for a few days and haven't been able to respond to your messages until now.

 

Judging by what you had to say in your responces to my post, I think you will all be happy to know that next week Wednesday I'll be flying to London for eight days, followed by three days on the continent--France and Belgium--and then four more days in Portsmouth. London is not a birthday present from me to me. I'm flying on my 60th birthday by coincidence. You may also be surprised to learn that this is Atlantic crossing number eight in the past two and a half years. And last winter I did something I have wanted to do for years, namely, I crossed the Atlantic Ocean from west to east in the middle of winter on the most beautiful clipper "tall ship" you have ever seen. She was 750 tons, with three masts and twenty-nine beautiful white sails! At one point we had 48 knott winds, not much wind for a real sailor but more than I needed at the time. Alanalt suggests that I have some "fun." This sail of nearly thirty days was indeed fun.

 

Bluenix is right on when he says I am "shy" and "more a spectator" than a participant. I am often frozen in inactivity for days at a time. I hate new situations where I don't know what happens next or how things are done or what the proper procedure is. I'll walk by a new restaurant I want to go to because it looks too complicated from the outside! I've actually done that, in Australia for instance. This is a fear of embarrassment--I literally hate people looking at me--and this fear will never go away. BuckyXTC says it is "never too late," but shyness is permanent,like finger prints.

 

Cooper suggests a trip to NYC and Samsi 139 recommends Montreal. But there is a problem here. I would have to go alone like on all my other travels, and traveling alone is becoming an increasing burden. There is never a "bon voyage" for me at the airport nor a "welcome back." This can be, and frequently is, deeply sad for me. Everyone else seems to be with someone while I'm still alone. In New York I would have to ride in Central Park alone, go to the Empire State Building alone, go to a Broadway play alone. And a restaurant? Well, restaurants are almost always a table for one. Montreal would be more of the same, like London next week.

 

Miketx suggest a gym membership. Would you believe I have lived for about six years less than two city blocks from the local YMCA and have never been in the building? Too new, you see, too much potential for embarrassment, don't you know. I'll probably never set foot in the place.

 

Several of you have suggested getting escorts, and you will be happy to know I have three lined up in London. I am going to try again. I say again because I have used several escorts in the past without too much in the way of firewroks. Why? Not because the escorts have failed. They have all been wonderful guys, but because I have a fear of STDs that prevents me from doing much more than talking and looking.I fear kissing because of oral herpes, though I want to kiss in the worst way. I won't bottom because I fear becoming HIV+. Again, I want to bottom, but so far I haven't come close. I am nearly frozen in inactivity while I'm with an escort. What a waste! What a waste! But I can't survive, literally I cannot survive, the family/social consequences of becoming HIV+. I have an older brother who once said, in the 1980s, that AIDS was God's punishment of homosexuals. How am I supposed to deal with that? DevonSFescort tells me "It may take taking risks." HIV+ is a risk I'll not take, and so escorts are of diminished pleasure to me due to no fault of their own. Still, I'm going to try again in London.

 

By this time you can see why I am alone most of the time and why now and again I have to struggle against depression. One of you in your responce to my original post suggested I post more information about my situation. Well, here it is. And you can see why I said to CJ that it will take more than stressing the positive to light up a sparkel in my life.

 

One more thing. I have never told any of these things to anyone else before. Thank you all for helping.

[Cooper]

>By this time you can see why I am alone

>One more thing. I have never told any of these things to

>anyone else before. Thank you all for helping.

 

Hi Ruben,

Thanks for sharing your story with us. It was good hearing from you. Those upcoming trips and past adventures sounded very enjoyable, so have a good time and celebrate your 60th b-day in style.

 

I know that being shy can really suck,but it sounds like you want to be part of the action. Have you ever tried a "step-program"? where you try something new each day. For example: you mentioned you live 2 blocks from a "Y", if you weren't shy would you have joined? If "yes", step one; go in and inquire about a membership, ask for a tour to check out the facility, look into what programs/classes they offer, find out if they have a personal trainer available, and don't forget to examine the locker rooms! etc...If you like it, and I hope you will, take out a short term membership. Now, since you are uncomfortable with a new situation, I strongly would recommend hiring that personal trainer. He can introduce you to all the equipment, show you around, and make you feel very comfortable. After working with him a few times, you'll see yourself more at ease in this new environment. Just take one "comfortable" step at a time. For me, the first time doing anything new was always a challenge, but the more I did it, the easier it became.

 

As for that NYC trip, I agree, traveling alone can have it's disadvantages. But I had anticipated you saying that. On Monday, when I'm in NYC, I'll go to the Times Square Visitor's Center and obtain information on personal guides to the City.

I've heard about this program where local residents have volunteered to take visitors around and show them the sights...However, one step at a time, check out the "Y" and get back to us.

 

Again Ruben, it was great hearing from you, and please keep us informed of all your exciting journies ahead...Best wishes for a happy 60th....Coops