Some Reviews Write Themselves... Others well....

[NYTomcat]

I have a dilemna. Recently and unbeknownst to this board (yeah I know your all shocked I tend to talk so much about my hires) I met with a well reviewed and talented working guy. Now I have the task before me of writing a review. And truly I am stumped...

 

Now its not that the meeting was bad, Not in any way in fact it was exceptional. That said it was such a personal experience and so unique to "me" that its seems almost impossible to express or to evaluate for anyone else.

 

I hired this man not because of his reviews, or even because his forte so matches my own but because of his looks. Not his incredible body or eyes or ... well you get the picture all of which he has. I hired him because his particular look is so reminiscent of someone I knew in the past. That in combination with his sweet disposition and incredible talent at pleasing clients was a perfect combination for me to have a perfect and even cathartic experience. and did it work... yes it did. It was a perfect triumph but a personal one. Without understanding the background, the experience would seem somewhat flat, as if it didnt carry the momentous feeling that the time actually held for me.

 

So now, everytime I go to write the review I find it either focuses all about my personal journey (not appropriate for a review) or it has a limited appeal as the hire was more about bringng out my feelings than actually raw sexually charged power or passion (though he definately brought that too). I've junked more copies of this review than I care to mention. just cause they either focus on me or dont do the man justice.

 

So I am tempted not to write the review as it is just too personal to either share or from which to have any commonality with a reader of the review. I'd just like others opinions of this as well as any stories you have concerning similarly difficult reviews and how you handled them. Thanks Tomcat

[Guy Fawkes]

 

I hired this man not because of his reviews, or even because his forte so matches my own but because of his looks. Not his incredible body or eyes or ... well you get the picture all of which he has. I hired him because his particular look is so reminiscent of someone I knew in the past. That in combination with his sweet disposition and incredible talent at pleasing clients was a perfect combination for me to have a perfect and even cathartic experience. and did it work... yes it did. It was a perfect triumph but a personal one.

 

A little bit of clean-up and there is your review. Works for me!

[Guest ChgoBoy]

oh dear. I struggled just reading through your precursor here out of fear that the very worst might be in the works of happening. I don't know why exactly, maybe because it's just so late. Or maybe because I fear the very worst - that being, that your review is going to identify, glutes' most fond of escort ever as your date - and if that's the case - all I can say and think right now is...oh lord, oh dear.

[Pegasus]

My two cents...

 

Hi Tom, You are such a sweetheart...always concerned about doing the right thing. I admire that quality in you!

Since this particular review is causing you significant internal conflict, here's a few options to consider: 1) write a short & sweet, complimentary review; 2) don't write a review--keeping this wonderful, unique experience to yourself to cherish. Apparently, the talented, highly regarded escort doesn't necessarily "need" another positive review. 3) Send this escort a personal note expressing your intimate feelings about this special encounter. I'm guessing that you would do this anyway since you are obviously a deeply-caring individual who is sensitive to others' feelings. I hope these suggestions are helpful.

[adriano46]

NYTom,

 

In a way, a brief summary of what you wrote for me would be sufficient, but more - I do not review EVERY guy I meet, just some who are less known or unknown to the Board, or someone who was exceptionally great (or exceptionally BAD as the case may be). I tend to gravitate towards the same "type" (European, mid-20's or older, cultured, generally shorter than I, dark haired etc...) and so my reviews could become monotonous.

 

I'd opt for the latter choice of not posting - since this was such a personal thing for you, and since (you infer) the guy is already reviewed positively, don't see the need for you to post, unless you want to give another thumbs up for the guy, which is not bad.

[jimboivyo]

We write reviews to show we appreciated our experience. It doesn't matter whether the escort has 6 or 60 write ups, it's the thought that counts. To say to someone 'why even write the review' is just selfish and non productive. He's obviously had a great time, but is having trouble expressing just how to put it all across.

 

I think daddy had it right with his response. Just add a little more to the body and you've got your review right there.

[KMEM]

Isn't the personal experiece one of the things that some repeatedly ask to be included in a review? Just because an escort reminds you of a former BF or childhood chum or your idealized partner doesn't mean you have to name names or any such. All of those things are subjective start to finish anyway so they are just part of "your" review.

 

If for no other reason, professional or business courtesy suggests writing the review. You are a professional client, aren't you?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Guest alanm]

We write reviews to show we appreciated our experience. It doesn't matter whether the escort has 6 or 60 write ups, it's the thought that counts. To say to someone 'why even write the review' is just selfish and non productive. He's obviously had a great time, but is having trouble expressing just how to put it all across.

 

 

A review is not always the best way to show appreciation, especially if he is having difficulty writing it. A personal note or a phone call may be more appropriate.

 

How is deciding not to writing a review selfish in this situation, or any other? I think that is a truly strange comment.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Go with you gut feeling. Ask yourself why you wany to write a review. If it is to let the escort know what a great time you had, then that can be done in a personal note and you don't have to reveal all your personal feelings to everyone else. However, if the purpose for writing the review is to let others know about an outstanding escort then stay with the essence of what you have already written in this thread.

[Guest ChgoBoy]

That said it was such a personal experience and so unique to "me" that its seems almost impossible to express or to evaluate for anyone else.

 

Sometimes, the greatest gifts reside within our hearts with non verbalized joy.

[+ Charlie]

I think Daddy had the right idea. However, you are not required to write a review of every escort you see--this is not a class with homework assignments. I write reviews if I think they will give useful information to other users of this site, or if it will be helpful to an escort with whom I have had a good experience. If the escort doesn't need another generic positive review, and you don't think your experience can be duplicated by another client, then feel comfortable just expressing your appreciation to the escort himself.

[Lewis H]

A little bit of clean-up and there is your review. Works for me!

I agree with Daddy. A review doesn't have to be about what the general populace would like - the fact that you chose from a personal standpoint AND were rewarded for being right, tells people about an aspect of that escort that maybe others would identify with. I was going to suggest the exact same paragraph as your review. It certainly tells me a lot more about your experience and allows for the exploration of others. I think we can all accept that we all would get a different experience being different people, but it's always nice to see aspects of the people we hire from the points of view of others. Who knows who might share that point of view? Write/submit it!

[Boomer]

Daddy's spot on as are the others who pointed out that writing a review is not mandatory.

[doitb4ugo]

My Thoughts

 

I have a dilemna.

 

So I am tempted not to write the review as it is just too personal to either share or from which to have any commonality with a reader of the review. I'd just like others opinions of this as well as any stories you have concerning similarly difficult reviews and how you handled them. Thanks Tomcat

 

NYTom,

 

I can share a little about a not so simillar, different situation. I chose not to write a review about my encounter because my experience, as was yours, was more about me than the escort. Unlike your experience, mine did not go well but certainly the issue was what I brought to the "table" (not that it was a table, mind you) rather than what the escort provided. I think if you can separate the overtly personal side of your engagement from the actual activities, you may see that the personal victory for you is exactly that, personal. I don't think you need to write a review for this engagement. Both you and the escort know what transpired. Good enough. Sharing on this board is not the same (more personal) as sharing in the review section. Just my opinion. I trust you will do what you need to do and I certainly won't tell you otherwise. I am just looking at it as if it were me in your situation.

 

Don't Worry Be Happy.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

If it is so personal I don't think you should write about it. I bet that escort has plenty of good reviews so maybe it's not necessary for you to add another one. Talk to the escort and ask him what he thinks. As long as it doesn't hurt the escort or his feelings and negatively affect him then I don't think you don't have to worry about anything. If you are worried about your identity then you can use a different handle too. Anyways, you are so sweet to consider many things.

[alanalt]

The OP says the escort is 'well-reviewed'. That has two possible meanings for me, he has lots of reviews and all/most of them are complimentary or he has only a few reviews but they're ALL very good. In the first case, I don't think it's necessary to write a review, especially if the other reviews are recent and do a good job of outlining the escort's qualities.

 

However, if the escort in question has only a few reviews, hasn't been reviewed in a while, or has reviews from only first/second-time reviewers, then I would favour your writing a short complimentary review along the lines of what Daddy suggested. Not every review has to go into great emotional (or pornographic ) detail of the session in question. In such cases a short 'he's new and hot' or a 'he's still in the game and a great guy' review can be a terrific help to a potential customer, particularly when it comes from an 'experienced' reviewer like the OP...

 

I confess I've had a tough time writing a few of my reviews, especially when 'chemistry' was such an important/personal aspect of the encounter. But I can honestly say that the only reviews I've ever regretted were the ones I did not submit/write (for one reason or another)...

 

Alan

[Toulouse]

A review is not always the best way to show appreciation, especially if he is having difficulty writing it. A personal note or a phone call may be more appropriate.

 

How is deciding not to writing a review selfish in this situation, or any other? I think that is a truly strange comment.

 

Well said, Alanm. I was thinking the same thing--and then read your post.

[+ purplekow]

Being somewhat familar with the situation, I go on record as saying, the escort does not need another positive review and Tomkat, with your proclivity for verbosity, you don't have enough time to write the review in a way that explains the situation without revealing a lot of personal information. Tell him in a letter or an e mail if you must. Quite frankly, I am sure this thread is enough.

[KMEM]

PK-

 

Are you accusing TK of being an attorney? Who else might have a proclivity for verbosity?

 

There are plenty of posters who say things whereof they do not know, so I am obliged to listen to any who do know whereof they speak, regardless of their "verbosity".

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ purplekow]

I would never insult Tomkat by accusing him of being a lawyer. The fact that he practices law does not mean he should be saddled with the stigma of being a lawyer.

As for proclivity for verbosity, come on it is fun to say, in addition to lawyers, you have salesmen, politicians (mostly lawyers), Ryan Seacrest, TV political reporters and of course cocaine abusers.

[NYTomcat]

Ok this lawyer agrees with pk. While I wanted This escort to understand my choice I do not see any way to word this without too much detail I am not willing to share. Let me just say thank you all for the advice and I truly believe that a generic reference in a review is unnecessary. The escort has plenty of positive reviews.

 

The man in question has contacted me. While he would like me to share the cathartic experience not for him but to show others what the escort experience can be . I am not ready to share that much with the public at large. This experience was a personal journey. Good or bad it reflects on me and not the escort. That said while he handled the situation with great professionalism and grace. And made my journey possible. It is not an experience anyone will ever duplicate. And to be honest. I do not feel that sharing it would have anything but a negative outcome to me. This was personal. And I needed you all to remind meof That Thanks pk as always my voice of reason. ..and unbridled lust.

 

So no review Though I wish I could write one that said ...thank you David for helping me find myself. You may never truly understand how much.

[KMEM]

I would never insult Tomkat by accusing him of being a lawyer. The fact that he practices law does not mean he should be saddled with the stigma of being a lawyer.

As for proclivity for verbosity, come on it is fun to say, in addition to lawyers, you have salesmen, politicians (mostly lawyers), Ryan Seacrest, TV political reporters and of course cocaine abusers.

 

Not sure I understand this post. If I am flying an airplane around and someone accuses me of being a pilot, that is only the correct terminology. I have to take the good and the bad with being "called" a pilot, even if my mother thinks I am a piano player in a *****house.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[KMEM]

Ok this lawyer agrees with pk. While I wanted This escort to understand my choice I do not see any way to word this without too much detail I am not willing to share. Let me just say thank you all for the advice and I truly believe that a generic reference in a review is unnecessary. The escort has plenty of positive reviews.

 

The man in question has contacted me. While he would like me to share the cathartic experience. I disagree. This experience was a personal journey. Good or bad it reflects on me and not the escort. That said while he handled the situation with great professionalism and grace. And made my journey possible. It is not an experience anyone will ever duplicate. And to be honest. I do not feel that sharing it would have anything but a negative outcome to me. This was personal. And I needed you all to remind meof That Thanks pk as always my voice of reason. ..and unbridled lust.

 

So no review.... but thank you David for helping me find myself. You may never truly understand how much.

 

NYTC--

 

You have to do whatever you have to do. NP.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Guest countryboywny]

I would never insult Tomkat by accusing him of being a lawyer.

 

What's wrong with being a lawyer? My grandfather once told me, "No one likes a lawyer, until you need one." When I need one, I'm calling Tomcat!

[+ purplekow]

First of all, if I am flying around in a plane behind the stick, I am not a pilot, I am a dead man. Second, there is nothing wrong with being a lawyer, I can only suppose because I am not one, but being called one usually is not a compliment.