Companionship and Fun

[Bart]

I realize most of us look here to find someone for hot sex and that is the primary purpose of hiring gentleman for most of us. The bulk is definitely the short 1-2 hour meetings. For others the hiring of gentleman can be a release or search for answers buried deep within ourselves.

 

I hope you will not mind my posting a thread related to a meeting I recently concluded with two wonderful guys. I will post a review but just wanted to mention the part of the longer meeting that sometimes gets little play with the long or short descriptions of sex. I hire for sex no doubt about that and the gentlemen I have hired can certainly attest to that. But I also look for guys I can find a connection to personally, intellectually and I guess to certain extent therapeutically, as well. There are a lot of caring guys out there who work hard to provide that connection. It is a bit of danger emotionally as sometimes you do form bonds that are maybe not built on the best of foundations. Some of the guys who do a really good job of this are Raul, Chicago, Patick, Dallas, Charles, SF, Fernando, NY, David, SF, Andrew D, San Diego. They will take the time to check back with you at later dates and you dont feel like they are hawking for business. Yeah there is the cynical part that will say that they are just looking for another meeting but actually I dont feel that way. At least for me and I know for others they do provide more than just the moment where the heavens part and the Alleluia chorus begins.

 

I just finished such a meeting with two guys one who I met for the first time the other I have had the pleasure of meeting several times now. Once again Romann has provided that connection and to add to it I was priviledged to have Dane Scott join us for the past 48 hours. They worked together like a charm and I have never laughed with two guys as much as I have with these two. Yes there was the heaven's parting and Alleluia chorus, but I will save that for the review. What a great way to start the Christmas week, I got my present!

 

So I just thought I would put a plug in for the guys who work hard to provide more than just that moment of sexual bliss, but can make that overnight, weekend or vacation a time that you will remember.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Bart, Thanks for addressing the companionship aspect of hiring. As time goes on I find myself looking for hot-sex, but also looking for the companionship. You have identified some of my favorite escorts, who as you have pointed-out provide that extra measure of companionship. Had the pleasure of spending time with Romann just a few days ago and am looking forward to seeing Dane in the first week of January - the two of them together must have been hours of fun. It has been some time since I have seen Raul, but he also provided that extra dimension. Now that leaves, David (SF). I will not say more about him, least I slip into review mode. I will just say that he has become the banometer by which I evaluate other escorts.

Again thanks for talking about this added dimension of client - escort relations.

[+ Oliver]

... But I also look for guys I can find a connection to personally, intellectually ... There are a lot of caring guys out there who work hard to provide ... more than just that moment of sexual bliss, but can make that overnight, weekend or vacation a time that you will remember.

 

... As time goes on I find myself looking for hot-sex, but also looking for the companionship ... this added dimension of client - escort relations.

 

It has been ages since I have hired for just an hour. As my self description for the reviews I do states, I wish to be “… with attractive, interactive, passionate men with whom I can connect on several levels, both mental and physical …”, and that means being with them for more than hour. Usually it’s two, three or more hours and includes dinner (although I most often have “dessert” first:p). It may extend to an overnight engagement or for a couple of days or more once I have initially met them. Every one of those I mentioned in the thread on “Who Rocked your World in 2009?” (http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?t=71386&page=5) have provided exactly what we’re talking about here. It has become an essential part for me. It makes the “hot-sex” even hotter!

 

 

On a side note – it appears that we share a common "uncommon" taste!

[+ bigjoey]

dear bart,

count me in your camp that companionship can raise the level on an escort relationship to something really better than just the sex. i normally hire for overnights and weekends and over the years have been fortunate build some great relationships. the good guys have a brain and that can give pleasure, too.

 

recently, i has romann here in kansas city with his dog and it was a great time. he wants to please you sexually but gives more than just good sex in his companionship. he is a true winner.

[adriano46]

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?t=71386&page=5[/url]) [/font][/color]have provided exactly what we’re talking about here. It has become an essential part for me. It makes the “hot-sex” even hotter!

 

On a side note – it appears that we share a common "uncommon" taste!

 

I was happily surprised to see this thread, because as the snow began melting away and I came in from a brisk walk (and a little shoveling too) I was thinking of some pretty interesting encounters over the past twenty odd years of hiring, and especially some of the memorable encounters on cold winter nights in various parts of the world - especially Europe, where I met more working guys.

 

I find that as I get older, the sex part of the date, while very important, is often weighed with something else equally important for me. I do not like one-hour appointments, aside from an occasional good solid (erotic or at least sexy) massage. Otherwise, when I decide to hire, I want to be with a guy who clicks on many levels: one who can hold an interesting conversation, one with whom I can enjoy a nice meal, go to the theatre or a movie with (or even harder to find, one who can enjoy a night at the opera with me and not feel bored), one who can spend time with me walking, visiting a museum, touring, shopping, and all the while, a guy who, while admittedly arm candy, is not drawing attention to us but blends in and makes me feel comfortable.

 

To do all these things, he has to be fluent in one of the half-dozen languages I speak (which gives me w fairly wide area to choose from), and share a wide range of interests.

 

I have been lucky finding some men who fill all these requirements. However, one continues to stand out as the BEST of all... a guy I met back in 1998 in Amsterdam, a Russian (yeah, I am a sucker for them, and HE WAS MY FIRST ONE), and while not the most handsome man I had met there, he was by far better than any of the others in every other way (including in the sex department), a guy I really felt comfortable with, even when we were silent, when we slept, when we walked quietly. I never felt awkward, or out of place with him, and he never drew attenton to us as a pair (or couple, or whatever).

 

So, "Egor", YOU REMAIN THE ONE BY WHOM ALL OTHERS ARE MEASURED. (He is retired now but we have seen each other, and do keep in touch, and even now I want to meet up with him (and would jump at the chance of sex again, although he has a boyfriend now).

 

I have wanted to meet Romann (as he seems to be everything I seek), but our schedules never coincide. Same too with some of the other names mentioned. Leo Walker also seems to be one I would enjoy (just from our common travel destinations alone!!!).

 

And while I am now more or less weaned from Russians, I still am hung on HUNGarians, many who fill the bill except in the language department (although a few, like Mario Magabe or Rick Bauer do fill even that category), but have yet to find an Italian or other Mediterranean who may also fill the bill, and of course, I hope for the day I can meet Romann, or Leoi or some of the other guys in the US who seem to have all the right attributes... something to plan in 2010.

[Romann]

Bart-

 

You're very special to me and I'm pleased beyond belief that I was able to bring a good time to cold Milwaukee with my partner in crime, Mr. Dane Scott. That said, I was honored to have Dane with me because he's a class act and truly one of the best escorts I have had the pleasure to spend time with in a working relationship but also on a personal level. He's a TRUE professional that delivers a sincere package, a master and wonderful teacher that I have learned much from in the 48 hours that I spent with him - he honestly deserves much of the credit for a wonderful time!

 

Being with the two of you will forever go down in my memory banks as a wonderful time where I laughed so hard on so many occasions to the point of about passing out! None of this would have been possible without Dane at my side but more importantly, from the kind invite from Bart who has always taken such great care of me with his kind words, actions and sincere conversation during our visits together.

 

You will forever be my trusted friend beyond our escorting relationship and one that I will hold very close to me now and in the future!

 

BRAVO Bart and Dane for a time well spent! Santa was good to me and I'm happy to have both of you in my life.

 

Two inside jokes that Bart and Dane will appreciate: "Don't touch the bear!" and "Are you sure you want to order THAT from the menu?"

 

HAPPY AND SAFE HOLIDAYS two the both of you but also to everyone on the forum!

 

Yours truly and with teary eyes of joy-

Jelly-Belly in Dallas, TX! (Bart will know what this means!)

[Guest LeoWalker]

Bart, thanks for bringing this topic to the forefront of our minds. I was just discussing the difference between "hourly" and longer-period sessions with a fellow poster of this forum last night, lol.

 

Sometimes the profession can seem very disorienting about what types of connections we truly are making...so the chiming in of many members is very pleasing. Thanks everyone for...what you seek.

 

adriano, thank you for the positive mention. I'm sure "Egor" was a great man. I was hoping to put St. Petersburg or Moscow on my travel itinerary for 2010, but it doesn't seem like that will pan out.

[Okliehomo]

Little things do mean a lot......

 

Good for you, Bart. Romann seems to be the real deal all around. Not only is he a great escort... I have seen that for myself.. but he goes the extra mile for you, every time.

 

Always happy to hear that your adventures turn out the way that you want. You deserve that.

 

Okie

[Guest zipperzone]

I see nothing wrong (obviously) in paying money in the exchange for sex.

 

But when one has to pay for companionship..... well I find that a bit sad.

[+ purplekow]

I see nothing wrong (obviously) in paying money in the exchange for sex.

 

But when one has to pay for companionship..... well I find that a bit sad.

 

I have been hiring for about 5 years and the different escorts have all added something different to my life, though the acts are pretty much the same, the men are not. I have many people in my life who add to its fullness and richness and over all enjoyablity. I have scuba diving friends with whom I would not discuss politics and I have professional friends with whom I would not share certain aspects of my family life.

There are escorts with whom I want several hours of hot body to body interaction and a quick kiss goodbye and then there are others with whom I want to discuss literature or show business or religion before or after a hot sexual episode. For those escorts, I usually set aside a bit more time and a bit more money. I love the sex and appreciate their companionship as the unique experience it is. So I pay for the sex and I pay for the companionship and they both make me happy. I don't find there to be anything sad about it.

[KMEM]

I agree with PK. Basically one is paying for the sex and the companionship is thrown in between episodes, if desired.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Bart]

Well Zip thanks for your input as always. You may think as you will. I am sorry you unable to make connections with the men you meet. But I am certainly happy with the decisions I have made. Certainly appears I have a few others who feel the same. But hey to each his own. Have a great evening Zip.

[Mark Gordon]

A Question for ZZ

 

I see nothing wrong (obviously) in paying money in the exchange for sex.

 

But when one has to pay for companionship..... well I find that a bit sad.

 

ZZ, I have been wondering: Do you hire escorts? I ask partly because I have never known you to comment on your personal experiences with escorts and partly because you seem to have so little comprehension of what the possibilities are in a male escort/client relationship. I think many men who hire male escorts are looking for connection and companionship as much as they're seeking sexual release and I see nothing sad about this. It is not a matter of having to pay for sex or companionship, but of choosing to use your resources in a way that will bring you some fulfillment and enhance your life. I think you've mentioned that you're in a long-term relationship, however many men are not blessed with this, or are in unfulfilling relationships, and it is natural that they might look to empathetic escorts who they get on well with to help bridge that gap. I love having sex, but I also love making genuine connections with my clients, and I find that the quality of the sex is usually enhanced when you have the chance to get to know each other.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I like escorts who can read a book for me. BTW I loved the movie "The Reader" It would be nice if a guy reads a book to me while we cuddle in my bed.

 

 

I see nothing wrong (obviously) in paying money in the exchange for sex.

 

But when one has to pay for companionship..... well I find that a bit sad.

[Romann]

Agreed.

 

I think you've mentioned that you're in a long-term relationship, however many men are not blessed with this, or are in unfulfilling relationships, and it is natural that they might look to empathetic escorts who they get on well with to help bridge that gap. I love having sex, but I also love making genuine connections with my clients, and I find that the quality of the sex is usually enhanced when you have the chance to get to know each other.

 

Very well said and spot on for a number of clients if not a good majority.

[+ Dane Scott]

Oh alright I will chime in...

 

I will not gush too much. It was an amazing 48 hours. What else can be said. New clients often say to me " Boy you must have some horror stories " Well as I approach my 9th year... I really do not. This experience is no different. I have been very lucky to have fantastic clients. Some that I have been seeing for these past 9 years. Bart you are certainly tops. Kindness, respect, and just having fun in and out of the bed. What more can an escort ask for. This was my second go around with Romann. While sometimes I make myself feel like Mama Rose to his Gypsy ( wow did my masculinity just take a nose dive ? LOL ) after all I will be 44 next month. This young hottie has taught me some new tricks. So here's to some more shelf life for Dane Scott. Yea we laughed quite a lot. For those of you who know me and or have spent time with me... you know that I take all this very seriously and that I'm very professional. But really if we can't laugh and enjoy this ride we are all on... what's the point.

So there's my two cents.

 

Happy Holidays Forum

[Guest greatness]

I can't believe that you

 

are 44 years old! What is your secret? You have a very hot body~~~

 

I will not gush too much. It was an amazing 48 hours. What else can be said. New clients often say to me " Boy you must have some horror stories " Well as I approach my 9th year... I really do not. This experience is no different. I have been very lucky to have fantastic clients. Some that I have been seeing for these past 9 years. Bart you are certainly tops. Kindness, respect, and just having fun in and out of the bed. What more can an escort ask for. This was my second go around with Romann. While sometimes I make myself feel like Mama Rose to his Gypsy ( wow did my masculinity just take a nose dive ? LOL ) after all I will be 44 next month. This young hottie has taught me some new tricks. So here's to some more shelf life for Dane Scott. Yea we laughed quite a lot. For those of you who know me and or have spent time with me... you know that I take all this very seriously and that I'm very professional. But really if we can't laugh and enjoy this ride we are all on... what's the point.

So there's my two cents.

 

Happy Holidays Forum

[Romann]

Agreed!

 

So here's to some more shelf life for Dane Scott.

 

Class, talent and sophistication never have a shelf life and you kind sir embody that in my book. Now don't touch the bear!!

[NYTomcat]

Bart I cannot thank you enough. You have put into words what my experience was and again with Romann and hopefully soon others, only time and some astrological projection will tell. (a private joke) adriano you have great taste.

 

I do feel for someone who can't see the greater joy that comes from not only sex but the companionship and friendship that comes from the shared experiences. Im sure many escorts do this for their clients. I'm just happy Bart that your reviews led me to the same conclusion. Romann is a winner on all fronts.

 

Now mr. Scott well as I said time will tell, guess im gonna have to make a visit to the windy city.

[Romann]

Double agree!

 

Now mr. Scott well as I said time will tell, guess im gonna have to make a visit to the windy city.

 

Mr. Scott would be a wise choice my friend and one I give two thumbs up for!

[justaguy]

To each his own ZZ. For me, there's got to be a personal connection. The more of a connection an escort makes with me, the better the experience is for me sexually. These days if it feels like it felt way back when, i.e. like anonymous bathhouse sex, it just doesn't cut it for me. I've changed and require more, but that's just me.

[GoodFella69]

Companionship and Fun Can be HOT...

 

I totally agree with Bart's perspective.

 

If you hire a hot escort for a great fuck and you end up developing a camaraderie beyond the sex, I think that's awesome... It's definitely NOT sad!

 

When I hire a hairstylist to cut my hair every two weeks, the stylist is doing it for the money too (just like an escort). It's the same thing. Your stylist and you may hit it off and enjoy a friendship--maybe you look forward to getting to catch up with him every time you get your haircut and he may enjoy working on your hair because you've become more than a good customer-- you are a friend. The same kind of relationship can be established with your escort. Especially if you become a "regular," you will get to know each other and know what you like to do together in and out of the bedroom--and ultimately you will enjoy the escort experience more.

 

I think the "Wham Bam Thank You Ma'am" Escort Fuck can sometimes be hot. However, I find the "Boyfriend experience" that many escorts provide to be even hotter and more fulfilling. The two of you become companions and get to know and appreciate each another in a multi-dimensional way, not just fuck-buddies, but also as friends. What on earth is sad about that?

[whipped guy]

When I hire a hairstylist to cut my hair every two weeks, the stylist is doing it for the money too (just like an escort). It's the same thing. Your stylist and you may hit it off and enjoy a friendship--maybe you look forward to getting to catch up with him every time you get your haircut...

Well Said... the perfect analogy! I have an appointment this week. The only difference is my barber is a woman and I go every 4-5 weeks... and the entertainment factor and "catching up" is more than worth the price of admission. In fact it makes me want to see her every two weeks!

[jeepman]

Ok guys- I have to chime in. When hiring someone, I look for the the total experience. In addition to the sex, the "connection" and companionship is important to me. That's me- to each his own. I do enjoy spending some down time, chatting, sharing a dinner and getting to know each other. And Dane, I never saw an expiration date on your butt; like fine bottle of wine, Mr. Energizer Bunny only gets better with age. Glad to hear that the second romp with Romann worked out for you and your client but then again, after seeing the two or you in action, I had no doubts that it would.

[seeker630]

Personal opinions

 

I see nothing wrong (obviously) in paying money in the exchange for sex.

 

But when one has to pay for companionship..... well I find that a bit sad.

 

And there are many people who would say, 'when one has to pay for sex..... well I find that a bit sad'.

 

The fact that we *do, doesn't necessarily mean we *have to.

 

(And just to be certain I'm not misunderstood - I totally DISAGREE with Zipper's statement and it's implications.)