Companionship and Fun

[+ Charlie]

I think Mark Gordon has hit the nail on the head: men who are in long term relationships generally hire escorts for a different reason than men who are not. I hire escorts for sex, and if some pleasant companionship develops out of it, that is nice, but it is not necessary; however, if I were alone, I would probably find an hour or two of even fabulous sex unsatisfying if it weren't preceded and/or followed by some interesting social interaction. It's no coincidence that the escorts that are most highly recommended on this site are usually the same ones who enjoy doing other things with their clients besides fucking.

[KMEM]

Charlie-

 

You are exactly correct. It is NO coincidence.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Okliehomo]

Connection, not companionship...

 

I know that you guys mostly think that I am all about ass all the time and while that is my primary objective... I must admit, that it's really about the connection.... that's what makes it special. Calling it "companionship" makes it sound like you live alone with a tiny dog and don't have any friends.... hey, wait a minute, that is me.... Just kidding, I have friends but most of them need money.... hmmm...

 

Just saying, like Bart, some of the best parts of the visit can come at dinner or getting dressed or just during the on going dialogue that happens during the filming.... I mean, for the most part, I am dealing with gay men here... and face it, boys, we are genuinely a witty people... and when you get that and a hot ass and big dick and model face... well, jack fucking pot.

 

And Bart is right again (I am getting a little tired of saying that...) but Dane Scott and Romann are funny. So, is Eric Somers... so is Rick Munroe.... so is Philip/Seattle... and Kristian, too ... and Ty.... and though I haven't met him, Andrew D deserves a mention, here, too... very clever man...... and then, there's David... all charm, all the time and a one of a kind sense of humor.

 

Don't get me wrong... it's still mostly about the sex with me... I am not looking to sit around the hotel room and do each other's hair, tell a few jokes and take a couple of chill pills... no, that isn't my ultimate goal.... you still need the hot ass and the big dick and the model face to gain admittance...

 

But the connection part seals the deal and gets you invited back.

 

Soberly yours... yeah.. really.

 

Okie

[whipped guy]

It's all about connecting!

 

But the connection part seals the deal... yeah.. really.

Yeah! Really! As usual Okie hit the nail on the head... "Connection" is the perfect word as opposed to "companionship". So I guess it is all about semantics as well!

 

As a case in point a while back I had a hookup with a very well-reviewed and respected gentleman who posts on this site (if he is reading this he knows who he is!) and to put it mildly, something got muddled at the very end of the session with the result being that the so-called happy ending was not so happy. However, the connection with the guy was so “there” that I really could care less. Plus my butt was sore and my nipples felt as though they were ready to fall off anyway… but all kidding aside the “connection" was the important component of the session. Plus, we will hopefully soon get to try again and see if we (mostly I) can get things right the next time around!!!

 

[+ nycman]

Calling it "companionship" makes it sound like you live alone with a tiny dog and don't have any friends....

 

No doubt. I was starting to have visions of all you guys sitting by the fireplace in your

dilapidated mansions, wrapped in old crocheted afghans, holding your Yorkies in your laps

while having a spot of tea with your "companions".

 

Thanks Okie for reminding us that even the worst charmer, has a little "WHAM" in him!

 

I have friends but most of them need money....

 

Get new friends.

[+ sf westcoaster]

"Conection" is a better word, however, I still believe that from that connection there can flow an element of companionship. Maybe not the first time two people are together, but after the second and third times I think one might begin to feel a bit more like companions.

[trooperbill2000]

Couldn't Agree More Mr. Bart

 

I think you have posted one of the best and most relevant thoughts on this Website. I hired an escort as a present to myself after a tough summer. I hired Romann in Dallas and enjoyed him. Still, I had very mixed feelings about it and especially about myself after doing it.

 

After he voluntarily rescued me from a car trouble ordeal (described in my post under "Has an escort gone the extra mile"?, it changed my whole perspective.

 

I no longer feel that it is just a cold cash transaction. In fact, the physical attraction I have for him is much stronger. Now I know that I am having intimacy with a kind and considerate person and not an annonymous encounter with a total stranger.

 

Camaraderie with Romann is every bit as enjoyable as the sex and that is saying a lot.

[whipped guy]

I no longer feel that it is just a cold cash transaction. In fact, the physical attraction I have for him is much stronger. Now I know that I am having intimacy with a kind and considerate person and not an annonymous encounter with a total stranger.

 

Camaraderie with Romann is every bit as enjoyable as the sex and that is saying a lot.

 

I think you hit the nail on the head again semantically speaking with the word camaraderie, as that implies a "meeting of the minds", a connection, and a comradeship that doesn't necessarily imply a close or actual friendship... but rather someone who is not exactly a "total stranger" and someone in whom you can trust. You also mention someone who is "kind and considerate". That is also very important to complete the picture... and is something that turns me on as well. Add the ability to bond with a bit of interesting conversation and things can ratchet up exponentially... and we are not even considering anything remotely sexual at this point.

 

Now I never delude myself into thinking that I am actually friends with a guy who is taking money for sexual favors. However, it is comforting to know that in another time, another place, or under a different set of circumstances that this guy would indeed make a great friend or companion. That's what makes it not have the feel of a "cold cash transaction"... even though it actually is.

 

I have always said that the best escorts treat their clients better than they would expect to be treated under normal circumstances. Actually that means that they are not only doing their job well, but doing it above and beyond the call of duty... and that is a great work ethic that should be adhered to by anyone who is in a similar service industry. Plus, it is certainly good business sense that only fosters and enhances the relationship with the client.